Are We Losing Our Concept of Hijab

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Bismillah Alhamdulillah wa Salatu was Salam ala rasulillah Wanda le he was Sufi woman while Allah Cristobal de resisters a Salaam wa Alaykum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh

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always a blessing to see your beautiful faces Alhamdulillah Allah azza wa jal that to keep us steadfast upon, you know, gathering together for the sake until we leave this life inshallah.

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Alright, so some of you might have seen the topic for today's lesson, which is, are we losing the concept

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of the hijab? are we losing the concept of the hijab? So, it's very important to start off by saying that this lesson is not about judging people in their journey. Because, you know, most of us when we first started out wearing hijab, we were wearing it perfectly, you know, we would, you know, I'll tell some story about myself later on, but no way we wearing it perfectly. So it's not about judging others. But it's more about trying to was very important that we understand what is the concept of hijab because it is being lost. People have changed the intention, people are changing intention for why they're wearing it. And that's a dangerous thing. Because once you change the intention, that

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has an impact on on the way that he jack will be one.

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Okay, so what's happening is, especially when you look at the new hijab fashion industry that's come out, we can see that the concept of hijab is becoming very distorted.

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So what we find is happening is instead of hijab being an active boo, boo dia, which is submission to Allahu taala, that it's like you are, it's like, what's in the heart, you know, what your love for law, your fear, for a lot, it's in your heart, comes out in your action through your hijab, because you're surrendering to Allah, you're surrendering to Allah. So it's a demonstration of your surrendering to Allahu taala, right. But what's happened is, it's gone away from being like that to

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becoming more of an expression of identity.

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All right, so it's more about who I am my choice, and who I identify myself as. Now the problem when you do that is that it's no longer about doing it for a lot, but the focus is less on doing it for a lot, it's more about myself, the way I want to feel about myself. So when you do that, what does the hijab become reduced to it basically becomes reduced to like a piece of cloth,

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it doesn't have the same, you know, it doesn't have the same kind of, you know, the same meaning behind it, you, you take away the meaning from the hijab, so it becomes literally just like a piece of cloth that you know, you can wear you however you want, it's just about following your house, it's about following your own ness, whatever you think your expression of hijab is you just wear it like that. And that's what we find, what happens is, that was finding that the hijab is actually becoming sexualized. Now, you know, where it's the panel, or the whole concept of hijab is to, you know, cover the beauty of the woman, and, you know, and and make her, um, valued for who she is her

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person, rather than to be objectified. But what's happening is that we are actually making the hijab into something, which is all about how picky you are. So we're going back, we're going, it's like, it's going to be the antithesis of what the hijab is all about. That's the problem.

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And so we no longer it's, you cannot say that you're doing it for a loss of hamdallah because he just has its conditions as we're going to speak about. He Jad has its conditions just like Salah, like he just is from the open rights of Al Islam. All right, he just is from the open rights of Le slim like a Salah, like so like Hutch, I can't just say Yella, I'm gonna go and do pray the way I want to pray, because I feel this is the way I express my prayer to Allah, you know, and the same thing I can't just go fast though. I want to fast, you know, just okay, well, I took a few drinks in the middle of the day because I get thirsty, you know? And the same thing would hatch, you

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understand? So we can't just go and decide what is what like it's all about you're basically saying I will do it according to my own conditions not what alasa pantalla wants in order to me to fulfill that he jet and get the reward for it because what is what is the ultimate reason you're wearing EasyJet? Right It's to get the reward from a law. You have to get the reward from Allah.

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means you don't do it on your own terms you do it according to what Allahu taala has shown us that this is the hijab that he loves for you to wear. Alright, so as it is an expression of your Buddha to Allah, it's an expression of open expression of your servitude to Allah. You're saying your Allah, I surrender. I surrender myself to you through this hijab. And so it's freeing you, from the objectification of women. And it's freeing you from the sexualization of women, which we feel as Muslims we feel passionate about this as Muslim women. We feel passionate about this because we find it's a degradation of women and that's what he Jeff is also about that it's about we are standing up

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and saying, No, I refuse to go with the tide. That's what he jabs about. So so so basically, what's in your heart comes out in your actions, my dear sisters, and just like this, the hobby acts just like this. The hobby adds, as soon as they heard the idea to the hijab, what did they go do? They went home, they rush time, they tore up their aprons, they covered themselves completely with it is Chava the Allahu anhu she said, may Allah be merciful to the mahadji rots the mahadji rights women when Allahu Allah sent down the words while he agreed to enter the Holy hymnology up here and you know, draw your

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you know, draw your your home, you draw your Kmart around over your God him like over your chest, right? They rushed home, they tore up their aprons, and they covered themselves with it. And on Salomon said they became like black crows, due to the blackness of their clothing. So this was the Obadiah of the Sahaba. Yet this was this servitude. That's why from the blessings of wearing hijab, my dear sisters, is from the moment that you step out of your house, you are in a state of a bear down to Allah until you return home. This is something people forget. You're in a state of a bear. And as we know, for every act of worship, we get rewarded from seventh from 10 to 700 times. And my

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dear sisters, always keep in your mind that the more you're trial to wear your hijab, the greater your hardships and struggles, the greater is the reward like a Long Island, we could be getting the reward of 700 hassanal. Every day, we wear the hijab, because it's very hard to wear the hijab now, we have a lot of struggles, there's a semer phobia. There's all these like hijab fashion industry that makes you feel like I'm not pretty enough and I look I've given away my hijab, you might get those thoughts in your mind. Right? But if you're striving against your naps, and you're doing it to please Allah azza wa jal inshallah I asked a lot of every single one of us gets the reward of 700

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hatena. For every single day we were at Dr. Sharma. So always keep in your mind that the greater the struggle, the greater the reward, a loudhailer in Allah, Allah ubu as ramazzini Allah does not cause the reward of those who do good to ever be lost, nothing is wasted with Allahu taala. Or let's talk about the context of the hijab, it's very important for us to stand understand how does it he just fit into the framework of the sonic shadia? So first of all, my dear sisters, we have to understand that what is that what is what a level Donna wants. And what Islam wants is to have a pure and chaste society, which is free from and contained last lusts and desires. A society that you know,

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preserves itself preserves its chastity and preserves itself from falling into fornication, adultery, and, and all of this, everything that leads to Zina like a love

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letter Prabhu Xena don't approach Xena, it doesn't mean just don't do Xena. It means stay far away from it. Okay.

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And this is this is then this is the this is the part of the prophets and messengers and all of the righteous, the leading women who came before us, they had high morals. They had high manners, and that's what Allah wants to do some a community he wants a community of high morals and high manners.

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And it's for this reason that Allahu taala forbade a man to look at a woman with an adulterous eye.

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Right? It's the beginning for a man to look at a woman with an electrical eye

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or even to try to touch her hands if he's not married to her.

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And it's the built in for a woman and man to be alone when there's no third party because what did the Prophet said? A lot of them say the third is the sheath on

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All right, so there's lots of there's lots of preventative measures that is then has put in place to to try to

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You know, generate this chaste, and, you know, a society that has these morals and manners.

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And also we find in Islam also that, you know, Islam has regulations on the way that men and women should mix. There's regulations on the way that they mix and interact, as well. Because the more that they come and start mixing and interacting, the more chance there is of,

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you know, immorality to start popping up, and we can see what's happened in society. Like, I wasn't really sure, I was going to turn around, but the shows that are on TV now, the immoral, you know, immorality that has increased in society is just beyond our belief, like, from what it was 50 years ago, there's a complete degradation of morals, okay, so we can see what the what the outcome is.

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So, and slowly, this is also you know, he job is all part of this package.

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Okay, so your job is all part of this passage at this package, like I said, so Islam, you know, this is one of the measures that Islam has taken to also protect the society and place that barrier, place that barrier give you that barrier give you give you boundaries, like this is you saying, This is my boundaries, you know, this is my boundaries. So this is how Aldana honored and protected and dignified the Muslim woman. And this is what it's all about. It's all about protecting, and dignifying, and honoring the Muslim woman. And I'm just gonna go through, excuse me, I'm gonna go through, first of all, what is the meaning of the word hijab? I'm just gonna quickly mention that

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the hijab, the word Egypt, is mentioned in eight different places in the Quran, but in all of these places, a linguistic meaning of hijab means a screen or barrier.

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So from this, we know that, you know, when a woman wearing a femur, which is a headcovering, right, which is, you know, a complete pair of covering that covers over you know, the head and the shoulders, that's a femur. That's a barrier. Okay, placing a curtain between you and men is a barrier. Um, and the cost is a barrier. So there's these different things that can be called hijack, but but what it comes down to is a screen or a barrier, like for example, a load that isn't allowed off, where they know who man he jack, between them is a wall, which prevents them from seeing each other. So I'm not gonna go through the URL yet, but there's many if they all basically show the same

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thing that it means like a screen, or a barrier, so that's why

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I'm, that's why the hijab is given this name in Islam because when a woman wears it, it's something that screens her and prevents the non Muslim man, the non Muslim man from looking and enjoying her.

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And please, let's not kid ourselves that men don't enjoy the joy enjoy looking at women please.

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I mean, if you think that you are so naive,

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okay. So this is how a level Tyler has protected us through the hijab.

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Now I'm going to move on and talk about the conditions of hijab.

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So the scholars, they derive these conditions from the two areas in the Quran talk first of all, one of them in ela has that suit Allah that verse 59, and also in suit a nor

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so for example,

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a level two Allah says insert a lot that Yeah, he will added again when Wu Woodley as well as yukawa nachiket when he sat me Nina, you need our lady Hina mean July baby him so oh prophet till your wives and your daughters and unbelieving women to draw closely their dominance around themselves. Then he can add dinner at your Rosner fillet you vein, what kind of food over here Ah, and and then he says that is better, or that is closer to them being known and identified. So they weren't they will not be harmed. Okay, so that they will be known. Let's talk about this, first of all, so first of all, that they'll be known and identified, that she is a free believing woman who is honest, and

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not to be played around with so that men who have a corrupt heart they have sicknesses in their hearts.

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Know that this is a chase to believing woman honored and dignified by le Flan and then not to miss with her, you placing a psychological barrier over yourself to say you're happy. I'm not for you to play around me. I have my morals. I have my standards, I have my boundaries.

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Okay, so she can go freely out in society for her knee and no one messes around with her. All right, so I don't want it like okay, so talking about the ASX says you Nina la Hina min. Min Jolla beanie Hill. I don't want to get into that debate on the pub and he jabbed today. That's not what we're here for. We want to talk about what the scholars all agree upon. All right, because the napavine hijab is something that is a debate between the scholars the historical debate, but as for the hijab, just so we know, clear as day, there is each man on a map on it, there is a consensus of the scholars and a consensus of the Muslim Ummah, that the hijab is false, because we have people now

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false callers,

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right, who are trying to convince sisters that the hijab is not fun. Just let it be known that one of the sources for jurisprudence in Islam, besides the Quran, and Sunnah is the age now, once in each man has occurred in the oma, then anybody comes with any statement, which is other than that age, now we take it less than a grain of salt, it's worthless, we wouldn't even pay attention to them, let them go and say what they want. Because what you're saying is less than a grain of salt. All right.

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so that's the idea. In Alaska,

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like I said, and like because some scholars say me to take because I used to in Jamelia, where the head stops, you know, coming over and showing their necks and showing the earrings. So some say they bought over their heads and they covered it like this, they bought it around, they do it around themselves, and they show only their eye. And they do it like that. And others say no, it means they've caught that, you know, they draw Jewett around, and they covered their necks and chests, so like the CMR Okay, so we there's a debate, as I said about that, but whatever the case, as long as the woman is doing one of those things, Alhamdulillah she has fulfilled the conditions of the hijab,

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which I'm going to go more into those conditions, okay. So, the other conditions we can get for the hijab is mentioned in suits and nor, were allowed to Allah after he mentioned that, that how like he was mentioned, the men should lower their gaze ability when mentioned below their gaze, and if a woman's not wearing Hijab doesn't give him the right to go, staring and looking Lastly, at women who don't wear hijab, okay? They have responsibilities not on the women because unfortunately, now we've got a lot of women thinking, it's not fair. Everything's on the woman, nothing's on the men, no, men will be asked if they go looking at women. Lastly, if you don't wear hijab, they're going to be

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asked by Allahu taala. about that. Okay.

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But we will be asked as well, what we did from our own actions. Okay, so allow God and His birth, he says, Well, are you with Dina z? netta hoonah in Nana vihara minha they don't reveal their beauty, except what is apparent of it. Now again, we have that difference of opinion about what is meant by that Elana bahara mean ha, is it the face enhance? Or does it mean you know, just like when the wind blows her garment shows or maybe you in like a hurry might accidentally come out or something like that. But the point is, what is the is say, when you the details, the nuts are when they don't show the beauty. So straight away, you can see that the job is not about being last fool. wearing Hijab

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in a way that makes you sexually attractive. Alright, and beautifying yourself so you look attractive to the opposite gender, it's obviously it's completely against that. Okay. And it says Well, you're driven are the humare hymnology up hill. Like I say that I draw the comments around mention which means like the chest area, the neck area, okay. Whether you Xena z netta hoonah. And they don't reveal their z na except uses like their husbands, their fathers, their sons and it goes on and mentions all the maharam they can show their beauty to them.

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Okay, so I want to move on and talk about the conditions

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Now, I'm Sherlock.

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So as I was saying before, what's happened, unfortunately, with a lot of Muslims now that because I said because they constantly Jad has changed to be more of an expression of identity, right? To them, it's more like just a piece of material, a piece of cloth.

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And that's why we find that we've got very strange expressions of what the hijab is supposed to mean. Okay, now, as I said before, there's a difference between your on your journey, and you don't, you know, you're trying to wear the hijab and you're struggling and you, but there's a difference between doing that. But you know, what you're trying to head towards, you know, what you're trying to hit towards, like that is excusable because you're trying your best you're not perfect. As I said before, none of us started out where he just perfect. Okay.

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So that's, that's different than someone trying to make out. But this what I'm wearing with my tight revealing clothing, and his little piece of cloth stuck on my hair is a drug

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that's very different. And save it, that's fine. Because this is my choice and my identity. This is where we're going wrong. Because what is the hijab about like, What's it for? It's about Rabu di, it's about search door last night that sort of judged your nap. So that searches your naps, that you're just doing whatever you feel that he just means to you.

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Okay, so that's what we see. That's what we see that we find that you know, we've got like, it's very strange now. Very strange. And especially I find the US it's even worse, like Alhamdulillah in Australia are very male to take our sisters. The cities are doing a really great job. You know, my barickman protect us all. But in us, you can see very strange things coming out. So she like with like, and stuff like that, you know, and you see a girl, for example, she's got a hijab stuck on her head. And she might be wearing a tank top. And she's playing netball. Not but but like, okay, like, again, the scary thing is that she may not actually know what the concept of hijab is. That's the

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scary part, as we've talked about having had this discussion. Because I've said before, it's different if you're on the journey, and you're trying, but when you say this is the job, and you think that that's his job, and that satisfies the conditions of your job, we've got a problem. We've got a very big problem. And that's what's happening. This he jobs fashion industry is changing the concept of hijab in the Muslim app mine. And that's a dangerous thing, when they do start to become changed. That's what that's when the danger comes because people no longer understand what he just anymore.

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We have to realize, like I said before, that if we want the reward from Allah to Allah, because who we're doing the job for what is our, what is our ultimate intention from this job, to do it for a law as an expression of Allah or Buddha to Allah. And so hijab has conditions that we truly strive to fulfill, in order to achieve the reward for hijab, just like when I pray, it has conditions, I need to fulfill those conditions in order for my prayer to be accepted by Allahu taala. Right.

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So let's talk about these conditions. And it's really quite straightforward. And it's really like anyone thinks about it, it's really logical. So first of all, number one, that the whole body should be completely covered. And then minimum is to the minimum is that the face and hands

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should only be shown and and there are a minority of scholars that say, the feet can be shown, but the more correct according to,

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you know, the different proofs we have and what the majority of LMS are upon that the feet should be covered when a woman goes out of her house or in front of non Muslims. Um, but what isn't debatable sisters is whether you can show your ankles, because see, this is the thing like, even if you're going to take the opinion of showing your feet like you might follow Abu hanifa for example, that's your mother. But that doesn't mean now we can just go start showing our ankles or legs. See, that's the problem. And we've got a lot of women now thinking that I can have a hijab on my head, but I can show my arms, I can show my forearms, like show me which Scala from the history of this lamb gonna

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stand so this this thing's going wrong without understanding of the hijab.

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And then number two is that the hijab should not be decorated, like it shouldn't be a Xena, in and of itself, because we said what do we say where you Dina z. That's the one that

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They shouldn't reveal their adornment. So that means that if we're going to be covering our adornment, our beauty, so yes, there's nothing wrong with looking good, but nice, don't look like a total douchebag walking in the street. But at the same time, you don't want to make yourself look, you know, come across as being that you're trying to get the attention of men, you need it because it goes into it that goes against what the whole point or the whole purpose of your job is.

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And then as well as that we can add into that too, because now the problem is we have where, you know, you've got the hijab on but then there's all the makeup, and all that. So that's another thing that's also showing your Xena, okay, so anything that is also you know, making you attracts, then that's going against, that's not that's not covering your Xena, alright, and then we move on, we speak about the third condition, which is we shouldn't be able to see, you know, the color

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of your hair and skin like it shouldn't be so thin that you can see your skin color underneath, we can see your hair, like sometimes we gotta be careful because sometimes you might wear a hijab, and then you're gonna sign you can completely see that you know, your hair, the color of your hair, everything. So you have to be careful with that.

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And then another thing, the fourth thing is it should it should not be at so it should be white and not tight. So this is something that scholars all agree upon. Like if you look at this, you know, Garland that whether they're from the Maliki madhhab, or you know, the chef Gary med had the humbly the Hanafi they all agree that the hijab should be something which is wide and full. You never find a scholar saying that it's alright for me to wear a pair of jeans and a hijab.

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Okay, so we need to understand that tight clothes, even if they even if they cut out cover the color of your skin, but it's still showing the size and shape of you.

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And so if you can see the shape of union men can already get a very good understanding and they get they had metal detectors their imaginations. And you know and and you can see there's a he had deeds for example, when we're semi invade. He talks about a story when the prophets that a lot what it was said, he said that one time The Prophet said Allah what isn't gave me a thick Egyptian government, um, that was given to him. And he said, I gave it to my wife, like I gave that gift to my wife to wear, like a garment. And then the Prophet said, a lot of them said, What is he wearing that Egyptian garment I gave you. And then he said, I gave it to my wife to wear. And then he said, sort

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of La Jolla suddenly told her tell her to wear a gown underneath it for I'm afraid it might describe the size of her bones, because it was too thin. So this is an example of how we need to be wary of not just wearing you know, you can't wear tight clothes, it's showing the shape of your body. And again, it defies the purpose of his job.

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if we look at, you know, we have to be aware that, you know, metal protect us the prophets that a lot what

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he described, you know, he described those women who, you know, that they will come in the end of times, there'll be women

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who come in the end of times, and he said that these women Anisa on Cassie, add to an audience, that these are women who they are dressed, but they they like naked, so even though and they found this oma that's the scary part, he wasn't talking about the non Muslims. He said that from this aroma that they dressed for, it's like they're naked.

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And that when they walk, they walk with

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a swinging gate, you know, so maybe wearing high heels and you know, and you see it, it's sad to say you see it, you see women, maybe they bring a little bit of cloth on their head, they got high heels. And you can see her bottom like with the new he jabby fashions like with the new something or babies you get, they're actually cut to show her shape. And she's walking and you can see her bottom moving side to side while the bill and you as a woman feel like oh my god, and you're thinking what about all the men who were looking at that? along this done? You know, like, what, what kind of job? All right, so and the prophets that a lot of them said that these women that's the scary part, he

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said that these women would not enter Jannah and they wouldn't even smell the scent of it. So it's, it's a cause to be deprived from gender not of course not forever, because we know that who ever had an ounce of the man in the heart and atoms leaving men in their heart will eventually enter Jannah but the professor of medicine is warning us that this is a cause may protect us that you you know, allow data if you didn't repent from it, then Allah subhanaw taala could choose to

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You know, punish you in the next life mother protect us. All right, so we have to be aware of that. The other thing too that's mentioned this other conditions mentioned, for example, that the purse, you know, the clothing shouldn't have traces of perfumes so that when men walk, you know, you walk past men, you're luring men by your perfume. So, it's the same thing as makeup, you know, all of these things, we have to be conscious of these things.

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And it shouldn't resemble like men's clothing, like men and women have got, we've got any stand we have. There's definite.

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There's, you know, defining lines between the genders. You know, men should resemble men, women should resemble women, we don't start crossing those boundaries. And then that hurt the way she wears her hijab shouldn't resemble like the disbelieving ladies as well. So that's, that's some other things that they, you know, that the scholars mentioned. So these are things we have to keep in our minds, if we want a level two Allah to accept our hijab, because we as I said, we're doing it out of nectar budiarto Allahu taala. I'm gonna just mention, so I want to, you know, not everybody, yeah, we're all on different levels, or on different stages in our journey with hijab, so I'm going

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to just mention to, you know, what happened, you know, myself, like, I, I was living at home with my non Muslim family. So it was very difficult, like, I read about the hijab, and I was fully convinced, and I wanted to wear it from all of my heart, you know, it's kind of hard. But obviously, it's very difficult when you have all these obstacles around you, like, you're worried about the reaction of your family, you worry about the reaction of your co workers at work, you're worried about your colleagues at uni, all of these things, you know, it's not easy to go against the tide, you're basically swimming against the tide. So it is a struggle. But because I had made up my mind,

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if you really, you know, Allah, Allah says, when they don't mean biLlahi Yeah, the file or whoever truly has that sincerity, to want to do something for Allah, Allah guide the heart, and who make you able to do it, you get to overcome, in short, the obstacles. So it got to the point where I couldn't live with myself anymore. I wouldn't I felt like to where he jumped for me was to embrace them completely. And, and, and in the complete sense. Alright, so I basically, you know, remember, I wrote a letter to my parents and told them, you know, I'm gonna wear it. In the beginning, I said to myself, I swear on the, you know, I'll wear it on like, weekends. And when I go to, you know, uni,

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but I won't wear it.

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I started wearing at home, and I went wear it to work, because I didn't know how it's going to be when I go to work, you know, because we're talking about, you know, how many years ago we're talking about here. We're talking about like something like 29 years ago, very different. There wasn't a lot of ej bees out there. So you know, you didn't feel very supportive, like when you look everywhere, you're, you're really sticking out like a sore thumb, if you wear hijab in those times. Okay, so, as I said, so I started out writing that letter, and I said, Yeah, I'm gonna just wear it on these occasions.

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But after a couple of days, I couldn't live with myself anymore. I go like that. See, I have to do this completely. So I started going to work I started, you know, I started wearing it like, so I'm showing, like the front of my hair, you know, and so wearing it just like showing my neck, and then putting something on my on my, you know, putting something over my head. I went to work like that. And I'm wearing like long sleeve clothes, you know, wide pants. And then every day, I slowly bring the hijab a little bit closer towards the front of my hair.

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And then like after weight, my boss is going like, I've noticed this new style is like, is he getting into the teepee style or something? Like I don't listen to sounds sort of like a country music and let you know. And so like and hamdulillah by a week, I was actually feeling quite strong. So I said no, actually, I've become Muslim. Alright, so I was able to say it by then. Because Allah made me strong to get a say it. So. So then like, obviously, once you got to that point, you've already identified yourself as a Muslim anyway. So all right, let's just bring the hijab forward and cover my neck. There's no point, you know, everybody knows I'm a Muslim. Now, I look like a sore

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thumb anyway. So what difference does it make if I if I wear it probably doesn't make any difference, you must wear it properly. And that's kind of like one of my arguments against people who want to kind of

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do those compromises on the hijab, because at the end of the day, my dear sisters, whatever, however you wear, the hijab is still identifying yourself as a Muslim. And if someone's gonna be, you know, if someone's going to direct, you know, if they're gonna show hatred towards you, because of your hijab, they're gonna do it, whether you're wearing a beanie, or you're wearing a proper hijab. So why not just wear the proper hijab that fulfills the conditions and get the full reward from a law then wear something that's a compromise that no one knows if you actually going to get the reward for it. That's what I say to sisters because at the end of the day, the student identifies you as a

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Muslim anyway, so it doesn't Yeah, it's not going to be any what you're doing is not helping

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let's look at some of the struggles that sisters go through when it comes to hijab. So one of them is, you know, there's a lot of internal struggles, there's a lot of internal struggles when it comes to wearing the hijab, obviously, sometimes it's because, you know, a girl, or a woman might feel that they weren't for the wrong reasons. You know, they might feel like, Oh, they start to doubt their intentions, they start thinking, oh, maybe I didn't do it for the right reasons. Maybe I only did it for my, you know, the guy that I was, you know, had some relationship, you know, which I understand, I like this guy. And I was, you know, whatever they have, they have these different

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ideas in their minds, maybe their husband, like their husband, so they put it on whatever.

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But look, what I said is this is what's important is why you aren't now, don't worry about what why you put on the beginning, maybe you didn't have the 100% correct intention in the beginning. But what's what's important is why you wear it now. So have a look at that, you know.

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And the other thing is, we have to realize that you know, the hijab, it is something compulsory, it is an act of worship, that's a compulsory act of worship. So that's why we need to try to ensure that overcome any feelings of insecurity in wearing it. Now one of these insecurities it like some people, they feel like they're a hypocrite,

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you know, that they're not good enough to wear the hijab. A lot of people think that they think I'm not good enough to wear the hijab, then. And a lot of sisters sell themselves. You know, I've done so many sins in my past, who am I to know whether he job I'm not good enough to wear it? Okay, so we have to understand my DC says, It's not about being good enough. It's not about being good enough. You know, this is a command from a law. So you're saying semana? What Aparna, I hear and I obey your Allah, you're doing it. And you're going to get rewarded for that, despite whatever personal sins you might have on the side, but you're going to get the reward for what you're doing in Sharla. And

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what you'll find is that the more you keep yourself patient on wearing the hijab, and pushing yourself forward with it, you'll see how you're gonna get stronger. So don't get into them. Don't get into the whispers of Shakedown, because he's always trying to pull you backwards. Like, you know that Shakedown often, you know, with sisters who fall into a lot of sins, like they'll say, I'm leaving good enough to pray anymore. Does a similar thing, they said, I'm not good enough to pray, I'm leaving word it is standard for a law. You know what I mean? So this is just shaped on trying to pull you further down. That's all it is, you got to push against that. So my advice, my dear sisters

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is Don't look back, you know, realize that the more you get into your next, and the more that you get into the whispering of the Shaitan, the more control he gets over over you, and the harder it gets, right. But if you keep yourself patient and you don't give in you keep striving against it, you find that the weaker the shaitan gets, it becomes easy. I like I know how hard it was the first few weeks of wearing he jabbed me extremely hard, really, really hard. But after that, I got so used to it, because I scrolled against my naps. And I strove against the strike on site, you know, you overcome that we spa. And so then they said, done, we'll work on something else with you, you know,

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he won't. Because he knows that's no use anymore. Because Carlos, you overcame that you're strong now and hamdulillah. So realize the shaytans always gonna try and see in those paths of goodness, whenever you're trying to do something good, the shutdown will always be there to try to pull you down.

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And so what happens is, after a while you wear it, and you don't even think about it anymore. I mean, and hamdulillah now milotic, May Allah keep us steadfast, you know, I myself and hamdulillah be wearing it, as I said, you know, it must be like 29 years or something, I've been wearing it, you know, I don't even think of it something totally, you know, I'm sure most of you he, it's the same thing, you don't even think of it anymore, it's not even a big deal whatsoever. You know,

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um, and in fact, you can't even imagine the pain. If someone wants to see without hijab, like to you, that's the greatest humiliation that you have to be like to be, you know, to be stripped of your hijab, in any sense, is a huge humiliation for you, because you'd love that you treasure it so much from your heart.

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so this is some of the ways that can help you to overcome your struggles.

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And I want to talk about that some other things here as well. And that is, um, that it's very, like, I understand that there are a lot of cities out there, you know, maybe they have to go to work. They have to struggle in a workplace, maybe there's some a phobia, or they've got, you know, parents or whatever the situation. And because happens is when you're living in, if you have to deal in those environments, you can become quite self conscious, you know, often become quite self conscious. You feel like maybe you feel like people are staring at you. Um, but one thing I would say here is if you're getting to the point where you feel like people are staring at you for your hijab, I really

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recommend that so

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One does two things. One of them is to work on your Eman, work on strengthening your email. Because honestly, honestly, if you really love something, and he really loved the hijab enough, you won't care about anyone, if you really love it, you're really convinced with the hijab, you won't care about anyone, and even seek knowledge on the hijab, to quit to, you know, to also help you to become stronger with it, that's another thing. But besides that, a very important point is to work on your self esteem. Work on your self esteem, because one of the main reasons that, you know, what is one of the main reasons that that you become self conscious, that you start thinking about looking at

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you, you don't feel good about yourself.

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It's because often, you may already have a lack of confidence within yourself, you already have a lack of confidence within yourself. And because you have that lack of confidence, it makes you self conscious, right, you know that, you know, you're more likely to notice people staring at you. Or even you might be imagining this during it, you that's not a thing, but they might not actually be staring at you, but you start to imagine they are staring at you, you know.

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But really, sisters, it's true that if you really feel confident in yourself, and your reasons for why you're wearing the hijab, honestly, you will not care and you will not notice, you know if anyone has any kind of negative reaction that's out there yet. So when I was at uni, and I was still trying, I was still really wanting to put the hijab on but not really sure how I'm gonna do it. What happened was, I think it was a sign from Allah subhanaw taala, a guy came to uni, with a punk hairstyle, it was green or something, you know, sticking up in the air. And I said to myself, this guy is proud to walk around in society looking like that.

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Shouldn't I be proud to wear my hijab? And I'm doing it for a lot and the FLR you know, that was one of the things that, you know, that was one of the things that said, That's it, I'm going to do this, you know, if he can do that, you know, why am I hesitating, the panel loss. So. So that's that, you know, that is something that to think of, you know, if you're really convinced, and, and we're calling yourself confidence, like, it might be your struggles come down to a lack of self confidence. And that would mean that no matter what you do, you're gonna, you're gonna have that lack of self confidence people you think people staring at you whether you're a new job or not. So

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it's good to think about that. And besides that, my dear sisters, it's really important, obviously, to have that network of sisters around you who also wear the hijab, so you feel the hijab is normalized. Because if you're not, if you're not in environments, where if you're not trying to get yourself in environments, where there are other sisters who are wearing hijab, and stuff like that, after a while, you can start to feel really like an alien. You know what I mean? So that's why it doesn't really help to come together to lessons, you know, be with your sisters that encourage you with your hijab, things like that. All help. And besides that, you know,

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feeling comfortable with the style that you wear, like of course, look, we didn't say you have to wear a particular style, we just said it should fulfill these conditions. So anything that comes underneath conditions, you've got some freedom to choose your style, as long as it falls within those conditions, you can feel like, I know, like, I'm gonna be really Frankie. Like, I found that if I were just the normal one that goes with my face, it makes me look like a pumpkin.

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I don't feel confident when I wear that style. So that's why I wear this style, right? But you might find this style looks, you know, you might not like this style, understanding a different style that we feel looks better on our face and stuff like that. Not that I show my face anyway, but I'm just saying in front, my sisters, I still like to look like a pumpkin. Alright.

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So um, think about you know, it's, you know, experiment with styles, find a style that you feel you feel good, like, not, again, not feeling sexually attractive or anything but you feel confident wearing that style. That's my advice. So,

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so finishing up, I want to remind ourselves, you remind all of us

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about the first of all about the reward for you know, don't be surprised if you'd go through some trials wearing hijab, even as a practicing Muslim, in this time, you're going to go through trials, I was going to test us but you should know that if someone laughs at you because of your hijab, if someone belittles you because of your hijab, you know any any type of

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any type of

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trial that you have to go in wearing your hijab. I want you to keep this in your mind that ensure this is a sign that you are you are you are upon true Eman inshallah, because Allah says in Surah matassa seen in Allah Dena edrum Oh can Amina alladhina amanu Yoga Hakuna in general the disbelievers with loss

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at the believers it's something normal that

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disbelievers are going to law set believers for the path they've taken in life. And so if that's what's happening to you, you're being laughed at. If you're being belittled by others, even if they Muslim, I want you to remember that this is a sign from a lot of you that you are inshallah, from the people or be men, people of true men, always keep that in your mind. And always remember that, you know, as I said, before, every time you walk out of your house, you are in a state of a beggar to Allah, you're in a state of worship to Allah until you come home. And Allahu Allah, and how great is your reward from 10 to 700 times. And I want to remind you, as well of the righteous believing

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with believing women who came before us, they was, as you probably know, the story there was a black lady, okay, for a month, that's a hobby yet, and she was suffering from epilepsy.

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And this, this is ask yourselves, what was the one thing because she came to the profits that alone whatever, so she asked in your arsenal law, make, do ask me that I may be cured from my sickness. And he said, I can give you something better than that, that if you're patient with your sickness, that I guarantee you Jenna, and said shows this, she said your azula She said, I, you know, I will be patient because she wants the agenda. But she said, but jasola just make do that when I have my epileptic fit, I don't become uncovered. I don't become uncovered. So look at her, do I what was her do I not to get cured from her sickness, she would rather be patient with that trial and that

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sickness, then she gets uncovered. Then she gets uncovered and she gets exposed. And even I look at the hair of the Sahabi and look at the hair of the righteous women. She said when I used to walk in my room

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when she used to walk into a room because as you know the prophets that a lot of someone's buried in her room and then her father got very ill but got buried in her room. Okay, because that was the message of a lot got buried where he died, he got buried where he died and in a book of course wants to be buried next to the Prophet settlers. And he's, you know, his beloved friend. Okay. He said, so when I used to walk in my room normal it you know, I walk in my room, I take off my my garments. But she said, but when, when all my got buried in there, she said, I used to go in and I feel because of my thinking of armor. I used to draw my garments around myself what she felt she's shy, and he's

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kind of like he's passed away. But just knowing he was that Amara, she felt shy, and this is just shy from now.

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She's shy from a dead person. And women now not even shy from a life.

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So we're going to understand why this is, this is the year of the human agenda. This is a shyness, the modesty of the women of Allah Jana. And so that's why, you know, we asked Allahu taala, to help us to have true or Buddha to Allah, I asked a little to Allah, to feel our hearts with true or Buddha to Allahu taala, to true servitude to Allah. And I asked a local diner to help us ourselves to express our Buddha to Allah, in our actions in our dressing in our madness. And you know, and ask Allah to Allah to make us from those who will follow the righteous believing women into Jenna and be you know, raised up with them on your piano as the prophets that a lot of them said a person will be

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with whom they love. So I asked a law that judge our struggling with our hijab and struggling to please a lot right hey john, I asked along Tyler to make us from those who will be raised with Manhattan what meaning like with the wives of the Prophet and the Sahaba yet and all the righteous women who you know we're in that state of Buddha to a level tada both inwardly and outwardly And may Allah spawn tada get gather us all in genitive adults. Allah wa punto de header was stopped for a long Lee will not come with the panna cotta whom Allah be handy. I should have Allah ilaha illa and a stop fuuka wa to boo like