Tom Facchine – Surah An-Nas & Atomic Habits

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The speakers discuss the meaning of "will" and its use in addiction statistics. They also touch on the success of "The secret to self" in helping people manage addiction, which only happened at Vietnam where the US serviceman tried heroin. The importance of context, environment, and power of cues in creating environments that make people feel less productive and addictive behavior is emphasized. The key to building disciplined environments is making them visible and reducing their exposure to temptation, rather than just building environments where people spend time around temptation.

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			Al-Khannas is a title, something that only
		
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			occurs in Surat An-Nas.
		
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			Allah SWT is naming or giving a laqab,
		
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			giving a nickname to Shaytan, to Iblis himself.
		
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			And as we said that the meaning of
		
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			this word sort of indicating one who hides
		
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			away or slinks away or causes the mischief
		
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			and then runs, indicates to us the method
		
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			and mechanism by which the Shaytan leads us
		
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			astray.
		
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			We talk about bad habits, and some of
		
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			the bad habits that we have might be
		
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			sinful habits.
		
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			And why do these sinful habits keep on
		
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			coming to us?
		
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			Because the Shaytan, by whispering, by being someone
		
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			who basically does it and then leaves, he
		
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			basically just points out to us, he makes
		
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			us notice the possibility of committing a sin.
		
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			And notice a justification for why it might
		
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			not be that big of a deal, right?
		
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			He shows us the cues and then he
		
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			whispers to you the justification that it might
		
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			not be that bad if you do it.
		
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			You have a reason.
		
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			Everything has a maslaha, right?
		
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			There's always a maslaha, a reason to do
		
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			it.
		
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			We can always justify.
		
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			I'm just doing dawah, right?
		
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			I'm just, you know, I'm doing what everybody
		
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			else is doing, right?
		
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			It's not like I'm doing this, that would
		
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			be way worse.
		
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			There's always a justification.
		
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			The Shaytan is ready to give you that
		
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			justification, and then he'll retreat and watch from
		
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			a distance as everything blows up in your
		
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			face.
		
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			And so it becomes really important to link
		
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			it up with what we're about to talk
		
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			about in Atomic Habits when it comes to
		
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			how to minimize our bad habits and how
		
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			to disrupt them and how to break them
		
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			and admitting that some of our bad habits
		
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			are also sinful habits.
		
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			We've been going through the book Atomic Habits
		
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			by James Clear, a very, very useful book
		
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			for Muslims.
		
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			Coincides almost one-to-one with some of
		
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			the things that we have to do in
		
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			Islam, and it really helps us with maximizing
		
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			our good habits and minimizing our bad habits.
		
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			The title of the next chapter is The
		
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			Secret to Self-Control, and he brings up
		
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			some wild statistics, okay?
		
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			So he talks about drug addiction.
		
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			He brings up a case study of the
		
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			Vietnam War and when American soldiers were abroad
		
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			in Vietnam fighting the unjust war there that
		
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			a whopping 35% of U.S. servicemen
		
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			tried heroin while they were there.
		
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			That's crazy.
		
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			And of those people who were there, 20
		
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			% of the soldiers were addicted to heroin.
		
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			20%.
		
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			That's one out of every five soldiers in
		
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			the U.S. military fighting in Vietnam was
		
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			addicted to heroin.
		
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			That's mind-blowing.
		
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			Now, even more mind-blowing than that, what
		
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			percent of them used heroin within one year
		
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			of returning to the United States?
		
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			Only 5% of those people who were
		
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			basically addicted, they were heroin addicts.
		
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			Over in Vietnam, when they came back, only
		
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			5% used heroin within the first year
		
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			of being back.
		
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			That's nuts.
		
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			Why is it nuts?
		
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			It challenges a lot of our assumptions about
		
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			addiction and addictive behavior and how they work.
		
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			In our culture, in the United States of
		
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			America, we definitely tend to see addiction and
		
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			drug use as a moral failing, and it
		
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			is a moral failing.
		
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			Let's not be unclear about that.
		
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			However, what this study showed is that there's
		
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			a lot more going on than just willpower,
		
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			okay?
		
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			It shows you the power of context, the
		
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			power of environment, and the power of cues.
		
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			Now, let's flip these sorts of things, okay?
		
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			Imagine, what are the numbers, do you think,
		
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			of people who get addicted to heroin in
		
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			their own homes, right, in their own homeland,
		
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			where they live, in their residence?
		
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			What percentage of people who go through these
		
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			programs relapse within a year?
		
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			90% of them are using heroin again
		
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			within a year.
		
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			The people who are abroad in a totally
		
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			different environment were addicted to heroin.
		
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			They come back, change everything about their lives.
		
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			Only 5% use heroin within one year.
		
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			Think about it.
		
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			That's the point that the author is making
		
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			when it comes to the secret to self
		
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			-control.
		
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			The point is that unhealthy behavior, yes, there
		
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			is a dimension to it that is about
		
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			self-control.
		
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			There's a dimension to it about moral weakness.
		
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			There's a dimension to it that is moral
		
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			choice, okay?
		
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			However, there is another dimension to it that
		
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			has to do with a disciplined environment, okay?
		
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			So, he talks about the difference between a
		
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			disciplined person.
		
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			We are used to thinking about things in
		
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			terms of disciplined people, that there are disciplined
		
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			people, and undisciplined people, and disciplined people just
		
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			have all the willpower in the world, right,
		
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			and they can just face any temptation, and
		
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			they're successful.
		
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			They're successful at resisting that temptation versus this
		
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			idea that really successful people create disciplined environments
		
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			for themselves.
		
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			They create environments where there is no temptation
		
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			or where there's very, very, very little temptation,
		
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			so they don't have the chance to have
		
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			a failure of willpower.
		
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			Basically, he says that the people who seem
		
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			that we, you and I, look at as
		
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			the most disciplined are the people who spend
		
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			the least amount of time around temptation and
		
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			triggers and cues that would lead to negative
		
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			behaviors.
		
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			The first thing that came to mind was
		
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			the hadith of the person, excuse me, that
		
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			killed 99 men, okay?
		
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			So, he was a person who had murdered
		
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			99 people.
		
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			He went to a monk.
		
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			He asked, will God forgive me?
		
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			And the monk said, no way.
		
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			And so he killed the monk, and he
		
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			made it an even hundred.
		
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			And then he went to a sheikh, and
		
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			he said, I killed 100 guys.
		
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			I killed 100 people.
		
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			Can I be forgiven?
		
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			Will Allah forgive me?
		
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			He said, yes, but you have to change
		
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			your location.
		
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			You got to get out of your situation
		
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			where you're at, and you need to go.
		
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			And you know the rest of the hadith.
		
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			He died on the way, but you know,
		
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			Allah made it so that because of his
		
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			intention and his effort that he expended, Allah
		
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			forgave him, even though he didn't even make
		
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			it to the place where he was at.
		
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			So, this is exactly what the author is
		
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			talking about, that Islam recognizes that we want
		
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			to not just build disciplined people.
		
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			We also want to build disciplined environments.
		
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			And sometimes the key to building a disciplined
		
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			person is actually to build a disciplined environment,
		
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			that the person who is the most successful
		
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			is the person who spends the least amount
		
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			of time around temptation, which is also borne
		
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			out in other sort of ayat and examples
		
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			in our tradition.
		
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			Allah said in surah al-Isra, don't even
		
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			come close to illicit sexual *.
		
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			Don't even get close to it.
		
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			Because if you get close to it, there's
		
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			a likelihood that you're going to fall into
		
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			it.
		
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			And so you need a tuqa, right?
		
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			You need this sort of, you know, taqwa
		
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			literally means sort of like a wiqayah, it's
		
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			like a protective barrier.
		
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			You need to put enough of a barrier
		
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			in between yourself and that haram thing that
		
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			you're not going to get in a tempting
		
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			situation.
		
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			Other examples, the hadith of the Prophet ﷺ
		
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			talking about doubtful matters, right?
		
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			The halal is clear and the haram is
		
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			clear.
		
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			And in between them are mushtabihaat, the things
		
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			that are doubtful.
		
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			And then he says that the example of
		
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			a believer is like somebody who is, somebody
		
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			who's grazing their flock around the himmah, the
		
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			himmah is like the pastures, right?
		
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			The king's pastures.
		
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			If you graze your flock on the edge
		
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			of that pasture, it's just a matter of
		
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			time before one gets in.
		
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			And then you're guilty of doing something haram.
		
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			That somebody who has taqwa, wiqayah, is going
		
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			to put a barrier in between themselves and
		
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			the haram, they're not going to be in
		
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			a tempting situation.
		
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			They're not going to put themselves into temptation
		
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			so that they will fail.
		
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			Anybody can break a habit, but it's much
		
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			harder to forget a habit.
		
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			That habit lives on in your mind, and
		
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			this is what the shaitan plays with, with
		
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			his whisperings, right?
		
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			And so the key to stopping bad habits
		
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			is to make them invisible.
		
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			Just like the key to good habits is
		
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			to make them visible and increase visibility, the
		
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			key to breaking bad habits, and especially sinful
		
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			habits, is to make them invisible.
		
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			Reduce your exposure, remove cues, and make sure
		
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			that you spend the least amount of time
		
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			in temptation as possible.