Wael Ibrahim – Roaming Ramadan #28 With Sonny Bill Williams

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The speaker discusses the importance of boundaries and protecting oneself in the workplace. They emphasize the need for individual responsibility and acknowledging that work-life balance is important. They also mention a study showing that women make up a larger percentage of the workforce than men does, which is a positive development for women. The speaker also addresses a potential issue with a customer's credit card balance and explains that it is a matter of time before it can be resolved.

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			Welcome back to roaming Ramadan
		
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			lessons on the road.
		
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			This episode in particular is one of
		
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			the dearest
		
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			to my heart. I'm here with my dear
		
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			brother, Sonny Ben Williams for the first time.
		
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			We're both
		
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			from Australia. We live in Australia. We live
		
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			in Sydney. I live in Perth, but we
		
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			haven't met at all,
		
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			in in Australia. We just met here in
		
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			Kuala Lumpur in Malaysia, and I thought to
		
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			see this opportunity
		
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			to bring him over to roaming Ramadan for
		
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			the first time. And, you know, for the
		
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			last time, Hajaabi, it was lovely to finally
		
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			have met met you. It's been an absolute
		
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			pleasure. Firstly,
		
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			It's my first time, say, everyone watching. It's
		
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			my first time doing a an event like
		
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			this,
		
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			and I couldn't think of anyone better for
		
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			us to to share the stage with with
		
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			than yourself,
		
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			The path that you want, your reversion story,
		
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			coming back to the deen, and
		
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			so what is You're kind of related a
		
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			lot. I wanna do stories. What I did
		
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			like
		
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			how you have achieved a lot in life.
		
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			All
		
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			of a sudden,
		
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			you didn't plan it. Maybe you were thinking
		
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			about it. You were
		
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			seeking something.
		
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			And all of a sudden, Allah called you
		
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			to this path,
		
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			and Allah brought you to Islam.
		
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			And if if I may ask you one
		
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			thing,
		
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			miss, about Islam that no other has been
		
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			that really captivated you the most, what would
		
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			that be for
		
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			you? I learned a lot from you. I
		
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			wanna I will highlight 1, but I wanna
		
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			see if you will know. Okay. I'll I'll
		
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			remind it just a bit. When I was
		
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			in search of purpose, my whole life was
		
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			came before what? Yeah. Trying to buy my
		
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			buy my house for all payment. Yes. I
		
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			achieved that at 18,
		
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			and then I had a what if what
		
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			and then it sent me on a path
		
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			for purpose.
		
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			Read a lot of books.
		
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			Went back to
		
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			church. All of these things happened. I think
		
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			probably to answer your question specifically, the eyes
		
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			that I
		
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			I make a few brothers.
		
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			You're still very close to me right now,
		
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			and they're the ones that taught me about
		
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			this thing. And it was from
		
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			just the their way of life.
		
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			The way that
		
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			they had
		
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			fear of their faith, the way they conducted
		
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			themselves,
		
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			their way of life was a picture picture
		
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			of what they were used with, and I
		
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			really respected that. And just that contemporary
		
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			and and solace that they seem to have.
		
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			While they each, I wanted to explain some
		
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			I wanted that. So I had the flashcards.
		
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			I had the the house. I had the
		
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			house. I had the money, the wealth. But,
		
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			I think I'd like someone to do that.
		
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			So that's it. You mentioned something about boundaries,
		
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			discipline,
		
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			and being a sportsman like yourself. You grew
		
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			up from being disciplined. It was training, eating,
		
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			and all that. So does that relate to
		
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			your faith, what is to Islam? 100%. I
		
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			not so much from this. Yes. We can't
		
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			going to try and beat up this.
		
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			As an athlete, I've had ups and downs.
		
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			As I've said, I've had ups and downs.
		
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			As an athlete to be the best player
		
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			in sports that I
		
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			yearn
		
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			for, you need boundaries.
		
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			You're the best man of faith, you need
		
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			boundaries.
		
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			And I found that
		
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			the more boundaries I sit,
		
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			the more calm I felt. So
		
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			and that's why I talk talk about it
		
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			a lot. And you see, you don't have
		
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			to, my brothers. This is a lesson for
		
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			you to learn. You don't have to be
		
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			a sheikh, a graduate from Al Zahra, a
		
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			graduate from Madinah, or anything like that to
		
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			to influence others positively.
		
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			Brothers only never claimed to be a sheikh.
		
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			But I think his his beard does not
		
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			stand it.
		
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			But,
		
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			but
		
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			using his story to empower others
		
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			and to invite them to look into Islam
		
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			is his niche. That's what he does.
		
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			Aside from that, he's also a bully. As
		
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			soon as he saw me, he wanted to
		
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			take me to the gym. He didn't know
		
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			that my back is broken
		
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			also.
		
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			We were talking one last thing and we
		
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			deduced a little bit of a lesson or
		
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			two from them and then
		
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			in the session.
		
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			And that is we spoke about books. Yes.
		
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			So you were into the rugby. The history
		
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			is known.
		
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			Why you loved the game,
		
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			ever since you were 15 or 18?
		
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			Since I was 5. Yeah. Since we were
		
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			5. Yeah. Since I was yes. So 18
		
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			is the the professional grade. Yes. 18 was
		
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			the But boxing came much later,
		
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			and,
		
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			definitely, something was coming
		
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			to talk to you about.
		
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			What you're doing, brother. The Haram, please? Yes.
		
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			You got a laugh. You got a tattoo
		
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			on you. Yes. But the culture of that
		
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			stuff for a while. How did you do
		
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			that? And,
		
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			I will offer a you know, it's a
		
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			bit of,
		
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			maybe to clarify some what's the misconception with
		
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			boxing?
		
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			But how did you deal with that, and
		
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			what is your plan in the future after
		
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			leaving pretty boxing?
		
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			I will
		
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			it's hard, Jeff, because I'm I'm real infinitive.
		
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			For the first time, when I became a
		
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			Muslim, I went to work. I went into
		
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			a bus trip, and if I had turned
		
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			me around, I'm away because of my heart.
		
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			It's a.
		
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			So I felt like something to be wrong
		
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			with to cut it off. You know? I
		
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			just want to pray. I I strove to,
		
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			just be the better person, be the better
		
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			man. And
		
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			I think
		
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			when it comes to certain things like boxing,
		
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			like, rugby,
		
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			shorts, or shingles,
		
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			it's
		
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			hard. You know, one at a time. And,
		
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			I just try
		
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			and
		
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			I try and focus on my relationship with
		
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			my crew.
		
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			Now
		
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			and now I understand and and,
		
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			you know, accept my intentions. Allah definitely is
		
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			overwatching all these struggles,
		
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			And and I think that's that's my whole,
		
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			I guess.
		
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			That's the path I work in this space
		
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			because it's so sensitive. Sensitive. I don't wanna
		
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			give rulings or no rules because I don't
		
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			know what you know?
		
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			In be honest. But I just try to
		
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			work. Islam the best way that I can
		
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			change. And
		
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			there's one thing very important about boxing in
		
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			particular. You told me something about boxing
		
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			in terms also of how it improved your
		
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			relationship with Allah or in terms of this
		
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			Oh, my, sir. Yes. I look at it
		
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			like this. I'm not
		
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			my
		
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			take on boxing per se is I'm not
		
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			fighting. I'm not training to go and give
		
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			someone a hand. I'm not training to go
		
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			and give her a hand. I'm not just
		
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			going to see that.
		
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			I'm training
		
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			to keep myself disciplined. I'm training
		
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			to. Shall I if it happens, I need
		
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			to step up and protect my family and
		
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			my and my kids and my children so
		
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			I can handle myself. That's why I'm training.
		
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			And, obviously, I fight and I get
		
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			And one day, Allah will will will take
		
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			you out of this
		
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			substitute or something. Wait. So what we wanted
		
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			to bring to people's attention is that you
		
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			don't know other people's struggles in the background
		
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			to start judging them and start putting, you
		
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			know,
		
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			the Haram
		
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			sign in front of the face every now
		
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			and then. Just pray for them and
		
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			that he came all the way from the
		
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			dark into the light of Islam. So this
		
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			is sufficient. The other thing is the the
		
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			recent subject many do have about boxing is
		
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			that we always say boxing is harm
		
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			in a very, very general terms. So boxing
		
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			is a big norm. What the prophet salallahu
		
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			alaihi wa sallam, prohibited my brothers and sisters
		
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			in Islam,
		
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			is hitting the face.
		
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			When your intention is hit the face or
		
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			when you hit somebody's face, that's how the
		
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			boss has said don't do it. But if
		
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			you are trained in boxing or any other
		
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			martial arts with the intention of self defense
		
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			to become strong, to strengthen your body, or
		
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			any emergencies,
		
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			then there is no any problem there. There
		
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			is no any issue with that. Now whether
		
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			the brother is still in moxing,
		
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			hitting other people's face or not, this is
		
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			something as we mentioned. We ask Allah
		
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			to protect him, Ask
		
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			Allah to grant him victory against his enemies,
		
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			whoever they are. And
		
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			whatever goodness the brother is bringing to the
		
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			community
		
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			must be separated. Final word, Kabir, to the
		
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			people. Love is for the sake of Allah.
		
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			Duas for me and my loved ones.
		
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			We have a first pass. Please come up
		
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			and give salah.