Making The Most of Your Time

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Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam O Allah Rasool Allah, wa ala alihi wa sahbihi woman Well, first of all as salaam aleikum, wa rahmatullah cats and my dear sisters, I'm going to be single eautiful faces over the holiday. But Shall I ask a lot of times Allah to bless our time and help us to come back together feeling alone, inshallah we ever leave this path of gathering for his sake be nilla.

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So inshallah, the topic I've chosen to speak about today is regarding the blessing of time, because, you know, handed over to enter into the school holidays, it's important for us to think about what we're going to be doing during these holidays, because, you know, candlelight, it's a holiday, it's time for us to rest. But that doesn't mean we just didn't waste. Okay, you say rest, I know depends on how many kids you got to the grass.

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But in general, you know, the point is, it's it's a time off. And even with our children, it's important that we we have a plan in place, like we shouldn't let this time just go by without making the most of it. That's why I want to reflect on the importance of, of the blessing of time in sha Allah. So you know, the prophets that are long why they were certain, he tells us not authentic hadith Nana tanny, ma Boonen, female katheer, Amina ness, that is true blessings that most people are oblivious to, and that they waste and they don't pay attention enough to write a see how to welfare off the good health. And the free time these are true blessings, the majority of people,

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they overlook them and don't realize how precious they are. And especially when it comes to me, especially when it comes to the blessing of your, your, you know, your time, you don't realize that, that that that blessing of your time, your time is your life, your time is literally your life. That's how that's how that's how important that you know, looking at their blessing of time is. And one of the most amazing things is when it comes to money. Most of us are so careful when it comes to spending our money not to waste our money. You know, we're so careful with that. But when it comes to our time, we very easily and readily just, we wasted in so many things. And what we don't realize

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that time is one of those blessings, that once it's gone, you can't get it back. Like even if you lost your money for a while you could get it back. But when it comes to your time, you can't get it back once it's gone. So you have to realize that every day passes by your life.

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It's either for you or against you like that, to that day that passed from your life, either will be a weakness for you and your PMR or a weakness against you. So that's what you have to keep in your mind.

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And, you know, there's a saying from Look, man, that he used to say to his son, from the day you were born, until, you know, from the day from the day you were born, you give your back to this dunya and you're facing towards the next life.

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Right? So you you know, every day you come closer to the home that you're going to in the next life that's where you're heading to your home in the next life, what is your home that's that's up to you to to work towards. Right, and you're getting further away from your home that you have in this world.

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So that's what we have to realize it each day of your life. You come one every day that passes by your life you're coming one day closer to your life in the next world. That's what that's the perspective we need to have. So that's why the person you know, especially then what mean the believer reflects on this reality and I realized the value of their time and that's why we need to be productive and not you know be careful in not wasting our time on that which does not bring us benefits whether in this life Lovenox

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so when we you know when we you know, and supine a lot wasting time can you imagine the regrets you would have in the fnr thinking that why did I waste that time? Look you know when you're when you're when you get to the airport I get up thinking to yourself Why did I waste that time on the day when you'll be looking for any customer for any hassle now just to help yourself in the alpha like a lot says to me yamen me Allah da ting why euro when a young man Miss Allah God Martin Short Ray euro, like, like whoever

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did one atoms way of good in this world to see it and to ever dig one atoms way of evil in you know, we'll see it also

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That's what you have to be concerned with what we do with our time and we need to be concerned about how we spend our life.

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We need to realize that a lot of Tyler did not create this earth with no goal and no purpose and you yourself was not created with no goal and no no purpose neither there's a reason why you will create it and you have to look for that reason and work towards it. You know, Allah tala says in the Quran, and cassava tomb Anima. Hakuna komaba 10 what an akuna Elena Allah to john, like, do you think that we created you with no purpose and that you wouldn't

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be returned back back to us? So this is what we have to realize that a lot of data did not create us with no purpose. There's a reason why He created us. So this is why we need to reflect and and think about what are we supposed to be doing? What is our personal mission in this world so that we don't waste our time in this world. From the first things along Dan is going to ask us about on Yama, Yama in a hadith so he says letters Zulu Katana, Cardinal Abdi Yama, Tiana jihad, use Ella on our bar like that a person's foot would not move on the Day of Resurrection until he's asked about four things and normally he female a snap and from the first of those things about his life and how did

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he spend his life

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one Shabaab he FEMA a black and on he you know and about his youth and how he spent his youth

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won money he mean ayni Minh aina Tessa, who were FEMA and suck Ohio, and on you know, and, uh, regarding his wealth, and how did he earn his wealth? And how did he spend his wealth? One at me he mad army Luffy? And regarding his knowledge, you know, and what did he do with his knowledge? So this, these are all the things we're going to be asked about my dear sisters on Yom Okayama. And that's why the believer needs to be the most productive person. You know, you shouldn't even need to do life coaching to teach you how to be a productive person, your deen itself. Every time you read the Quran is the greatest motivation to push you towards being a productive person. There is nobody

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who is more productive than the prophets that a lot while it was set up there was there's nobody who was more productive than the Sahaba. So if you want to know how to be productive, go and study the lives of the prophets that along with us and look at what they achieved in their lifetimes. Look at what the hopper achieved in their short lifespans.

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So that's what you have to realize we are supposed to be productive, not waste, we weren't created just to sit here and waste our time and spend it in love and love. Like just in plain amusement and not use out, use the resources that are lost kind of blessed us with to strive for his sake and to strive for the earth era.

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So that's why we need to have goals, we all should be having goals, because what is the main thing that causes people to waste their time, they don't have personal goals for themselves. They're just reading aimlessly. Right? That's what causes people to waste their time. They don't have goals, we need to have daily goals. As a believer, you need to have daily goals, you need to have weekly goals, you need to also have a life you need to have life goals, what are you working towards? What do you want to achieve in your life, you know, and the thing is, whatever you working towards every day, it all adds up until it becomes your personal legacy legacy that you need behind you when you

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leave this world. So that's why we do this is you need to be thinking about what is your What is your legacy gonna be when you leave this world, you know, what is going to be your individual impact that you're going to put, you know, have on this world? Maybe you're a very caring mother, a very conscientious mother, and that's your legacy. You're bracing your children to be righteous and but focusing on raising righteous children look at the look at the you know, the the mothers of for example.

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mm Achmed, for example, you know, saw the greatest scholars who was who was behind them, they righteous mothers, and that was a legacy. And it's not you know, it's partly This is what we've we need more of this for our Alma we need sisters who are focused on focused, you know, effort are focused, we should be all effort are focused. And the problem is we're too wrapped up in the dunya. And that's what's causing us to be so unproductive.

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So you need to have a vision with everything, whether it's your you know, personal goals that you want to achieve goals with your children, goals with your family, you need to have goals, but it should be all, you know, in line with the effort or like what you're aiming towards with all of the different things you have towards the effort on shoma. So that's what you have to make

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Plan.

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So what happens without see is that we, we complain, we don't have enough time we complain that we're too busy. But if you have a look at the reality, but we we waste so much of our time, if you were to add up the amount of things you wasted time on, like sometimes it might be good to document for yourself if you want to get a real picture because you say is up, I don't have much time. But go add up how many times you go on Facebook, or you go on social media or you go on the internet add up? How many up? How many hours a day. And if you were to add that up each week, you probably find it's like almost 24 hours, at least that you wasted on social media. And that's and then we say,

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Well, I don't have enough time. But imagine what you could have done within those 24 hours if you're dedicating it towards something else. So that's what you have to realize a lot of the time, we do have the time but it's just we were using it the time we do have we wasted on trivial things, not to say you can't have timeout, we're not saying you can't have timeout, everybody needs to have timeout to re energize yourself and get yourself ready. But the problem is, most of our time is the timeout and not much of our time is what we're dedicating that's the problem. So we need to change that. inshallah. So if you look at you know, the Hadith of the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, for

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example, there's a hadith in which he says, I'm mean firstly Islam, Mr. e. De PUE. mela, yani from the most complete Islam of a person is he leaves What does not concern him. Now, one of the things that this had he teaches us is that the stronger you are in your Eman, the more productive you will be, the more you'll be concerned, you know, focusing on what concerns you and you'll be, you know, staying away from, you know, what doesn't concern you and what's of no benefit. So the stronger your remand is, the more you'll find yourself focusing on what benefits you and what is you know, of concern to you, because that's what that headed says, min Hosni Islam in Mar a Taku melayani. That

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from the most complete Islam of a person is he leaves What does not concern him. So if you find yourself just wasting your time a lot, you have to also revise your Eman, maybe because anybody who's really awake, if you're awake, and you're really concerned about the earth you're not trust me, you can't waste your time. So that's why you need to reawaken your Eman. Get yourself with people. That's why it's important to start with people who are productive, you will be the summary of your closest five associates. So you have to look at who you hang around with other people just all they do is waste their time making a gala getting together talking, gossiping, or are they

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people who no one wants to do a circle project. One wants to memorize the Quran. Another one wants to get you know, set up a charity organization, what sort of companions Do you have around you? Because those companions have an impact on the way you view life. That's why I always say, stick to the lessons. Because when you stick with people who come to the halaqaat, you'll find in general dialga most awake people, they concern they want to do something valuable with their life. But when you go outside and just hang around with the people outside we never attend this is you find that the aims are just Oh, don't you orientated? That's the difference. That's when I start a business

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that want to make money. They want to get reached, I want to get famous. That's that's the whole aim in this life. Okay, so when you're, you know, when you you know, as I say the more complete your Eman is, the more you'll find yourself

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focused on what is productive for you in this world. And the next. And the other thing My dear sister as well is if you want to know how to stay away from fitna is to throw yourself into the box, throw yourself into the righteous actions. So look for what you like. Everybody has certain righteous deeds they find easier for themselves. Some people they find memorizing the plan easy or seeking knowledge, they find that easy for them. Other people did a caring type of people so they're very good at like visiting sisters helping consoling someone who's got, you know, going through hardships, you know what I mean? So everybody's got their own individual talents, each, every single

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one of you has gifts A lot has given you and you need to tap into it and use those resources, a lot of given you to strive with it for the earth era. So we've all got individual talents, like you've got strengths, ironhead. I've got strengths you don't have. So you've got to tap into your individual strengths, and use that to be productive when you find your what's for you. When you find what you love.

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Maybe it's even making things some people go with their hands, they love art and crafts, they could make that they could sell it to soccer, they could make it to help people to you know, strive for the athlete or you know, so once you find what your particular thing is for you, when you get yourself busy in that path, trust me, it will, it will protect you from so much fiction. In protect you from so much, you know, I'm going you're falling into sins and being trialed in your day. Because what causes people to fall into feelings in particular, is when they engage in What does not concern them, and what does not benefit them. Because you think about it. That person who wastes

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their time, that person who busies himself with What does not benefit What does not concern, sooner or later they fall into sins. So for example, they just spend all their time on that on the internet all the time. What happens after a while sooner or later, protect us, they end up going into pornography, or they get end up talking to shredding with the opposite genders and things like this. And so as sooner or later, they fall into Masia, sooner or later, they fall into disobedience. So that's what happens. And if it's sisters getting together, like the over socialize over socialization is one of the greatest causes of falling into the Mima and labor. Eventually, sooner

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or later, you know, the more you meet, the more chances you are, the more chances comes of you ending up talking about people and backbiting and gossiping. And that's what happens. See, sir, but if you're busy, you haven't got time, you've got very much time to socialize, you haven't got very much time to any you can't think about getting into this bit now. And my dear sisters on that point. That's why it's very important for us to structure for our children a program during the holidays as well. Because remember that if you're not keeping busy with what benefits, then you're going to go What does not benefit. That's basically what it comes down to. So if you're not keeping your sister

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or your kids active in different activities, they can end up going into since. So like you've got to have like you have, it doesn't have to be a very strict structure, but like, there should be certain things that you want to try to achieve for them in the in the, in the school holidays. Maybe it's memorizing a few stories of the Quran. So maybe it's memorizing sort of kapha, for example, or just some edges that from the end of December, you noticed you have a program. So my my suggested program would be and that's what I was doing my own children, when you wake up in the morning, the first thing they should do is the Quran. The first thing I start off with is the Quran, because it's heavy

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on them to see and memorize. So you do that first. And then after that they can go on the PlayStation, they can go on the iPad, you know, let them do what they want, it's alright, but as long as they did something productive for that day, and of course insane that they shouldn't that iPad and that PlayStation should not cause them to miss their five prayers. Okay, so but the point is, you have a daily goal for your children during the school holidays, even yourself, you should have a daddy, you should have daily goals, so that every time you go to bed at night, we know you've done at least something if it was memorized one hour, it was acknowledged it was something that you

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did

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you know, every single day that you know, and you and that gives you a great deal of self satisfaction when you go to bed knowing even though you had to pick up your children, you had to run after them all day. But you know, I didn't even I just I just read one page of the Quran, or I memorized 1am and hamdulillah I choose something for my era in this day, like your day should not be only all children, your day needs to be for yourself as well. Because this is your this is your life, every day passes away is one day of your life going. So that's why you have to you have to be very

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have great, great protective jealousy over your time.

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More than your money.

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You feel sad if you lost $100. But you don't feel sad when you lose one day. And yet that day is more precious for you and your piano than that $100 that's something we don't we don't we don't think about enough. So that's what I'm saying this is so when you do like that in hamdulillah every day, you've got something then by the end of the week, how much have you achieved, it all adds up even a little thing you do every single day, it all adds up in the long run. And then by the time the score that has left, you have to know you achieve something but you might have a program of revising the Quran as well. Maybe you already memorized Zambia, for example. So you say alright,

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this school holiday, I'm going to revise it doesn't matter. That's gonna be my goal. So you know, every week you divide it how much you're gonna revise. For example, you do quarter usamah the first week, the next quarter the next week like that. So by the time the school is finished, you revise the whole exam or maybe next week, the children you understand this is how we should be practicing. But of course we need some recreation time by all means I don't want your kids have a boring holiday and you shouldn't do that too because we need our children to love Islam.

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My dear sisters, we need our children to love Islam and not find it heavy. And that's why some people that went to like, they'd make it too heavy. Like, I personally don't really like the idea of putting my children into a set program, Junior scholars where, you know, you send them off every single day to some programming, they do all these, like they make them do educational activities and all this stuff. Like, often that's quite heavy for the children debate at school or year and then you're gonna send them off to an educational program, or holiday as well, it's, you know, in general, initial kid loves that I don't really, I don't really like that they need to play, they

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need just free time just to do what they want to do wander around the backyard, place in, you know, whatever place in games, just let them occupy themselves, let them go and fiddle with stuff that they had. And that's very important for even for their brain to develop, you know, that is they're always having structured education, they need to actually go and just do things on their own, like, get some rubbish pieces of paper and, and make a crafting out of it. Trust me, you know, when, when they don't, you know, when you don't structure their time for them, they will find things to do. I mean, you probably find things or taken out of your cupboards, and you probably find a massive Miss.

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Like, I know, My son, he likes to collect, like this old fan from the park and pull it apart and see how it works. But I mean, he loved you know how much I learned from things like that, you know, and that's what unfortunately, is missing in the childhood, a lot of our children now because we just want a complete structured program where you know, and you're not letting them have some time to work out what they need to do for themselves, and it's not good, it's not helpful for them. Okay, so, so have some time that like, you do need to have a certain amount of structure with you, because we want them to be trained with Quran because if you get your children used to Quran to when they're

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small, they grew up with it, it's a normal part of their life. And they and it's something Yanni normal to them, and you won't find such hardship with them when they're older. But if you don't get them used to it, then it's very hard to start when you're like 12. And they didn't memorize cram before. And the other thing is, too, that you have to make them have a lot of fun after it. So they have to have something really fun they like to do after it. So they so that they they know that if they look to look forward to and you're like that, I'm like that whenever I've got to do things, which I don't want to do, like I've got assignments to do, or study to do, I need to do, I need to

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have something to reward myself after. And I do that with myself, even like if I've got assignments to do I say, all right, I sit down the morning, or do these assignments. And then after that, I'm going to go and do I'm going to you know, do something else that I like to do which is more enjoying my free time you understand you've got to do that with your children. That's what motivates them. They need a carrot. Don't expect your kids to sit down and say, Oh, yes, Mommy, I can't wait to memorize the grind. That's not a realistic. That's not a realistic idea of how a child is do you think my children every day sat down and said I yes, this memorized the Quran? No, I had to be firm

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with them. I said to them Yama, it's time to memorize the Quran. Now we start from when they're fresh in the morning, we sit for about an hour or so. And then Yella Off you go, you can now go on a PlayStation you can go on wherever you want to do I let them go off and do what they want to do. And 100 they're happy with that? You understand? That's how you do it sisters.

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Okay, so, like I'm saying you need to have a schedule, if you don't have a schedule, you end up wasting your time. And with the internet, now we'll be so careful with our children. Because if you let them just sit there, like maybe you think it's an easy approach, just like I can do whatever I want. I just stick them on a computer, and it gives me time to whatever I want. But what are they looking on the computer? What are they looking at? And you don't know what sites they're going to? They're just drifting from here to there. And the next thing you know, you get, I get a phone call from a mother destroyed because her son or her daughter is addicted to pornography. What do I do?

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How do I get my son off pornography now, because maybe it's an addiction, and they don't know how to get off. Like, sometimes their addictive potential is there to embarrass to their parents. So this is a real threat we have and we have to be very conscious, and what is the reason having too much free time and being able to drift here and there on the internet and not not being parents not being like diligent enough, and knowing the dangers that's out there.

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So, you know, just, you know, we have like, just like we have

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our five prayers like Alhamdulillah as Muslims, we have our five prayers to help us to, to schedule our source, you know, so you can think to yourself every day, like, before you go to bed at night, you should have an idea of what you're going to do each day, you should have a mental idea of what you're going to do each day. If it's too much. You can write it down some people I mean, a lot of people like to write it down. Not everybody needs to write it down. It depends on you because you might have very, you might already have a very predictable schedule. But with myself, I tend to only write my appointments and unusual things. But I know in general because I had certain lessons on

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each day I know what I will do. So that helps me structure my time. But like for example, at fudger you

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Know what are you going to be doing after fudger. So when you know, and you're gonna think when you know, there are certain things you need to achieve each week, like you want to, you want to, like memorize the Quran, you want to revise a certain medical on, you want to study for something. So you want to know when you're going to do that. And you need to know how to slot that into your day, maybe you want to visit a system, for example, in a Wait, what day is the most suitable to do that? Okay, so you have to have a

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weekly vision of what you want to achieve during that week, when what days are the most suitable to slot that in. And then daily schedules around your five prayers, you know, resemble your time to cook your food, you need time to clean the house, you need time to talk to your children, it's very important, you know, spend some time with his family.

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And, and then time for what you're striving for your own personal goals. So you need to have a rough outline of when you're going to be doing these things. Of course, we have to be flexible to like you can't always expect that you might not get it done before both because something else happens. So sometimes you have to be flexible with that and change around your schedule. So what as long as you have a basic idea of what you want to achieve. And even if you can't achieve it one day, because you get thrown, you know, sometimes your schedule gets thrown out the door. So what you just start again, the next day doesn't matter. Even if sometimes a few days go by sometimes I get totally

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thrown off my schedule, I can't do the things I want to achieve. It might go on for a week or so even sometimes, but then the most important thing is to come back to it after that you keep going. It's like falling off a bike. You know, what do you do get back on you keep riding. That's what as long as we keep moving, that's the most important thing, sisters, your idea as a believer is to keep on moving, you're always moving, you're always trying to progress. You're always trying to improve in your life, you know, with whatever skills or whatever you know you're trying to achieve.

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So these are some of the things I want to speak about today. Basically, just like I said, making the most of your life and not wasting your time. Because that is unfortunately, like as we say, when we come to the holidays, a lot of people, even if you go on holidays, like a lot of people when they go on holidays, they're just gonna spend all their time eating going to the beach. But where's the declarable law?

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Where's the decree of a law? Like you, you've got to have a balance, like Islam does not teach us to just go all the way one way and neglect the other side. Okay, so you need to have balance. So if you're going on a holiday, that's beautiful, Mashallah great time to, you know, re energize, but there should be a balanced day. So, remember to do your car in the mornings, you know, when you go when you go for a walk in the morning and do your car while you're walking. Yeah, come back and do some crime or sit on the beach resort, you know, the most beautiful thing is to sit on the beach, and revise Quran. And it's a good, it's so beautiful to combine between, you know that that

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atmosphere of nature and remembering a loss of pantalla. And you won't believe the reward for remembering a law in a place where he's, you know, was not usually remembered, is so much greater than, for example, if you're in the mosque or something like that, and, and even the fact that you chose rainbow law in a time when most people don't remember a law. That's, that's, that's a great top that's that's far greater and far heavier in the Amazon. Because it's, it's harder to remember law, in a time of law. When you're in a time where most people would just be thinking about the dunya. And you overcame your nest to remember Allah in that moment, then that is huge in the sight

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of a lot of hunters. That's why you know, make use of those times where most people are not remembering a lot you be from those who remember a lot.

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One of the most, one of the main things that causes people to waste their time is not having enough self control. Okay, as well, besides not having goals for yourself, because you need goals. If you have goals, and you realize the reality of these slides, that's one of the greatest motivators to help you not to waste your time. But besides that, the other thing you need to have is self discipline. That's a very important thing. Because a lot of people don't have self discipline like they have, they want to do things. They have goals, but they don't have the self discipline. So that's, that's what's important. So we have to realize the nature of the net. The nature of the next

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is that's gonna pull you towards procrastination. That's no everybody has that. Don't think that you're alone. Everybody has that in them that you you know, you want to be lazy and just sit there and do nothing and just like lie in bed for a few hours and just stare out the window and

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pointing to each other.

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You know, or go on social media for hours and hours, you know? Everybody's got that. Okay? So Allah says in the plan in nan nappsa laminotomy sui Elana rahima, Robbie. So Allah says, The barely the naps, eight, eight, it pushes you or command you towards a soul, like towards evil except who my lord has mercy upon them. So this is what this is the nature of the net and you understand that you won't, you won't get through a deal. Because some people what happens is it's like a vicious circle. They want to do all these things. But they don't have much self discipline. So then when I don't do it, and I find themselves procrastinating, they say I'm not good, I'm bad. Look at me, and then I

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end up doing nothing at all.

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Just an eighth and did nothing. So you have to realize that that's normal, what you're going through, that's totally normal. And everybody's saying you're not alone. We all at times, especially feel lazy. We want to procrastinate, and we've got to do that we are gonna procrastinate. No matter how productive you are. There's definitely gonna be times when you procrastinate, and is definitely going to be times you're gonna be lazy. It's absolutely normal. So give yourself credit and realize do all right, that shows you're a human being you're not a robot. Okay? But unless you've that's the reality, you're not a robot. But at the same time, Allah has raised us from being like animals.

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Animals just follow their naps, and they have absolutely no self control. And we do have self control. Allah gave us the ability to have control over ourselves. So

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you know, a lot of times it's not fun for men and men know

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what? to dunya for in Elijah, Hema, he and Matt Well, whoever

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transgresses and prefers the life of this world.

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Then barely the jehane like the Johanna and Kobe, his final Obote whatever ma'am and hoffa Ma Ma p, one Nanak Sanyal Hawa for in Janata.

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But as to the one who sees his Lord, and they restrained their nuts from our from going to his desires for inogen. net up here and then Jana will be his funnel a bird. So this is the key, you've got to learn to discipline your nuts, don't just get into it like, so what do you do, you can do what I said before, like, something's a heavy, like you might feel like you want to read Go on, but it's always heavy on you. So what you say, All right, I'll just read a little bit today, I'll just read only five minutes, five minutes. And if you got yourself really used to reading five minutes, every day, you know what happens, after a while you start to you can start to increase it or you

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might find that you start really for five minutes, you actually start enjoying it and you read it for half an hour instead. So that's, it's not just with grinds with anything. So that's what you do. Like sometimes I have an assignment to do, for example, I don't want to do it, but I say or I look if I just sit here and I'll just seek to half an hour only. And that's all my journey half an hour and then I'm gonna go and like I'm going to eat something I'm going to go and have a relaxed you know, but then sometimes what once you get into it, you find yourself becoming lucky start to enjoy it and you start to go along with it. But the thing is, you get satisfaction when you've done it.

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You get satisfaction when you when you know you've achieved it.

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So what the seller, you know, we have to realize even the seller, they used to struggle with their naps, everybody struggles within us. But they said that they used to force themselves to do good deeds. So that's what you have to do you have to actually force yourself, Amara, and even Abdulaziz he said the best of good deeds are those which we force ourselves to do. So sometimes you don't really want to do something maybe you don't even want to pray you don't you? Don't you feel lazy to pray, but you just go and you pray. But then a handler you feel satisfied that you did that? At least you did go pray that's the most important thing. See? So don't think that doing good deeds

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always comes easily. No, it doesn't. You got to push yourself and the more you you push yourself so in the beginning Okay, so one thing you have done to stand the way you understand about the naps

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as this course the scholars have just explained, it's a lot like a baby.

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The way you deal with your nuts is a lot like a baby. So you see when you have a baby when you most of you got experience with this, so you breastfeed the baby right?

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And then you've got a when the beta when you want to get the baby off the breast milk, what do you do you have to wean it. Do you take it straight off the breast milk? Or do you slowly introduce

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To food. And then slowly go a guest user friendly goes off. That's what you're gonna do your naps. So your naps might be completely addicted to say watching TV, like you just have to watch opera and you have to watch.

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What's the guy's name Dr. Something, Dr. Phil, you have to sit down, you have to watch all those shows you just like, so addicted to TV.

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How do you get yourself out? So what you're doing is you've got to find other things that interest you. Like I said, before we've we've bought like with, with righteous actions, whether it's seeking knowledge, whether it's being involved with charity, organization, volunteering, visiting people, cooking assistance, whatever you need, whatever you like to do, which is a righteous thing that you're doing with the NEA for a while. Yeah.

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And when you find yourself getting busy with that, you slowly wean yourself off that old life which you were just wasting your time. Like, I know myself years ago, I used to be so addicted to watching TV, I would sit for hours watching TV. I'm not joking hours watching TV, and I used to love it and watch this program was that program? How did I get myself off? I made a structure for myself, I made a weekly structure for myself. So for example, I said, All right, so Tuesday, I go to town, and remember, I'm gonna learn grammar who's gonna teach me to read read, and I'm gonna go and grant then I am, you know, because I don't have time on my hands, I only have myself maybe I have my son or

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something like that he was very good baby.

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Another day, um, I'm gonna have a, I'm gonna go to this lesson. And that was I'm gonna have that the visiting sisters, you know, you could have, you could have fill up your week with things with activities. But all the activities are something that you can get rewarded from it. Okay, so that's what you're doing, you fill up your time. And then especially if you've got to study for things, you've got to prepare for things. The next what keeps you busy, like Alhamdulillah, one of the greatest things that helped me to stay away from all that life of wasting time is getting getting busy with seeking knowledge. I think that is the main thing, seeking knowledge and memorizing the

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Quran, were two main things that really helped me to get away from all that wasting time. So when you get yourself engaged, it's not to say if you get yourself engaged with the, you know, a bot with with righteous deeds, you'll you'll see it'll either us and then your NASS gets used to it, like, you start to enjoy it, you start to taste the hell out of those righteous deeds. And what you're doing, you know, you get you get a passion for it. And you start to you know, you get you get driven by it. So then you don't you don't get that you think, oh, what a waste of time to to watch how did I used to sit there doing that, instead. So that's, that's how you break, that's basically the way

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to deal with your naps, how to, you know, convert your life from being unproductive to productive. And like I said before, you are going to have to create a bit of pressure on yourself. It's the same thing when you first started praying, if you were someone to convert to is them or you came back to Islam, you know, when you first started praying was really hard. You know, it was very hard for you to start praying, it was it was it was heavy on you, you're not used to

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it. Now inshallah, for most of you.

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Praying, it's second nature, it's like you're waiting every time the time comes. If you haven't prayed within the first hour, you start to feel uncomfortable. You don't feel restful, because if no matter what you're doing, you've got in the back of your mind, and it's a prayer and prayed yet, and the Time's running out and you feel uncomfortable. So that's how it becomes such an integral part of your life.

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So it's the same thing as your net. That wasn't me it was your naps got used to that you made yourself used to it. And so it became easy for you until you couldn't live without it anymore. And it's the same for everything. Like I mean, when I first put the hijab, oh my god, so hard to put the hijab on was such a heavy thing, how am I going to go outside and look at me and all this, but the kind of law you start wearing it and after a while, after a few weeks, it's like you couldn't imagine life without it anymore. May Allah Subhana, Allah give us the bats. So it's like that for everything, my diseases, whether it's your prayers, and your hijab, or whatever, or it's even other

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things in making it so productive. It's gonna be hard in the beginning, but after a while you get used to it becomes normal.

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You know, I went when I first started, for example, giving a lesson once a week. Oh, my God, once a week, that's so much, you know, how am I going to give a lesson every week? You know, and I got to prepare to listen and you know, Tom did it but you know, so Panama, then how did you start to progress it became it start to become easier and easier handling I mean, for the lightoller. And then maybe another lesson on you know, you understand, this is what happens the sisters and it's the same thing in your lives, with whatever you're doing, you probably start off doing something and it was it was a big deal. But like,

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you know, there's a lot of examples I can give you but you know, it's kind of like this is this is what happens. You have to realize that

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You have your life, you know what to conclude with this, you know, realize the value of your life, that the true value of your life is not how long you live, it's not how many years you live in this world. Okay, so somebody could live in this world for 100 years, and yet they live in a scale of a loss of pantalla is zero. That's a sad reality. That could be for 100 years, and they live in a scale of loss. pantalla is like zero. And somebody else could live only maybe 30 or 40 years, and yet be and now has a net in this scale is equal to someone as if they would have been maybe an ordinary person of 1000 years span of law. So that's what we have to remember. So the true life of a

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person, the true value of your life, is not counted by how many hours or days or years you need, but rather, how much you feel these days and hours and years, we've had, you know, with righteous actions and obedience and our melancholy hat, you know, the righteous, the righteous deeds. And that's why we need to go back and say in the beginning, look at the Sahaba. Like, think about, for example,

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Abu Bakr, Siddiq Bari Allahu anhu. How much did he achieve? Like he only, you know, he was only the believer for two and a half years after the profits that are lower to seven passed away. But how much did he achieve in that short amount of time? You know, uniting the whole sum oma under his rule, leading armies, collecting the most half into one collecting the clients, one must have, you know, under his rule, the Muslims opened up Iraq and Persia, they entered Syria. So look at how much he was able to achieve for himself and for the oma in just two and a half years. And that's because the Baraka he had in his life, he had so much Baraka in his life. Even one time the prophets that

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are La Jolla was set up.

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He was asking, he was sitting with his companions, and he was asking them who got up and fasted this morning, Auerbach Abu Bakr Arellano said I did, who work who who attended a funeral prayer today, I will walk around your loved one who said I did, who fed and needy person gave a fine and fit a really person today. Our buck said, I have who amongst you has visited a sick person today. Our Brock said I have. And that's why the profits that a lot of them said barely anybody who's done all of these things would enter agenda. But all of its eight gates, I mean, because who can who can achieve such you know, devarakonda because why there's so motivated for the LCR. That's what they

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didn't they knew that they understood the value of this life. This is what you have to understand. So you're going back to what I was saying.

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Going back to what I was saying, I'm really, you know, and what mean when it comes to holidays? Yes, it's a holiday. But we need to learn how to be productive in this holiday as well. We don't just waste our time. That's not that's not the life of the mean. Then what mean the believer understands the true reality of what this What time is, that time is part of your life that's going away. And just like today is one more day from your life gone. This school holiday coming up is also days from your life that you can't get back once they're gone. And it will be it will be a witness for us on Yom Okayama either for us or against us. And we need to also teach our children the value of time