What is NoFap – Stop Porn and Masturbation Addiction

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Big addiction. People are dealing with pornography and all these other days, but changed my life. If you don't know what nofap is, it's basically this movement that was created,

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where people started playing with themselves, and they stopped watching pornography. I know. Crazy, right? Like, why would anyone want to stop doing these things?

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But I came across this a few years back. And it's because I realized that I had a problem, I realized that hey, maybe what I'm doing isn't the best thing.

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No, fap so people would have never heard this No. fap This is something new also to me. No, is it no fap? No fat? Yeah. So for the next generation, older generation, you know, many people are not keen to these new terms. Like, what what was his message that you were getting out there?

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Yeah, so first of all, let me just say the, the show that I had on in the video, I think, was by far the most comfortable shirt that I had in my life.

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No fat to get on top of, you know, fat.

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No fat is basically where you start masturbating. You start watching pornography. And for this generation, or at least, for the people who are outside of religion, that's, that's a big thing for them. You know, like, it's free. You can go on their computer, or your phone, and you have access to unlimited things that will, quote unquote, fulfill your design.

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But that's not the the best thing in this world and the whole nofap movement.

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It's basically to eliminate these things so that your body can kind of go back to its normal state. You see, because if someone watches pornography, what ends up happening is that it's releasing an excessive amount of dopamine into your system. Dopamine is a neurotransmitter, kind of like

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acetylcholine, serotonin, things along that there are more official, more official, I'm just not recalling them right now. But watch pornography is releasing this excessive amount of dopamine. And it's excessive, because you will never have this in nature. It is not natural for you to be able to be with, let's say 40 5060 different sexual partners within like, what, 20 minutes, 30 minutes, is not possible. It's not something that that allow me for us. A lot didn't create our bodies this way. Right. So what ends up happening is that you have this excessive amount of dopamine, and then it basically desensitizes your body to work. You become less sensitive to real life. So let's say you

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walk outside and let's say there's a butterfly that flies across like, if you were sensitive, you will look at that butterfly and it would, there will be an impact because you'd be present, you would experience that for the boat when you would desensitize. It's like that butterfly flies across and there's this lag time there's this period where it's like you didn't really experience it, you just, you're kind of running like two to five seconds behind the timeframe that you should be, you know, so, to keep you more simple. desensitize. You're not going to notice a butterfly, if you were sensitized. You go outside and you see that butterfly and you say soup

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and that's that's no fat. That's all he's doing is just recent tising your body? And were you muslim at the time when you made this? Not always not Muslims? Okay, so you're actually pushing it pushing this positive message even before Islam? Yeah, so this is a movement of Not Yet Muslims, non Muslims who started this is non muscle tissue. And if you get like, deep down to the bone, no fat is actually a business unfortunately. Became. Yeah, but still, like it's still helping people. So yeah. So it is what it is in that sense. But

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no, fap is meant to help people break free from destructive habits and addictions, but little do they know that when they break free from these things, they actually get closer to the Creator. They get more spiritual. Everyone who's been on nofap was tested the same thing.

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This is deep. So what do you think from your experience, dealing and talking with this? I had a guest Donnie mom, John, he makes the connection. He's lectured, helped a lot of the youth

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People who are saying supposedly coming out and saying, Look, you know, they're having doubts about Islam, they're having a faith Imaan crisis, he connects this crisis, much of it a great majority of it to pornography addiction.

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Because now you made the thing, the statement now that you end up getting closer to your Creator, when you start disconnecting here, now reverse that, right? You keep doing it, what's the opposite is gonna happen? You're gonna get more distant. Right? So he so we did a program here and we actually

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you have I think is one of the serial killers on there. He was they were talking about FBI and whatnot. They were talking about I forgot what the person's name on. It was one of them. Yeah, it was a Bundy. And he talks about how, you know, this violent form of pornography, how this actually aided, you know, them, you know, with their thinking to go ahead and commit to these crime, what are your thoughts on that? Is if the truth is the truth? Because when you watch these things, it's it's programming you subconsciously. Like, I've talked to many people who they say that what they learned in pornography when they're having sex with the, with a woman, it's not the same? And I'm like,

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Well, of course, it's not the same. What did you expect? I, number one, pornography is fake, they are literally acting. And they're recording the people behind camera recording this. And then on top of that, like, everything is done excessively, to appeal to people, because what ends up happening is, people when they start watching pornography, or they started taking drugs, they had this thing known as the Coolidge effect, meaning that you need more of the sad thing in order to experience the same feeling you felt in the beginning. So if someone drinks alcohol,

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they're going to need more alcohol, they develop a tolerance, right? It's a simple terminology of tolerance. Someone smokes weed the first time, they will never be another time, like the first time. And every time that they smoke weed after that they're going to try to emulate and have that same experience as the first time but they will never experience that again. Right? So that's the Coolidge effect. Now, pornography is the same thing. watch pornography, the more someone watches pornography, the nastier the stuff they get into, until they're doing something that's completely against what they are like they could be a straight, heterosexual male, and he could be so far gone

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into pornography, that he's now watching homosexual pornography, but he's not he's not game, so. But he's watching this, because he's literally desensitized himself so much that now he needs it in order for him to get aroused and feel anything. So just think like, if that's happening with that, like think about the other stuff that's occurring.

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That's why it made sense to me what he was saying this Imam John, what he was saying, was that because of this, this is leading to a crisis of faith of human of a lot of people who are in this addiction. So what do you like to tell people who are going through this addiction right now? They're they're tuning in? Where do you like to start? How do you like to help people? Because this is one of the things you do, right? You help people dealing with these different addictions? So having gone through a lot of these things, what would you tell the person like, where to start? How to

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get how are we referring to someone who is religious? Or we're referring to someone who's secular?

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Both? Both? Alright, so Well, it's gonna look different for each one. Because obviously, each one has different beliefs, and different desires and stuff like that.

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But for the non-secular person, I always tell them, like,

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what's the best version of yourself look like? Like I'm talking about, like, when you watch a movie, and you see like, the character that's like, the top character, were you just like, dang, like, that's, that's pretty dope. You know, like, he's masculine. He's strong. He's confident. He's a stoic, all this stuff, all the stuff that they you might attribute to this character. And I look at yourself, I look at yourself as the main character in your own life in your movie. Now, what would this character be doing? Would he be watching pornography all the time? Would he be masturbating all the time? The answer is probably not. And that's like that, that makes a big shift in people who are

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secular, not for people who are religious.

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Ah,

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it's really like it's all about understanding like what they're doing, you know, like, number one, do you understand that Time's running out

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Number two, do you understand that we're not guaranteed? The next hour, we're not guaranteed the next minutes, nothing is guaranteed, the only thing is guaranteed is that we're going to die. And we're going to be gathered right in front of our create a day of judgment. That's guaranteed. Now, if you are religious, you understand these two things. And then you see what you're doing. Well, now it's a matter of like, kind of breaking it down. Okay, why am I going in this path? Why am I doing these things? And a big one could be, oh, I don't have a spouse, I'm not married, you know, and I'll catch on to the talk on the ones where it then maybe what would they do? But um, nine times out of

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10, the people who are doing this they're not going to be maybe, right so they're trying to fulfill their sexual urges, without actually going on you and having sexual the woman without performing Zina outside of marriage. No, but that, I don't know which one's worse, man. I don't know which one's worse to watch pornography, or to actually go out there and perform similar both of them are terrible. And Allah has already said this. But it's like in reality, like when you look at like, what's happening deep down on a,

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I guess, the neurotransmitter level and all that stuff, like even on the spiritual level, like which one is actually worse? Which one is worse here? And they think that watching pornography is worse when like,

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any better. Better? Yeah, some people just associate on plays that game he tries to just you try to you know, make justifications. And now you even have now it's, it's instead of the VHS tapes, VHS tapes, right, you have access all over. But now you actually you can dial up, people end up dialing up and you got someone live? Oh, yeah, the live shows and all that, right is getting is getting disgusting, and is getting to the point where they're having 3d, the virtual reality stuff, once it gets like deeper into that, like trust that people are really going to be a rough point. But getting back to what we were saying about like the guy, if the guy realizes that he's doing it, because he's

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not married, well, then the next question is like, Okay, well, what was preventing him from being married, and then starting to do the work necessary in order to become married. So that way, you can get over the addiction, because the thing is with additions is,

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if we take the word addiction, now, it's actually just a pattern of behavior. Of course, each pattern of behavior will either lead you to reward or will lead you to punishment. But if you see it for what it is, and you understand a pattern of behavior can only be changed if you replace it with something else. And a lot of times people replace it with something worse, you know, it's like you don't want to, you don't want to change one poison for another poison. So in this sense, it's like, you want to change that pattern of behavior, with different patterns of behavior, which those patterns of behavior could be self improvement, you know, maybe developing yourself in your face,

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you know, in your deen and developing yourself financially, so you can support a wife because once you do those two, you're completing or first part of the self improvement. you're completing your 50% of your deen. And then once you have the financial aspect done, and you get married, now you've completed the other 50% of you

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see what I'm saying? So it's like, it's very simple. It's just a matter of like asking these questions and like going deep, deeper down into your, your psychology and figuring out how you're working. How's everything going on here? It's so amazing, refreshing to see someone who went through the journey, like you have, and now where you're at today, you know, giving this advice, you know, with the Islamic touch in it. It's just so beautiful to see. So what was that because it's no secret now.