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You know, the difficulty is the new generation,
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they have stopped asking the question.
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I have had people, yesterday, someone sent me
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an email to say, look, as a female,
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I need oral *.
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The private part in the * are a
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source of a lot of infections.
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Is there a hadith that says oral *
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for both males and females is haram?
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What is being presented in the * movies
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and the * industry does not represent the
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reality or the truth whatsoever.
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Alright, let's go to role plays in sexual
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intimacy between spouses.
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As-salamu alaykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh, my
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brothers, my sisters in Islam.
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Bismillah wa alhamdulillah wa salatu wa salam ala
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rasoolillahi salallahu alayhi wa sallam.
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Unplugged, a video series that we have started,
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alhamdulillah rabbil alameen, a couple of years ago
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and it reached the millions by Allah's favor
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and blessings.
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Alhamdulillah, may Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala make
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these videos beneficial to one and all.
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But one episode in particular that attracted the
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attention of so many around the world and
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towards the end of that episode, we made
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a plea, we actually reached out to you
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and we asked you to provide a feedback
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and that episode was the last one when
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we were in Indonesia together, myself, Dr. Muhammad
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Salah, Mufti Ismail Ming and we told you
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that based on your feedback, we will insha
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'Allah record a second episode and that was
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the sexual responsibility and roles in Islam for,
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of course, married couples.
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May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala accept from
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one and all, but before we dig into
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the discussion of part two, I owe you
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an apology, Mufti.
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Many people told me you were interrupting Mufti
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Ming in the first discussion, so apologies, please
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forgive me because I didn't interrupt you, that's
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the problem, but many people were pointing at
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this that you interrupted Mufti Ming a lot.
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I didn't mind the interruption, they were beneficial.
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Forgive me, so we need to maintain the
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time of the session, so let's dig into
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it.
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Dr. Muhammad Salah, Mufti Ismail Ming, welcome back
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to Unplugged and the first question which came
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a lot, these, by the way, this episode
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is based on the comments of the first
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video and one of the questions that came
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throughout the pages of Mufti Ming, Dr. Muhammad
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Salah myself, is oral *.
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Is it halal?
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Is it flat out haram?
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Are there anything in particular permissible, not allowed?
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Bismillah.
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Take the lead.
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Basically there are two opinions among the scholars.
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There is the opinion that says that nothing
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of that nature is permissible because of a
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person being a believer, you use the tongue
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and the mouth to say the shahada and
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so on, and honorable things and so on.
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And the other opinion says, look, if someone
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wants to lick their nose or do something,
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it's considered perhaps not upon a level that
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would be encouraged or something, but to move
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to the level of prohibition would be beyond
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what is clearly stated as a prohibition.
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So the two opinions, one is that it
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should be avoided and the other is there
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is a scope of permissibility.
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Perhaps Dr. Muhammad can elaborate on that a
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little bit further because I'm sure he would
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have greater experience with hudah and with all
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the questions that he gets usually.
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You know, the difficulty is the new generation,
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they have stopped asking the question.
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They involve in it without asking and they
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say, look, what is haram in this?
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If it is clean and if there is
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no dalil specifically prohibiting it, why are you
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prohibiting it before us?
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So they stopped asking.
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So we're basically talking to those who are
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really concerned and maybe the older lot.
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I have had people yesterday, someone sent me
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an email to say, look, as a female,
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I need oral *.
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This is the question.
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And I recently got married.
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My husband is not going to do that.
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He said it's prohibited.
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What do I do?
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I'm not going to.
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It's early on in the marriage and it's
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a tough one to navigate because I can't
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convince you to follow an opinion.
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If the husband believes that it's not allowed,
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I mean, how do I convince him?
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Look, there is another opinion.
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And if someone is following the other opinion,
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how do I convince them the other way?
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Dr. Muhammad, you have to really navigate through
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this one because it is one of the
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crucial questions that needs to be hit head
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on.
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You have the, you know, I don't want
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to call it the old school, but you
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have the, you already did.
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No, no, I don't want to call it
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the old school, but you know, there needs
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to be a balance.
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But there are people out there are coming
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now saying what's halal, what's haram without really
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being grounded.
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To start with, can I say something really
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important, more important than the question of oral
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*?
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That is, please ensure that your private parts
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are very, very clean at all times.
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That's something that you should never compromise.
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And this is why you and I know
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about halal, that, you know, the removal of
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the hair of the entire private area is
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something from the fitra.
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And we should be doing it on a
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regular basis.
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Some people have asked, are you allowed to
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laser?
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Are you allowed to wax?
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Are you allowed to remove this way?
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You remove it however you have to.
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You just give them another question though.
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Allahu Akbar, Allahu Akbar.
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You add it to the list.
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We add it to the list.
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This is something very important for people to
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know.
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Yes.
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Do you see how deep it goes?
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So this time I'm interrupting you, Habibi.
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So nonetheless, the place needs to be clean.
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I mean, if someone wants to really, you
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know, if they can really kiss someone on
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the nose and bite the nose and lick
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somebody's nose and lick somebody's ears.
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I mean, if the place is generally clean,
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it's very different from if, you know, you
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have green snots coming out and you say,
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can I lick the nose?
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La hawla wa la quwwata illa billah.
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May Allah forgive us.
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Sorry about that.
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That's the third question.
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Licking the nose.
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Alhamdulillah wa salatu wa salamu ala nabiyyin Mustafa
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wa Ba'ath.
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Alhamdulillah, Islam and science go in hand.
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And they are in harmony in every aspect
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by the grace of Allah.
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So it is very important also to consider
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the pathological aspect of it.
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The private part and the * are a
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source of a lot of infections, especially there
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are a lot of people who may have
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STDs like HP and human papilloma and so
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on.
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And they don't know only when it breaks
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out.
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The transmission, not necessarily because of sexual contact.
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There are so many reasons, you know, the
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clinics, the toilet seats, the public toilet seats,
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etc.
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So if it happens and one of the
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partners, especially the female, happened to pick any
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of these STDs, and you can imagine a
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person is put in his mouth where there
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is STDs, sexual transmitted disease.
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This is completely not advised because it's not
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about the cleanliness.
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You're talking about viral infection.
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So it's sitting there, even if you wash
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so many times.
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But even in this case, penetration would be
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also not advisable.
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Well, if they are having sexual contact, then
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one time is sufficient to pick it up.
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But we're talking about admitting it to your
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mouth and having those rashes and so on
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on your lips.
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So the pathological aspect of it is very,
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very important to consider.
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This is a place which is full of
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microorganisms, infection.
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So maintaining its cleanness, as my dear brother
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said, is something really important, especially when you
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happen to use public toilets and stuff like
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that.
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Secondly, yes, there is no direct prophetic prohibition.
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It's neither mentioned in the Quran nor in
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the seven hadiths that the Prophet s.a
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.w. said don't do oral *.
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As a matter of fact, last time when
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we spoke about * penetration, yes, there is
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a straightforward hadith forbidding that.
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But when it comes to oral *, and
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since it was not even considered, it wasn't
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on the screen, it wasn't something that people
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even inquired about in the past.
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Simply because of the widespread of the *
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clips and having these sceneries available to everyone,
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then people started getting aroused, learning, trying to
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experiment.
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Navigating.
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Navigating.
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But in a Muslim society and in a
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modest society, never ever anyone thought about it
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before.
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But since it is there, we have to
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handle it.
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We have to attend to the viewers and
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to the Muslim ummah.
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It is our responsibility.
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So in brief, Sheikh, is there a hadith
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that says oral * for both males and
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females is haram?
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No, there is no hadith.
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So then it's not haram.
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Well, there is no hadith.
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But there is a hadith in which the
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Prophet ﷺ disliked touching one's private part with
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the right hand.
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He said always use the left hand.
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Do not touch the very private part with
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the right hand.
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This is the hand, not the mouth.
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So if you look at it from the
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perspective of not the old school cleanliness, considering
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that this tongue is normally used for the
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remembrance of Allah, the recitation of the Qur
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'an, it is better to avoid it.
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But do we have a reference where the
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Prophet ﷺ said it is haram?
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No, we don't.
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So let's put it this way.
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So regarding the issue that Mufti Mink mentioned
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that someone asked, like a lady asked him
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via email about that she needed it, she
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is inquiring it from her husband.
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In those cases also it's better not to...
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You know it is interesting because the spouse
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may detest it, may think it is disgusting.
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And of course in small circles and in
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the counseling sessions, one of the partners say
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that it is disgusting.
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I feel like I want to throw up.
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And the other partner enjoys it.
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So not because you enjoy it, you make
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your partner throw up or vomit.
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They don't like it.
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Even if it is halal, don't push them
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to do it.
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I actually came across a few years ago,
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someone who said that one of the questions
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before marriage was, what's your opinion on oral
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*?
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And they were embarrassed.
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They said, how could they have asked this
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question pre-marriage?
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And I said, you know what, maybe you
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just need to answer the question and say
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what you think.
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They should.
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Maybe it's an important thing.
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It is.
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Because if one of the partners, whether he
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or she, the future partner, dare to ask
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the question, that means it represents for them
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an ideology.
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You see, there was a time when this
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was not even asked because it didn't exist.
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I mean people might laugh at it, but
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there was a time.
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Like if it did happen, it would have
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been mentioned somewhere in the kutub, somewhere in
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the hadith, somewhere in the Islamic history.
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But because there is no mention of it
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before a certain time, so it's become urf,
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or it's become from the urf of certain
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people, it seeped into those who were more
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modest about this particular thing.
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And that's why today the debate is such
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that, like I said earlier, the young generation,
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to them it's not even a question, and
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honestly so.
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Because there was a certain event I attended,
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and one of the things that I tried
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to ask a few of the youngsters is,
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you know what, what exactly are your views
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on this?
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And they said, what do you mean?
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It's not, besides * penetration, there's nothing else
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that is haram.
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Yeah, and because * became the main primary
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educator in this area, wa laa yadubu laa
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may Allah protect us, now we receive a
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lot of emails from husbands and from wives
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that the actions, the disgusting actions shown in
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these films also have entered Muslim homes as
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a result.
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I remember in Medina we asked one of
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the mashayikh there, when we were students, just
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young, and he said it's not recommended, but
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you can't say it's prohibited.
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So yeah, they left it at that.
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And we were, at that time I was
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too young and shy to even ask further.
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We just kept quiet and you know, that's
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it.
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One thing brother Wa'el just brought up,
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talking about the * industry, that we need
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to share with the viewers something really important.
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What is being presented in the * movies
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and the * industry does not represent the
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reality or the truth whatsoever.
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And most of those who are involved, the
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actors or the actresses, they have to administer
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some sort of drugs in order to bear
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the pain.
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The pain, the meditation.
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And you know, the filth that they are
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involved in, in which even animals do not
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degrade themselves to such a level.
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How do we know that?
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We know that because of a lot of
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documentaries, whether on Discovery Channel or whatever.
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And they are confessed, after they've come out,
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there are a few who have actually come
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open.
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Some who quit, and some who after some
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serious STDs and they are just waiting for
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their death.
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They warn, they warn the youngsters especially.
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A lot of college girls who want to
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pay for their education and they find easy
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money there.
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You know, thousands of dollars on a daily
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basis.
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So they destroy them.
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And they give them drugs in order to
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be capable to resume.
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So what you see in these movies do
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not represent the reality whatsoever.
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Unless if you lose your life as well.
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In fact, there is a professor in Australia
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by the name of Mary Crabb.
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She actually traveled to certain parts in the
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States and she interviewed * stars.
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And one of them mentioned that those who
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are trying to imitate us in their homes,
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they need to see a psychologist.
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This is from the lips of the people
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in the industry.
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May Allah protect us all.
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Alright, let's go to role plays in sexual
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intimacy between spouses.
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Handcuffing, acting as if they are * their
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wives, like a scene as if he kidnapped
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the wife, he threw her in the bed,
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she physically became violent and they call it
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marital *.
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Have you ever heard about someone trying some
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role play and they choked the wife and
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she died?
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I read that a few years ago in
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the news.
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In that case, in Australia as well.
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I think those who are into that, they
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definitely need to visit and see a psychiatrist.
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You know, Sheikh Naif, I can add something.
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I think it depends what exactly the role
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playing is about.
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What he mentioned is marital *.
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No, I think there's a difference between the
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two.
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Role play is generally when you're pretending, you
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put up a scene, you want to have
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fun with perhaps something that's been in your
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mind, or whatever it might have been.
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I think if it is something crazy, like
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where you're handcuffing and being violent and doing
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some things, that would have a ruling.
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But if it's someone who says, look, I'd
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like you to dress up, I'd like you
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to be this, I'd like you to that,
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to a certain extent, perhaps the lighter of
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it might be, it's not a prohibited thing,
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it makes you guys happy and it's something
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that's not violent, it's something that's not low
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in its moral itself, not degrading of anyone.
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When he mentioned the role playing, what crossed
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my mind first, the cross-dressing.
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No, cross-dressing.
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And this is something that we need to
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address.
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No, Islam does not allow that.
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Islam doesn't allow a male to become or
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be a female.
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Islam doesn't allow that.
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According to Islamic law, it's very clear on
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that.
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Habibi, we have to tell the viewers that
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there is a difference between makruh and haram
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and accursed, because this kind of role playing,
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if a man dresses like a woman, a
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woman dresses like a man, just mere dressing,
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even in private, a Nabi salallahu alayhi wa
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sallam cursed those who do so.
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And cursing means to be deprived from Allah's
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mercy on the Day of Judgment.
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لَعَنَ اللَّهُ الرَّجُلُ يَلْبَسُ لِبْسَةَ الْمَرْءَ وَالْمَرْءَةُ تَلْبَسُ
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لِبْسَةَ الرَّجُلُ It is absolutely accursed, cross-dressing
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even in the bedroom, even for fun, is
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something that whoever does it is accursed by
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Allah and His Messenger salallahu alayhi wa sallam.
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That's an Islamic ruling, actually that's an Islamic
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ruling.
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And you know, one of the strange things
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is that a lot of people think that
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now that I'm married, I can do whatever
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I want.
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But in actual fact, Islam holds us at
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the highest values and morals, even in the
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bedroom and even in warfare.
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Like when there's a war going on, you
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cannot just do what you like, these are
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your enemies.
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No, these are your brothers that you've disagreed
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with or you need to fight for a
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reason, but you've got to be humane.
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That's why the treatment of prisoners of war,
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the way you attack a person, someone who's
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surrendering, you're not allowed to touch them.
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So all of that, there is discipline in
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everything.
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Within the bedroom, it's probably the biggest discipline.
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But Allah says you enjoy, you know, because
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of it being halal, in a respectable, beautiful
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way.
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You don't belittle someone?
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This is absolutely forbidden.
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You don't belittle someone?
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You don't abuse them?
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Language also, the tongue.
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Calling each other names.
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No, but a lot of people have said
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the only time I swear is when I'm
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in bed.
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What kind of swearing first?
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So calling his wife, for example, a word
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that is known for people who does the
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fahisha, those kind of words that also are
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heard usually on these * videos.
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A BIT, basically.
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And the Prophet ﷺ also taught us about
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several diseases of the tongue, that a man
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may utter a word that may anger Allah
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as a result of it, يَهُوِي بِهَا فِي
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جَهَنَّمٍ سَبْعُونَ خَرِيفًا Someone may utter a word
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as a result of the anger and wrath
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of Allah, such a word may take its
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utterer to hellfire for 70 years.
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So is this allowed in Islam?
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Is this something that is acceptable?
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Well, this is a very sensitive topic, and
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to be honest with you, only a word
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which incurs a fahisha.
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Like in Islam, if a man says to
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any person a word which a lot of
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people use, such as, I'm sorry to say
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the word, bastard, which means born out of
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good luck.
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Am I correct?
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This word requires a severe punishment in Islam.
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It's called qadr.
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It's even mentioned in Surah An-Nur.
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And the accusation, even if it is just
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a joke, it is punishable in Islam.
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So whether a wife, whether in bed, whether
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having sexual fun, this word should be avoided
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whatsoever.
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Whether describing a female or describing a male.
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This is something not to be...
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But lighter words which may spice up the
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relationship, which does not refer to being an
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adulterer or an adulteress, or born out of
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good luck, enjoy.
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I see.
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Simple and clear.
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May Allah protect us.
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That's why I said it is very sensitive.
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Some people are very creative in the type
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of words they use, Habib.
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And by the way, every language...
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And I'm sure in the comments we're going
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to have all these words.
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People saying, la hawla, la hawla.
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We're stepping into a very risky and sensitive
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area.
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Why?
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Look, we're not looking into trend.
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We already have, mashaAllah, millions of followers.
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But we cater for what people need, especially
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the youth.
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Because unfortunately, you will not find it anywhere
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else.
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Am I correct?
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Like I said, they don't ask anymore.
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They just do it.
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I mean, the guy, look, he uses the
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F word.
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And when you ask him, why are you
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using it?
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He said, well, that's exactly what's happening.
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So why shouldn't I use the word?
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What I mean is that when you say
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F you to somebody, what are you referring
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to?
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He says, well, I'm in the act with
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my own spouse.
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Now what do I say?
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So basically, la hawla, la hawla.
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Just move on.
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Yeah, just move on.
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Basically, it's tough, wallahi.
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And that's why, look, I believe, mu'mineen are
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supposed to be upon the highest level of,
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yes, yes, and the words and everything.
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Now, I remember sometime a guy says, you
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know, if we have to behave the way
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some of the sheikhs have to say, you
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know, our sexual relation with our spouse will
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just be so formal like you're in an
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office, and you know, that's it.
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You just get done and you move.
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I don't know how the sheikhs behave in
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bed.
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No, they say the way the sheikhs are
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speaking, you know, to say that you have
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to, because I remember this, one sheikh says
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stuff a long back.
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I mean, sheikh, he said that you're not
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allowed to remove your undergarment.
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You have to just, you know, your trousers.
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I'm saying, how are you going to do
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things?
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How are you going to do things?
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But it's there.
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They say, no, you must have shyness to
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that degree so they don't take off their
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clothes.
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Say, if you're not going to remove your
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clothing.
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There are some schools who believe that even
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while taking a shower, for this question I've
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received tons of times, is it okay to
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swim naked while taking a shower?
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So they take shower with their undergarments on.
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Some people might laugh, but there are people
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like, for example, someone says, how can you
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have lingerie?
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So I said, that's true.
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What lingerie?
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You're not supposed to have anything.
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This is something that we're not saying it's
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permissible, we're saying you should.
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Yes, so if it comes to lingerie, something,
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you know, I don't want to say brand
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names, but they have this, you know, the
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underwear that might be attractive, depending on what
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your spouse likes.
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Some spouses do not like certain types of
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underwear which you might think they would like.
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You can find out and so on.
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And that is all permissible, Habibi.
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That's permissible.
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Now sometimes couples get married and the husband
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would travel to a different country for his
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livelihood and they would stay far away from
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each other for a year, for two, for
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three, and to, you know, provide themselves with
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pleasure, they will open the cameras and they
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do what is known as cyber *.
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What's now the Fiqhi opinion on this?
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And I wanted to mention a few things
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quickly, inshallah.
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By the way, those who open their cameras
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and engage in these, what is known as
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cyber *, be absolutely vigilant, even if you're
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married couples, because there are hackers out there
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who works for these * sites.
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They are hunting these types of conversations to
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download your video.
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A lot of families' lives have been destroyed
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as a result.
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Actually, there is an AI tool that hackers
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use in order to pick up skin on
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your phone.
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And the minute it happens, they are alerted
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and they will hack into your system and
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record that video as it's happening without you
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knowing.
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And many of these videos found their way
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to * websites.
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Subhanallah, instead of trying to treat the side
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effects, why don't we treat the disease itself,
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the cause of the problem?
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The cause of the problem, look how the
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Ummah and its ulema, its true leaders handled
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this issue since the beginning.
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When Umar ibn al-Khattab, may Allah be
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pleased with him, while walking in the streets,
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investigating the condition of the Ummah, the ra
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'iyah, and he heard a woman, she was
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making a poetry about how much she is
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missing her husband.
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And had it not been for the fear
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of Allah, somebody else would be in bed
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with her right now.
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Immediately, he went home and he asked his
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daughter Hafsa, who was the Prophet's wife, he
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asked her a question.
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He said, for how long can a woman
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bear patiently the absence of her husband, not
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having an intimate relationship with him?
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And she realized that he is asking for
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the benefit of the Ummah.
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She said, you know, four to six months.
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So he immediately released a decree.
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All the Muslim commanders of chiefs, because the
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Muslim armies were spread all over during the
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time of Umar ibn al-Khattab, this woman's
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husband was deployed in one of the armies.
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So he said that the maximum period of
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absence is six months.
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Four months on the battlefield or in the
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military camp, and one month traveling and one
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month returning, because the journey takes a month
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or so.
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So a total of a maximum of six
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months.
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Now this question was presented to me tons
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of times, especially on Ask Uda.
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So I advise those who are called the
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kafir, you know, the sponsors, the expats who
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come from all over the world, in order
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to work, to earn their living, especially in
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the Gulf.
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So some, you know, they take their passports
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away and they promise them next year, next
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year, next year, and they end up working
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for several years without having a chance to
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return, to check on their families physically, not
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only to have an intimate relationship, but also
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to see his mother before she died, his
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father before he's married, his son when he
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got married, whatever.
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I would like to tell our rich brothers,
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those who have companies and businesses and are
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a lot of expats, you know, this is
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superior to building a masjid.
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This is superior to giving in a charity
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here and there, even if you pay him
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the ticket out of your pocket.
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And it is absolutely his right.
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So if his wife is not living with
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him, his family is not living with him,
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once a year they must go back.
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If you want to follow the sunnah, if
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you want to become a pious man, a
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couple of times every year, two weeks and
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two weeks, so this is an annual leave,
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one month divided every six months.
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And every person signs a contract to understand
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that it's not only you who have rights,
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you know, also your wife and your children.
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00:27:03
When you say decipher *, and mashallah elaborated
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on the danger of being recorded and then
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being exposed, some people take their lives when
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they see themselves and their wives, you know,
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millions of viewership, and they don't know what
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to do.
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You know, they're being exposed, even though they
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thought, that's why in fiqh they say, الحكم
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على الشيء فرعٌ عن تصوره You cannot give
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a verdict unless if you encompass all the
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circumstances of the masalah.
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So now he added to the faqih something
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that if you are online, you're not actually
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alone.
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There is big brother, there are a lot
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of hackers, there is AI, there is whatever,
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so be careful, you're not alone.
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Now he adds something really important.
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Even if no one, if you are on
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a secure network, and you're sure that it's
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you and your spouse alone, does it mean
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that it's okay to masturbate?
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Because what do you mean cyber *?
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You are in a different country, she is
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in a different country.
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How do you stimulate her?
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She would have to stimulate herself.
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And how would you stimulate yourself?
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By yourself?
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That's called what?
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*.
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So *, inducing * and sexual discharge, is
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haram.
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I know that some of our colleagues said,
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you know, it's halal, but they are missing
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one point, which is, when does it become
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okay?
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When you compare between two cases, two conditions,
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one which is, definitely the person is about
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to commit adultery.
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They say it protects you from the greatest
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sin.
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Last night, after we had dinner, I shared
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with brother Wael an incident, I don't want
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to say it live, but, you know, a
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woman approached me in the street, and, you
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00:29:01
know, I figured that she is a worker,
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one of those who do this kind of,
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like a prostitute.
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Subhanallah, she is hunting for men.
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So, when a person thinks, since I've been
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away from my spouse for a while, and
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there is a fear that the person would
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fall in zina, big time, in this case
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the alternative, which is also haram, but it's
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a lesser haram than committing adultery.
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So when you hear one of the shuyukhs
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saying that * is halal, it is not
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absolute halal.
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When you do it, you understand that you're
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committing haram.
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00:29:40
It is the last resort, in case that
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you fear committing adultery.
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A follow-up on this * part, the
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use of certain toys in the presence of
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both, the spouse are together, but they use,
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instead of their organs, they use toys to
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stimulate each other.
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Is the use of these toys halal or
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haram in Islam?
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You see, when the two are together, and
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they're in the bedroom, and it also again
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depends on the stimulators that someone wants to
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use exactly what it is, you know, so
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you're replacing what you're supposed to be doing
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with something else totally, then why are you
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there, you know?
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But if it is something to spice it
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up, then again it depends exactly what it
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is.
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There are so many things out there, it's
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crazy.
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I hope that the viewers are appreciating that
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we're talking about very sensitive...
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And another thing, it's tough for us to
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talk about it because we ourselves are not
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absolutely sure about exactly what there is.
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We are only aware of it through questions
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that come through people who say things and
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describe things, and it's crazy enough anyway, so
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I can only imagine what it must be
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in the real sense, you know?
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And there is so much that happens.
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There is, for example, I give you one
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quick example.
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There is a lady who says, and this
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happens in many cases, says, you know what,
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00:31:02
my husband does whatever he has to, he's
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00:31:05
done, I'm not yet done, and he's just,
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00:31:07
you know, not even bothered, he can't, so
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00:31:10
is it okay for me to carry on
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00:31:12
myself to ensure that I have climaxed?
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00:31:15
And the husband says, here is a toy
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00:31:17
for you, and you can do your thing,
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00:31:18
you know?
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00:31:20
So it's insensitive on the part of the
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00:31:24
husband, and number two is, what option are
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00:31:25
you leaving her with?
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00:31:28
Another thing is, what type, some people use
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00:31:28
their own hands, right?
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Some people cannot be stimulated unless they use
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00:31:34
their own hands, so we...
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And that's the addictive part of the action.
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Yeah, no, and sometimes...
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Which is permissible if it is the hands
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of the spouse.
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Like, you know, *, but by the hand
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00:31:46
of the spouse is permissible.
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It's not haram.
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00:31:49
Because it's part of the act.
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00:31:50
And that's why if the husband is done,
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00:31:55
some people have premature *, and it's some
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00:31:55
sickness.
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It's treatable, though.
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00:32:01
And some women have, like, stimulation is very
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00:32:03
different from woman to woman, according to what
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00:32:04
I learned.
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00:32:11
Also simply because of extreme circumcision, as it
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00:32:13
was done in the past, extreme...
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00:32:13
In some conditions.
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00:32:16
So in this case, the husband should carry
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00:32:19
on with his hand, and that is definitely
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00:32:19
permissible.
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Astaghfirullah.
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It's tough.
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00:32:24
Final question, inshallah.
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00:32:26
There are plenty of questions, but we wanted
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00:32:28
to cover those...
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00:32:29
You mean you need a part three?
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00:32:31
I think so.
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00:32:32
Wallahi, you're putting us in such a spot.
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00:32:34
Wallahi, but it's...
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00:32:36
Look, people are also...
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00:32:38
Remember, people are appreciating this so much because
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00:32:40
this one of the topics is way less
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00:32:44
talked about than regular topics which people have
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00:32:44
been educated on.
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00:32:50
You know, the sad thing is because of
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00:32:53
the difference of opinion, there is definitely gray
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00:32:54
area.
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00:32:57
So like we say, something is makruh, something
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00:32:59
is last resort, something is some...
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00:33:02
You know, the reason why this discussion happens
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00:33:04
is because there is no clear-cut evidence
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00:33:06
to say haram, haram, haram.
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00:33:08
If there was, we wouldn't even be having
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00:33:11
this discussion like there is regarding * penetration.
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00:33:15
But we have to have this discussion because
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00:33:18
of difference of opinion, the strong difference of...
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00:33:20
And some of these scholars are scholars of
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00:33:21
note, you know.
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00:33:23
It's not just ordinary young people who know
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00:33:23
nothing.
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00:33:25
Some of them are scholars of note.
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00:33:27
But then again we say, even if they
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00:33:29
do, they have said something, carry yourself as
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00:33:32
a person who is respectable and do that
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00:33:35
which is honorable and enjoy yourself within what
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00:33:37
is the limit, inshallah.
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00:33:41
Keep in mind that experimenting new things doesn't
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00:33:41
have an end.
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00:33:42
It's endless.
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00:33:43
It's limitless.
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00:33:47
So basically, when you look at the end
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00:33:50
result, the outcome, which is when both have
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00:33:54
reached their climax, then it doesn't matter what
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00:33:55
happened before and during.
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00:33:57
They have reached their climax.
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00:34:00
They are in a state of comfort and
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00:34:00
rest.
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00:34:03
If every time the person comes up with
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00:34:06
a new thing and whether he is not
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00:34:08
sure halal or haram or whether he knows
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00:34:10
it is haram, but you know, for the
00:34:10 -->
00:34:12
sake of satisfaction, it's endless.
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00:34:14
You will get bored of this and you
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00:34:17
will try to try something new and something
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00:34:17
new.
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00:34:20
How all those things come to one's mind?
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00:34:23
It only comes through watching what is forbidden.
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00:34:28
Otherwise, you and I have been created according
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00:34:31
to the pure nature, fitrah, which is a
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00:34:34
man and woman get together, happen to enjoy
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00:34:37
the sexual relations, 5 minutes, 10 minutes, 20
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00:34:40
minutes, whatever it takes, half hour, they are
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00:34:41
relaxed.
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I don't know.
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00:34:44
And then they are relaxed.
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00:34:45
Alhamdulillah, shukrullah.
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00:34:48
You know what the Prophet said in this
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00:34:48
regard?
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00:34:50
This is a friendly advice.
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00:34:54
If you see a beautiful woman outside or
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00:34:57
a scene that arouses you, he says, grab
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00:35:00
everything in hand, go home, enjoy an intimate
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00:35:01
relationship with your spouse.
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00:35:03
The same applies to the world, by the
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00:35:03
way.
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00:35:06
And then she's got what every other woman
00:35:06 -->
00:35:07
has gotten.
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00:35:08
What does it mean?
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00:35:11
It means the outcome, the end result, which
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00:35:15
is once the person, he or she, have
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00:35:19
reached their climax or simply happen to have
00:35:19 -->
00:35:21
sexual discharge, they're relieved.
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00:35:24
They're in a state of comfort.
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00:35:27
Sometimes you would think it was miserable.
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00:35:29
What we did was disgusting.
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00:35:30
Why did we do this?
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00:35:34
Some spouses punish each other by holding back.
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00:35:36
They say, you know what, I'm going to
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00:35:37
hold back because I want to punish.
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00:35:38
But they don't punish themselves.
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00:35:42
In actual fact, it causes so many other
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00:35:42
haram things.
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00:35:45
So, you know, whenever anyone of the spouses
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00:35:51
would like to fulfill their desires, you must
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00:35:52
oblige.
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00:35:54
I mean, even the women, sometimes they say,
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00:35:56
you know, I really, I have an urge
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00:35:56
for it.
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00:35:58
I'm at an age where I really am
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00:35:59
on a high.
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00:36:01
And this guy is like, he's not even
00:36:01 -->
00:36:01
interested.
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00:36:02
That is wrong.
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00:36:05
You have to fulfill it as an ibadah,
00:36:05 -->
00:36:07
as a duty, as a right, as something
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00:36:09
you are the only person who can fulfill
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00:36:10
it for her.
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00:36:11
I have a case here.
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00:36:13
If you don't, Wallahi, what do you expect?
00:36:13 -->
00:36:13
I have a case.
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00:36:15
The wife is upset with her husband.
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00:36:17
So she holds back from him.
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00:36:19
And then she complains that you caught him
00:36:19 -->
00:36:20
watching *.
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00:36:21
Okay.
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00:36:24
And I happen to meet with both of
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00:36:25
them, speak to them.
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00:36:27
And I thought that he will deny, say
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00:36:29
it was by mistake, by accident, you know,
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00:36:29
whatever.
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00:36:31
No, as a matter of fact, he didn't
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00:36:32
deny.
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00:36:33
He said, yeah, because she's refusing to share
00:36:33 -->
00:36:34
bed with me.
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00:36:36
And for the first time in my life,
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00:36:37
I was speechless.
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00:36:40
It's like, you know, okay, even though this
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00:36:42
is haram, and I can give him lectures
00:36:42 -->
00:36:46
and teachings in this regard, but she was
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00:36:47
the main cause.
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00:36:49
She did haram too.
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00:36:53
The guy says, I was busy all day.
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00:36:54
I was at work.
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00:36:55
I came back.
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00:36:55
I was tired.
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00:36:56
No, no, no.
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00:36:57
You are married.
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00:36:58
You have to come back and you have
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00:36:59
to be energetic.
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00:37:01
You have to take an interest in your
00:37:01 -->
00:37:02
spouse and so on.
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00:37:03
On the other hand, the spouse says, I've
00:37:03 -->
00:37:05
been all day.
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00:37:07
Even if she goes to work or she's
00:37:07 -->
00:37:09
whatever, or she's sitting at home, she says,
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00:37:10
I've been busy with the kids and with
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00:37:12
this and with this and I can't and
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00:37:12
whatever.
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00:37:14
We are taught you have to make that
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00:37:15
sacrifice.
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00:37:16
Whether you like it or not, you have
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00:37:17
to make it.
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00:37:19
That is the ibadah, and that is the
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00:37:20
act of worship.
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00:37:21
You know, it's a crazy thing.
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00:37:23
You were going to say the last question?
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00:37:25
Yeah, because we have a lot, plenty of
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00:37:25
them.
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00:37:28
I'm afraid now to promise any part three,
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00:37:29
but I'll leave that to you to decide
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00:37:31
inshallah our next journey will be in?
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00:37:33
Inshallah.
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00:37:34
We're back to Africa later.
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00:37:35
We're here from Hong Kong.
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00:37:38
But inshallah, we'll leave that to later.
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00:37:39
Maybe we can decide.
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00:37:43
But the final question is using contraceptive methods
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00:37:46
during sexual * like condoms and whatnot, flavored,
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00:37:49
they call it now flavored condom to enjoy
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00:37:52
the oral part of the * and whatnot,
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00:37:55
permissibility, halal, haram?
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00:38:00
Wearing condoms or similar contraceptives for women, this
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00:38:01
is permissible.
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00:38:03
This is definitely permissible.
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00:38:08
In order to, you know, in order to
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00:38:12
arouse further towards oral *, the question was
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00:38:15
answered in the beginning of the session.
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00:38:19
But it's definitely much lesser than if it
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00:38:22
is without the condom or the such contraceptives
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00:38:25
because there will be a direct contact with
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00:38:26
the *, which we say that we should
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00:38:31
really avoid it for many reasons, pathological, medical
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00:38:34
reasons, and also the religious reasons.
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00:38:36
There are many types of...
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But we didn't say it is haram.
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00:38:40
There are many types of contraceptives.
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00:38:44
The reversible ones generally are permissible, but the
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00:38:46
condition is you must look at the side
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00:38:49
effects for you with that particular contraceptive.
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00:38:51
A lot of people complain that the pill
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00:38:55
causes long-term bloating and it has long
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00:38:56
-term effects and then later...
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00:38:57
And DVTs.
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Yes.
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It has a lot of side effects.
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00:39:00
It has a lot of side effects.
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00:39:03
So some people prefer the IUD or the
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00:39:06
coil or different types of medications.
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00:39:07
I heard about that.
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IUD is very popular.
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Yes, and you have to make sure that
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00:39:11
whatever is suitable.
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Perhaps a lot of people suggest that the
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00:39:15
condom is probably the most suitable.
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00:39:17
It might be uncomfortable for the male.
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00:39:24
كُنَّ نَعْزِلُ وَالْقُرْآنُ يَنْزِلُ So the withdrawal method
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is effective only for those who have control
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00:39:27
of it.
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00:39:33
Withdrawal means * but outside the *.
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00:39:36
So basically there is a permissibility there obviously.
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00:39:38
But one last thing I want to just
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00:39:38
add.
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00:39:41
You know when talking about medication and having
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00:39:44
medications this issue of * and the issue
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00:39:48
of medication to enhance one's libido and one's...
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00:39:53
So in Islam generally you should not take
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00:39:55
medication without necessity.
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A guy says he's performing normally and he
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00:40:02
wants to outperform himself so he has that
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00:40:03
and he dies of a heart attack because
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00:40:04
that dilates everything.
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00:40:06
And it's dangerous.
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00:40:08
It has long term effects then you will
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00:40:10
not be able to do it without that
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00:40:11
medication.
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00:40:12
So be careful.
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00:40:16
Yes, if you're eating healthy, you're sleeping healthy
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00:40:18
and you're exercising well you will automatically be
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00:40:19
able to operate better.
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00:40:23
But if you are a person who doesn't
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00:40:26
eat well, you don't sleep well, you perhaps
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00:40:30
have habits perhaps maybe smoking or drinking whatever
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00:40:32
Astaghfirullah Al-Azim and drinking is not even
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00:40:34
supposed to be in the picture and so
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00:40:34
on.
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00:40:37
But if people have those then obviously you're
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00:40:39
going to weaken your own strength.
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00:40:43
So to have that medication is not recommended.
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It's not a good thing unless you need
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00:40:46
it.
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00:40:48
If someone really needs something then there is
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00:40:49
permissibility.
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00:40:52
Why I want to say this is a
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00:40:54
young guy 25 years old just got married
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00:40:55
he says Sheikh you know what I'd like
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00:40:56
to use this medication.
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00:41:00
Some people on the night of consummating the
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00:41:04
marriage even before experimenting this before they are
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00:41:06
given a lot of things to take in
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00:41:08
order to enhance their sexual ability and they
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00:41:13
end up with a terrible night.
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00:41:16
They rupture the * of their spouses and
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00:41:17
so on.
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00:41:18
You know why they do that Sheikh?
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00:41:20
I heard from some of my clients because
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00:41:24
of the fear of failing during the first
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00:41:24
night.
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00:41:27
Let me take advantage of this and add
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00:41:29
to the viewers something really important.
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00:41:30
Actually a couple of things.
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00:41:33
Number one when you were speaking about contraceptives
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00:41:37
you mentioned a specific thing.
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00:41:40
We're not talking about the hukm of contraceptives
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00:41:41
in general.
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00:41:43
This is another matter delaying the conception.
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00:41:46
You were talking about it in order to
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00:41:48
facilitate the oral *.
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00:41:50
So this is something that we discussed.
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00:41:53
We did not address the hukm of contraceptives
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00:41:56
in general in order to postpone or to
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00:41:58
prevent pregnancy and conception.
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00:42:02
Secondly every couple before you get married you
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00:42:04
have to attend courses or classes or counseling
00:42:04 -->
00:42:08
sessions and it is very useful and it
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00:42:12
enhances the ability of passing this night safely
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00:42:16
knowing how to handle your spouse and it
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00:42:18
is for both men and women.
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00:42:21
Thirdly if a couple are not enjoying their
00:42:21 -->
00:42:24
sexual relations for a reason or another sometimes
00:42:24 -->
00:42:26
they cannot communicate the message or get the
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00:42:28
message across to each other.
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00:42:31
Accordingly they go into their own cave and
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00:42:34
they start browsing and enjoying their life in
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00:42:36
private their miserable life in private.
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00:42:39
And that's why I would like to add
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00:42:42
one more time Wallahi counseling has helped a
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00:42:45
lot of families even in these very private
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00:42:50
manners especially when the counselor medical counselor religious
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00:42:53
counselor knows what he or she is talking
00:42:53 -->
00:42:56
about and they keep their conversation your conversation
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00:43:01
very confidential with absolute privacy and give you
00:43:01 -->
00:43:06
some medical or religious hints and steps scheme
00:43:06 -->
00:43:08
to follow you will see a great deal
00:43:08 -->
00:43:10
of improvement.
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00:43:12
A lot of divorce cases they were on
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00:43:15
the edge of divorce because of not finding
00:43:15 -->
00:43:18
a solution then when they spoke about it
00:43:18 -->
00:43:21
and in the counseling sessions they realized that
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00:43:24
it is solvable it is treatable so do
00:43:24 -->
00:43:27
not jump into conclusion in the final result
00:43:27 -->
00:43:30
which is divorce before finding a treatment before
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00:43:33
giving yourself a chance to find out whether
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00:43:35
this is something that you can overcome or
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00:43:36
not.
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00:43:40
And the Prophet s.a.w. said you
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00:43:44
know we didn't learn reading or writing Mufti
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00:43:47
Menk has not become Mufti Menk while Ibrahim
00:43:47 -->
00:43:50
has not become overnight it is a matter
00:43:50 -->
00:43:53
of learning and practicing and in turn getting
00:43:53 -->
00:43:57
certificates experience in order to share all of
00:43:57 -->
00:44:00
that with the viewers in half hour video
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00:44:02
or one hour video and so on so
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00:44:04
it takes ages and that is why even
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00:44:08
the relationship the very private relationship between a
00:44:08 -->
00:44:10
man and wife every person thinks that I
00:44:10 -->
00:44:13
know better I am an expert on that
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00:44:15
Wallahi it seems like you don't know nothing
00:44:15 -->
00:44:19
you know really you don't know nothing you
00:44:19 -->
00:44:20
need to learn and the Prophet s.a
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00:44:22
.w. was pioneer in that and he taught
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00:44:25
us so many things in this regard May
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00:44:28
Allah's peace and blessings be upon you Alhamdulillah
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00:44:30
Barakallah Fikum Jazakumullah Khayran You want to add
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00:44:30
something?
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00:44:33
Yes No you interrupted me No no I
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00:44:34
will add this because it is connected to
00:44:34 -->
00:44:37
the * that I mentioned earlier and similar
00:44:37 -->
00:44:41
medications you know there is something called erectile
00:44:41 -->
00:44:46
dysfunction where a man simply cannot get erect
00:44:46 -->
00:44:48
so in that particular case he needs to
00:44:48 -->
00:44:50
be honest with himself because I know of
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00:44:52
so many cases of people who end up
00:44:52 -->
00:44:56
getting married knowing their sickness and then they
00:44:56 -->
00:44:59
punish somebody else's daughter and this person it
00:44:59 -->
00:45:02
is so embarrassing to live with someone and
00:45:02 -->
00:45:04
not to be able to just confide in
00:45:04 -->
00:45:06
some people a year later you find out
00:45:06 -->
00:45:08
this guy hasn't touched you you know and
00:45:08 -->
00:45:10
you wonder what on earth when you ask
00:45:10 -->
00:45:12
him no no but I am this and
00:45:12 -->
00:45:14
this and this so we have to be
00:45:14 -->
00:45:17
honest with ourselves and you have to you
00:45:17 -->
00:45:19
have to get help about 5 Ahkam of
00:45:19 -->
00:45:21
marriage whenever it is haram yes you can
00:45:21 -->
00:45:25
you have to you have to actually seek
00:45:25 -->
00:45:27
help and you have to deal with the
00:45:27 -->
00:45:29
matter don't be ashamed if you have a
00:45:29 -->
00:45:32
problem deal with it it is you can
00:45:32 -->
00:45:33
deal with it medically they could help you
00:45:33 -->
00:45:36
in a great way in so many cases
00:45:36 -->
00:45:38
there are very few cases where they can't
00:45:38 -->
00:45:39
really help you but otherwise they can help
00:45:39 -->
00:45:42
you so much even with those who have
00:45:42 -->
00:45:48
complete erectile dysfunction they implant certain machines and
00:45:48 -->
00:45:51
it functions with the remote control I have
00:45:51 -->
00:45:53
a case no no this is permissible yes
00:45:53 -->
00:45:58
yes yes Alhamdulillah I have seen a case
00:45:58 -->
00:45:59
where again they were on the verge of
00:45:59 -->
00:46:02
divorce because the wife was like simply not
00:46:02 -->
00:46:05
married and he went through an operation it's
00:46:05 -->
00:46:08
very costly this is not penile implantation though
00:46:08 -->
00:46:13
this is you know something that works with
00:46:13 -->
00:46:15
the nervous system and using a remote control
00:46:15 -->
00:46:18
and it lasts for as long as he
00:46:18 -->
00:46:21
wants as long as he wants and this
00:46:21 -->
00:46:24
is only for people with complete erectile dysfunction
00:46:24 -->
00:46:27
so you need medical advice in this regard
00:46:27 -->
00:46:29
but I just wanted to share with you
00:46:29 -->
00:46:30
it's there the British will ask is it
00:46:30 -->
00:46:33
on the NHS or not may Allah forgive
00:46:33 -->
00:46:36
me look I'm first time hearing of this
00:46:36 -->
00:46:38
but it's interesting interesting medicine was mentioned in
00:46:38 -->
00:46:41
this episode that's the it's not a medical
00:46:41 -->
00:46:43
suggestion from myself or from Mufti Mink maybe
00:46:43 -->
00:46:47
from Dr. Muhammad Salah he's a a doctor
00:46:47 -->
00:46:50
by profession so but any any one wanted
00:46:50 -->
00:46:53
to seek further assistance you should you know
00:46:53 -->
00:46:56
talk to your physician to your doctors inshallah
00:46:56 -->
00:46:59
inshallah remind me to speak about the aphrodisiac
00:46:59 -->
00:47:03
foods you know so that means there is
00:47:03 -->
00:47:06
an episode 3 I think I think what
00:47:06 -->
00:47:08
would happen is then we will start entering
00:47:08 -->
00:47:10
territory where we're going to be everyone's going
00:47:10 -->
00:47:12
to be glued to say what's going on
00:47:12 -->
00:47:14
in the comments they'll say I ate this
00:47:14 -->
00:47:16
and guess what happened you know you don't
00:47:16 -->
00:47:17
want all of that yet anyway
