Tom Facchine – Minute with a Muslim #107 – How Should I Give Dawah

			Your first sort of important launching point for a quote unquote dour conversation with other people
is your actions, right? We have we say in English connect before you correct reach before you teach,
right? These sorts of things, but it's true. I mean, it touches on something very true. Most people,
most people aren't purely rational, right? Maybe all people. And so they're not just going to listen
to your words, they're looking at you as a person, is this person trustworthy? Can I take what this
person is giving me? Can I believe in it? Or do they want something from me, right, and so if they
catch a vibe from you, and they think that you've got some sort of ulterior motive, or you're just,
		

			you know, not a pleasant experience for them to even talk to them, they're way less likely to touch
what you want to say, or you know, accept it or anything like that. So you have to lead by example,
you have to lead by your actions, especially if you're talking about a workplace or your colleagues
or your classmates, you know, that's a relationship that you need to nurture, and you need to be Are
you a person that's trustworthy? Are you a person that they feel like they can come to when
something bad happens? You know, it doesn't mean that you have to be friends with them, like in the
strict sense of the word, but I mean, like, everybody knows, right? I've worked normal jobs before,
		

			you know, I wasn't always any ma'am. And so if you conduct yourself in an upright way, people go
through stuff in life, and they'll even turn to you. And I'll ask you your opinion, right? That's
the sort of person that you should try to be at your workplace and at school. And then if that's the
impression that people have of you, yeah, then our conversation is easy, but even then you would
rather want people because especially in the United States, a lot of people are allergic to
conversations about religion and spirituality, and they don't want to be told what to do. So the
best way that I've found is if you get someone to ask themselves, right, something that you do,
		

			somebody says, I noticed you stop work to pray, I noticed you, you know, even you put your foot up
into the sink on your Washington rifle, or something like this, right? A conversation started,
right. I noticed you don't shake women's hands or you don't do this or you don't do that. Right. If
somebody asks you the question, they've indicated that they're ready to have a conversation, right?
If you bring the conversation to them, they might shut down. Not every case but a lot of them