Tom Facchine – Imam Talk Podcast #06 – The Value of Empowering New Muslims with Imam Wesley Lebron

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The speakers emphasize the importance of leadership in the Muslim community, including the pressure to get rid of alcohol and drugs, challenges in the community, and the need for a mechanism for bringing people out of it. They stress the importance of finding a way to continue meeting their mission and finding a way to reflect on their past, as well as finding a way to continue learning and empowerment. The speakers also emphasize the importance of finding a way to be quiet and not be too busy to achieve something, and the need for cooperation and educating people on their own culture.

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			I just found out how the last thoughts on Saudi law. So we're here back with Imam Talk where we sit
down Imams and community leaders, mainly for a couple of main goals. And one of them is to discuss
your personal path to leadership within the Muslim community,
		
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			to inspire others and to give lessons to others who might consider or find themselves in a
leadership position one day, and then also to talk shop about the institutional level. What are the
sorts of different things that you've seen, work or not work? What are the projects you're working
on? And what are the challenges and opportunities that you have at present? So let's start with you
and your path to leadership in the Muslim community.
		
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			Mr. Neville Salatu was Salam ala Rasulillah. So you know, hamdulillah I've been Muslim now for about
25 years, humbly accepted Islam back in 1998.
		
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			From the onset before Islam, I come from a family who my father mashallah tomato, mozzarella, he was
always helping everyone in our path, right, Michel, family, friends and the legs. And one of the
things that he instilled in me what was never wait for anyone to do anything for you. But when
someone asks you for help, go out and help them right and do the best that you can. So when I came
into the fold of Islam, now, one of the first massage or one of the first missionaries, that Michela
tomato, tada, I came to
		
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			one of the first realizations I had was, I wanted to play a bigger part in the community. And
initially, it started out just I saw them selling hotdogs and soda. So I went home and asked my
wife, I was like, Listen, man, you know, why don't we like on Fridays? Take that opportunity and get
that baraka and let's bring the hotdogs and we bring the soda and, you know, we'll just donate it to
mention and money goes to the masjid. So humbled. I showed up there Friday night with my hot dogs
and you know, in a drink, and had a good experience and a bad experience. The bad experience was the
brother who used to sell the hotdogs. It seemed like he was doing half half half was for him happens
		
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			for the Masjid. So he was like Brother Who told you to bring hotdogs? I was like, Allah
		
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			Okay, as for the baraka donate, you're gonna reject the donation like I gave this roll of my heart
and I don't want anything back from it, you know? So I went into the, to the Imams office, because
I'm a non Muslim, you know, I mean, and I was kind of brokenhearted by that you know? And I'm like,
Yo, man like yo was good like, the money for him or the money for the Masjid. You know, I believe
this whatever have you. And right away it seems like the Imam mashallah he has some foresight, and
he seemed that I was someone who was concerned about what was happening in the masjid and I want it
good for the masjid. And he immediately brought me in. And then he gave me the next best job in the
		
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			world was to run the bookstore. Allahu Akbar, Allahu Akbar, right and Masha, we had an active
bookstore. So he was saying, one of the things he told me was, whenever you buy books for the
masjid, you can always pick up some copies for yourself Mashallah. So they gave
		
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			the library or for that right Subhan Allah beloved Hamdulillah, so I started running to bookstore
for the masjid. And then from there, he invited me onto the board. And then I just got involved with
the board work and you know, the everyday ins and outs of the masjid, my first year of Islam, so
panel and all within your first year, first year, and that if I could just interrupt like that,
like, Imam May Allah reward him. Not everybody would do that. Like that's like the textbook
leadership, like they save with volunteers, like recruit, retain, and recognize, you know, and
empowerment. Like most people have a problem with the empowerment part. They're gonna micromanage
		
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			you and breathe down your neck and they're gonna have a hard time letting go and being like, well,
you're not doing it the way that I wanted it to be done. Well, you know, the point being, it's like,
well, why did you give it to somebody else to do in the first place? Right? Absolutely. But it seems
like the opposite scenario where he actually really gave you the keys to the to the thing and to
make it yours. And look at that, well look at what happened No, absolutely Mashallah. Like I said,
he has some foresight, mashallah he was able to see I guess what we ourselves because he at that
moment is shallow Tada, you allowed us to come in and humble and get involved in that was really
		
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			much a directory Hamdulillah you know, I was able to play a big role in that method and many of the
things that happened in that masjid and that kind of just inspired me to want to really do Islamic
work and how many Latin bmsc Was that? By the way this was it was called messenger the nor back then
now they're known as messengers and solder sudden in Paris in New Jersey, okay.
		
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			So you know, so from there hamdulillah it just kind of took on that trajectory, how many LA and then
kind of went on to doing other things and going away to study and inshallah Tada, you know, I
couldn't stay studying in Medina. I came back. I started studying when I moved to New Jersey
altogether. I went to Illinois, and then how many land in Illinois I was blessed to work alongside
Shakespeare leaving the jackal. Okay. So we work together and again mashallah he had a lot of
foresight as well. 100 I will still you know, young hungry, young and knowledge young and he
		
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			get he had good foresight minute he really pushed me to kind of look man you know, do
		
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			do what we need to do, you know, get involved active in the Dow and stuff like that. And then in
Chicago, humbler after graduating from Chicago close to graduate from his care, I got heavily
involved in the Latino Muslim community, which is, you know, the passion that I have of bringing the
message of Islam to my people to Hamdulillah. And Hamdulillah. Just leadership has been a part of
all of them. And, you know, that's a crazy commonality from what we've seen with these interviews
and shaker Chanel was talking about it last night was that, you know, having mentors and people in
authority, push people to step up, you know, put you on the spot. And we're talking about an
		
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			interesting sort of paradox, because there's some people that are chasing clout and chasing
positions, and they're the people that almost need to be knocked back. Subhan Allah, and then
there's people who are like, Nah, shouldn't be me, it's got to be somebody else. But then it takes
someone like, you know, an imam or somebody with foresight to be like, Nope, it's got to be you.
It's your time. Now you step up and you take the reigns, because they they recognize something in
you. That's an amazing thing that we just keep on seeing we do these interviews.
		
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			Just to backtrack one second, because it's very rare that somebody was in their first year of being
a Muslim is on a board. i What was that, like? What was that, like? Shocking was a frustrating
boards have a reputation for being a hot mess, right? So it's like, what were some of the things
that at that particular time in that particular place you saw that you liked or didn't like things
that you thought maybe put it in your back pocket? Well, wherever I go next, I'll make sure not to
do that, or wherever I go. Next. I'm not going to make sure we do the same thing. Was there anything
that you remember from that period? So I've got I got two experiences in terms of being on the
		
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			board. I had that experience. And then I had the experience that came years later, Alhambra when I
moved to Chicago, because I was on the board in Chicago as well.
		
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			That experience is similar to my conversations with Imam Suraj. That measured was like measure the
telkwa Imam Suraj Mahajan is the man. He's the leader. He's the respected figure. He had his board
he has his board and the board basically aids the Imam to accomplish the task at hand. MashAllah So
measure them Salah Sona was like that, the Imam is the leader Hamdulillah we respect that. He's not
employee Allah, he's the leader. We were there to mashallah help him, make sure that the salary was
there in Charlottesville so he can go ahead and lead the people to where they need to be led to
Inshallah, and we were there to mashallah help them accomplish the goals that he set forth for the
		
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			masjid hamdulillah one of the things it wasn't easy, right? That hamdulillah because you know,
mashallah, the boardrooms are the, the rooms where it gets hot to warm
		
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			up. And that can remember is the panela we had 10 doors in the masjid. And the after, you know,
Salah is usually we met after Juma and the ones will come knock on the door. And we opened door it
was gone.
		
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			Halloween musalla.
		
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			But we had a rule. The rule was We are brothers no matter what.
		
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			What happens in this room stays in this room. Right after the meeting is over, and we exit those
doors. We're brothers, we love each other, and how can we learn we help one another. And that never
affects our hearts. All right, Mashallah. So Hamdulillah I think that was the greatest takeaway for
me, you know, and being in that type of board setting, and then as well, that, you know, the board
never changed. Unless the Imam said, you know, okay, I see that hungry, that you haven't really been
holding on to your tasks and your duties inshaAllah I'm gonna go ahead and give you a break what I'm
bringing brother so so to go ahead and do that, you know, duty, Inshallah, tada, because meat needs
		
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			to continue to move it.
		
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			Outside of that, if it worked, it's not broken, don't fix it. Under the law, you know, unlike my
other experience with other board, that every two years, the board changes, and two years is never
sufficient to accomplish any task. By the time you get moving in, the car gets running and the
engine gets going. Right, it's time for you to go up. So it becomes hard to really make a positive
impact in a positive change within the community. Because the length term is so short and shallow,
tall, you know, or the negative side of that is that, you know, if you have old presses,
		
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			then the length is too long. Exactly. I think Well, the key is what you said about if the Imam is
the leader and not just an employee, then he has the ability to pack the bench so to speak. And so
you're getting the right people, the it's almost like the two year term or the whatever term limit
is like a safety mechanism for if there's no leadership in place, and it's just whoever stepping up
whoever's a doctor, big donor or whatever, you know, then you at least have a mechanism in place to
get them out. If he's overstepping his bounds, you know, so that's very, very interesting. Okay, so
you eventually so you, you move through these different communities, and you eventually tell us a
		
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			little bit about obviously, the Dow you've done with the Latino community is amazing and incredible.
		
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			Where was it at when you started it? And how far is it come to now? Subala man, for us, man, we live
in a dream actually. We're
		
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			coming into Islam 25 years ago. The first thing was I thought I was the only Puerto Rican in
		
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			The world that was Muslim, you know, a little bit I know, there was 15 or 2030 years that you know,
before me, Mashallah.
		
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			And that in, you know, our dream was to one day be involved in this type of work.
		
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			But we was trying to be realistic was like, perhaps is not going to be in our generation, maybe my
kids, maybe my great grandma grandkids, great grandkids, you know, I'm saying, because this is first
generation work, you know, it's not easy, it's hard. And at the same time, we're very few, you know,
we're not, we don't have a bunch of Latino Imams and machine graduating hamdulillah where we kind of
share that responsibility. And we see that, you know, subhanAllah, 25 years ago from barely meeting
Latino Muslims or knowing about Latina Muslims to now knowing that Latinos are actually the fastest
population of people entering Islam. It's amazing, right. And it's been a journey that Subhanallah
		
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			you know, I can only think a lot about a quarter there's not enough words I can say to thank lots of
articles that allow us to, you know, to continue to allow us to be a part of it. Most Subhanallah
the change has been enormous man. Subhanallah you know, it was around maybe 2009 I got involved with
them to Muslims in Chicago, when I was living in a little city called Rockford. And again, it was a
small group, you know, you'd have a Doris, you know, maybe 510 people in the room, man, you know, we
have the line. We were excited about Julio, you have five people by Shala you know, we're talking to
Spanish Alhamdulillah. And even then, how many Spanish is my first language? Because, you know, we
		
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			grew up talking English all our lives in school with our friends, and never really practice. So I
remember when it came to that time to pull up that, you know, they had reached out to Islam Spanish
at the time, and then isa parada, mashallah Sheikh Isa, he was like, Well, you know, you got Wesley
up there I will Samia you know, once you reach out to him, he's almost graduated, you know, haven't
come down. Now much on my wife. I was like, Listen, man, I like I haven't spoken Spanish like this
and to deliver a message, you know, I mean, it's going to be difficult for me so I will type
everything out and I would give it to my wife Mashallah. My wife would translate everything and then
		
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			I would read it I'm like, You made it high level.
		
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			You ever been like, you know, fifth grade language, you know? Subhanallah and I remember my first
talk was Ramadan. And Ramadan. Subhan. Allah Blooding, and hamdulillah gave that talk mashallah
terracotta Allah, we ended up humbler, I ended up becoming the president of the Latino Muslims at
Chicago. I'm Lila, you know, from their family that moved back to New Jersey, ended up getting with
Islamic Spanish I was one of their main fundraisers, and educators helped them build a central
Islamic NGO in Houston, the first one hamdulillah and then it's just kind of mashallah moved at such
a fast pace, you know, that you kind of open your eyes one day, just realize, like, subhanAllah, you
		
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			know, we traveled to countries in Central South America, the Caribbean is doing work in these
different places, humanitarian work, workshops, you know, going out and doing bow in the streets,
you know, so, I'm gonna, it's been an amazing journey and amazing journey humbler that you know,
again, I think a lot of water cortada for me, he keep us humble in the process, but there's a lot of
work to do. And we need a lot of help. And one of the messages that you know, if I, if I can convey
this message to the people, especially the Latino Muslims, is that we have to find a way to continue
to come together. The work is bigger than us. Right? And we can't allow shaytaan to split us apart.
		
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			When Hamdulillah we have a great mission in front of us in sha Allah Tala and that's guiding our
people not only here, but back home in our countries as well. Masha Allah. Yeah, I mean, it always
reminds me the importance of and the Sunnah of Allah subhanaw taala to send a messenger from amongst
their own people, you know, it's a very important thing.
		
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			You know, there's some people that you myself, it's like, I have conversational Spanish, you know,
hamdulillah but it wouldn't necessarily make a whole lot of sense for me to put that out there and
make that my thing and like, whatever, because that's not, you know, my reality, so to speak. So it
really, really is important for people to have leaders that they feel that they can identify with
from their own community and and I think that, you know, you and shake Lisa and you know, Sheikh
Yusuf and and all the folks Imam Daniel, you know, Mujahid you know, all those those brothers, you
know, have been carrying and and the proofs in the pudding at the end of the day. I mean, obviously,
		
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			Allah subhanaw taala is the cause of causes, and he brings about things the way he wills, but he
uses tools, and he uses instruments and secondary causes and you all have been a part of that. Does
that mean to see how quickly it's exploded? is really, really inspiring thing mashallah Tabata Cola,
and you know, if I get out, you know, one of the things just recently I was at
		
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			an event called eyebrow read Malcolm. Yes, by the Jabra family. And, you know, being there was
inspiring because he sham jabbered Michela not only did he read Malcolm Rahim Allah to Allah, but he
was also one of the founders of establishing the first Puerto Rican group of Muslims in northern New
Jersey. And he called them Benny soccer. Right Subhanallah and they
		
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			and being there allowed me to see that, you know, this is his family's three generations in now
going into fall with the granite great grandchildren a shallow toddler, but the legacy that he
established, mashallah, and not only the legacy, the sacrifice that he made, you know, one of the
things that his son said was, we barely spent time with our Father.
		
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			We barely spend time with our father because our father was out doing the work, you know, me, so it
was almost like they grew up without a dad. And he said, and even more so because he got death
threats for burying Malcolm, he says, so he hit us away in North Carolina, to protect the family. So
we saw him even less because of that, you know, and it just made me ponder, reflect that, you know,
as a first generation Muslim in my family, you know, sometimes we say, Man, our children, what's
going to happen, but in the in the same token, there has to be that sacrifice for that longevity and
that legacy to be established, you know, mean within our families and the generations to come. And
		
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			really, this this is the only thing I ask a lot like, you know, take us on Eman Allah Allahu Allah,
Muhammad Rasul Allah, and that, that Eman remains within our children and the great grandchildren
that come that hopefully somewhere down the line, they say, Oh, my great, great grandfather, I will
Samia, Mashallah. He was the one that started it for us. Alhamdulillah he put him to work, you know,
and if that can happen or humbler, then all of the sacrifice that we've done, you know, I mean, up
to now would be worth it, man. She said, you said it, man. So finally, somebody asked me there was
somebody in the organization I work with, they were going on camera, you know, and they're like, you
		
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			have any DUA request. And like there's an I don't think there's anybody but converts that get that I
was like one thing that my descendants such poor Muslim. That's it, that my parents accept Islam,
and that my descendants stay Muslim. That's really all I want. Everything else, I can probably deal
with it somehow, someway. Insha Allah, but like the most important thing, sacrifice, Spence found
less sacrifice is I mean, that's, that's a really interesting thing. And there's an argument that
some people throw out there that whatever that term, we want to use indigenous Muslims, or, or
converts or reverse or whatever, you know, that there's a specific need from that population to
		
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			become leaders in the North American Muslim scene. And I think that that's maybe the transferable
skills that if you're a convert, you're making sacrifices. Absolutely. You're making sacrifices,
Olson, like it's built into the thing. Right. And leadership is all about sacrifices. So maybe, I
mean, to have a personal reflection, can you reflect on? What are some of the sacrifices that you've
made?
		
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			Along the way, both when it comes to just being a Muslim? Right? And then in the leadership
positions that you've had, what are some of the sacrifices that you've had to make? The two major
sacrifices is always family time.
		
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			And for many years, it was money. Those were the two major sacrifices, right? And they both go hand
in hand. Why? Because you're away from your family, for sometimes, you know, weeks or days on end,
and especially, you know, there was a point in time where I was traveling every weekend, right away,
Friday, Thursday to Sunday away from my family home Monday towards the end, the wife works, the kids
are in school, they come home, they're tired, you're not spending much time together. But and then
the same time I'm sacrificing and traveling and doing all of these things, but my salary was very
little. So it wasn't like I was bringing in a huge income to say you Hamdulillah you know, the
		
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			sacrifice is worth it because mashallah, I'm away from home but mashallah, here goes, the result of
all of it. Right? So I think those were the two huge sacrifices for for me in terms of trying to
establish something, and really I didn't recognize, especially in the initial stages, like you
mentioned, right in the very beginning, when I first became Muslim, you know, I got married right
away, I met my wife before Islam, I became Muslim that she became Muslim and then we got married or
Hamdulillah. We've been together 25 years Mashallah.
		
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			But in the initial stages, when I when I when I began to tell my story of how I accepted Islam,
		
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			my wife, I remember in one of those instances, she was sitting in the crowd, and she looked at me
like strange. And I said, Okay, I must have messed up one of the dates, I'm always messing up dates,
Mashallah. She'll, she'll correct me later. Right? So and then when we got in the car, I'm like, You
know what happened? Why he looked at me like that. And she says, I realized why the first year the
change of our marriage, I was so lonely.
		
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			So what are you talking about? She says, because in your story you mentioned, you would come home
from work, you will shower, you would go to the masjid, and you wouldn't leave the masjid until the
match closed. And then you would come home sleep work. And he did that seven days a week for over a
year. She says I was home alone. Right? She said, But I understood that you needed that. So that you
can make the transformation you needed to make and take the journey that you've had to take, you
know, subhanAllah so I tell people all the time that you know, in the sacrifice, you need family
who's ready to sacrifice which, you know, I mean, and we have that discussion in my house of the
		
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			prophets and the messengers and their families. You know, this is a sacrifice that
		
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			We're doing together. And at the end of the day, we're trying to build our paradise together. So
you're giving some of me and Sharla taller, you know and some of you so that inshallah Tada we can
enjoy the company together in the rural place where we all want to be in the, you know, in the
happiness of Paradise, and then money is this the second man, you know, unfortunately, way too
often. We're not valued enough, you know, people say, Oh, FISA Biller, you know to say we wish he
turned free said Billy let write free said Billy, let's just go out and do it allows me to get an
obligation on you and shallow taller imams are not supposed to, you know, be people who have
		
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			anything right I'm the law just coming to measure take this little room sleep there, brother, you
are right. Subhanallah and humbly law, we said, I wanted mashallah to make this to be my path. And
I've always understood that Allah was Alleghany. And will Allah He even with the little salary that
we used to sacrifice, we've always had more than we needed Subhanallah and that's all only from
Allah, tomato, whatever, right. And I say that to say, you know, for those people who are trying to
take on this path, sincerity first in sha Allah Tala, and then to have firm faith, and a lot of
other courts, I know he is the provider, and that inshallah Tada, he'll give you what you need. And
		
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			then at one point, maybe he'll get you to where you want to be shot, I'll tell you even in the work
is shallow. There's so much to benefit from that. And that reflects my experience as well. I mean, I
also had a similar sort of trajectory, when it came to my wife and I were already together and
married when I accepted a slot.
		
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			And, you know, she was an immense support for me, even though it took her longer, you know, to come
around to accepting a snap, and, you know, a lot of students and knowledge abroad and things like
that, they always want to know, Well, should I get married first, or should I not or whatever. But,
boy, man, you can't put a price on no one that somebody's down the road, and no one that somebody
loves you for you, and wants to sacrifice with you, you know, I used to, I used to fall prey to the
mentality that, like, she was holding me back in some sort of way. Because I was making a lot of
changes, and she just wasn't ready for it that just wasn't like, what it just wasn't her time. You
		
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			know, and I remember talking to a non Muslim, coworker, one place to work in restaurants and stuff
like that. And I kind of just mentioned about how, you know, I made all these changes, I stopped
drinking, I stopped doing this stuff, you know, all the changes I made after I became Muslim, you
know, and she said something to me, she's like, wow, it's like, your wife really loves you. And, um,
it just hit me. I was like, wow, you're right. You know, it's like, how many other people would have
like, run, run away screaming, you know, it's like, you know, and if somebody wanted to, in that
scenario, you know, they could have made up lies, you know, there's some sort of extremist or
		
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			whatever, got a book tour or whatever they could have, they could have milked it for all it's worth,
right. But the fact that they know you from zero, and they sacrificed with you, and they saw what
you had to go through, you know, versus somebody these days, you know, they graduate, and then they
get like a social media following, then you get like sisters reaching out to you.
		
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			It's not the same thing at all. It's not the same thing. And the brothers gotta be really careful.
Because, you know, like, like, fame is a destructive force when it comes to that, and not everybody
wants good for you. And you don't, you're not even always going to have the ability to determine,
you know, who's ready to sacrifice with you? That's right. If you don't get that sort of thing
upfront. And the other thing I thought about, you know, and this is this is kind of the paradoxical
nature of this whole thing is that it has to be hard, especially in the beginning. It's weird,
because, you know, you and I, in a private conversation, we talk all the time criticizing the
		
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			institutions and the massage and they don't value Imams, they don't value like our work and stuff
like that. And it's true. But at the same time, the fact that it's difficult in the beginning, you
know, is like it weeds out a lot of people. Yes, it weeds out a lot of phonies. Yeah. Like if it
were if being an imam or being a religious leader, were as simple as getting these cameras and
lights and attend an Instagram channel. Then think about all the charlatans that we would get. We
get people that like it would be a train wreck, it would be a disaster.
		
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			On the other hand, yeah, you can't you once you get married and you got kids and you got duties and
responsibilities like that, there comes a point where the community's gotta, gotta actually put
their money where their mouth is. And like, if you want your kids to stay Muslim, and you want your
grandkids to stay Muslim, then let's get serious about this thing. You know, and let's actually
invest and you know, free up a person's time, you know, so, you know, like you said, you should be
given feasibly the law you should be doing this for the dean said, you should be paying me for us to
be
		
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			absolutely, absolutely, you know, men and family law and when that happens, and there's that synergy
that takes place, amazing things can happen. Right? For instance, yesterday was at the pre Ramadan
conference for Humla We packed the house 250 300 People mashallah amazing volunteers, amazing work,
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			was because Al Hamdulillah the organization came in, they said to me, whatever you need, make it
happen. They said Imam Mali is not an issue of Akbar or hamdulillah nor make it an issue, what we
want is we want to make sure that youth are in house, we want to make sure that reverts are being
served in sha Allah Tala, you can do that is worth all the money in the world, right, the money
account will figure it out. So humbly that when you see that dynamic, be put forth, you know, mean,
or, you know, given to the Imam and the Imam is empowered in that way, you know, subhanAllah amazing
things can happen in the community, you know, and and it's the vision, like, you're just saying,
		
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			like, that takes vision, yes. Everybody has to understand what the goal is, and not get lost in the
weeds about well, what is this for? What's the message for if somebody thinks the Imam is just there
to lead five prayers a day, right, somebody thinks the Imam was mostly supposed to be doing marriage
counseling or whatever somebody thinks the man is supposed to be doing something else. But if you
actually have a specific mission, then everything gets easy, because now you're like, This is what
we want visual though. For them. It was like martial law, actually, at the visual level where
they're like, we want the youth, we want the reverts best, do it, whatever you need, and then
		
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			everything sort of falls into place. So that that kind of segues us into the more institutional
aspects. We've already talked a little bit about, I mean, you've been part of a lot of institutions
over the years. What are some of the mistakes that you've seen made that other organizations need to
know about? What are some of the things that have been triumphs that you've, we've already talked
about? A few, but some of the things that organizations are doing right, you know, we had a private
conversation the other day about, is the machine broken? Are we still is it worth fighting for? Is
it time to turn the third spaces? Like all this sort of stuff, like where are we at? Where are we
		
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			headed? what's working, what's not working? So you know, what's working, what's not working? For?
Definitely for sure is the old mentality. Right of Hamdulillah this is just a place where we're
going to come and pray we got to elderly here. You know, some people sit in the corner, recite
Quran. Don't come in, don't make no noise. You know, I mean, keep your children at home, right? That
mentality just doesn't function. I see those masajid I pray it doesn't happen. But I see those
massages becoming irrelevant, just like the churches are disappearing. Right, because there is no
youth presence. Right? There is no mashallah energy and vigor. Alhamdulillah you know, I just the
		
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			other day, like my, my son, he was like,
		
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			I don't wanna go to the machine is boring. Right? So he like, like, through, like, you think the
machine is boring is in the guard. So we go into the machine anyway. Right? hamdulillah went to the
masjid. And all of a sudden, he met up with one of his friends that he met in Chicago, mass echonet,
Chicago, he's like, oh, so and so's here. And he's in the machine. He's running around the machine
and doing this and doing that humbler? This is what our mission is in New Jersey. And nobody's
saying nothing to the kids. They got the space that kids are running around. They're playing, you
know, when he finishes like the machine is the best place in the world.
		
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			Why don't you say you don't want the best you don't like the ones you like, no, no, no, the best is
mashallah, right? Hamdulillah. But we have to create those types of spaces, right? So I think this
for us is huge, especially if we're going to look at what's going to happen with the generations to
come. And I'll give you another example. In Paterson, New Jersey. We had a masjid. You know,
Paterson in this area. This method was, there was a lot of abuse, dealing drugs, taking drugs. They
were the biggest drug dealers in the town.
		
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			One of their brothers, his name is Omar, he was actually the head. He came to our Masjid back then,
we basically gave him Tao all over again was I listened when you gotta get off the streets, brother.
You can't be doing this. You know, I'm saying he submitted. He basically I was like, we took
shahada.
		
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			I'm leaving the streets. So he went to the block. Because he had this much respect. He went to the
block. He said, Yo, we're coming off the block.
		
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			We wanted to message it. The cats came off the block to the masjid. That's the power yet right? So
Allah, but they were in the measure 212 In the morning, three in the morning. The measure was like
		
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			math. Now what are you doing? You brothers can be in the masjid or night like this hanging out? You
know, I mean, this is this is not what the House of Allah is for.
		
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			Put them out
		
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			back on the street. And this was like around 911 time, right? So 911 here, you know, I mean, they
tried to open something up, it got shut down. The function for the Omar was like yo, Mao took off
the PA somewhere opened up a construction company, and the cats naturally what they do back out to
the street, man. Right. And this was an example of a hard lesson that we had to learn that, you
know, you got somebody he got the passion, and he had my shot love the respect to bring all of our
youth up off the street, and you throw it away. Because you got that old mentality, right?
Subhanallah so I think these massages really, we find that a lot of these measures are the ones that
		
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			are hurting, right and the ones that are
		
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			Probably going to become extremely irrelevant and why the third space has been created? You know,
personally, I'm not fond of the third space, you know, because the mission is what the book is,
right? There's too many Hadith and too many I look around that the mission is where the baraka, the
house of Allah is where the water is, right? That there is basically not considering it domestic,
right? It's just kind of like the hangout space, kind of like, you know, is it necessary is
necessary, right? If because if you don't have the space, do we have to create something, and
something has to give in shot? No. Tada. So I see why that was created in the necessity for to
		
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			shuttle taller. But on the other hand, you know,
		
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			and I gotta give props to mass, right? Well, especially here in New York City is very youth driven.
So we have seven centers. Most of our centers are EDS, our youth, youth ran youth led mashallah
		
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			you know, so hamdulillah they realized that if we want to go ahead and move forward, we got to pass
the baton. That's right. And if we don't pass the baton, then we become irrelevant. So you see now
because they're youth led, masha Allah and youth ran Masjid is packed with youth all the time,
Friday night program Saturday programs during the week monthly Holika is revives. Right, they got
all of these different things going on, you got 200 youth, they have the camp 350 400 youths show up
at the camp, you know, this is what you want to see. Alhamdulillah so that's as a sign of don't get
right and shout to Allah, and really trying to say, Listen, you know, I did what I did, we
		
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			appreciate ya, we appreciate you I will lie. You came in, you struggle with your wealth, right?
Alhamdulillah and your time and your efforts by the time they built the building, you built it
Hamdulillah you did you. But there has to reach that point where says maybe this was this was my
contribution, and this is the furthest I can take it. And then you pass the baton on, and you let
the next generation just take it where it needs to go. Inshallah, tada, I mean, how many knows who
the property was right? Advisors, I'm used to look at his harbor, and see what was the worth of Isa
harbor and use them for their worth, and allow them to get busy. You know, that's Panama. So it's
		
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			almost like, you know, I think, third space is almost pop up, because some massage it and some
boards are stuck in that mentality. And then people need, you know, rather than going to the
streets, you know, but that's not to necessarily say that it's a good idea to give up on the machine
too soon. Absolutely. Because definitely, we've seen a lot of masajid that once they get new blood,
they get new ideas in there, they can you can flip the script and you can turn it around, you know,
so because we also have that problem in the Muslim community have this sort of splitting off and
balkanization and stuff like that, where everybody wants to open up their own machine. And you got
		
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			maybe, you know, in a way Utica you because only got, you know, 70,000 people, you know, 13
messages, Allahu Akbar. That's a lot. That's a lot. You know, not all of them are necessary, in my
opinion, you know, like, a little town. Yeah. Yeah. I mean, but there's a lot of Muslims. And
there's a lot of misdeeds, right. And it would be one thing, it would be one thing, if the machines
were all working together, everybody prays at eat together, Allah, Allentown, but that's not what's
happening. Allen towns a unicorn, you know, that's the rarity. Normally, it's silos and so you got
this group over here. They're this ethnicity in this group over here, they're that ethnicity, or
		
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			they're the same ethnicities, but different tribes, the same tribe with different families, as
always a reason to split. So it comes back to okay, you maybe you need a third space, but you got to
make sure that you have some sort of cooperation with the machines and the other organizations
because you can't do it alone. That's why I usually two things, right, just what you mentioned the
man, Tom, that it's important for us to still play a part I was I've always been that guy. I don't
mind putting on the gloves. You know, I mean, I go into the boardroom, when I'm on the board or not.
When I'm on the board and the lady Oh, you can't remove me. You know, I mean, so you're gonna have a
		
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			problem. You know, because I sit on the floor, you don't pay me, you know, I mean, how many loud we
contribute a lot of voice, you know, I mean, and I'm gonna be heard, right? How many, I'm gonna be
activists outside. And I'll be activists inside the machine as well. Right? And I've always had that
attitude of humbling because I've had that attitude. Naturally, you kind of force change sometimes.
And sometimes, you know, I tell people, sometimes you gotta be like, most of you guys just gotta
ride it out now live, you know, I mean, those who just don't want to be down to change a tee. Right?
You gotta go through there. Some people, you got to do it? Yeah, that's fine. You know, just to
		
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			explain to people who are not getting what we're referencing, so you know, a lot of data. When it
came to the people who lived under slavery under fit around, they get through the gates of the
Promised Land, and they just don't have it in him. No, they're not. They're cowards, basically. And
there's a lot of interesting sociological research about like, what that type of Chatel, slavery
does to people mentally and culturally and stuff like that. They're almost like incapable of self
rule and of you know, uplifting themselves. So Allah says, Hey, y'all go wandering the desert. old
generation passes away. New generation when they say tough times, create tough men. Right and tough
		
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			man create easy time.
		
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			isn't easy times create weak men, right? It's that cycle. And so in the desert 40 years, you got the
youth coming up, and they're rugged, and they're rough and there'll be their obedient and their
discipline, then they come back and take the Holy Land, no problem. So there might be a situation
where that's the situation when it comes to a Muslim community. That's a beautiful, beautiful side.
You know, the president salami says, you know, the best of you are those who mix with the people,
even though you're harmed by them. Right. And you remain patient, right? Subhan Allah. So, you know,
we have to stay in that right. And in the mean, in the meantime, in between time, right, there
		
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			always has to be some of us who are still staying in the masjid and fighting the good fight. But at
the same time, we can go ahead and maybe have that third space, so that you're building what is
missing? Right? And then trying to integrate them back into the Masjid. Right. So this is one of the
things like right now, like even with us, our goal, because is the same thing with the reports,
right? So when I came in said, it's imagine New York, and we talked about the rivers, you know, one
of the first things and everywhere I go to talk about remote work, one of the first things I tell
people, you know, we get so happy they take the shahada, Allahu Akbar, we, we kiss them, and I said,
		
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			even the kissing is weird, right? We don't kiss, you know, I mean, like that in the hood. Right? But
I said, you know, we, we tell them something that is so important that I'm glad I was never told
that accept was accepted. When I accepted Islam accepted Islam in the Bronx, on the street corner
front of the projects. Humbly Lena, I take a lie every day for that. Why? And I tell people because
I didn't have an expectation. I knew I had to put in the work. Right. But when I come to the mesh,
and now the measure says, and it was Ireland, are your brothers? Were your brothers. And not even
more than that. We're family. Yeah, stuff. We're a family. And what I expect from families love,
		
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			what to expect with families, understanding, you got to take care of me all of that, right. As soon
as the next question asks, Who in here has done that for someone?
		
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			And usually, you see this,
		
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			right? So I said, you know, Hamdulillah, they don't feel comfortable coming here because of that. So
we've integrated, created kind of like a third space online, right to zoom and the classes and
everything we got going on in sha Allah with the goal, that we have to reintegrate them back into
the Masjid. But part of that integration process is one letting the reverts in the conference know,
even with the youth that some of these other brothers No, listen, we have to change the mindset.
Forgive these brothers, they don't know better. And then we have to come into the masjid. And we
have to remove the ignorance of that lies in the community. Right? And that's just ignorance,
		
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			sometimes is ignorance, at no fault of their own. Sometimes just I was born a certain way I was
raised somewhere else. That's all I've seen, as all I know. You know, I mean, until someone comes
and pointed out to me, right? And I've had instances where I've finished that hotbar. And I'll have
someone come to my table, and they'll cry. And they'll say she, I've never thought about that. May
Allah forgive me and the ball? He said, You know, you're right. We've been falling short of the
mark. And we've been negatively affecting our brothers. Right? So what is a conversation you have to
have, if you don't have it, that doesn't come about, you know, I mean, ya know, 100% I mean, you've
		
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			got a lot of people even suspicious, you know, people need to be ready. Like, y'all want the status,
you got to be ready for the for the streets to come in to the vest seat, because that's what's going
to happen. And the interesting thing about Utica and RMSE, at Youth Committee, is that we're still
in one of the, whatever you wanna call it, the underserved or undeveloped districts, and I give them
tremendous credit for this because they had the opportunity to move it out to the suburbs. And they
didn't, they kept it in the original spot and corn Hill neighborhood, which is one of the poorest
neighborhoods in the city, in walking distance to a lot of refugees and a lot of African American
		
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			community, you know, but then you got to be ready. When that street element comes into the mess, you
can't be suspicious, like, is this guy even somebody said, I kid you not? Is this person even
Muslim? Said, Hey, what's he doing in the message if he's not Muslim? Like, who's gonna just like
waltz in here? You know, it's like, he knows all the positions the right way, right? He's, he's
waiting for the comma. That's like, what do you think, you know, he's got a Koran app on his phone?
What's the matter with you? You know, so people need to be educated. 100% right. And people need to
be ready.
		
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			We have the Hadith of the Prophet size, Saddam when the Sahaba came in and peed in the machine.
That's a paradigm right there. You know, it's like, and we can give people recognition credit,
because, you know, to their credit, look at how the Companions reacted and the prophesies of them
had to hold them back. But if the IMA were the leaders or the inheritors of the prophets, then we
gotta check the people. You know, the modern day companions be like, Yo, you guys got to chill out,
you know, yeah, if we get those shadows you want, we're going to have addicts. We're going to have
people that are in our arm relationships, we're going to have people where things are, are messy.
		
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			That's life. You know. So if you can't have one without the other, but at the same token, right? If
not,
		
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			Charlottesville records Allah, they look at the Hadith. The best of you and Jay Alia will be the
best view Islam. If you get that knowledge, right hamdulillah so you look at the brother that comes
off the street, hustler
		
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			mover shaker, you know, I mean, that's what you want to know is that he wasn't ready to go, hustle,
you want somebody's gonna move who's gonna show you we're gonna help my Sharla is gonna step up i
Subhanallah and this is one of the things that this is why when we came into Islam, that's what
Listen, what's the marching orders? Yes, right, give us the marching orders, we ready to move? We're
ready to do we sit here all night, you know, I mean, but we got, we got to travel where we going?
Let us know, right? hamdulillah and when you have that foresight, Alhamdulillah and you have that
wisdom, and hamdullah you can build amazing things in your community with individuals like this is
		
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			true. I sure we have one brother convert and he was like on the streets. He used to be homeless, you
know, stuff like that. Or they used to carry around a machete with them on the streets. That's what
he that's what his vibe was. And like he came in the messy he actually bring his mess his machete
into the machine. So we had to have a little conversation about, you know, like, door or the window
and stuff like that. But yeah, I mean, it's sad to see, and it's nobody's fault, but it's an
institutional culture where it's like, he had ideas. He was like, Yo, let's do a trash pickup. Let's
go like get let's buy bags, and those things where you pick up trash and all these ideas that nobody
		
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			engaged them. Nobody empowered them. And so I don't know what the brother is even now. Is he still
on? Eweka? Did he move on somewhere else? I don't know. So I mean, it's a huge responsibility. I
read a line line of poetry in English the other the other week, and it was like, every man is guilty
of the good he did not do. I was like, Oh, that hit me. Because like Subhan Allah a lot of times,
we're just dropping opportunities left and right. Because Allah is sending us
		
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			the means of our own salvation left and right. Because somebody in ease might be like tattooed on
his face in his neck and stuff but you might like have a reaction to him and he might be the means
that your salvation he might be the person who is going to take that program in the machine and just
like you know, absolutely smash it be a huge success bring in for the dollar signs, you know, some
people they care about the bottom line, bringing the dollars bringing or whatever, he might be that
guy, but I also want to Well, but you know, they found him turned away because they had a certain
sort of cooked up idea about what it looks like to be a Muslim and who should be part of the
		
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			community and what's going to happen to my kids again, get affected or something like that. Then
based on that quote, Subhan Allah she you know, one of the things I tell people all the time you
know, they will say oh, you know che Hema mashallah you do so much this is not right. Right? Listen,
you know, I'm a farmer man.
		
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			I said the farmer has the most important job in the world. He's planting crops so that generations
can survive and eat. Right? So I say so I fill my pockets with seeds. And everywhere I go, I'm just
trying to throw seeds and plant them. I may not take care of the seed. I mean, I water the seed,
right? I mean, Allah provides the light for the seed is shallow, taller, I Hamdulillah I just
planted with a good intent insha Allah Tala hoping that from that seed, something can come forth
inshallah. Tada. Right. And reminds you of Romans when they're caught meant that you just take
advantage of every moment you have every that's kind of been kind of my tone, right, that I tell my
		
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			family all the time. The one ability that I have, is that I don't have to say no. Because sometimes
like what she is saying yes, it's easy. You know, I mean, honey, like Yeah, I can be there. Yeah, I
can do it. Yeah, I can be involved. Right? Not because you want to be known not because you want to
be famous, but because I want to go plant my seeds.
		
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			Right. So that is sha Allah Tala, Yama, pm Alhamdulillah we hope that all of those seeds, or at
least a good portion of those seeds produce fruit Alhamdulillah that came to fruition, you know, and
hamdulillah and provided food for humanity, and new martial law are now able to marshal up give the
reward from that from a lot of articles that have been answered to His mercy and it's paradise and
it's all of those things. Alhamdulillah so even the sacrifice I don't look at so much as a sacrifice
I look at it as you know, this is investment. This is investment Time, money. Blood Sweat is all
investment in sha Allah Tala for the ACA, you know, and if we ought to do that, come to
		
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			hydrometallurgy chattiness. You will be the best OMA extracted from mankind. Allah told us we are
but we have to live up to it. You know, I mean, surprises reminded me that quotes and I've seen your
straw hat so I have verification that you are indeed a farmer. And I planted seeds, so nobody has to
		
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			oh, just just for fun. We usually ask our guests what's the one thing that people don't know about
you?
		
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			What's one thing that people don't know about me, man?
		
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			I suppose to know that she
		
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			one thing people don't know about me Subhan Allah
		
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			you know, maybe
		
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			And this could probably be some inspiration man. Because sometimes they, you know, we become Imams
and things of this nature how many Latin people you study and you know, people look at you in a
certain light. You know, I was the worst student in high school. I didn't open a book. I didn't read
a book. I didn't work. You know what I was a junior, I was still a freshman. I, you know, I dropped
out of high school.
		
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			Never thought I was gonna go back to school.
		
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			Went back took my GED, by myself just because I was a knucklehead and he wants to sit in the class
and Hamdulillah I passed, right. Got my GED humbler and really, I didn't start learning or loving to
read and knowledge until accepted Islam.
		
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			And when I became a Muslim, I remember that first year, I probably made a reading for all the years
that never read in my life. I mean, and I wasn't the best student prior to high school just stuck in
the world and Subhan Allah and just kind of didn't have no interest in any of this upon Allah. But
it's amazing how once you put a little bit of effort, you know how things can change your life and
you know, and what you can reach and achieve and I was the quietest dude. So you know, I want to do
to be on Mike a layup you got you crazy, I'm not going to do that, you know, I mean, how did that
was one always in the corner in the back and be quiet, you know, mean to myself? You know, I mean,
		
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			Mashallah. You know, many people that know me wouldn't ever have thought that this would be me now,
you know, out speaking in front of the public and the legasus, you know, spa brings us full circle
because, you know, we said in the beginning sometimes that's the person who has to be sometimes the
person that puts themself in the front, that person should sit down and you what you really need is
the person in the corner to step up because they've got a certain perspective and then something to
share from us. Well, thank you so much for your time and obviously you know, we could be here all
day we'll have you back on in sha Allah, may Allah bless you and keep you firm and keep all of us
		
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			firm and keep all of our families firm on this Deen Subhanak Aloha mobile home digger Shawanda
either had to enter step over too quick so that when they come after a lot, a
		
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			lot of coffee