Tom Facchine – Minute with a Muslim #217 – The General Principle of Q&A Answers

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welcome everybody to our convert care activity for the month. This is a q&a session. We're live,
we're on Zoom, and it's also being recorded.
		

			Everything was anonymous, however, there will be a chance to ask follow up questions.
		

			I want to just start with a brief word about questions and answers. And the fact that this is
recorded, you know, recording in progress. There we go the smaller.
		

			So everybody knows.
		

			When somebody comes to ask a question, the person who's responding whether they're an Imam, whether
they're a mufti, whether they're any sort of religious figure, even a counselor, somebody who's not
a religious sort of stature, they are partially dependent upon the information of the person gives
them and questioners know this, because questioners, some of them, either hide some details or
emphasize other details in order to get a certain answer. Right. We know that we call this
photoshopping, right in the in the Muslim community, but sometimes it's unconscious. Sometimes it's
not a malicious thing. Sometimes it's just that people are only used to thinking about an issue from
		

			one perspective. Whereas the Mufti or the Imam, or the person who's supposed to be more learned, has
to kind of try to ascertain what's behind the question. And to do that, you need a personal
relationship, or let's say, the stronger your personal relationship is with somebody, the more the
answer, whether it's a move to NAMM is going to be able to do that. If somebody gets random
questions from somebody that they don't know, online, then the answers are going to be fairly
generic. Right? But if I know the individual person who's asking the question, I know what they've
been through, I know what their husband is, like, I know what their home life is, like, I know all
		

			these sorts of details about them, their own personal development, their own personal growth within
Islam as a believer, then I'm able to give that person a much, much better answer. Right. And this
is a principle that we find all over the Dean when it comes to Tafseer, or Hadith or, you know,
talking about the Koran, that the A cos you follow? Or you follow the other line, right? Something
that's more specific, takes priority and precedence over something that's more general, and somebody
who all else being equal, of course. So everybody who asked to the exact question that they asked
today, if I know your situation, then I'm going to be able to provide a more accurate answer. If I
		

			don't know your situation, then maybe I make a mistake. I mean, I might make a mistake anyway. But
you know what I'm saying like, like my
		

			that chances that it's not going to fit exactly your situation? or greater? Somebody who's asking a
question online, that I've never don't even know anything about their country, or what their
situation is like, then the likelihood that my answer is not going to fit their exact situation is
going to be even greater. So that's all to say that sometimes you have to take things with a grain
of salt. Maybe you're in a really hard situation, you've booked online Islam q&a, or any of these
sort of federal banks, and you find something and you know, you don't agree with it.
		

			Maybe it's not meant for you. Maybe it's meant for somebody else in a very specific situation. And
this comes back to the Prophet alayhi salatu salam and his practice and his sunnah. One time he was
asked by one individual about kissing his wife and he was fasting. And he told him, don't do it. And
then another person came and asked the Prophet alayhi salatu salam about kissing his wife and he was
fasting. And he said, You know, it's okay. Why did he give two different answers? Is that a
contradiction? No, because he was being a Mufti. He was occupying the role of the Mufti in that
situation. And the two people who asked him a question, were in completely different scenarios. The
		

			one person was a young man, right, full of vim and vigor, right? And it had the juices flowing. And
so that type of person probably can't control themselves. So the Prophet Isaiah said that Saddam
told him, No, don't kiss your wife when you're fasting. Whereas the other person who asked was an
old man, somebody who he's past his prime, right, who knows, you know, let's say he probably isn't
going to be susceptible to the same sorts of influences and,
		

			and problems or proclivities as the young man and so the Prophet I said, so I'm told him, then you
gave him a different answer. He said that, yeah, you can do it, and you'll be okay. So that's the
spirit with which we tackle these questions.