Walead Mosaad – Tadrib AlSalikMaliki FiqhClass 32 Marriage & Dowry
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Salam aleikum wa rahmatullah Rahim Al hamdu. Lillahi Rabbil Alameen
Allahumma salli wa sallim wa barik ala Sayidina. Muhammad in Wagga
annual saw me one day that'd be heavy went to Hajj and I had to
send me something and Naomi Deen webapp so Hamdulillah we praise
Allah subhanaw taala for the blessings of continued life and
continued ability to learn and to study and to practice this great
Deen of ours. And we are have been reading in the subject of
jurisprudence of the Maliki school, Maliki fell based upon the
text of
shahada, these Hamid shares Mobarak which is based upon the
text of Accommodator dear Rahim Hamdulillah that river Salic you
local Corbin mosaddek We met an emetic. So this is like a an
abridgment of our COVID mosaddek of remember the deal which in turn
is an abridgment of McTell Society of Imams and eveness have a duty,
which is considered to be the
main resource, the more timid or the
relied upon book for fatwah in the Medical School of Law in the
medical jurisprudence. So hamdulillah thus far, we have
completed what's traditionally referred to as robbery by that, or
the quarter dealing with acts of worship. So they traditionally
think of the jurisprudence as being into divided into four
categories or four parts, the first being a bad acts of worship,
the second dealing with our shortsea, or personal family law,
that includes marriage and divorce, and all those things that
are connected with it Havanna, child custody and so forth. And
then we have Robert in while I'm at it, which is dealing with
unwanted media, or commercial law or transactional law. And that
includes buying and selling and all those things that kind of get
to it. And then finally,
robot Arkadia.
Dealing with court law, so that which would involve necessarily
involve a judge, which would include criminal law and or dude,
and criminal punishments and so forth. So this quarter that we're
beginning now begins with keytab and Nika,
or the chapter dealing with
marriage contract, as he entitles it, get Obamacare, when they are
yet to unlock OB. So the chapter dealing with marriage and
everything that is connected to it. So the word, Nika, Nika,
sometimes we also see the word. So edge, and that comes from xojo. So
the pairing of two people Nica sometimes is used to specifically
refer to refer to the marriage contract. And sometimes it's used
to refer to the intimate relationship between husband and
wife
depending upon the context. So in this particular context, it could
mean both the marriage contract itself and then what follows,
which is the marital relationship.
So he begins by saying to him a whole lot.
When I find that you're doing if you're dieting, I mean, or like, I
know, I'm cool. And you go home and doable. Nouman, Raja and
Aslan, or Canada, La Huella. While I'm Yakshas Zina, we're in LA.
So he begins by talking about what is the ruling? What is the
legality of marriage to begin with? Is it something that is
obligatory or is it something that is mandatory? Is that something
that is recommended? Or is it merely permissible? Can it be
haram? Can it be disliked? And here the author kind of mentions
one or two of the categories but
you can think of marriage as they say, Yeah, Teddy gamble comes
that the five rulings will apply. In other words, it could be
obligatory for some people, it could be disliked, for some people
could be merely permissible for some people.
It can be recommended for some people it can be haram or
forbidden for some people. So depending upon one situation, and
the situation will be
their ability to be married, in other words, to fulfill the
obligations of marriage, that's going to be a consideration. So if
one is not able to commit to fulfill the obligations of
marriage, then this will be a consideration perhaps that will be
disliked or even haram for this person.
You know, if they didn't talk about this in the in the
traditional books, but in today's world, we can certainly talk about
people who have
certain perhaps mental conditions, mental illness, so forth, such as
that if they were to marry someone that could cause great harm to
their marriage partner, then we might say that in their party
Okay, so while they're in this condition, it's not allowed for
them to get married. It would be haram in this particular case.
Here, the author says a Nikka home and Dougal Nouman, Raja and Aslan.
So it's recommended generally. So the general kind of, let's say
default
state of marriage is that it's recommended. So neither
obligatory, nor is it forbidden. But it is something obviously,
under normal circumstances or under conventional typical
circumstances, it's recommended, he says, the min Raja Naslund for
those who are hopeful or interested in having children.
This it would be recommended for such people. Okay, another law who
Autobahn Well, I'm Yaksha, Xena,
or someone who feels that they should marry they feel compelled
to marry and they want to
have an out of out of means that they have sexual inclination to
the opposite *. And in our understanding,
intimate sexual relationship can only be between husband and wife.
There is no other. In today's world anyway, there is no other we
don't have
you know, people in bondage anymore. So how all that fits that
used to be talked about doesn't apply here.
So
it has to be a relationship between husband and wife, and has
to be a valid marriage contract. And we'll see all of the
conditions for this. So someone who has an Arab and Oregon's in
need. In other words, they have a strong inclination or in
collusion, obviously to the opposite *, whether we actually
Zina, and they're not fearful of falling into fornication, then it
is, men do. It's recommended, what Illa
worship. In other words, if you do feel you're going to fall into
Zina, you're going to fall into sin into fornication, then in this
context, it might be obligatory to get married. Because if you do not
get married, then you fall into the haram. And so avoiding the
Haram takes precedence.
So in this case, then someone should seek to get married.
When is it going to be haram for somebody, if they can't fulfill
the conditions, as we said, they don't have enough aka husband, for
example, the man doesn't have enough to actually
support a wife and you know, they resort to illicit means to go
about doing that, then in this case, it would be hard for them
to, to marry in that scenario, and what could it be my crew, it could
be this like for someone who
maybe has the ability to,
to get married, financially speaking, but they don't really
have an inclination, or desire to have children or to be married or
to fulfill the let's say, the intimate relationship rights of
the spouse, you know, then in this case, it might be disliked. So one
of the the obviously, the goals of marriage is that there has to be a
partnership and has to be compatibility. And there has to be
kind of mutual tolerance and compassion and mercy and
understanding between the husband and the wife. So one thing before
we go any further that I want to point out, is that when we talk
about books a fifth, when we're talking about marriage, they're
not exactly telling you how to go about doing it. They're not really
talking about the depth and the etiquettes. And the, you know,
the,
you know, the the beyond the do's and don'ts. You know, it's not
talking about how to actually conduct a relationship. Here, it's
specifically concerned with legality, right? Is this a valid
marriage contract or not? Does this nullify the marriage
contract? Who has the right to be the wellI? Or who has the right to
be the, you know, the guardian? Who can who can?
Who can perform the marriage, right? Who can on behalf of the
wife or on behalf of the husband and so forth? But not really
looking at?
Kind of Okay, now, how do I conduct my relationship, this will
be studied in something else, this would be a HELOC. This would be
character and building of character and
understanding the rights of others and so forth, which is not going
to be entirely covered by just kind of the legal framework by
which marriage exists. So that's something that's important.
Sometimes the FDA will will, you know, when they are pressed and
cases brought before them, and they need to determine kind of the
legality of something like
How should household chores be divided, or who's going to be
responsible for what and there's a dispute, or there's a lack of
agreement between husband and wife, and in this case, some other
folks might mention that this responsibility, you know, falls on
this person or falls on that person. But otherwise, you know,
the inner workings of the relationship and what goes on in
the home and who does what and so forth. For the most part, that's
just up to mutual agreement. The only thing that's really
stipulated is that the husband, the man is the one
One who was responsible for the upkeep of the home and of the wife
and of the children, in other words from the NEF, aka, or from,
you know, earning a living to support a family, and that the
wife is not asked to do that she's not. It's not mandatory for to do
that if she's contributes to something of the household income
that's up to her, but under no way should she be coerced. In doing
so, because it's not her responsibility. If she chooses to
do so then that's something of her own volition.
Otherwise, how things are divided. And you know, who cleans the sink
tonight who takes out the garbage and who mows the lawn? And all
those things are, you know, the Sharia, it's all in the realm of
permissibility.
And perhaps a little bit of culture comes into that as well of
how people want to go about doing
work on cancer.
So the, here the arcane or broken, singular means the essentials. So
without these things, you don't have marriage. That's what that
means. What can who come sir? So it's pillars, essential pillars,
or five xojo? Was OSHA, where EJ when were COBOL? What were the
five things? The husband and the wife, right? Because if you just
do one of those, there's no marriage can't marry yourself.
Even though people think I do they do it on Instagram now, but you
cannot. It's not a valid marriage to us. What a jab.
Jab means, an offer of marriage from the wife, or, or the woman,
or the willie of the woman, the guardian of the woman to the
husband, while COBOL a boon means the acceptance of the offer of
marriage from the husband, while he and the willing is the guardian
of the bride.
For sure to Zoji Hulu winwin herba. Woman Yahoo Jambo ha ha.
So the,
the short or the condition of the coach, Hulu Woon Alba, what does
that mean that they should be free from for In other words, not have
four wives already.
So the maximum number of wives or husband can have is four. So if
already has four, he can't marry a fifth.
So as long as there are three and less than
he can be a valid marriage partner. And maybe we'll get into
about polygamy a little bit later, not right now.
But just looking at the legality of it, he has to be married to
less than four women.
Already Woman Yeah, haram jamberoo Ha ha. And also to not marry
someone that can two people who cannot be co wives.
So this would be two sisters can't be co wives and Medicare, I
believe, also add an aunt and niece can't be co wives.
And definitely mother and daughter. And there's a different
kind of setup for that, you know, that we'll see later that once a
daughter, one marries a daughter and consummated the marriage, he
can never marry the mother after that. So that's kind of a given.
But certainly two sisters was there there next year, mother and
father or mother or their share of father, and also an antenna nice,
and also what I just mentioned a mother and daughter with the top
seat with the details that I think will mentioned it. So that's kind
of the shot of the zone edge of the
of the husband.
And there are other things that are taken for granted that he
doesn't mention
that meet would be like that the Zodiac has to be Muslim.
So he has to be a Muslim, he has to have said not coffee, she had a
team, you have to have said the shahada thing, even if he is not
very practicing, but the very least he has to consider himself
in the community asked him to be a Muslim.
And generally speaking of sound intellect of athletes, because if
he's not of sound intellect, and this is something that the
marriage can be rejected on the basis of which, and also other
conditions that will apply to both such as him
being able to consummate the marriage, you know, being
physically able to do that, that's also going to be something that
someone who's not in that in that particular condition shouldn't get
married also. And the wife has a right to reject him based upon
that if it comes too late afterwards, and so forth. We're
short Zoda.
And the condition of the of the bride, and Kulu means out that
obviously she's not married either. Right and when we can only
marry one
worried the 10 minute ad and to not be in her waiting period. Oh,
it's too broad. It's too broad doesn't apply to us here. This is
one for a band meeting, but saying
same concept as the ADA or could be is the brought from
illicit sexual *, let's say like other other girl was
raped, then she should not get married until there's a study
brought, in other words,
monthly cycles passed by so that we want at least one so that we
are sure she's not pregnant. That's what is the broad means It
means it's too broad. In other words, to find the
the innocence as it were literally speaking of the uterus, in other
words, that there's nothing, there's no fetus growing inside,
and also the header. So the header would be for a woman who is
divorced, which is three monthly cycles, or the idea of a widow,
which would be four months in 10 days. So they are not to get
married, have a marriage contract within that period of time. And if
they do so it is it is considered to be invalid. It's not a marriage
then if it happens within the or of the estate.
Well, I let Hakuna cam as you'll see whether Hamilton kita be with
us will Hora LTTB we call him
and also in terms of her religion,
she shouldn't be matched with SIA imagine which is another words
it's not a Muslim, not from Allah Kitab Well, Emmerton kita via or
bond meeting who is from Allah Kitab what to Jews will Hora and
kita via before him. So non Muslim woman who is Jewish or Christian,
this is a * Kitab before but it's disliked to do so. And some
of our football, they have said it's also on the condition that
one is able to raise their children as Muslim. So if if you
if the husband perspective, husband doesn't feel that's going
to happen with the wife who's rather Christian or a Jew,
then it's not allowed them to marry such a person. And also to
be able to live their own lives as Muslim and to be practiced their
Islam freely, obviously. And traditionally, this was happening.
Muslim men were marrying Keita Viet when they themselves were
living in Muslim lands. And so there was a
hope that eventually that the Keita via the Christian or Jewish
bride would eventually accept Islam. And many times that
happened and most often that happened. Nowadays, however, if
one is living in a non Muslim country, and the Muslim husband is
more or less living his life like everybody else, like a non Muslim,
then what kind of hope do we have then that they will be raised to
and raised in a Muslim household and that the
the bride may eventually accept Islam. So this is a kind of a
touchy, a little bit controversial issue. And I think especially in
our time, we have a lot of awareness, which are
unmarried Muslim women getting into their
early 30s, even 40s and they're not married. And so there's kind
of more of a communal aspect to this that has to be considered as
well. Follow Adam.
What a madam and Mahara media.
Well, it's good when would you beat that beat? I will bet the
cobblers OGE for Shelton fee him
so this is conditions that apply to both Adam and Maha Mia which
means you can't be in a state of haram. In other words, you can't
be during Hajj or Umrah and your state of haram cannot conduct a
marriage or get married in that state because that would be from
the violations of their haram.
Well scale and scale i i pointed out a little bit problematic
things in terms of
conservation or intimacy or you know impotency or impotence or
even with the, with the bride if she's unable to engage in sexual
* for whatever physiological reason, things like
that. This would be called Al Al iscan.
Well, Module B Tet bead,
their Medicare have something unique to them. And that if one is
to conduct, do a marriage, while the woman is in her head,
and then consummate that marriage, then the marriage is to be
dissolved. And also they are never to marry again. This is called
mudra. But this is Mooji. With Debbie, it's something that would
necessitate that beat, which would be that bead means they never to
marry. This also holds true for someone who has divorced his wife
three times. So until she marries another and concentrates a
marriage with the other one, a new husband, and then they divorce her
she's widowed. She cannot remarry her first husband either. So that
would also be something that applies to both of them
would you be to be I will bet right? That would be the second
category
that you know until they
remarried, and she remarried someone else because it's not
forever. But there's a condition which is that she has to remarry
and then be divorced or widowed for her to return back to the
first husband if three divorces have already taken place
for sheltering female, so those are both copies origin for short
punchy humor. So this is a condition in both of them.
Not mentioned in here but also been mentioned by remember that
idea also is that there should be no conspiracy to hide the
marriage. But it differ collocates men. So, generally, you're going
to have at least three other people involved. At least three,
when the marriage is happening. So you have the husband and you have
the wife, then you have the wedding, which is the guardian of
the bride, or the wife. And then you have two men who are the
Shahidi who are the to operate witnesses. So if there is a
agreement between the five of them, that they're going to keep
this thing secret, or they're not going to tell anybody,
then this nullifies actually invalidates the marriage. So the
Maliki's were strict about this. So if they say we're going to keep
it secret, no one's going to know or the man's first wife is not
going to know and they keep it completely secret in the sense,
then this would be an invalidation of the marriage contract.
Well, ikura will haram for short term facilitator.
So Adam will ECOSOC which means no one should be compelled or coerced
to get married will it haram
as we said to be in a state of haram for children, facilita is a
condition for the three which three, the husband, the wife, and
the wedding, and The Guardian. So you cannot be the guardian of
someone if you're in a state of haram either. Come in Islam as
Zoji what were the sheltering, feeling Muslimah. And as we
mentioned earlier, that both the husband and the Winnie should have
to be Muslim, for to marry a muslim woman or to be a guardian
for a Muslim woman.
Well model Do I deserve Janie man Amina, luckily for you. So in this
effort in cobbler who,
or
a chronic sickness or a tournament, let's say terminal
sickness, or one of the two, that would prevent the preventive of
the marriage contract for Yusaku, elderly setting Cobla, who this
marriage contract would also be dissolved by a judge was brought
to his attention, except if at the time of the marriage contract,
there wasn't a terminal illness, and they were both healthy. But if
there's a terminal illness while they're getting married, then this
would be a man of the awkward.
And might some might say, Well, what, why would you do that if
someone wants to get married in that state? Well, the problem is
with the one author is with the heirs of one of the two. And so
the heirs have a right to the estate. And so there's a suspicion
that a marriage like that
would be
unnecessarily advantageous for the one who's not sick merely to get
at the estate of the person who was sick.
The law item, that's how I read it.
Whether you started to feel really other than what I was doing,
either Canada or even
so the Wedi who is the father, generally speaking, or someone
that the father appoints? Or if the father is not around, someone
else that can be appointed, he doesn't have to be necessarily
upright or completely guided as long as they have some sort of
judgment. There will be conditions under which when the sound
judgment is not affirmed for the wedding. Right? If he's someone
who says no to everybody or he's not cooperating and marrying his
daughter or is what killed his
his more calorie and is one that he's been entrusted with, to
married to someone who is good for her or
appropriate for her then in this case, also the judge can get
involved
while a gerbil all willy ancak, two hours a watch to follow them.
Yes. Cool. So the Athan will have to come in Zacchara sadhaka learn
how to code.
So we said the EJ which is the offer of marriage is very simple.
Here in Arabic he would say and capital Oza watch to in the past
tense.
Or it could be in the present tense with the understanding its
means present right now. Not in the future, not as a promise in
the future. So and capitals are which two means I married you,
both of them kind of the same thing. Even Nettie, you know, my
daughter on walkability or the one that has been I've been trusted to
be her wedding to you. Well, oh, let me ask also Dockland even if
he doesn't specifically mentioned the Sadhak or the dowry, but it's
customary to mention the dairy at this point. Even if it
Smart mentioned specifically in terms of amount, it should at
least be mentioned that there is a dowry to begin with. Or you could
say, a sadhaka, on top of manana on mountain was semolina,
something like that, or, you know, upon the dowry that has been
agreed to upon us, is usually how it's done.
Oh, we'll have to go and Dakka Dakka or I give to you here, which
is not love. Sorry, Nick. Yeah. So it's not a
literal
wording of marriage, it's figurative, so then there has to
be something else to, to ascertain that it's marriage. So if he says
we'll have to go which means I give to my daughter or my, my my
charge in Zacchara Siddhartha and if at the same time also the dowry
is mentioned. So then when the dowry is mentioned, then there's
no doubt it's about marriage law. Now Allah Touka which I don't know
anyone would say that but the folklore that means someone
actually did that means let you borrow.
let you borrow for a little bit. So something like that doesn't
work.
Well, Kumu clothes Zoji Oh, WikiLeaks Kaabil. Two, I will not
be too and then the acceptance of the marriage offer contract or
marriage offer from the husband or his agent because the husband can
also appoint his father anybody to do that for him. And that's kind
of like a traditional or customer honorary thing that they do
sometimes.
Two out of the two, I accept and I am contented and usually we say
both global to what are the right I accept and I'm contented with
this
where you started with the Nikkei it's hard to add Lanie under the
hood. Well, you've said Who indica Coppola Who were you had Danny and
Hassan one well, um, you have to
be Colima think of
when you're starting to indica, he is shared widely and also as a
condition of validity. So not as a rockin right, not as a pillar,
because it could be done after and this is where the magic is
diverged a little bit from the other schools of thought as a
condition of validity and the gap for the marriage is hurdling that
two witnesses to bear witnesses were upright, bear witness to the
marriage cobbler the whole before consummation.
So it may not be right at the time of the marriage contract, you
know, technically could be the three of them. It could be the
bride, the groom and the guardian. And then the next day or two days
later or however much later but before consummation, they tell two
witnesses in the same sitting by the way we got married and we want
you to attest to our marriage that we got married.
Well you've Sahel in Dhaka Coppola who, right and the marriage will
be dissolved. If they consummate before the test attestation of the
witnesses where you had Danny and hustle our own Well, I'm you have
to be co ltd out of and it's considered Zina actually
fornication, if they did nothing
to spread the word that they got married, like a marriage party
like a reception. And he says, oh, dwarf dwarf means the drum, they
played the drum, in other words, that there was some sort of public
announcement. So it doesn't mean the drum or the walima. itself,
but it means public announcement. So
if you didn't have the two witnesses at the time, but you had
the public announcement, it's still not right. But it's not
considered to be zener. It's not considered to be just like, lack
of a non marriage. And,
you know, in some countries, this used to be kind of a thing as
though as your own fee, right, which you could see here doesn't
work, right when it's just to hire two university students, and they
agreed to get married. And they said that as always your old fee
and right, kind of like, I don't know how to translate that just
cultural or common marriage. And it's just the two of them, and
they write something on a piece of paper, and there's no one else and
nobody knows about it. So it's secret, and there's no witnesses,
there's no Welly. There's no guardian, it's not a marriage,
under the Sharia, it's not considered to be a marriage. So
all of these things are in place to protect both the husband and
the wife to protect both parties, right so that no one has taken
undue the advantage of because marriage is you know, Allah
describes it. In the Quran as me soften Hadith. You know, it's a
heavy contract, right? It's one of the heaviest contracts you can
enter into. So it's not like a business transactional contract
where you partner with somebody and then you know, if partnership
doesn't work out, okay, fine. We'll just dissolve assets and
liquidate and, you know, go on with our lives. It's much heavier
than this because there's a strong community emotional, psycho
spiritual aspect to it. It's not that easy. So, it should not be
entered into lightly and it should not be exited lightly either.
Right. So all of these things are here to kind of give weightiness
and seriousness to marriage when one interested and sexual
relations
trips are not meant to be casual, and they're not meant to be just
kind of spur of the moment. They're meant to be thought out
because there are repercussions or loss of autonomy in a way that a
child can come out of the out of the sexual union. And so that's a
whole nother life and it's an amazing thing, but at the same
time, it's a weighty thing right not something to be taken lightly.
What's the doctrine so also for the validity of the marriage is
something called the Sadhak the Medicare call it Sadaf or Maha
which means the dowry a gift that is paid to the heart from the
husband to the wife according to who Rob Roy dinar our fellas have
to draw him
Oh man you call one will be a hottie humor
so the least it could be is all about dinar which is a quarter
worth of weight in gold, which in today's weights, you know, maybe a
few $100 or something or less than that. Oh, so let's have to draw
him or three draw him which is wait and silver. Oh my You call
woman be a hottie Hema, or that which is?
In same same thing in value as those two things. So today we have
real estate or dollars or euros or, you know, you sterling pounds,
whatever it is, but
you know, one of the things I
I emphasize to people, it should be something, right? There
shouldn't be like, no, no, we don't need a dowry, just forget
about it, we're not gonna know you have a dowry, even it's a little
bit about but you name something because there has to be something
that is named. And sometimes people say, well, the data will be
that our teacher sorted by color or something like that. This is a
little controversial, because you can say, well, that's worth value
in money. And some terms of, you know, someone might get paid to do
that. But I don't recommend it. It should be something tangible,
right? And something and also the Medicare, say that Hulu to whom
and do what attracts you to whom accrue, which means to pay it all,
at the time of the marriage contract rather than having a
deferred portion. And
if you defer it without a specific date, it's not allowed in the
medical school. So it has to be deferred, if you're going to defer
a portion of it to a specific date, not defer to whatever the
later model will defer to a specific time and the Medicare
don't like deferment to begin with, even though it is become
customary in some some cultures. So to have the full dowry, and to
be named and a specific amount is the best way to go.
When literally, you heard that at the wall to Allah, Scotty he, like
we said, and what is harmful here? I thought that they all agree like
Scott Maha or salaat that we're not even going to consider it or
pay it. No, this is or it's a, you know, a central aspect of the
marriage, the contract itself, and so it should be agreed upon.
Follow Tsuchida and the Chris sadhaka had the hustler who does
email so doc will miss GABA feet of wheat, which is what this means
to.
Follow Socata and Victor Sadhak. So if they make no mention of the
dowry, for whatever reason, have to hustle at the hole until they
actually consummate the marriage, lazy mouse or dark when Miss
then the husband has to pay a customary dowry. So often myth
literally means what's customary for someone who lives where they
live and for who's in the same socio economic situation as they
are. This is called Silicon myth.
So that's something that could be determined if there's a judge and
you have access to data or by a scholar who can determine you
know, girls around here usually they get you know, $1,000 or 1000
euros or 500 euros or that's usually what they get as a dowry
and then that's what he has to pay. So either way it has to be
paid come off with off weed which is what this means to
you I think first off what he means stuff with.
Not sure actually I don't want to say what that is. Exactly. So
let's skip that for now.
But I think that we do have weed in other words they make a
the mentioned there is a marvelous
how much it is an admirable forward ala xojo Illa is out
As they decide at a later date, what would you say is what this
means to Allah, this means to our actually mentioned specifically
what it is, is better. And the, one of the comments here in the in
the footnotes which is important is
there is kind of a hero or like a phenomenon that sometimes though
mention a very small amount for the Mahara and, and what Agile
will, that's what's going to be paid right in time. And then he
put a huge amount in the mohar. A huge amount, and then what
occurred means something that is, you know, multiple times as big,
so they'll say, $100 right now, and then, the more agile, the more
Aha, the different Diary will be like $10,000.
And kind of the idea behind this is almost like
an alimony. So it's, it's for so the husband will think twice about
divorcing
because then we'll have to pay up. But the actuality is it's due
either way, whether they divorce or he dies, it's still going to
come out of his inheritance separate from her inheritance from
him. And then the problem was sad isn't we've actually heard cases
like this is since the husband realizes you have to pay so much
and he doesn't want to pay it, then he may purposely make the
life of the wife miserable, so that she will seek what's called a
cola. And hola means that she seeks to divorce when she seeks a
divorce, then he can, she can request something in return. And
usually that's something in return is
they will pay to defer dowry.
So, he kind of makes her life miserable. She says, Give me Cola,
He grants it, she's off, she's off on her way and he gets out of
paying the deferred dowry. And this is
not with the objectives of marriage to begin with. This
doesn't meet the objectives of the marriage. So it was not known in
the early period of Islam that people made a deferred dowry it's
something that came later and the Medicare don't like it. So
why as you move ahead on our sadati fitness Murthy wakatobi he
was really like we said that agile
so if when they mentioned the sadhaka at least they should be
agree upon what it is how much and if there's going to be the third
portion even though it's disliked when is it going to be due
and it can't be due at some date that is undetermined like when we
divorce or when I die say a month from now two months from now a
year from now whatever it is, it has to be something that is
specific
with Emily COVID who I will note when it's a little bit dark
and she's entitled to it when they
when they concentrate or when he dies
when this will with Allah and also half if they divorce before
before consummation she's entitled to half of it if the after
consummation then she's entitled to entire thing.
Well, yeah, Hello, welcome to the metros, ZODB Masha Mina Zhou Jetty
il wa with doober.
So, one line here about kind of the sexual etiquette
where your Hulu will actually and it becomes permissible or legal
and legitimate, valid contractor matters, zilch. B. Mattia, in
Minnesota, it was OSHA, Minnesota because Eric, right, so they are
free to enjoy one another except for * *.
And generally speaking, anything outside of that is permissible.
There are some Hadith
that seemed to indicate that looking at the private part of
one's wife or one's husband may be disliked, but no one said it's
harder. So even if that and some of the folklore has said it's
permissible, that there's no issue with it.
So even touching those areas and so forth, is completely
permissible. The only thing that is impermissible is *
via the *, along
with that filter about to rock in at the lady facet, Allah whom in
mystery
and It's haram. Here the hitbox means to be to try to engage a
woman for marriage and rocky Anna, the one who has already agreed or
is engaged already. In other words, she they didn't
do the marriage contract, but they have kind of a an agreement in
place that they intend to get married. So that room how do you
need to try to go and seek out and marriage Lady first
except if
The person is a facet
in motherhood on Ovaltine, on Jani, and motherhood unfit are men
of color.
So the first step here is someone who has a corrupt individual. And
you know, the way to look at this is
sometimes women who wants to get married and someone comes in they,
they agreed to them, but they may not be an upright person, they
could be fast. So if there's someone who was fast outwardly and
is known to be that way, not spying on them, but they're known
to be, you know, a user of illicit drugs or a drunkard or the you
know, or they get high a lot, or they don't pray or anything like
this.
And the
girl perhaps is settling for someone like that, then in this
case, one can try to see if there's still a possibility
to get married to her, especially if you're not a facet, right? If
you're trying to do your best, and you really have your heart set on
this girl, and you feel like she's gonna go the wrong way, then
surely I hear the Medicare telling, well give it a try. See
what happens. And perhaps, you know, you save this girl from this
corrupt person, although
what the CFO will sit with the the water that he almost Avati, Ilam,
chacun, Waje, vallotton Illa follow Lee.
Also, the three will set the bar, and other words, to try to engage
someone who is in their head, or in their waiting period.
This is also haram, what you can do, and they said in the books is
to attend, we are doing a toss, that we means kinda just give a
hint, you know, you sent her flowers, or something like that.
Or you say, you know, I think you'd make a good marriage
partner, or, you know, someone who said to pronounce love, they said
is that we cannot possibly, I think that's totally I have to be
honest with you. That seems very overt. But the they said, you
know, it has to be specifically saying, I come here to marry you,
I want you to marry me. So if she's still on her head, hold your
horses a little bit, you know, wait for the waiting period to
expire. And then you know, I wish it was like that we usually have
the opposite. Usually, when women in our communities get divorced,
it's like the no one was interested in marrying them. So I
wish there were people lining at the door who are waiting for the
waiting period to expire to seek to merit
for an alpha fee, what the outer leather, the fee here are what the
about the hammer standard and the lyrical athlete, the ability to
hurry. And this we were talking about earlier,
to be the honeymoon. So if someone marries someone in the waiting
period and cancel mates, or does the Mocha Demet. So not full
consummation, but there's some sexual
act between them.
Or they do that contract within the waiting period. And then they
consummate after Mustang it an identical act to this invalid
marriage contract that having the waiting period to add better to
him. Right, then they will be held on to one another forever. And
this was the method of said no amount under Medicare follow him
in that the Schaffhausen 100. Thieves don't have that. But the
Maliki said that'd be the
in that case, well, no, the the hot button and ultimus indica,
windy locked, and it is recommended to have a hot bath. In
other words, just say a few words until TMS indica, right when one
is trying to get engaged. And under the awkward and at the
marriage contract. Usually this is the Imam or the sheikh says it.
But actually, as you notice here, there is no mention of an imam or
a chef or someone to marry them. So literally, it can be just the
husband, the wife and the guardian. And then they're the
ones saying the words. So the Imam or the Zune or whatever he's
called, he's there just to kind of make sure the process goes
smoothly, but he's not an essential aspect of the marriage.
He's just kind of like, there to set the guidelines and make sure
things are done properly, and so forth.
With off, we have already locked this idea.
Also, it's no debate and it's recommended that the wedding of
the girl or the bride, you follow the armor in other words, he
deputizes or a or gives agency to someone who's assaulted someone
they think is like an honorary thing at the time of the marriage.
At the time of the contract, you know, this year or this? Maybe the
grandfather or an uncle or someone who's you know, it's like a
customary honorary thing to do for them.
What are they doing Nikka you can we can do follow Adam, and also to
have our land, which is to have some sort of public statement,
public reception public celebration of the marriage is
also highly recommended to do
well longtime alum, Robert datamine. And we'll stop here
until the next time, instead of like, Well how about again