Tom Facchine – Minute with a Muslim #138 – Stop The DRAMA & Do Something Real

			One of the biggest problems of social media, including YouTube as that most people are not looking
to change their minds. Most people only look at you, they look at me, they look at whoever else you
subscribe to as just ways of confirming what they already believe. They don't want to be pushed to
think about things differently. And that's a huge problem. Because first of all, everybody has to be
humble, everybody can be wrong. I'm wrong all the time. I'm wrong every day, right? Everybody you
follow is wrong every day. And so are you, you yourself, the viewer are wrong every day, right? If
we're just going to follow the people who are telling us what we want to hear, and telling us what
		

			we already thought and confirming what we already believed. How are we supposed to grow? How are we
supposed to grow? Right? Do you have access to enough information that you don't need to grow that
you don't need another perspective? This is how silos happen. This is how echo chambers happen. You
just surround yourself with a whole group of people who just not alone. Yeah, yeah, the same thing.
If you really want to grow, you do the opposite. You go out of your way to interact with and hear
perspectives from people that you don't agree with. That doesn't mean that you have to agree with
everything that they say, but at least you know that you're not just surrounding yourself with Yes,
		

			men, yes, women, right people who are just going to tell you the same thing you've been listening to
for the last five years. And the the sad part, the sad part is that some people would be more happy
and more pleased seeing scholars or do art or mache, or students of knowledge at each other's
throats. They love the drama, and they would watch the drama all day. And they would tell themselves
and the shaytaan would whisper to them that they were doing something praiseworthy that they were
defending this Deen that they were standing up for the truth. In reality, it's just a circus and
reality. It's just a soap opera. And you've turned all these characters into just your own personal
		

			sofa, you got to be boots on the ground, you got to be working in your community, you've got to be
surrounding yourself with a multitude of opinions. And you've got to learn when you can benefit from
other people that you don't entirely agree with. And when you can work with other people that you
don't entirely agree with. If not, then you're going to be on the same road, in the same rut stuck
doing the same thing for the rest of your life. May Allah protect us. If you want somebody to hear
your criticism, you need a relationship. Okay? Now, not everybody's going to take criticism from
some random person, especially some random person on the internet, right? So you have all these
		

			people who are just shouting into the wind, right? You're you're talking to a brick wall, you're
expressing your rage, you're sharing this, you're refuting this, the other person isn't even gonna
listen, you don't have a relationship? Why would they listen? Right? Sheikh Abdullah and Katie and
Medina, he used to tell us all the time, don't leave alone, the innovator to his innovation. And
that's a hard pill for a lot of people to swallow. Let's know that, again. Don't leave the innovator
alone to his innovation. If you do, how else? Is he going to get guided? How else is he going to
find the way the city prioritizes? Redemption over? Punishment? Okay. And there's a place for hazard
		

			like a lot of people bring up you know, you know, well, many people, okay, from among the stuff used
to abandon a certain person or a certain person if they express certain views, right. But is that
just something that's done in and of itself, with no reason behind it? Now it's done in order to
that you're hoping that the pressure is going to guide the person to redeem themselves? Well, what
if that technique doesn't work anymore? To redeem other people, you need to build relationships?
Okay? If you just leave alone, certain people, how are they ever going to think differently, and
then some people criticize certain individuals for building those relationships in the first place,
		

			so they can give feedback. So they can give advice or you not, people need to focus on what benefits
them. And people need to realize that the shaytaan is always busy. shaitana is always busy. If he
cannot get you to sin, then he will get you to waste your time. And if you're shouting on the
internet, at a certain person, or this person or this person, and they're not even you don't have
any relationship with them, you're not going to affect them in any sort of way. You're not going to
affect anybody, then are you really, really defending the Omar, you're really defending the truth?
Or are you really just wasting your time? Give me a counter example. If we really want to stop some
		

			of the crazy activism and agendas that are going on today. Look at what the fathers in Dearborn did.
They showed up to the school board meeting and they made their voice heard and they defended the
truth and they stopped it and they got something done. That's real work. Getting out there real
life, real people, real relationships face to face. This is just the internet. Sometimes you have to
click the off button, shut down, get out there and do something real