Tom Facchine – What Skills Do I Need To Be An

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The speaker discusses the importance of learning to become an spontaneous leader and empowering others. Leading is a combination of religious knowledge and leadership, and it is crucial to not just be a leader but also invest in others. Leading is also crucial to being a great leader and being optimistic.

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			And leading is not just calling the shots
		
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			and having a big chair. Leading has to
		
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			do with empowering other people.
		
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			Somebody asked, what do I have to do
		
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			to become an imam?
		
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			And that that made me laugh. It's a
		
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			funny question. But, you know, if you want
		
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			to do that to yourself, then there's 2
		
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			aspects. There's one aspect that's well known and
		
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			there's one that nobody talks about or only
		
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			a few talk about.
		
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			So the aspect of it or the dimension
		
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			of it that's well known is the religious
		
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			knowledge. You know, you need to study preferably
		
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			abroad.
		
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			Right? You need to study in the Arabic
		
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			language. You need to be able to, you
		
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			know, have enough proficiency in the Arabic language
		
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			to interact with the the math and the
		
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			Quran in a direct way without anybody spoon
		
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			feeding you their interpretation.
		
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			Right? That's what it takes. You know?
		
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			So everybody knows that. Right? You know, they
		
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			send their kids, and they know that there's
		
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			programs that even are springing up here on
		
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			this side of the world.
		
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			But the funny thing is for graduates of
		
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			those institutions, then they get inside of a
		
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			community and they find themselves completely unprepared for
		
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			being an EMAM
		
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			because,
		
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			being an EMAM in North America
		
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			is
		
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			a really interesting and complicated thing.
		
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			There's a lot of people who have different
		
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			expectations upon you for what you're going to
		
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			be able to do. If you go to
		
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			a place like Turkiye or, you know, in
		
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			the Middle East,
		
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			the imam is not a marriage counselor.
		
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			The imam is not a youth director. The
		
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			imam is not a,
		
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			you know, somebody that you would go to
		
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			if you're having a crisis in your life.
		
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			You know, you'll go to family. You go
		
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			to somebody else. But North America, that all
		
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			comes under usually the imam's plate as well.
		
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			So
		
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			if you graduate from one of these programs,
		
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			Medina, Morocco, Turkey, and you went to Turkey
		
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			or anywhere else, you come back
		
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			and then you find that, okay, you might
		
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			know the Quran and Sunnah, you might know
		
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			the Urimat and the religious sciences, but
		
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			now you're an educator because you teach people
		
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			and yet you have no training in education.
		
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			And
		
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			you are a counselor, because people have problems
		
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			and you have no training in counseling.
		
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			And you are usually in smaller communities also
		
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			an administrator. You have to come up with
		
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			maybe flyers or program details and communicate, and
		
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			you're sending WhatsApp messages and emails and keeping
		
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			rosters and stuff like that, and you have
		
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			no training in that either.
		
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			So a lot of what you end up
		
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			doing
		
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			is stuff that you have absolutely no training
		
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			for.
		
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			And that's a problem, honestly, structurally with how
		
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			we we run Masajid in North America.
		
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			The other thing, and this is probably even
		
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			more important than that, is that no one
		
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			teaches you how to be a leader.
		
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			That leadership is something that I am just
		
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			coming around to realizing
		
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			Looking back on my two and a half
		
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			years,
		
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			here,
		
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			that I had no idea how to be
		
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			a leader.
		
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			Leadership is something that
		
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			there are a lot of books out there.
		
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			There's a lot of workshops. You know, they're
		
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			obviously, the corporate world is very, very interested
		
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			in how to lead people. And some of
		
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			the stuff is
		
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			not so good and not beneficial and some
		
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			of the stuff actually is really beneficial.
		
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			So if you wanna be an imam,
		
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			maybe you can survive without being the best
		
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			educator, the best administrator, the best counselor, but
		
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			you need to try to learn how to
		
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			be a leader.
		
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			And that's not easy. You need to learn
		
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			how to deal with people of all types.
		
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			You need to be able to be ready
		
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			for people to curse in your face and
		
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			talk about you behind your back. Right? You
		
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			need to be able to communicate. You have
		
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			a vision, be a big thinker,
		
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			be optimistic,
		
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			communicate your vision to other people, convince other
		
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			people,
		
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			have people buy into you and trust you,
		
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			and then lead. You know? And leading is
		
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			not just calling the shots and having a
		
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			big chair. Leading has to do with empowering
		
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			other people, has to do with investing in
		
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			other people. It takes a lot of time.
		
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			It takes a lot out of you.
		
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			And these are not things that I do
		
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			well. I
		
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			don't put that out there. But I I've
		
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			started to learn that
		
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			it's there are areas in which I have
		
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			to improve upon. And if you're an up
		
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			and coming imam, then you can be a
		
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			better one than me
		
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			by starting now.