Waleed Basyouni – Defending Your Brother’s Honor In His Absence
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All praise due to Allah and his praise
and blessings and peace be upon our prophet
Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wa sallam,
his family, his companions, and his followers until
the day of judgment. I bear witness that
Allah is the only 1 worthy of worship
and Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wa sallam his last
and final messenger.
Not far away from the Medina of the
prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam,
there is a place known as Masakin U
Bani'auf,
an area for Bani'a'uf, a tribe, Bani'a'uf,
lives there.
And 1 of their leaders,
He is the imam
for their congregations,
and he is 1 of the leader of
Bani
Salim
or Bani Hawf and Salim Bani Hawf.
And
for the record, before he came to Medina,
actually stopped there and prayed his first Jum'ah
while he's entered Medina.
In any way,
this is a place known to be a
place for Al Khazraj. So,
Bani A'ouf used to pray their daily prayer
there. They have a Musallah. They pray there.
And
in Jumu'ah, they come and they join the
prophet sallallahu alaihi wa sallam in the midst.
Sometimes it is a valley so the rain
comes and
the valley runs with water. So it's been
said my
eyesight became weak and I can't see properly,
so I it will be too risky for
me to cross the valley to go pray.
It looks like he tried couple of times.
He put himself in danger so he decide
to go to the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam
and to tell him if it's okay if
he pray at home and not to cross
the valley to pray. Where is the Musalah
where the congregation is?
Prophet salallahu alaihi wa sallam and jummah a
prayer like you now.
And after salah, he came to the prophet
salallahu alaihi wa sallam and said
He came to the prophet and said, You
Rasool Allah, as I told you, I can't
see properly and I'm worried if I cross
the valley while it's raining
and flooded, it will not be safe. So
I decided I wanna pray at my home.
But before I prayed at somewhere in my
house, make it as a for
me, I want you to come to pray
in this spot first, and I will start
praying in the same spot. Seeking the blessings
of the prophet
being there.
It's not required, but it's something will make
him feel happy, special.
You know, this is a place where the
prophet pray, so I will pray. So at
least I don't feel that very bad that
I'm missing the congregation
because I'm praying in the same spot where
the prophet
prayed. And a kind of also an approval
that allowed
him to pray at home in such case
in such case.
So
Inshaa Allah.
Inshaa Allah
said, I will do. Inshaa Allah. But his
is not like ours.
You
know, you know, when you wanna and you
brush someone away, tell them, Insha Allah. You
know, will you do this? Insha Allah. You
know, and it take maybe,
you know,
I remember 1 of the brothers called me
insha'allah, Sheikh insha'allah.
I said, why? You're not surprised. He said,
I called you sheikh inshallah. I said, why?
He said, yeah, I've been asking you to
find a wife for me for the last
4 years, and every time I see you,
you tell me inshallah.
I said, I don't have brides on my
pocket. I'll distribute them. But Insha'Allah, if I
found 1, I'll let you know. Anyway,
So, but in any case,
when he said, insha'allah, I will do.
Guess what?
In the morning, in the daytime, before Duhr
time,
Saturday, in Nabi's salam and Abu Bakr and
Umar coming to visit the
ichman.
Less than 24 hours.
That's an incredible
response
from a leader who so occupied
for just a random request. It's not an
urgent, it's not like something
mandatory in Islam or anything like that.
So the first thing that prophet did when
he come to the house of
Itban, he said,
Where do you want me to pray?
Before even we sit down.
He said, In this place. Then Nabi
stood up to lead the prayer and Ittbahn
called his wife, his family, and Abu Bakr
and Umar and all lined up behind the
prophet and Nabi
prayed 2 rakah in his house before he
sat and start talking to him.
I just imagine how happy he is, how
proud he is salallahu this man was at
that point. Then Nabi sallallahu alaihi wa sallam
sat with him.
I told the prophet, the prophet said, okay,
let's go
What's?
It is
like a soup with a little pieces of
meat.
Just a little tiny pieces of tiny pieces
of meat. That's it.
He said, that's the only thing I have.
Alim said, okay. We'll sit and eat from
your soup.
When they heard that the prophet at his
house, everybody in the neighborhood start saying, the
prophet by the way at ijba. So it
start coming and they gather and
they gather until the setting or the place
was filled with people.
Anil Nabi with them asking about them and
what's happening with
them.
1 of them said, what about Malik Abdi
Daxsh? Where is he? He is very well
known in that,
yeah, in the area or that
tribe. I don't see him. He's honorable,
recognized person.
A man said, oh, Malik ibn Zakh, don't
worry about him.
He is a hypocrite.
He doesn't love Allah or his messenger salallahu
alaihi wasalam. That's why he didn't come to
care.
He didn't care to come.
And Nabi
immediately
did not let anyone else to speak,
did not let the chains pass, Did not
let the war goes by.
Then Ibn Nabi salalam said to him with
a firm voice,
didn't he say
and said it sincerely?
Allah forbid hellfire
to touch someone who said, La ilaha illallah,
sincerely?
The man did not back off, want to
justify his
judgment.
He said, for us, we always see him
hanging out with the hypocrites,
known well hypocrites. We see him always hanging
out with them, talking to them, have a
relationship with them. He never by cut them.
He he is like, you know, socialize with
them. And he talked to them. That's why
what I said, what I said.
In Nabi saw Salam respond was amazing to
me. In Nabi saw Salam repeated the same
exact statement.
And he said that.
End of the discussion.
You can't say that about him.
He protected his honor sallallahu alaihi wa sallam.
He protected this man honor just because he
believed
because he stated it and he lived by
it.
Itman lived 50 years after this incident.
All the way to the time of Mu'awiyah,
50 years later, an Itban still mentioning the
story
And the place where the Prophet by the
way prayed at, his
in the backyard of his house or in
the area of his house,
People recognize that place of salah
and and it will exist until maybe 1992,
1993,
something like that, and it was moved in
that expansion that happened in Madinah at that
time.
There is so many lessons from this story
that I wanna share with you.
And Nabi said pray at home. Don't make
your home like graveyard. We don't pray at
the graveyard.
And Nabi
meant to pray at home, the volunteer prayers,
not the obligatory prayers.
But from this,
it's bad, radiAllahi, and he want to have
a musallah in his house.
And that's something that ulama said that it's
something a good recommended thing to do if
you have a space in your home
To designate an area became a musalla.
And 1 of the important thing of this
for the family member to see that, for
your children to grow up and understand that
this is a this is a place we'll
pray together. In case my home how far
away from the masjid, or I missed the
salah. Not everybody pray at his room. No.
You gather everybody and you pray. This is
our salah area. Even if it's not a
room, it's a part of the house. Maybe,
you know, for God's sake, we have a
game room. Can't we have a prayer room?
You know, in our homes.
So we designate an area where you know
what we said. Maybe we read Quran, maybe
we make adkar, maybe we make dua, maybe
we it became a place known that it
is a place where we honor salah as
a family.
And that's something very interesting to to have
at home, especially for the young 1 to
see this, especially for the girls to see
that as well and to witness that as
well. Even when they pray their sunnah salah,
that's where you go pray, and it became
clean taking will you take good care of
it.
And you know what? To purify it, I
know
someone's home. I've been to his house, and
it's amazing. The area for salah that he
has, it's not a big. It's in his
actually, you know, in what you call game
room or the family gather room.
But he has it
where it's perfume, where it is he has
this this machine that spread like good small
all the time. And he said, I treat
this like the way I treat the master.
I always make sure it's clean and beautiful.
So that's something we learn. Another thing,
there is disinterest in people. I didn't think
it is a natural thing. It's not like
natural but it's common thing. People like to
classify people. People like to put people in
boxes.
There is an interest always sometimes in people
is to classify people. What you are? Would
you belong to what box? And I tried
to box people in every and I made
in my mind in my head so many
boxes and start fitting people on these boxes.
I think that's just wrong.
Being common thing, it's not
not a normal thing. That's not correct way
of dealing with people. And so many times,
people became unfair and unjust and accusing people
falsely
by doing that.
You know, it is it is a problem
has to be controlled,
you know, not because you find a talk
or a word or an incident, or something
somebody did, and you immediately said, Oh, you
belong to this group. Oh, you are like
those people. Oh, you
That's just unfair haram and not allowed.
People have many different perspective. Not because they
agree with you in 1 point, it means
I'm exactly like you.
You know, when I let's say for example,
I agree with, you know,
a group, let's say,
groups, which is somebody like completely disagree with
Muslim in many principle. Maybe I agree with
something that they say. You know what? 1
of the thing that the groups have in
America, for example, a wonderful program about blood
donations and I praise that. It means that
I'm I'm being put in that box,
I'm with that group
just because I praise that or I like
that.
So that's that's became a problem.
Not because you approved something or you said
something somebody said belong to a certain group
or certain
ideologies
or certain political
views, it means you immediately belong to that
group.
I'm just wrong.
That's evil
intention.
That's somebody just looking for, you know, harming
others.
Another lessons that we learned from this.
That's why Nabi said, No. Not because he
talked to them and I have been, he
1 of them. Not because he have some
to some of them or a deal with
them, it means 1 of them. That's not
how it works.
Another lesson that we learn, it is so
important to protect your brothers and sisters' honor
when it is violated in their absence
or even in their presence.
Both but it's more important in their absence.
That's why Nabi
did not let it go
And Nabi immediately protected him.
Nabi does not have the detailed information about
this relationship between him and the. He didn't
say, okay, tell me about it, you know,
and give me more information about it.
Clearly
protected him.
Said
that to you when you protect your brothers
and sisters honor in their absence,
The hadith of Tirmaziti said, Allah protect your
face from the alfa'il. And the hadith of
al Bayhati said, Allah will
not protect when you give victory and you
protect and you support. Allah support you in
the dunya and in the akhirah. And in
hadith Jabir Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala said, Allah
will give you support in a time when
you need support the most. And if you
forsake them, if you fail to protect them,
if you fail to say the right thing
at that moment, Allah will fail you
in a time when you need His support
the most.
Many people say, Sheikh,
I don't like this and that but somebody
said this and that, you know, about so
and so person.
You know, the first question I ask people
and they tell me that,
what did you do?
Oh, I just want to tell you. Why
did you tell me? Why didn't you speak
up?
If I see somebody post in a in
a in a Youtube or anywhere or something
wrong and I know that's
not right way.
You know, when you look at social media
and you look at the people just let
it go. No.
I stand as a does not correct.
That's not how it's handled.
You just don't walk a while.
And if we have that attitude, no, you
can't say this about my brothers. You cannot
say that about my sisters.
And and that will became a behavior that
is needed in the society and in the
community.
You know what's interesting?
Muhammad
mentioned something about Muhammad that
him
and all the companions share which is
He did not lynch in something to make
for example, no, no, no. He's very special
person.
Malakim deduction for you to know
for you to know is 1 of the
sahaba who witnessed the battle of Badr.
And in Nabi salalam,
People of Badr, Allah forgive all their sins.
Not only that, mannequin reduction is the 1
that in Nabi
appointed him
to destroy masjid of ziraril munafiq. He's the
1 who destroyed
the mastid that built by the hypocrites known
as Masjid, the Masjid of the hypocrites.
Could've easily
said, He is not a hypocrite, he is
the 1 who destroyed their Masjid. He is
not a hypocrite, he is Badri.
But if he said that, would it sounds
like as if something is special about him
but not
protecting your Muslim brother's honor, nothing about being
special, nothing about being, you know, a special
person. It's enough to make you special that
you say
It's enough to make you special that you're
a
You deserve my support and my protection.
That's a great lessons for us to learn.
Honoring that
that the person saying it means you honor
a tawhid,
and you honor an islam and an iman
in this person's heart.
May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala make us among
those who learn from the life of Muhammad
sallallahu alaihi wa sallam.
1 of the great lessons from this story,
whenever you hear something and you see something
that it is ambiguous, something that's question mark
about someone,
you only judge this person or that statement
or this action
by what you 100% sure known of.
You don't
ever
Those who have disease in their heart, they're
looking for the ambiguity,
they're looking for the things that is question
mark,
and start judging people through that.
Judging statement through that, making rules through that.
But some evidence are very clear. He leave
it for something ambiguous from the evidence, or
an incident that is ambiguous can be point
of view, can be, you know, misunderstood,
could be just a pure simple mistake.
And he take that and he make that
the default, and start
attacking and judging people based on that. That's
absolutely not acceptable
I'm wrong.
And that's something that Quran warn us from.
Also,
not everybody building a relationship with people that
he or she disagree with
have a relationship with people that you might
not agree with.
It means that this person is a betrayer.
No. There's many ways
of dealing with the people that you don't
agree with and we disagree with.
Not everybody has to be the watchdog.
Not everybody has to be the 1 who
scream at the street.
Not everybody has to be like in our
community, they always say, we need those people
who will go to sit on the table
and talk and make, you know, and reach
out and make, you know,
uh-uh building a relationship and building a bridge
and communicate. And we need those people on
the street who are attacking a screen.
We need both. But what's important is those
who inside the room talking and negotiating
do not sell out the people outside in
the street. And the people on the street
do not say and claim that those people
inside are betrayer.
They complement 1 another.
They get each other's back.
They help 1 another. That's what is needed.
There's multiple approach always to any problem
and to any multiple solutions for any, you
know,
issues that you need to solve.
There's a lot
to be said.
That cancel
culture
that it became common and adopted to some
people today, it is just not an Islamic
culture.
Simple as that.
I love how an Nabi salalam is so
near to his friends.
Easy to be approached, easy to be asked,
easy to be talked to. Even the 1
who said he's a hypocrite, he was not
scared to tell the prophet that.
He knows how manic a reduction is to
the prophet but he said what he feels.
That level of transparency is needed.
Was not mad at him that he said
what he said, but he was correcting him.
And that's important.
It's to accommodate each other, and to listen
to each other, and to talk to each
other instead of talking at each other's or
about each other's.
I love how
generous the sahaba used to be, and how
we used to be very generous. We, aljud
min almujud, we give what we have.
You know, he has just this little souvenir
offer. You don't need to make a feast.
And because people became so
exaggerating in what I have to provide or
what I have to give, we don't invite
each other's anymore.
We don't talk with each other. We don't
get to each other's house anymore because I
feel the burden of it. You know what
I like about I would have mark it.
It's bad it's bad 50 years, it's still
mentioning the kazir. It's still mentioning that little
that he gave the prophet He didn't want
to shame of it. I'm
I'm not ashamed of that.
You know, you come to my house and
you know all what I can offer you,
maybe, you know, I'll make you a cold
turkey sandwich. That's all what I got. That's
fine. You look come and have some coffee.
My brothers and sisters,
the silatul nabi salsalam is an excellent opportunity
to learn, to grow.
So I ask Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala in
the end of us to always give us
basirah, to give us wisdom,