Tom Facchine – I Was Slandered After Giving Charity
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I have a question I gave 1000 purse $1,000 to a person who was
afterwards ungrateful and hurtful to me. I've been making dua
against them for a few months Oof. Well, I don't know what the type
of hurt that you are talking about, in general, a loss potata
tells us and sorts of Bukhara specifically that when we give
charity to somebody, it should not be followed up reminders of the
good that we did for somebody. So it's a note. When Allah spent
Allah talks about the if, right, this was the thing that occurred
where the slander upon Aisha Radi Allahu Taala on her and Abu Bakr,
Abu Bakr is her father. So naturally, he's very emotionally
affected by the slander against his daughter that she did
something improper. Now, Abu Bakar he was he had a relatively Mr. and
Miss thought was poor. So Abu Bakar was financially taken care
of Mr. However, Miss thaw got involved in the if he actually was
one of those people who are spreading. He didn't originate it,
but he was spreading the slander against that issue. So when Abu
Bakar realized this person who he was financially supporting was
actually spreading the slander against his daughter, he cut him
off, and he swore by a law that he would not support him financially
anymore. So Allah subhanaw taala revealed in that Surah that he
should not do that, that he should continue to support. And the
reason why is because is your donation truly for the sake of
Allah? Or is it transactional? Are their expectations that are coming
along with that donation? Are we expecting when we give someone
something that they're going to treat us nice in return, if we
have an expectation that is attached to our donation, then our
donation isn't 100% for Allah subhanaw to audit in the first
place and shake up the lesson Peter used to tell us in Medina,
if you give something to someone in charity, you should be prepared
basically, for them to spit in your face. This is the way to
prove that you're sincere and not actually doing business in the
sense transactional sense like trading it for favors or good
treatment or anything like that. It's a very hard thing and it's a
subtle thing. It's not so but that excludes a situation in which the
harm was was extremely serious, but that's an important thing to
keep in mind. Rasanya That's That's true. It might be better
for you. Honestly, Allah's found out I might be doing something
good for you. And that's actually the phraseology that he uses and
sorts of neurons to talk about the if in general don't think that
this is bad for you. Actually, this is good for you. You're not
insincere Ruslan, if it happened to Abu Bakar have we had that
happen that Abu Bakr then of course, it's going to happen to
you and me. It's just that, you know, the nature of a Muslim is
that we forget, we're reminded that's what we're tested on. When
we're reminded do we come back so we're all in the same in the same
boat?