I Want To Have Sex Drink Party Die And Still Go To Heaven
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Jesus was His Messenger,
which means peace be unto you. Welcome to another episode of the deen show. We'd like to thank everybody who's been viewing us every week, we're excited to get a lot of your emails. We try to encourage people to send us your comments and suggestions. Some of the
questions that are more scholarly questions. The first questions we ask that you don't send us those because I'm not a scholar. And some of the questions that we encourage are from non Muslims people wanting to know about Islam. What does Islam mean? Who are the Muslims? What is this Quran? Who is this messenger? Muhammad? So to be open minded, humble hearted, and send your questions and that's what we're going to be discussing. On this episode of the deen show a question that someone wrote in. And then we're going to discuss this question, turn it into a topic. And from there let you be the judge, see if you can benefit from this. Now, I'm going to go ahead and bring out my next guest.
And we'll hit the question. And then let you benefit when we come back onto the show.
Jesus was his messenger.
Why did that maybe, maybe it's just to break the ice. So all legal, political salawa. Louder. How are you? Very good. All right. So for those of you that have never seen the deen show, somebody kind of twisted your arm, you're sitting next to a Muslim. He said, Come watch this show. I just wish peace upon him. He wished it back upon me. And now we're just here talking about good stuff, peace.
Things that can bring you peace is Islam. So we're gonna be talking about this question that we got in from anonymous Islam. And this is something that I'm sure a lot of people are out there probably possibly thinking the same thing.
Now remember, we want you to be sincere with yourself as you're listening to this and the advice that will give towards the end of the
person says, I don't like to be religious because it makes me depressed. I would not be able to live your life. It's boring saying that, you know, living Islam is boring. What do you do for fun? Everything is forbidden in Islam. can't date Oh,
you can't meet your soulmate. You see there's a lot of for Muslim watching said Man, this person is already there. Probably the Muslim is probably laughing this is you know, but it's a big misconception that people have and we're seeing that right here. Come on, you can't go clubbing. God forbid if you miss that Friday, Saturday night at the club. You know, you got to get that VIP card. God forbid if I can't do that. Okay, you can't have occasional drink. Oh, you know,
Kool Aid and orange juice and all the other hundreds of drinks that are out there. That's not enough. But we got to have that jack on the rocks. Okay. You can't have sex if you feel like it. I just want to get down. So the person saying I want to get down when I want to do it.
That's boring life Eddie.
Women in your religion cover from head to toe. There's no freedom at all.
I had my own words into this a little bit. It's probably the sisters who are Muslim, which we know that many more women are coming to us are probably laughing at this but the person has, you know, given this question, I'm just adding a little humor to this book because it's funny to us, but we hope you're still listening look, but men can have more wives as long as I know. This is ridiculous, man, it's the best not to follow any religion.
I feel sorry for the Muslim females and etc, etc. They can have more wise and they put the the woman down. And the other final thing is the media and look at you know, the terrorism with media and associating Islam with all these things blowing up. Like I said, I really love my life and the things I'm enjoying in it right now. After we all die. We go to heaven. Anyway, thank you very much, by the way for sending this forgive me if I was a little sarcastic because it's funny, because we're gonna explain and hopefully clear you
Remind from all the junk that it's not your fault.
If you go on if you're sincere, you want to know the truth. After you get the truth delivered to you now you're going to be responsible in front of the, in front of your credit. So we're going to talk about this, I hope I
translated this or read it right? You can understand what you're talking about. Sure, let's go ahead and talk about this. There's a lot of points here, a lot of discussion sections, but it's something that the average person is thinking, I think the first comment we have to talk about is that are the life of a Muslim, submissive, Muslim is boring, boring is the
fundamental problem in this email isn't one of not being convinced of Islam. Yeah. The fundamental problem is that this person
is looking at Islam, from the point of view of how is it going to serve me?
The very fundamental question in Islam is, how do I serve God? Yes. And once you come into that submission, you are showered with all sorts of benefits and favors that you couldn't have even imagined. The ultimate one of which is peace with yourself peace. Now, but still, one of the great scholars of Islam have been Tamia Allah, he talked about the two fundamental obstacles that come in the way of people that want to reach the truth.
And he said, in Arabic, the words are
chahat, and Shahada doubts, yeah. And desires, desires, doubts and desires. Some people they're not sure if this is the truth, if they became sure they would follow it. Yeah. Other people, even if they were made sure it's true, that still wouldn't be enough for them to follow it. Because they are too addicted to their own desires, nightclubs, drinking all these other this laundry list of items. Yeah, these desires, the thing of it is, in order to truly have to be committed to the truth, it's not enough that we share the ideas of what is true and what isn't. Even though at the end of your email, you talked about, you know, women having to cover and men getting to have for, you know, for
wives and things like that, which is actually a minor issue, your major issue, even in your mind, the way you organize your thoughts and your email, your major problem is having to give up what you love. That's your major problem, then this other stuff, really, it's secondary, we could talk about it too. But really, we have to try and deal with the major issue. And the major issue is one's own desires, one's own inclinations. Now the thing of it is, religion, in our times is almost look like a casual lifestyle, kind of fashionable kind of thing. Yeah, I'm into this right now. And I'll try that out to try that out, too. It's kind of like, you know, changing fashions, statements. Yeah, you
know, yeah, or different music genres. I was into country now into hip hop or something, you know, it's like a fashionable thing, something convenient that you just exactly is very casual. Yeah, it's very casual. And the idea behind it is, I'm going to do it, basically, to find some entertainment for myself.
Right? It's going to be something curious for me that so you might see a lot of these different places, they got the rock bands, and you know, just try and write or draw the people in any which way. Exactly. So a lot of religions, because they're losing their followers, what they're adding is an element of entertainment into the religion, so that people will stick around. Right, yeah. So now, the first fundamental question we have or concern we have for such a person is you haven't sorted out why you were put on this earth. So is the reality of the human being that he was here to here? She was here to just eat, drink, sleep, have sex, have fun, and die? Was that is that the
purpose of their life? And if it is the purpose of your if that is the purpose of your life, and there is nothing coming? I mean, you're saying there's a heaven afterwards. So everybody goes to heaven, no matter what they do, no matter how many people they've murdered, no matter how many kinds of crimes they did, what kind of God would it be that would let just any any of these people get away with their crimes with all of this injustice that happened on the earth? And if you're saying if you would think a little deeply about this and say, No, people that do great, horrible crimes, and justices have to be punished, even your own limited intellect tells you this much. Then
understand, if you say, well, the stuff that I'm doing is not so bad. is not so bad. When the guy kills somebody, you know what he says to himself? That's not so bad. There's much worse that can be done. Right? We were talking about relativity of ethics. So the person who's messed up says, There's people far worse than I am. So I shouldn't be worried because there's people you know, if a guy kills one, he says, at least I didn't kill 100. Yeah, right. So this mentality of saying, Well, what what I am doing is just enjoying myself. I'm not you know, there's no consequences of this is because you've decided you've become the judge of what is right and what's wrong. What Muslims are
arguing with all sincerity and humility is that you and I are not in a position in the absolute sense to decide even what is good or
harmful for our own selves, even what's good and harmful for our own selves, we were not in a position to know what is coming ahead of us. Nobody left this earth, went into the ground, got buried and came back and told us there's a light at the end of the tunnel, and there's a heaven and there's a hell, nobody came back and told us, you can't say that you know this on your own from human experience. This is knowledge beyond yourself. So when you say with full confidence after this half the email about turning this life into heaven for yourself, doing whatever you want, that's Heaven, isn't it? Yeah. So turning this life into a life of pleasure for yourself. And then you
argue, well, I'm gonna put it here and then when I die, there's more coming. There's more coming, then you've decided to make a pass judgment on something you have no knowledge of, you have no knowledge of this, you know, allows origin speaks he says that the hula and Allah him Allah Tada, what are you saying on behalf of God? What you have no knowledge? Oh, are you saying on behalf of Allah would you have no idea about? So the idea that you're okay in the Hereafter is almost like a delusion. And actually, in fact, it is a delusion that I'm doing all right. There's nothing wrong, there's nothing wrong with my life. And especially, you know, if you're a young person, and you
think your whole life is ahead of you how many young people that thought their whole life was ahead of them, that were going to party away their life, died in a car accident,
that died on the way to the club, that never got a chance to live out their entire life, the way they had planned. And so their false hopes, your false aspirations, you think these things are going to bring you happiness, you know why you keep going back to the club, and you keep going back to these desires, because you never find satisfaction, you're never satisfied, you're never going to be fulfilled, you're never going to be content, what we are offering in Islam, what we have found in Islam for ourselves, is a means by which our hearts are at peace. They're at rest. They're not discontent, we are pleased with what we have. And I promise you, you know, and one of the most
beautiful things in Islam is finding your soulmate. That is one of the most beautiful gifts in Islam, yours one of the things right? That's your soulmate, you can't meet your soulmate. You see, what is a soulmate, it's not just about physical desires, physical pleasures, I'm sure you and other people, you know, have had the experience of thinking they found their soulmate getting used, getting abused, getting manipulated, like a you know, like like a toy, and then being thrown off being, you know, disregarded. And people like that, you know, when when somebody uses you like that, and somebody takes advantage of you like that, you lose respect for yourself, and you lose respect
for others. So the next time around, you're going to do it to someone else, and you're not going to feel so bad about it either. Because you've lost a little bit of your humanity every single time. what Islam is saying is so powerful, we treat our women with the utmost respect, our messenger told us a little and he said I'm the best of you are the ones who are best to their spouses, and I'm the best to mine. You know. So he teaches us to be the most merciful, kind and lenient towards our spouses. And you really, I don't want to talk about the reality of spousal abuse in the world, which happens in the Muslim world and happens in the non Muslim world. I'm not saying Muslims are not
guilty of spousal abuse, they are that's the defect in that individual. Yes, this is not to speak anything of Islam. And actually, they violated some very basic principles of Islam, if they're engaged and abusing their spouse, this is one of the most
prized, you know, responsibilities. One of the highest responsibilities A man has in this life, as a Muslim, is taking care of his wife. This is one of the things he's going to be interrogated about in front of Allah, how did you deal with her? Were you kind to her? Did you take care of her? Did you protect her? Did you honor her? Did you teach her etc, etc. These are the things that you know, Muslim men are supposed to take very, very seriously. But the bottom line isn't even this issue. The bottom line is forget men. This religion is not about men versus women. That's not the issue. The issue is you and your Lord, you and your provider. He gave you all of these things to enjoy. And
he's asking you, you can be diluted by these things. You can be you know, dissuaded by these things. Or you can have eternal pleasure, eternal life, something a pleasure for beyond what what these few things that you're obsessed with, can ever help you in, you know, you're going to get drunk, and you're going to throw up and you're going to have a hangover. You're going to go to the club, you're going to wake up somewhere you don't even know what happened to you the night before. You're going to do these things thinking it's going to bring you pleasure, and it's going to end up causing you if it hasn't already a lot of pain, you think you're happy? You're kidding yourself. You really are
so that those two next we covered the soulmate and many things before that. And the clubbing, you know, come on club, you know, the clubbing and the occasional drink. So is this really where the happiness is, you know, going from club Friday to Friday, so I live and work you know, throughout the week to make enough money to enjoy my Friday or my Saturday. Sure. And then I get to talk about it Monday with all the friends and then we look forward to doing it again next Friday. So it goes from Friday to Friday.
Life is just a week. Your whole life is just a repeat cycle of that entire week. That's all it is. That's all your purpose amounts to. And really I say, Why do people love alcohol so much? It was my personal take on it may or may not be true. It's an escape from reality. Why do people get into drugs? Yeah, it's an escape from reality, your life is so bad, you got so many problems, you got nothing to look forward to in your life.
The only thing you have to look forward to is that time where you will jump around like a wild animal, drink something to lose touch with your problems, your reality, your own purpose, right. So from weekend to weekend, you're just looking to get high or you know, get away from this world, this the reality around you, you don't want to take responsibility for why you were put on this earth. That's what it is, you're trying to run away from it, you're trying to escape it. You know, even if you're trying to find pleasure, if you're trying to find you know, physical pleasure, if you're trying to find monetary benefit, you know, people who run after money their entire life, they're
still not happy, they still don't find happiness, they'll buy this big old mansion that they thought they would love. And after a couple of months of living in that mansion, they'll find somebody else has mentioned that's nicer, and say, Man, I don't have that, and there's a void in their heart. It's never going to be fulfilled, your greed, your lust, it's never going to be fulfilled. Faith, real faith, true faith offers something that nothing else can offer. It can fill your heart with contentment, that's what we're offering. So you have to fight your desires. You have to for a moment, maybe for a day for a week, we asked you just to put your desires aside, just put them aside
for a little while and just deeply reflect on the truth. Reflect on your real purpose in life, and see if that can push you in a different direction. There were people like much like you that were in a life of really entertaining themselves, drowning themselves in in all of their seductions. And a lot of gifted them with just a possibility, or just a few moments of taking a seat back, pulling themselves out of that cycle, and thinking about it for a moment. And they found the truth, and they are now they are at more peace now than they were ever before. Why is it? Do you think that a young man, a young Muslim man, a young Muslim woman, you know, good looking healthy, smart, you know,
making good money, etc, etc. is not going to go to the club, it has all the power to what's stopping him? What is so powerful that it's it's not tempting him like attempts you? Why is it that he's able to fight that he's got something so powerful that nobody else can see. And we want to share that treasure with you want to share that that's what we want you to experience? You know, a lot of us we, some of us are just coming over from what we call jolly, coming over from the days of ignorance. Some people you know, they can relate to this and they're laughing at it now because they have that true peace and that contentment, they don't have to go to the club, they don't have to go chasing
the material world. But why do you think it is that someone you know, we've seen this, you know, the woman, she because the next point she mentioned is is you know, women, your religion, they got to cover from head to toe, but you'll see women just fighting so hard. It's like freezing outside. And she's got, you know, the skirt coming up here like manage you cold, she's just fighting. But now the cold weather, we'll still have to have her put on some kind of some clothes now or she'll have to give out, you know, the number the guys are out there. You know what their agenda is. They want to satisfy their desires. The woman she feels insecure, she's not giving, at least if Her phone's not
blowing up, and 20 guys are calling her a date. She's got to have this, this feeding to her ego and it becomes like a game it becomes like, you know, this life, we're just playing with each other. And that's really, what a lot of times, our sisters don't realize in humanity is that they're actually being used. They think they're dressing how they want. You don't want that you just want you're just appealing to the desires of men. That's what they want. It's not what you want. They wanted more than you do. They want you to dress half naked, you know. And so the thing about hijab and covering and modesty and things like that. First and foremost, it's a commandment in Islam, the Muslim woman
covers she she covers herself in a certain way. Why? Because she's convinced this is a commandment, a prescription from her Lord. And what her Lord says is better for her and her fulfilling her purpose. That's the essential point of this issue. But just to speak about clothing a little bit. You know, there are in Islam we say that there are three purposes of clothing. There are three purposes of clothing. one purpose of clothing is protecting yourself from the elements of the weather, like you just mentioned. Another purpose of clothing is beautification. Another purpose of clothing is modesty. There are three purposes, protection, beautification and modesty, but the
priority is different. In Islam, the priority first is what? modesty, that's the first priority. You have to have decency, you have to have you know, you shouldn't be objectified, you know. So that's the first purpose the second purpose of clothing in Islam
Of course, it's protection from the weather. And together with beautiful gates, there's nothing wrong with wearing nice clothes, nice clothes, so long as you are guarding your modesty. Right? What happens in a lot of non Muslim culture is that a lot of times people don't care about modesty at all. They don't even care sometimes about protecting themselves from the weather. Like you said, Yeah. What are they concerned about? what they think is beautification? Yeah, that's what their concerns got. She don't want the whistle. But she's got to have it. Yeah. So. So this is the, you know, it's a it's a change of shift. Because you know, and we say modesty, which is a kindness, it's
an aspect of humility. And why does a Muslim have to have humility, because they've acknowledged that they're not in charge of their life, there's a higher power, yeah. So even in their their speech, even in their daily life, and how they spend their time and their clothing. clothing is just one manifestation of humility. But we argue that humility has to be something that's a part of your speech, your demeanor, your mannerisms, the way you speak to people, the way you deal with your family, the way you deal with your Lord. There has to be humility all around. And one of those aspects is humility and clothing. Yeah, that's interesting. We're almost out of time, just a few
more points, we will hope that you continue on because this program is very short. And we just want to give you a good taste and clear some of the junk that's out there. That the the point about these, the woman it seems like the Muslim woman who do cover up, they make a conscious decision, even people that might come from abroad, they come over here, yeah, this is their opportunity to take off the hijab, they were they still there, they're there. They're not slaves to their desire, they're slaves to their Creator. And sure, they feel a great commitment to do this. And you have many American women who are taking a conscious decision and putting this on their own, they're not
forced to do this amazing thing. Now, the other point that the person brought up is about the organized religion, you hear this a lot where a person will be like, you know, that all religions are just man made. And we I would agree, we shouldn't have to follow a man made religion organized by men. So how can we clear up this misconception? I think what's happened is
this in Western society, there's been a lot of disappointment with certain religions, because you could see clearly the logical contradictions in them, like right off the bat, you don't have to go deep into finding the logical contradictions, you could see them right off the bat. So what's happened is that stigma has been, we've taken that that paint, and we've brushed all the religions with the same paint. And we've said, basically, oh, this one's met. Religion, one is man made religion, two is man made, therefore, all the others must be man made two. So we actually stopped looking into religion altogether. Right? What we're arguing is, that's not a fair assessment. You
know, just like you don't judge, you know, you don't meet two people from a certain race, and then pass judgment on the entire race. You don't need to people of that gender, and then pass judgment of the entire gender. Same, same thing with religion, you come across a certain religion and you're not satisfied with it, you didn't find it convincing. That's not fair for you to just brush off all other religions and say, oh, they're all manmade. That's actually an oversimplification, and a an intellectual laziness on your part, you're actually just justifying to yourself that Yeah, I was kind of thinking about submitting to my Creator, I didn't find something, you know, satisfying. So
I'm just going to go back to my old distractions, right? It's kind of like, I'll tell you, you're only going to dig, you know, the analogy, you're only going to dig into something, and you're going to only spend effort and time in something that you think is worth it. Like, if I asked you to dig a hole into the ground for $5. and dig 10 feet half the day, you won't do it. But if I say dig 10 feet, and I'll give you 20,000, you'll start shoveling. Yeah. So you only put time and effort into something that you think is worth it. If you think the truth and finding the purpose in your life is worth it. You'll dig and not find and dig again and not find and digging in and not fight until you
find right you're gonna keep on digging. But this this attitude of Oh, generally, just without even any inquiry without even caring to look at the matter, you just say oh, you know, I don't have to look into it. I already know that there's nothing it's all man made. We're all gonna go to heaven. Well, the idea of having comes from religion anyway. So where did you get it? Right? You're jumping the gun and you're, it's actually showing your intellectual laziness, your emotional laziness. And perhaps the reason is, maybe you don't want to find the truth. Maybe it's deep inside you. You're scared that if you find the truth, it's gonna ask you to change yourself. And if you don't want to
change yourself, unless there's no call to action, but you read will insano li F. Jolla amama. Yes.
Very beautiful. He says no, the human being he wants to continue to disobey and explode in his disobedience that is in front of him right away. He wants to stay in that rut. Yeah. And then that's what leads him to ask, oh, when is the judgment day coming? Anyway, when is the resurrection coming? It's not gonna happen. We're all gonna go to heaven. Look at what Allah said. And look at what you're saying. It's like he drew a picture of what you're saying. Subhan Allah, you know what, when I when I studied Hold on, and then I look at the kinds of questions
People ask, it's incredible. Allah knows us better than we know ourselves. You're not the first person to ask this question. There have been hundreds of 1000s of people before millions, if not, that have asked the same question of their Lord of their purpose in life. And there are people who found that answer and were sincere to themselves. And there were people who passed by these responses and said, No, my desires my temptations, my seductions are just too powerful for me, I'm going to stay in this mess. You have to decide if you're stronger than your desires. And I want to create an urgency with this person. I know they're sincere in the many 1000s that are watching that
def is a reality. It's not something that this should be put off searching for the truth. 1000s of people just in America die every day. I'm told that close to 150,000 die globally. So death can reach us at any time. And that's a fact. And we should kind of get on the ball about finding what the true purpose of our life is. Absolutely. You know, I never quantum you'd recommend mode. Welcome to February Masha. Allah says, wherever you may be, death will come to you. Even if you are in fortified camps, you're in the best security system. Death does not need to knock on your door, it will come right to you. You could be in your beds, you could be in your sleep, you could be driving
to work, you could be perfectly healthy one day and a heart attack and died. The next we say it was Southern cause sudden death, right cause of death unknown, this happens to death is not in your hands, it is the hands of your Creator. And because there's no timeline, you think you make a 40 year plan, you may not even have three hours left on this earth. I don't know how much time I have left, you don't know how much time you have left. So you we have to have a sense of urgency to finding our purpose. Because once that the clock stops ticking, and we leave this earth, then like one of the companions of the Prophet said a little the Allahu Allah. He said people are sleeping is
beautiful. He said people are sleeping. And when they die is when they wake up. That's when their eyes open. And not only young people are asleep. So we ask that you wake up before you go into the grave where everybody else thinks you've been put to sleep, the reality will be you've actually been woken up at that point. And you don't we don't want we don't wish that upon you. We don't wish that you wake up at that point. We wish upon you that you wake up now that you look at Think about your purpose in reality now. Yeah, and it's not fair now that you expect the creator or you go to your boss. And he told you and he gave you a list of responsibility. You neglected it now you want to get
paid at the end. Yeah, exactly. Doesn't make sense. Okay, thank you for being with us. Welcome. We hope to have you back again in Sharla gazzola. Thank you, I really hope that you're sincere, that you're honest. And I sure that you and I'm sure that you want to know the truth. And I hope that this somewhat will stimulate you to continue on in your journey to the most important thing as the one who created this universe and everything in it. Take the first step, don't fight the guidance.
Ask him to guide you, the one who created you and took care of you and is still taking care of you ask him for the guidance. And He created you. I mean, one of the beautiful thing is that he's the most loving and the Most Merciful and it'd be unfair that he wouldn't guide you but it's unfair to yourself. You don't even ask him to give you the guidance. So ask him to guide you take that first step, that first crucial step to wanting to know the truth. And then when the truth comes. The honor, it is very simple. And Islam is calling you to something that's in your very nature, to be a slave to be one who surrenders and submits to just God alone and not his creation. And if you can
dig this, this simple thing, then everything else will fall in place. So very beautiful way of life. And we hope that you got the benefit from the show and we look forward to have a new again. God will inshallah on the deen show until next time, Salaam Alaikum. Peace be unto you.
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You find one contradiction it can be from God.
But the rational idea the rational explanation is you do your best to give up worshiping God is why I will never give up spreading this. Hope that you take the necessary steps
You don't know if you're gonna live to tomorrow.
So you got to find that urgency to do the right thing right now.
The reality of life usually doesn't sink in until tragedy comes.
You got a few bad people. The media grabs ahold of that and spends it the way they want to.
If you say that you do not believe in Jesus you have stepped outside of this man you cannot be a Muslim is a tenant our faith too.
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