Tom Facchine – Minute with a Muslim #252 – Muslims Need To Hear This

			As Muslims, we have to be balanced. And one of the things we have to be balanced in is how we have
expectations for non Muslims or certain people, whether they talk about Islam, or even if they
become Muslims, our expectations have to be balanced, it's fine to want other people to become
Muslim. This is something that Prophet alayhi salatu. Salam did right, when he made do it, that he
wanted one of two people, you know, and one of them was Omar, I don't know how Bob to become Muslim,
because of their status in pre Islamic society, it was going to be a huge benefit to the Muslims.
However, however, you need to be balanced in the sense that you can't put all of your hopes in these
		

			people, right, you can't act like if, as Muslims, we don't gain this person as a convert, then we're
going to be in some sort of existentially dangerous situation, or you can't imagine that this person
is going to just come and save the day, right? Allah is the One who does it. At the end of the day,
a lot can save this, through whom He wills, and he can, you know, replace whoever he wants. So
you're really careful because sometimes, you know, our position now. And we're in a similar
position. Similar, it's not the same, but it's similar. There are similarities between our position
now in the position of the Muslims in Mecca, they didn't have an inferiority complex when it came to
		

			other people. And what I mean, when I say that is that they didn't act like they were overly
apologetic for the things that they had to believe in. And they didn't act, they weren't so attached
to non Muslims opinion about us that right, there can be a way where if we're looking for oh my
gosh, like, look at what this non Muslim person said about Islam, that's cool, we appreciate it. And
we hope that Allah guides them, but our faith isn't contingent upon other people giving us approval,
right. And it's kind of a dangerous sort of game to play, when we're overly sensitive to criticism
from outside or from or praise or praise from outside. And then the second thing that we need to be
		

			balanced with is when Okay, once in a while, it happens where one of these celebrities or one of
these influencers becomes a Muslim. And we kind of just yesterday, we were just forgetting all of
their sins and forgetting all of their whatever. And if they said one positive thing about Islam, we
were about to, you know, like, Allahu Akbar, we're about to, you know, I don't know, give them a
Muslim name and invite them to the masjid. Now, the persons of Muslim and now we're not okay with
any of the things that he's doing, or she's doing that isn't in line with, like, you know, our
understanding of where a Muslim should be, like, as a final point, right, a fully practicing Muslim,
		

			that we're not giving people a grace period, we're not giving people wiggle room, we're not giving
people room to grow, or to grow into the faith. If a person has, you know, they maybe they have a
relationship that carries over or they have tattoos, or they have something in their life. It's
like, you know, all of a sudden, the light has, we flipped the light on and it's like, okay, now
everything has to change. This person has to go and become a scholar and study and you know, which
is unreasonable, right? You have to give people time. And there was a story that one of our mache
told us some of the units of this effect. There's a lot of migrant workers and Saudi Arabia. And
		

			there were some of them a che, I could go around and do dalla. And so one of the somebody was going
around and doing Dawa, to some Filipino workers that were Christian, in Medina, and he got some of
them to accept Islam. And so somebody was along with him. And the first thing he says is like, All
right, now that you've accepted Islam, the first thing we have to do is go to the hospital and get
you circumcised. And the person's like, whoa, wait a second. No. And they all of a sudden, they
didn't want to do it anymore. And they decided that they didn't want to be Muslim. Right? And that's
kind of funny, we laugh at it. But the principle is, is very applicable to a lot of our attitudes
		

			towards towards new Muslims. We act like okay, you have to do everything right now.
		

			In reality, and this is why it takes it takes people have knowledge to put people on a path to
succeed and put people on a path to growth because it's not just about Bagon converts, right? It's
about this isn't like a video game. We're not just scoring points. We want people to stay Muslim. We
want people to grow close to the last phone data and have a meaningful relationship and yeah, so
eventually contribute an impact on what people need time and people need to be invested. And they
need to be given the space to do that.