Tom Facchine – I Was Slandered After Giving Charity

			I have a question I gave 1000
purse $1,000 to a person who was
		

			afterwards ungrateful and hurtful
to me. I've been making dua
		

			against them for a few months Oof.
Well, I don't know what the type
		

			of hurt that you are talking
about, in general, a loss potata
		

			tells us and sorts of Bukhara
specifically that when we give
		

			charity to somebody, it should not
be followed up reminders of the
		

			good that we did for somebody. So
it's a note. When Allah spent
		

			Allah talks about the if, right,
this was the thing that occurred
		

			where the slander upon Aisha Radi
Allahu Taala on her and Abu Bakr,
		

			Abu Bakr is her father. So
naturally, he's very emotionally
		

			affected by the slander against
his daughter that she did
		

			something improper. Now, Abu Bakar
he was he had a relatively Mr. and
		

			Miss thought was poor. So Abu
Bakar was financially taken care
		

			of Mr. However, Miss thaw got
involved in the if he actually was
		

			one of those people who are
spreading. He didn't originate it,
		

			but he was spreading the slander
against that issue. So when Abu
		

			Bakar realized this person who he
was financially supporting was
		

			actually spreading the slander
against his daughter, he cut him
		

			off, and he swore by a law that he
would not support him financially
		

			anymore. So Allah subhanaw taala
revealed in that Surah that he
		

			should not do that, that he should
continue to support. And the
		

			reason why is because is your
donation truly for the sake of
		

			Allah? Or is it transactional? Are
their expectations that are coming
		

			along with that donation? Are we
expecting when we give someone
		

			something that they're going to
treat us nice in return, if we
		

			have an expectation that is
attached to our donation, then our
		

			donation isn't 100% for Allah
subhanaw to audit in the first
		

			place and shake up the lesson
Peter used to tell us in Medina,
		

			if you give something to someone
in charity, you should be prepared
		

			basically, for them to spit in
your face. This is the way to
		

			prove that you're sincere and not
actually doing business in the
		

			sense transactional sense like
trading it for favors or good
		

			treatment or anything like that.
It's a very hard thing and it's a
		

			subtle thing. It's not so but that
excludes a situation in which the
		

			harm was was extremely serious,
but that's an important thing to
		

			keep in mind. Rasanya That's
That's true. It might be better
		

			for you. Honestly, Allah's found
out I might be doing something
		

			good for you. And that's actually
the phraseology that he uses and
		

			sorts of neurons to talk about the
if in general don't think that
		

			this is bad for you. Actually,
this is good for you. You're not
		

			insincere Ruslan, if it happened
to Abu Bakar have we had that
		

			happen that Abu Bakr then of
course, it's going to happen to
		

			you and me. It's just that, you
know, the nature of a Muslim is
		

			that we forget, we're reminded
that's what we're tested on. When
		

			we're reminded do we come back so
we're all in the same in the same
		

			boat?