Wael Ibrahim – Unplugged on porn addiction

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The world is experiencing issues with online pornography causing devastation for children and teenagers, as well as the success of Free Unplugging. Many countries are blocking websites and creating phone videos, creating a " Free Unpluggeded" environment. The importance of changing environments and addressing addiction is emphasized, along with the need for costless companies and a focus on productivity to improve one's chances of recovery. Traffic rules and avoiding isolation are also emphasized as ways to prevent addiction.

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			How are you brothers and sisters?
		
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			Today, this is a mini unplugged.
		
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			I'm gonna interview
		
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			Wael Ibrahim, my friend.
		
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			And I have a very,
		
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			simple and quick question after greeting you and,
		
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			asking Allah to
		
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			bless you and your family. Why? Because
		
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			shows you for a very, very important mission.
		
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			Apart
		
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			from,
		
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			the crisis which is happening in Gaza as
		
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			of today, what is the biggest
		
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			problem that is facing the world as of
		
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			today?
		
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			Online, Sheikh, on a daily basis, the main
		
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			problem that I receive, whether by emails, text
		
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			messages,
		
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			or other social media accounts that I have,
		
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			is that either
		
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			a brother will contact me, tell me that
		
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			he is he's been addicted to * for
		
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			many, many years For how long? Or his
		
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			wife will contact me telling me the same
		
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			thing and that the marriage is falling apart.
		
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			Or even kids as young as 12,
		
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			13, 14 are actually and and the good
		
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			thing is that about the kids is that
		
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			they have realized
		
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			that it is actually
		
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			causing them,
		
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			devastation in terms of the studies, the memory
		
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			retention, and so on and so forth. So
		
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			for a kid like at 12 years old,
		
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			14 years old to realize the the damage
		
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			and the consequence of * addiction, it's something
		
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			big.
		
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			And, to me, there is nothing there is
		
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			nothing bigger than this in our in our
		
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			time. And it has not Lehay, how do
		
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			you It did not discriminate against any segment
		
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			of the society.
		
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			Any,
		
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			age group. Follow-up questions. The first is,
		
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			is this what the so called free world
		
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			has introduced to us?
		
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			I mean, if you happen to post anything
		
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			about Gaza,
		
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			you will be shadow banned, your accounts will
		
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			be suspended,
		
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			and you will not be able to go
		
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			live maybe for a year or more.
		
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			You know? And now it's Our sister, Fatima
		
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			Behnam, one of the senators,
		
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			the youngest Muslim hijabi senator in Australia Uh-huh.
		
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			She spoke her heart out. She spoke against
		
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			the atrocities that's happening
		
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			in Palestine,
		
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			recently, and the whole world is against her.
		
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			The whole media, the whole so called freedom
		
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			of speech
		
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			advocates
		
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			are against him. But as far as I
		
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			know,
		
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			awfully,
		
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			the West produces
		
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			every minute
		
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			hundreds of movies and clips, *
		
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			movies.
		
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			USA,
		
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			Canada,
		
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			Europe.
		
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			Is this what the free world benefit in
		
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			the world wins? I believe I Poisoning the
		
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			minds of our youth, of our children because
		
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			you're just fighting me right now when you
		
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			say
		
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			as early as the age of 12.
		
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			Even younger, sir? Younger. Even younger. So the
		
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			the now in one of the latest statistics
		
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			is 1 in 10 born users on the
		
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			Internet is under the age of 10. Yeah.
		
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			How And how many are there, Sheikh? How
		
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			many users just to give you an idea,
		
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			there is one website that boast about how
		
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			many
		
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			users
		
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			been, you know, visiting their websites in the
		
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			year 2019 alone.
		
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			He said there has been 42,000,000,000
		
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			visits that occurred on their website. That's one
		
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			single website in the year 2019 alone. So
		
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			God alone knows
		
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			how many 1,000,000,000
		
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			other views elsewhere
		
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			occur on different websites. And you said only
		
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			on one single website? Yeah. That's one single
		
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			website. Do you have an estimate as how
		
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			many websites?
		
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			By the Chetna, millions of pages are created
		
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			every single day. Millions. Because because many governments
		
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			are also, like, working working towards the effort
		
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			of blocking these pages. Mhmm. So as soon
		
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			as a page is blocked, 10 are created.
		
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			Okay. Yeah. 10 are created.
		
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			And the problem, Sheikh Mansory, to interrupt, the
		
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			danger of corn industry is now no
		
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			longer pertaining
		
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			to big producers and studios and big cameras
		
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			and all that. With the phone.
		
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			Yes. There are people who are creating phone
		
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			from the digital on this cell phone. And
		
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			and those are usually the young generation. As
		
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			we're talking right now, we create their own
		
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			videos.
		
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			To draw more attention and viewership, and and
		
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			obviously, they earn money on that. Sometimes, even
		
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			young young kids, and this is a message
		
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			to all young kids who are listening,
		
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			that it unintentionally, they share this imagery with
		
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			so called, you know, my boyfriend, my girlfriend,
		
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			only to find that these these imagery find
		
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			its way to on-site.
		
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			My second question for the sake of time
		
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			that
		
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			I see once was talking about, you know,
		
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			when somebody asks you, like, you know, the
		
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			ultimate solution
		
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			for,
		
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			* addiction and how to get rid of
		
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			it. And, you phrase it very well and
		
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			you said there is no magical state of
		
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			1,
		
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			strike that the person will quit. But you
		
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			give an advice
		
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			or you said, lower your game. That's the
		
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			beginning.
		
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			Basically,
		
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			indeed, that is the ultimate solution, but it
		
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			isn't easy. Why?
		
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			Because the more you feed your eyesight,
		
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			the more you starve. It's not only about
		
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			the dopamine release and, getting excited. It's about,
		
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			you know, getting used to the sin, which
		
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			is in Arabic, we call it
		
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			and how the messenger of Allah peace be
		
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			upon him said,
		
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			everyone's heart will be exposed continuously to sins.
		
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			And then
		
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			when you let go one sin,
		
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			it will leave a black spot,
		
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			a black dark. If you repent and seek
		
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			forgiveness, it will be erased. But if you
		
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			leave it, another one will be added. And
		
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			3rd,
		
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			then there will be like a thick layer
		
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			of rust on top of the heart, which
		
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			the almighty Allah referred to in the Quran
		
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			as a run.
		
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			How to scrub this run?
		
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			I think this was, you know, the definition
		
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			of addiction
		
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			in in in in in, in its actual,
		
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			you know, meaning. And how to get rid
		
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			of this election Sheikh or that realm is
		
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			number 1, the environment must change. The environment
		
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			must become conducive to iman driven activities.
		
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			You know, I always say masjid is not
		
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			called masjid
		
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			unless
		
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			salah is performed in it. That's why masjid,
		
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			you know, comes from sujud. Right? So a
		
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			masjid without salah, it's just an empty space,
		
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			you know. So environment must be very conducive
		
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			to iman driven activities, productivities. Number 2, the
		
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			structure that Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, the do's
		
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			and don'ts, the halal and halal must be
		
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			always in place. And the 3rd and the
		
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			most important tip to, you know, begin the
		
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			journey to of recovery is good company.
		
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			Righteous company. And in Surah Al Kahf, Allah
		
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			told us very clearly stick, you know, hold
		
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			fast onto those people who worship their lord
		
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			day and night. What
		
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			And and guess who's being instructed?
		
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			The prophet
		
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			sallallahu alaihi. So, I love I love the
		
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			description.
		
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			Don't let your eyes stray away. Meaning, stick
		
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			with those righteous company. Because by definition, a
		
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			righteous friend is the is the one that
		
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			when you meet, when you see, it reminds
		
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			you of Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala, it reminds
		
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			you of your duty
		
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			towards
		
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			him. And and you can't you can't be
		
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			alone. Mhmm. Avoid isolation at all cost. If
		
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			you're really if you're really serious about recovery,
		
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			you can't be alone.
		
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			You mean that being alone,
		
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			initiates?
		
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			Yeah. Open the doors for, of course, a
		
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			lot of things. Number 1, Shaitan knows your
		
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			weakness. Mhmm. Number 2, you're addicted already, so
		
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			the dopamine level will rise once you are
		
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			comfortable behind closed doors. 2 enemies against 1,
		
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			you will never win. You will never win
		
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			the battle. So you have to have a
		
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			righteous company system in place. The fear factor.
		
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			Would it help raising the fear factor? The
		
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			fear of Allah, the fear of being caught,
		
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			the fear whether active or passive fear. The
		
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			active fear is that you wasted plenty of
		
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			time already of your life. It's time to
		
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			recover. It's time to be productive. It's time
		
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			to study. It's time to graduate.
		
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			It is time to start making money. It's
		
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			time to be a successful person.
		
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			This is like, you know,
		
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			fear of the future. And the passive fear
		
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			such as,
		
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			being afraid of being caught. Like, you just
		
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			mentioned that many sisters are calling to complain
		
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			about their spouses. Called their husbands. Yeah. So
		
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			no matter how much,
		
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			careful you are,
		
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			you might have How many times you deleted
		
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			the history
		
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			of your you would be caught at one
		
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			point. Mhmm. And, the ad that if you
		
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			remember Sheikh
		
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			I always give I always give the example
		
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			of even CCTV camera. When when you're driving
		
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			a car and you know that you're watched
		
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			by camera, you respect the traffic rules. True.
		
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			But once the traffic's, you know, it's not
		
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			happening. To be continued because we need to
		
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			catch a flight, we got some guests here.
		
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			Assalamu alaikum. People that we've had. Guess what
		
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			you're talking about?
		
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			I
		
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			don't know. Popcorn is this We'll continue with
		
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			the
		
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			maybe in the flight. See you soon.