Tom Facchine – Minute with a Muslim #321 – Two REASONS You Should Get Married

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			marriage is extremely important in Islam, it's referred to as half of your faith. And this is very,
very significant in the time we live in where marriage rates are down. The common sentiment in
broader society and our cultural moment is that well, you don't really need to get married, just a
piece of paper, right? People say,
		

			if you want to have a kid, you can go have a kid, you don't need to get married.
		

			And Islam is completely against this way of thinking. Islam wants us to get married, because
marriage is about accountability. And marriage is about self development. And someone's going to
come in, they're going to say, well, there's abusive marriages. And there's this and that, and the
other. And, you know, I know lots of people who aren't developing themselves in a marriage. And so
		

			that disproves what you're saying, and doesn't disprove what I'm saying. Just the, the fact that
something can be done done wrong,
		

			doesn't mean that the whole thing is the whole idea is crazy, or is useless. So no, you can do it
wrong. Anybody can do anything wrong. But it has to do with, you know, you can be a bad citizen. A
country can be bad, does that mean we shouldn't have countries that mean, we shouldn't have
citizens. That's ridiculous, right? Like you have to, you know, you have to strive to be good at
what you're doing. So marriage is extremely important, because it draws people into a relationship
of accountability, you have to go home, at the end of the day, you have to face your wife, or you
have to face your husband. And you have to be accountable for how you behave, right? The idea of
		

			free *, or the sexual revolution, where people can just go and hook up with anybody,
		

			you know, with no consequences? How do you expect people to behave? Right? How do you expect people
to treat each other with respect, it's not possible. It's not possible. You can do whatever you want
to another person. And you don't have to face any consequences. If I'm married, the way that I treat
somebody has immediate consequences, that person is going to if I, if I mistreat that person,
they're going to make my life miserable. Or if I really go overboard, and we're talking about abuse,
then the state might get involved, I might get hauled off to jail, right? Like these are, these are
real things. So there's a huge push towards getting married. And that's not to say, you know, you're
		

			allowed to not get married, it's not like, against the faith, but you're strongly encouraged in
Islam to get married because it pulls you into this relationship of responsibility. Right? Now, you
have to be sensitive to the feelings of another person, you have to be sensitive to what another
person needs, you have to be sensitive to different personality types that are other than your own.
And it's a way more immediate relationship. It's a way more binding relationship than your friends
that you can just kind of meet whenever you want, right? Or like the people that's like the people
you know, on Facebook, you can present whatever image you want to your friends, or your people on
		

			social media, your followers.
		

			But somebody who's sharing the same living spaces you constantly are going back to, you know, they
know what you really like. And so, that kind of forces us to stop putting up fronts, and it forces
us to actually deal with who we are as people work on ourselves, develop ourselves
		

			and try to become better, more responsible people.