Tom Facchine – Minute with a Muslim #289 – Speak With Gentleness

			In surah Taha Allah subhanaw taala, he's commanding Musa and Harun to go to Iran and he commands
them to speak to him to fiddle around with gentleness. He says, For hula hoop I will and Lena,
right? And then he gives a reason why the Allahu Yatta that Kuru Oh Yaksha right? So Subhan Allah,
Allah, what an instructive verse, if you speak to someone with gentleness, it shows that your
sincerity or that the reason you're doing so is that it's more conducive to that person being
reminded, taking the reminder and fearing Allah and whenever we stray from that guidance, and it's
not to say that there's never a time in place for harshness, that's not true the prophesy son I'm
		

			gonna get up on the min bottom he would sometimes he would say things sternly so that even his face
so law holiday was something would turn red. But but Allah was found to otter said, to approach
around with gentle speech, so that perhaps he would be reminded, or that he would fear. And so
what's usually most conducive to people accepting the truth is this approach. And Muslims have to be
very, very, very careful that they err on that side when they're talking to people, especially other
Muslims, at least initially, right? And to always doubt yourself first. Sometimes, you know, you
want to say something to somebody, and they don't listen to you. And your assumption is, well, they
		

			must be a hypocrite, or they must, you know, just be following their desires or their must be, you
know, playing politics or they must be doing this or doing that. Maybe it's you.
		

			The Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam when his people wouldn't believe in his message, did he
blame them? Or did he blame himself? First, he would blame himself first was why Allah subhanaw
taala was constantly reminding him Don't be sad, don't let it grieve you these things. And then
Allah actually, in one part of the Quran challenges the prophet at least that's some saying, like,
well, if you think that you can do better, and get another idea, like another sign or another
miracle from somewhere, then get one. It was part of the Prophet alayhi salatu salam sincerity that
he blamed himself first. Where's that? Where are we with that? He say something to somebody, they
		

			don't accept it. And you blame them right away. His heart sealed. He's following his desires, people
of desire, yeah. Blame yourself first. Maybe you approached that person in a time, that was unlikely
that they would be able to listen to you, maybe you posed that person in a way that it was unlikely
that they will be able to listen to you. Maybe you're just not the guy. Maybe it just can't be you.
It needs to be someone that that person looks up to.
		

			Right. And this is something that the Prophet alayhi salatu salam paid attention to, he paid
attention to it in his own life, right, he said to Aisha, after the fact of Mecca, and all the
people became Muslims. And he said, that is this hadith in Sahih Muslim that he wanted to change the
construction of the cab to make two doors at ground level. But he said he didn't do it. Why? Because
he knew how the Meccans were going to react, they weren't going to take it in the right way.
		

			So he was conscious and aware of how they were going to react. This is not people pleasing. It's
different from that. It's about wisdom. And it's about approaching people with things that they can
understand in a way that they can understand and in a way where you are anticipating the reaction.
		

			Not fearing the reaction, but reasonably anticipating the reaction. When the Prophet alayhi salatu
salam would send certain messengers to different groups of people, he would choose the person who is
the most likely to be convincing the most likely to be listened to the most likely to be heated
		

			when he had to move against the the the one Jewish tribe of Medina that had betrayed the pact and
violated the peace treaty that they had. And, you know, he sent satin wild
		

			to judge over them, because he was had acceptance from them. Right? This is something that
progressively someone was very, very aware of. So everybody who has sincerity, we need to blame
ourselves first. Maybe I didn't maybe I didn't come off, right. Maybe I offended the brother, maybe
I presumed too much. Maybe I'm just not the right person to deliver this message. Right. So we
should exercise as much at least as much care and gentleness and thought, let alone sincerity. When
we're talking to our brothers and sisters and faith. Then Allah subhanaw taala told how to win and
Musa to exercise with fear around himself.