Tom Facchine – Maybe They Repented Already

			People change. I think that's one thing that we forget a lot, especially in the in the age of
YouTube and Facebook and all these sorts of things where if you say something from 2015 and 2010,
now it's recorded. Now it's going around. Now it's out there, right? And so maybe you see a video
and you're like, Oh my God, how could they say such a thing that's so problematic, and that person
might have changed, and you don't even know it. And you might be kind of on some sort of canceled
culture crusade against somebody for something that they've done in the past. And maybe it's
something that they've already repented from. It's very possible. Now, what does it look like to
		

			repent? Sometimes, what are our expectations? Sometimes we want the person that grovel, whiten, you
know, rub their faces in the mud and do this huge public kind of retraction and say, I was wrong
about this. And I was so misguided. And so but man, I really would implore people to just treat
other people the way that they would like to be treated on these sorts of things. Think about
yourself in that situation, think about how hard it is on the neffs for someone to admit that
they're wrong period to themselves. And then to come out with a sort of groveling public public
retraction about sorts of things. You can say, Okay, well, they did a public harm. And they said
		

			this thing in public and so everything should be in public. Yeah. And you might be right. I don't
know, maybe you are, right. But I know for a fact that you wouldn't like to be treated that way. And
I know for a fact that I wouldn't like to be treated that way. You know, I'm a Shafi has written
poetry about this. And this is well known. And, honestly, this is the son of the Prophet alayhi
salatu salam, when it comes to when people would do stuff, he would get up on them and walk. And he
would say, my Bella Coleman fit together, okay, they're like, what's wrong with a group of people
that do this and do that there's a reason he didn't name people, because the objective is sort of
		

			the objective is somebody returning to the right path. And that's a mark of sincerity for somebody
that wants to maximize the likelihood that somebody else is going to return to the right path and to
do whatever is reasonable to ease that person's return to the right path. And sometimes we employ
strategies that are the opposite. Sometimes we employ strategies that make it difficult for people
to return to the right path. And I'm sure throughout Muslim history in the history of Islamic
scholarship, you can find scholars yes, that were extremely stern and extremely even, like put
people on blast about this issue and that issue, but at the end of the day, we have to be concerned
		

			that we're being affected by a non Islamic ethic here. We have to be concerned that we're being
affected by canceled culture, we have to be concerned that we're being affected by sort of the
shrieking, shrill politics of what we see today. People attacking each other on social media and
things like that. How do we know how do we know that our manner of dealing with other people when
they make horrible mistakes is really coming from our Islamic tradition. It's not coming from
somewhere else.