Bulugh Al Maram – Book of Etiquette & Manners #17 – Hadith No. 1242

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smilla hamdulillah salat wa salam ala rasulillah.

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Last week, we talked about the Hadees in the Bissell olavarria salon. Harrisonburg Miramar

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in regard to this pattern is out when a person will make his garment longer and beyond his or his ankle. And we said this rules for men and women will last between two or three positions, some set or two main opinions once at a time, absolutely not allowed for any government to go beyond the ankles. And we said that the majority of the full cohort said it's only one if it is out of arrogance, but as long as it is not arrogance it is just dislike McCrone is not how long but it is McCrone dislike and we discuss the opinions and the evidence and

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said that most of the Heidi that spoke about that those who will drive their garment out of arrogance out of arrogance and also in the Abyss Allah wa sallam told Abubakar Alia laquan that you don't when he's complained that his garment goes down and dry. Go beyond the ankle. He said you don't do that out of arrogance. So it shows you that the point of making this forbidden is it's being a form of arrogance or, or basically people doing it out of arrogance. The the people the group scholars will say to Tom regardless, they said, just having it beyond the ankle, it's a form of arrogance. It doesn't matter what you feel.

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They said it is part of arrogance. But I really don't think that because many people who wear their clothes sometimes our pants, I try my best. Especially sometimes hard when you buy new ones, but I try my best not to make my clothes always be on my ankle. But sometimes it does and many people do. And when you wear it, you don't have any feeling in your heart. But you know what, I'm arrogant. I'm above people, I'm better than people. And it's not really the reality of it. To say that any any person who have is closed beyond their ankles is a form of arrogance to kind of contradict the reality okay. And also individual solemn said that his battle is Amina mahira, in Ibiza Sala

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mentioned that making the garment go beyond your ankle part of a hula part of arrogance. But yeah, that's based on the culture at that time. You know, it was part of the culture that, you know,

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the people who always wear long garment to the going beyond the ankles are the leaders that leads the deleter of tribes. And I was raised in a society where it's tribal society, and it's still in this what I grew up, okay, in Saudi Arabia and the Gulf area, it means a lot when you wear your

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Bishop, and the bishop has to be long and dry.

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This is like Baja, this is like, you know, this is like, you feel like kids are filled with with pride. And they will make fun of you if your Claus is if you don't have it, like touching around. Oh, this is like, as if you're less. Yeah. But that's not the case in pants, not the case of people who are wearing pants or wearing you know, like in Malaysia and Indonesia, in Yemen, sometimes they were like a lower garment, you know, around like similar to the one that you were in had,

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like, next Hadeeth

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and we said women are not included in this heavy. This is only for men woman never encouraged him to wear long clothes that cover the feet actually.

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Anyway, the next Hadeeth and I'm delighted no matter of the novel sort of lace or something odd, either. hadoken failure can be emini, where either sharena fell short of vision via meaning for initial bahria quraishi Mali where sharabi shimmery,

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even Romana rated that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, when one of you eats, he or they should eat with their right hand and when they drink, they should drink with their right hand

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because

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For the devil eats and drinks with his left hand related by Muslim rahimullah Todd

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this heavy in Muslim and there's another rewire in Muslim wearing that we're in the basis of them see in this heading that we just read he said eat with your right hand drink with your right hand because the ship on eat and drink with his left hand there is another habit said eat with your right hand and don't eat with your left hand

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not or just order order and four very polite Colin had to conditionality while I asked Robin do not eat with your

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left hand do not drink with your left hand what can an affair yes eat fee How would I be how what are you nafa added to the integration and you should not give or take with the left hand

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nav is the successor Tabby

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is not the companion the tablet and

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this has been reported by tirmidhi without this edition of naffaa or himo model dad but this edition of Napa is it's a Muslim

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is it from the prophet or solemn or from Napa?

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Is it not from his understanding? Or it is something from the profits or saga? It seems to be it is from the profits or saga? Why? Because there is another narration from Abu hurayrah not from Allah and he said that the process of them said Leah could do can be me will you be me? Will you be me? Well yeah could be a mean you eat you drink you take you give with your right hand

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for English a bomb because a shared bond eats and drinks and gifts and takes with his left hand

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reports

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so here very clear that this statement of NAFTA it is something that goes alongside with with the process of them sitting down even if it is explanation it is it's something that the process of them 400% said

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an additive neurobiological

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basically there is no it's clear there is no words needs really to be explained. Failure could be a meanie let him eat with his right hand let him or her let them eat and drink with the right order from the profits also low. And it even make it clear to the other generation do not eat to the left do not drink with the left is so clear that this is an order from the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam. And now we'll study the issues and the Messiah and then we take from the number one this heading is very explicit very clear, ordering us to eat and drink with the right hand or not to eat and drink with the left hand okay. So this is very very clear, but to remodel him a home a lot said

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that clear. But what is not clear for the scholars is this is this order means it is obligatory. You will be sinful if you eat with your left hand. If you drink with the left hand

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or it is just recommended act to eat and drink with your right hand.

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is a must or recommended is it forbidden or just dislike that's where I remember him a whole lot split. Okay, so the first opinion, which is a lot of the

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Hanafi Maliki chef really handled humbly the said the majority actually said that eating and drinking middle with the right hand button was to have bat among the recommended act

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and eating and drinking the left hand among what that dislike Makoto but it's not a sin you're not committed a sin by doing that. Why?

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Because this is from an adapter. You remember we mentioned it

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before many times.

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Usually the honey that speaks about etiquettes

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and the mannerism of eating the mannerism of walking the mannerism of talking is all about you know recommended act not obligatory act. Okay. So this is that's going the same line.

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Like what we said about don't walk with one shoes you know, then you almost almost agree that this is not haram but it is highly dislike Okay, vast majority of them. The second one

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Opinions said no, it is absolutely how long to eat and drink with your left hand. And that's an opinion among the habila are human law. And that's what I've been has also supported and shifted Islam even to me, I don't know. They said there is harm and is not allowed. And many scholars of Hadith, like in half of the Battle of Maliki or himolla.

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As Eben Mifflin mentioned in addition, Abdullah

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said that, but I found a bin Abdul

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Rahim Allah in his book I listed car mentioned it is only dislike, unaffordable under law and other places he said that it is recommended to eat and drink with the right hand not watch. So, but also I found some quoted him or claim that he said it is wrong. But what I see in many references on some of his book directly, it does not so Allah knows the best

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he might said once haram and once macro maybe he himself, not subtle, and one of the opinions

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because also in some of his books, he said hold on, so we don't know which one comes later. Really.

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an imam of new Maliki also the time

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to pick up the soup sukiya Shafi said it's hot

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Zb DRP a great champion scholars also so this how long they've been haven't been hazama Shafi said it's hot amid a sun Annie v Subaru Sam lean towards that it is forbidden and they have plenty of evidence to say it is not McCrone This is just not an etiquette This is rules I have very specific rules that it's hard to eat to drink with your left hand what what's the evidence that they have besides the Hadith we mentioned the said first in the be civilized and the devil in his lifetime ever ate or drink with his left hand

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and when he sees someone doing that you will stop them from doing this

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and sell them senator said I was an orphan and I was sitting with the province of southern

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part of a candidate he thought he should suffer suffer I was like eating from all over the place so I'm gonna be so Southern held his hand because he was reaching to the minimum housing and he said Yahoo lam semilla say Bismillah what could be a meaning it with your right hand will call me Maya Lee

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it from what is in front of you

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this heavy is a problematic

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Can anybody tell me why

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is a very not not a very good argument this heavy

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because everyone

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everyone across the board wouldn't will agree that cool mnemonic laser watchman

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everybody will agree that when the results are IID from what is in front of you is not watching

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and is not a sin if I you know reach out to my neighbor.

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I need to

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so that's recommended that's added

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so really decide Oh, cool be a Munich this part of the project but the next one which is the same format will cool me my colleague, the same order came in the same Heidi. You cannot say this one is wider than this one is not very good argument. Also, this is headed jabber on the other hand, lotta quraishi man, do not eat with your left hand. He footbed and he's a chef on each with his left hand and no doubt that imitating the shape on his heroin

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because imitating the Koufax heroin,

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a non Muslim who does something very specific for them or for him, let's say is not allowed for a Muslim for example, as a Muslim, I'm not allowed for a Muslim woman to wear the nun clothes.

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I'm not as a Muslim to wear what to wear that Catholic priest color

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for a Muslim to wear to that age, someone that bugging me to do

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that the hammock

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yarmulke of the Jews, you can do that.

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So there's not a lot for Muslim to wear because there's something specific for them.

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So if this is specific for the shape on the tee, isn't it? So we're not allowed to imitate him as well.

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But

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that's why I said specifically about this heaviness.

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So he disobeyed the law, his messengers.

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Also, the strongest evidence, the strongest evidence that they have to say, Tom,

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is the following heading, which is a Muslim. And he said

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that he sent an order in Canada in the Navy sauce Allah was eating with the Prosser and he was eating with his left hand. So in the case of panda could be a meaning. Eat with your right hand. So the man said, law stop, Mama who indelicate? I can

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the narrator said the only reason he said I can't. Because he was arrogant. I'm not gonna listen to you, you know, God telling me what to eat, how to eat. So in the business, Sutherland said last night,

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inshallah you'll never be able to.

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And all of a sudden, pilotfish should let

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you do Femara in

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his hand freeze.

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paralyzed, he couldn't lift his hand up to eat.

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Can anyone tell me how this heading shows that eating with the right hand is what?

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The punishment the before the punishment. The punishment was the result of

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to add,

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within a piece of solid make to act against someone who did macro.

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No. And he will make the other person freedom he must did how long that he deserved that type of function. That type of the app that's right, is not going to be due out over something just recommended app.

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That's the strongest argument one of the strongest argument they have.

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But how did you

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answer this?

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Like if you're under the other camp, how would you? How would you? What would you say about this heading? That's a very strong argument for the proposal. I know we have sisters, the gays if you guys want to participate? You're more than welcome to do you need to come and be closer?

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Yeah, I said it can be Sybil kimbrel achill, Mishima.

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They said, the sin that he did was not eating with left hand. The sin was the arrogance. That's why he made that against him.

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So has nothing to do with the left and right has to do with the attitude. Okay.

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Also, they said no, but the heading in the beginning individual songs It couldn't be a meaning eat with your right hand. And that's an order.

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in Mississauga multiple times in eat with your right hand into the rain, had an AMOLED liability from either side if they said we couldn't find any other hobbies or narration telling us otherwise. So we should keep it as it is. As watch. Okay.

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My answer this there is a very famous Hanafi scholar named James said

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not because in the basis of all his life was eating with right and left them in the right hand and the right hand, and there is no proof that didn't be allowed or approved or somehow justify eating with the left hand. It doesn't mean that to make this watch. He said, That's not right. For instance, in the visa salon all his life, all his life used to cut his hair, you suffer shower, and he braid his hair on the right side first.

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I've never heard that the Navy said, Don't start with the right or you know or give permission to do the left all his life. Nobody ever since it's such

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an aged sort of alpha. So that say if you can understand that this is not why'd you Why can't you understand that? The eating is not working as well. He said it never is I'm always like to start to the right hand side, not the left but this is recommended act. So So the issue of the processor continuously doing this is not really approved. We said that this order it does not tell us why

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Why because we have a general rules we understood from all the cam and all the ahaadeeth that how did they talk about adapt talk about etiquettes and stuff like that are not watching unless there is a very clear Kareena there is very clear evidence that telling us that this is how I'm or watch Purina or evidence like what like in a lot curse

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will not intergender someone cut his ties you might cut ties this etiquettes adapt no now there is something in the hat he shows you just not an order it's a sin there is a punishment for it as specified

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by you

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so that's why I said usually any order related to that adapt and provide and stuff like that it is recommended unless there is a very clear evidence that is not just recommended when are 10 sold fava beans That's an order but that doesn't mean it's white but

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and he gave an example also like let's to jab Billy amin and we talked about this before like when you for example holding your private part with your right hand in the reception don't

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Okay, so they said it but nobody says harm is not a sin just recommended by the set but what about imitating the shape on

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imitation For how long?

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We said it could be and it could be not the horse how they said it depends on the way the habit is generated and the given example pardon me sauce on

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the roof in the shower cleaner Latapy

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what's below

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the nap the nap in the midday which is what siesta

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says

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yeah the nap in the midday which is

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take place before the vote okay from the time the process take place before the wall so people are initially lottery to not be like the shelter and he ordered us know how to fish a pond.

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And to have CST

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map I had no payloader which one Mahara to ship on one watch.

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When I demo kalola via Masha, Masha, Allah, nobody ever said that not taking a nap before war on the midday is hot. And that's imitating the shape one. You see how the mama said so that's not true. That means just imitating the Shabbat it means it's hot. That's not that's not correct.

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Okay.

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So this is what

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a human would love to add a

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side

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I will tell you

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I feel like my personal choice and between the amount I lean towards it is forbidden. It is hot.

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And immediately wilhelma

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looking at the way the number of the Hadith is stating that it is how long I don't do eat you that I came ordering him sausage and the people to do that and caring for that. In my opinion that's very clear that it is something that didn't want us to adhere to.

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But this been said

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and why to bat damage levels

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and the Mahabharat levels.

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So this watch

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will be like see you have recommended x above each other then at one point you go to the watch event. So if you said recommended it will be on the top of the recommendation.

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Let's say there is a gray area between what is recommended and what is watch.

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This issue fell away. So sometime some animal will look at it and say why Jim sometimes it is recommended because it's really in that gray area. So if it is YG is not one of the greatest YG bat is one of the lowest level of YG band and if we say it's recommended one of the highest level of recommendations

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Which should it's how long? It will be one of the lower lower level of habla. And it was it McGrew one of the most severe macro. Because they are levers that that concept clear That's right.

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Same level there are many different various levels.

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So

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that's why in my opinion, all those issues like really Same thing with this ban is just in that area. You know, that is almost like the gray area where you really can't 100% to be

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definitive about your position. So sometimes you made a bid or sometimes a medical biller Dallek because the evidence in both sides are very strong, as you've heard me saying the debate between their mom and dad polynomial he mahoba he that would agree with me, I can be a mean forbid

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if there is an excuse for you not to not able to use your right hand. So I agree that you can use what your left hand you have cast in your right hand.

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Okay, you carry your child and you cannot switch whatever is the case. You can eat with your right hand

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wound or something like that. A dirty plate. What about

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eating with both hands dirty with both hands.

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Eating is kind of like you hold the sandwich both hands and you bite What do you think?

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You both use both hands like this.

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What do you think?

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Is this called he drink with his left hand.

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But do you say the tea drink with his right hand?

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Not ready

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for coffee? No, I have a law called tissue Boucher.

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Nirmala said it has from both sides. He used the right and he used the left. So where are we to go by?

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And

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I don't believe that it is

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haram or forbidden or mcru or anything?

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Why?

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and Maria a little Kara? I will tell him

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what's the reasoning of what what's the reasoning behind saying don't eat and drink with your left hand

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shape on the ship on drinks with both hands.

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Now, so drinks with wines is no imitation. So that became excluded.

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Makes sense.

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That's why we said it's not it's okay. It is permissible to do that.

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Even though we are him a lot try to bring

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evidence that in the piece of solid at one point a drink using both hands.

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It's kind of hard but he said that in the be Salalah Southern drink from a drunk from

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Obama and the skin water retaining.

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And when you open the skin water. You can't hold it. He said Hollywood either the custom, you don't hold it with one hand. You have to hold both hand like this. Then you open it and you drink. So he said yes. The narrator never described that he was holding with both hand. But he said there is no one drink from an embassy use both hands. That's the norm.

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Okay, can you have him had him on lockdown.

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Anyway.

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Also,

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there is another Hadith, which is in the face of a lot of them. He

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give a very

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it is a big container like this

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question. Do you think you can hold this with one hand and drink from it?

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So most likely, when he drink from Okada, he was losing both hands. And that's another evidence to show you that it is that's why in the head is part of a World War II. He held the other with both hands like a big ball

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okay.

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Also there is another hyper Buhari Muslim in Abuja, salaam. Cherie buffoon Zamzam. Tyra Shelley Berman, delwin, wahaca.

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Derulo ash Sutton,

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in the midst of Solomon Samson what he did he, they threw down that this bucket, the bucket, he sent it down, put her water in it, then the bucket, can you drink from the bucket will go hand

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you have bowling, so that's another evidence that genovesa also use both hands to drink

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from it.

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Anyway,

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the left hand still can eat with the right.

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Absolutely

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any left to anybody left to his left hand

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and your left hand. All I have many friends left handed. And the two of my one of my son left hand he uses them a lot. And he eats and drinks with the right hand when

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it comes to food and drink. I never I asked this question 10s of people I'm not going to say hundreds of times but 10s of people and I never heard a single one of them suck. Because there's a left hand It means he there is any difficulty to eat and drink with the right. Maybe they are programmed. But if you train them from the beginning when they are young to eat with the right hand became normal

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by

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holding

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when your right hand a sandwich and holding your left hand a drink is not an excuse for you to drink with the left hand

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because you can put it down and put your sandwich on switch

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to follow the etiquette and to have the fork and the knife and you have to have the knife of the right hand to cut the need to the left of the fork is not an excuse for you to to hide it for sooner. Even if we say this geochemical

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Muslim should lie to you should not you know be easy and especially when you know it is one of the highest level of macro.

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Now, you know what? It's hard to cut to the left but it's very hard to try sometimes it's hard. So you can with the right with a knife. Unless you're left handed and left handed we'll be lucky in this case. So you can go right hand and you put the knife down you switch then you eat what's so big deal. Somebody Oh my god, you want me to put the sandwich into practice? Would you do it for Allah? Do it for every word for God it's not hard, but you missing the reward

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is it not worth it in the day of judgment

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to get this as a reward and following this another promise of Salah

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some people like wow, in my opinion, the shear bomb comes put this in our mind and make that ever

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equal to the car equal to the reward that you get. And yeah, that person does not really see the importance of a bat that will buy art and the reward that the person get just because it's so hard to switch.

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They

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What about using that straws?

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I'm not drinking. I'm just holding it.

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Okay, and starting with the straw from with the left hand. Same thing.

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You over to the right hand. Okay.

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I have been telling guru Chef masaharu

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if I say this, you gotta say all shefali is really pushing it.

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When I go eat from the fountain,

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the waterfront. I purposely making sure I push the button on the right hand

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and I feel that closer to the center announcement so if NW saw Sunland was here, would he use his right hand or left hand?

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Because Sherry Debbie Amelie drain, basically from his right hand. So that's what cause the way basically to consume but it's okay I think for the founder

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We saw we said before, that AWS shediac put the right tend to be used in the things which is more honorable, more, you know,

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good and purifying you no doubt eating something from near Mila. One of the blessings of Allah, that's why you deal with it with the right hand. Left hand is to, you know, wipe the filth, left hand is to blow your nose, but something like not very, you know, honorable but something like food and drink No, it should be honored and basically use the right hand for it. And it has Alia himolla said, has a fee surely

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it shows appreciation to the network, that you're treating food and drinks, and special wine. versus if you eat when the left this is surely an honoring for this lesson.

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Also, this heavy, tells us something about the shape on the tea eats and he drinks that the shape on eats and drinks, because gin eats and drinks the shape on is the father of the gin. Okay.

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According to many of you are about to like live in Malaga and others who is the father of origin. So basically we know something about them that they eat and the drink.

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How we don't know

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how to eat and drink. We don't know. Some I will give you an interesting story. somebody tried to act smart. And I hate those who tried to act smart with the sharing of data because they were really dumb when they do that. So he told me you guys say

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this the Jin eats bones and eat things sinsemilla he said okay, I'm gonna say Bismillah and I'm gonna have the bones and put them a camera on it. Remember the trash? I'm gonna watch it to see the gym gonna eat it or not.

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He said nothing happened. You know, my home? Nobody. I said maybe your food is stink it and don't like your food.

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And who said who said that the gym will eat every food.

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And even from where you got that you will eat every single bone. The eat bomb but doesn't mean eat yours.

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It is not. You know, maybe your food is not cooked good.

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It's no chef. I'm serious. I said I'm also serious.

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And who told you that the way that Jin eats? It's like the way we eat?

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Have you ever seen the fly?

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Have you ever seen bacteria

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I've ever seen so many of us creation. They feed on things. And you don't see it on the fly in from an on a bone or a meat that doesn't go away? doesn't disappear. They take the nutrition out of it.

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If this is one of the last reason why you have to act smart and you just you judge a lawn is creation according to your standard.

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So that's a good point.

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But the point is not a good point or not. The point is you should submit

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you have been Yemen

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Saudi law, federal law.

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When you hear the Hadith in Abuja, Salam Barrera said My my, my my friend, when I tell you the prophets of Salaam said such and such, don't try to give me these examples and scenarios and to prove the process of them wrong.

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Demo right at a dinner party.

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at us your opinion that is wrong. Don't accuse the honey. Don't accuse that or that as long as you you the one who was wrong.

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Go ahead.

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similar to this, somebody yesterday, in my class in Maine center, raised the issue of drama dude and said, How come there will be due to my dude in the face of this earth? I nobody can see them.

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You know, millions of people are in somewhere in the earth. And nobody knows where they are. Is it logically impossible?

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Is it okay, first of all, Who told you that there is millions of them?

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And what do you get that from

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and he tried to be smart.

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You know,

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you think you're an intelligent intellectual, you're not? What do you get that from that there are millions of them or whatever numbers that you imagine, all in the end of the day, the individual samsudin the end of the day Yama piano, that they will be 1000 from, you know, 999 from A to drama George and one from the rest of the humanity. You know, 999 go to Hellfire on one four survived. So that's mean they are a huge number, that percentage of the number to humanity to the believer is like one to 1000 and they will come and drink the whole river of blah, blah, blah. I said, Yeah, but all this when

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in the end of the days, but there is no evidence that there are millions now.

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That's your

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idea. And you start judging the Quran and the Sunnah, according to you, right? Maybe there is a few hundreds of them

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somewhere maybe there is a few 1000 I don't know.

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So why would you make your own understanding a judge over the origin and based on your understanding, you start rejecting the origin and rejecting the ahaadeeth of the appearance of the Hardy boy her muscle so sorry.

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So sometimes people you know

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think that today

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too smart for the Sharia, but the reality are not mathematically slim leanness, nothing like and maybe you could have been in Europe you know, we believe in what the law said.

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You stop there.

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This heavy LMS said this is one of the evidence that is not allowed to imitate the kuffar in there the area where it is very it could fall levels any imitation for something that is very specific to them

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very specific nobody else do it except them it's how that certain dress like I said the collar for priests for example, the yarmulke for the Jews or the nuns clothes Muslim and allowed to wear that Muslim man not allowed to wear them let's say there is a certain type of dress that only non Muslim were not allowed to wear

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or there is a one non Muslim guy have a certain type of just became very well known for it. Muslims should not imitate that. Okay. Today we don't have any we have a very mixed culture but anything has to do with their religion which is not from our religion we're not allowed to do that any no our said a lot of Malacca Alhamdulillah Shakur Yamaha me

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you know it said like I'm doing like the how

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somebody prayed to God He said, oh god, you're

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not allowed to act like Hindu Buddha that she meant by that

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let's make two out so let's Neil's like the way we put you guys here and the way that churches not alone.

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Can you put on your garage? And you start doing it like this? If you read the books of

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a wt Kara? No, the mentioned that is not allowed. Can anybody tell me why?

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Because that how Jews pray

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when they decide the Torah

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madrasa will be angry at me

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because it's very common. Like they like do like us. But now it's became not only a culture when you see it, you don't think of the Jews think of Muslim because he's setting his different setup, but in the old days

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were very strict actually about it.

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And this is not allowed. So this kind of imitation is not a lot but common things common things.

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Like we all raise our hand to pray a lot so I'm not gonna raise my hand.

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You see, I'm saying anyway.

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Also, this heading shows you the importance of being attached to Allah in all your situation. Yes, our food and drinking is one of the most private thing

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and the most special like it's your it's my room man. But still allow will be mentioned first.

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I'm hungry but Allah comes first I say Bismillah

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I finished say hamdulillah

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how

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When it comes to eat today, how many times you drink a day

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and every time you eat and drink, say Bismillah Alhamdulillah that's make the heart soul attached to Allah subhanaw taala

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and any Mere matelasse pannacotta that that also want to ordain them. So

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this also reminds you of being grateful to Allah subhana wa tada and thankful to him every time you eat anything.

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They also one thing here, yeah, honey and your heart and my brothers and sisters

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in Islam

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forbade us or told us not to imitate the shape bond in the way they shape one eats and drinks.

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Do you agree with me use

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that it is more prior to that we don't imitate the shape one in bigger issues

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like what

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shape are known to be what has envy,

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hatred. He hates him. He hates other he's so arrogant and better than him.

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Full of envy toward

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he like he basically Kufa Fisk Chapin loves to disobey Allah.

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no limitation. He doesn't want to be controlled by rules.

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Your Bishop,

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he will reject

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what Allah said, because it didn't make sense to him.

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He said I am better I was created from fire and he from mud without the city called a Walmart what the shower boy believes the first one ever rejected and basically rejected the shady app based on opinion was at least he said I am better than him. A lot of them mix into two items and I'm better than Adam. I was graded from fairings from mud

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which is also a very

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wrong things because who said that fire better than

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no payment I love like shows that much better than fire from maybe 20 different anyways.

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Anyway, going back to the point so if we know how to imitate the shape and in eating and drinking, we should not imitate the shape and in these things

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more prior our our economic isn't that

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important. I shall lead people to help file we should not lead people to help file

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we should not encourage people to do a ton. We should not facilitate things which is how long do people

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actually upon is the friend of every evil wrongdoers and he hates every righteous person don't imitate the Shabbat Don't be always like to hang out with the facade with the kafala though with with the people who hate truth and I don't mean this in a non Muslim people who hates us to live in hate morality and you always like to be in that environment and you feel like you can stand being in a clean good environment. A ship on when you use the brand run away Don't be like that. So when we say don't imitate the ship on it will be so sad that we only think about eating and drinking and we don't eat look at the big picture

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and that's something to be kept in mind.

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Next Harry Potter and I'm rubbish I've and I be under the

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law when you sell them? who worship yes Allah wellness. What a sub min oily Salafi guerra Mahara Raja

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Mohan

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schreiben rated in the authority of his father on the authority of his grandfather of the line which is

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that the Messenger of Allah sallallahu Sallam said, eat, drink, wear clothes and give charity soda but with the neither extravagance nor arrogance reported by a widowed and even my

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dad

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Abu Dawood here, just for the record. It should be uploaded by Addison, and it's a very nice you can also have a sauna, and it's not the

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famous one noise is named by Odyssey it's another book and he doesn't have suit and he has Muslim for you as Muslim.

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also reported by NASA, he was a manager who I met

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Go with another edition, which is in Allah hi Hippo and Yara athon a motto that Allah loves to see the impact of his blessings on his servants.

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Allah loves that so eat and drink and and wear clothes and give without extravagance or arrogance or pride

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loves to see the impact the result of the blessings that they're giving you on you on your lifestyle okay

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however him a lot important this holiday as well but without being without confirmation and we didn't say he said the process of

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a sarraf minute is rough. We'll look at that mean Ryan Sullivan any you extravagance you go beyond the limit? Okay. And you extravagance in English if I'm correct me if I'm wrong. extravagance is a very much referring to things which is very materialistic. That's right. But to start off in Arabic language is more wider than extravagance. It's like exaggerations, going beyond the limit because you see fit Can

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you sort of fully help us sort of fill bowl could have

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been a result of it often if not have you go beyond the limit? And that include what don't talk too much

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don't love too much Don't take too much

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don't give too much

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you go beyond the money beyond what is wise beyond what's correct

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How can you love too much

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how can you love too much

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Come on Don't act like you don't do it.

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She tells you do this it's our but that's not right.

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Come

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Yeah, you know it's not right. You know, she knows what's wrong but because she loves you so much. I know please. She will listen to you. She loves you too much that you will do the wrong thing. That's not right.

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You know what there is some people love someone so too much too much a negative way. Then he became obsessive.

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Have you heard of a stalker?

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Looks like a

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stalker, that's too much.

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suffocating you.

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That is raffled hope.

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That's not correct. Also the kids sometimes you worry too much.

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Also, you cared for the money too much

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to begin in the abstention and so forth type so that's why extravagance um correct strivings is something related to very material is built on does styles cannot be described? Things like this talking too much or like, sorry, yes, it doesn't work. So this trough is a very big word. And a lot was revealed a lot does not like those who make a slough. So slough going beyond the limit beyond what is wise is not allowed in any fe in any scenario any circumstances. In the moment v net can we get one a sharpie?

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It there it is when you go beyond the limit. When it comes to the money, you waste the money so it's hard to smaller circle has to do with them specifically with the money. You waste money. They are the brothers of the devil's almost Hadassah

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piano comes from Korea that way You think you're so big? You think you're so different than others? You think you are bigger than than others who deserve more than others? Linux, SM Ma sha, Allah, Masha Allah, anybody knows where this comes from?

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Do you know any word related to the word man?

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We Allah.

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Hi, have you heard this word before? What's higher imagination. The word higher so Maharaj it means arrogance. Originally come

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From imagination why because arrogant people imagined themselves something which is not true.

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The word is so powerful and Arabic language

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is so destructive like describe them describe really this tennis situation that they like they have their own world they think like way they are so different their best. Anyway Pardon me. So for them to sum up, give here a lacuna

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and nephila the charity is not as a cat.

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Okay, what we learn from this? This Hadeeth exactly goes What brother Paul answered. Yeah Benny Adam cuscinetto come in the column St workqueue washoku 1234. In Hebrews repeat,

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eat and drink and do not exceed do not have Islam. A lot does not like the Muslim de Saint same thing that

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he said. Also here, don't go beyond the limit. Question. How can we know the limit?

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Don't go beyond the limit. Where's the line drop?

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Three, how would we swap it means you go beyond the limit. So how do you know I went? I'm crossing the limit. That limit knows by three things. That is important. Sharon.

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The Sherry actually that's the limit. You're not allowed to do more than this.

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Anything you do beyond this is not allowed.

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Number two,

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Apple. Common Sense. Number three, Earth custom culturally.

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Okay, so

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in Sharia

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anything that Sharia defined as a forbidden haram that is wrong. If you

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were in Las Vegas, for example. And you only give $1 to slide machines

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that is rough and hard.

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Because you spend the money beyond the limit. Gambling is hot.

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You see I'm saying you buy something how long you buy for yourself a gold bracelet How long?

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That is wrong. Even if it's $10 Allah discountenance not allowed to buy

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the next one is common sense.

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But after

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something worth $1 and you buy for at like $100,000

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and make no incense

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or I tell you online ship I just came Mashallah from, you know, Egypt and I brought from you not only the Nile River water, I brought you the Egyptian air

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brother of the Medina was in Egypt last week, and he brought with me with him.

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balloon filled with air from Egypt. Just open you know, he's killing it by lowering the office $5 just one bro.

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That's five goes Islam common sense.

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To polluted air

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is wrong. That's way beyond the limit. Also, culturally, it's beyond the limit. So for example, I go and I rent a hall for $100,000.

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To do a wedding is that it's rough.

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We looked at the culture. Is that how the range price for hotels like this? Yes.

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But if you tell me like this Muslim family two years ago, they made a wedding in Hilton in downtown, the spin $2 million in the winning

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assets.

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When every guest gets a $40,000 like the yo

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yo you buy shoes for a $1.5 million

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because it has no diamonds. That Islam no matter how rich you are.

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It's a common sense. Culturally that's not right. Also, we'll talk next week more about those but I just want you to understand something about culture, fear of hos Irfan fan, culture and custom. There is general one and there is specific one.

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So rich people, they have their own

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Culture in own standard

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don't compare yourself to them. My income is less than $100,000 but this man's income is $2 million

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or a million dollars so when he goes on rent the hall for $100,000 for him that's nothing for him buying a car with $100,000 It's normal.

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But for someone like

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somebody else who's like, you know, making 50 or $60,000 a year that's not in your own acceptable

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so make sure that also understand so you don't use because I heard like somebody told me Oh, sister, son, so she always acknowledged the mositure what do you do you know that her daughter's wedding was like cost $100,000. I said, Yeah, do you know that her husband make about $1.7 million?

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Wow.

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Yeah, for him like 100,000.

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So don't compare Islam. Let's pray outline maybe after the show, we will

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mentioned few points and next week we start with a new chapter.

Bulugh Al Maram - Book of Etiquette & Manners #17 - Hadith No. 1242
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