How can I get my wife to wear Hijab

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			The person asked, I believe it's a male who said I need some advice. He's I've explained the
importance of the, the the modest way of dressing Islam, which is the hijab we know as Muslims, this
is something that's required, he said to my wife for years now. But she seems not to take the issue
seriously. She's a good person, she prays but but won't put the hijab she fears it will upset her
family. You know, they're Muslim, too. It says by name. But it seems like not by action. When we
call Ramadan. Listen, she's talking about you. Or when someone dies, they'll bring out a mom to read
the crown. You know, this is how much to implement the dean, he says, so she fears upsetting them.
		

			Please give me some advice. We have a daughter also, and I fear she might follow in her footsteps.
If she doesn't set a good Islamic example for the child and need some advice. Talk to us. He says,
		

			Okay, well, I'm saying talk to you. But he's saying
		

			at first of all, thank you for having me again, your show. Thank you, Edie May Allah tala bless you
and bless your effort. And except from all of us.
		

			As for this brother, my advice to you. First of all, I ask you to
		

			always show your love and support to your wife as being your wife. Don't
		

			be mad if she may be lacking this area because she's interested from your question. She's a good
woman, she's a great woman, be grateful, thankful to Allah, Tada. And I think through love and good
relationship with your wife, I'm sure that you will have a good influence on her. And this year,
don't give up and don't change your feelings towards her. That's number one. Number two, I want you
also to ask Allah subhanaw taala day and night in your prayer. I know a lot of people like you and
your situation. A lot of good brothers good friends of mine. Unfortunately, their wives, they don't
dress properly. They don't wear hijab all the time. So what I will tell you the same thing I've been
		

			telling them, pray to Allah subhanaw taala ask him
		

			always from the bottom of your heart that a lot open her heart to see the truth the way you see it
as well. So that's number two. Number three.
		

			As far as I can, I can tell the T his wife knows that she has she need to have a job, but she
doesn't want to upset her family. One thing I will tell basically, the sister, what you really need
to care about the feeling that you really care about the most is the last Peridot, how Allah
subhanaw taala sees you as he's pleased with what you do. He's upset with what you do. I think
that's the most important thing in life. What is my relationship with the creator before my
relationship with any creation? He is has the one the
		

			Right over me over anybody else, anybody else and I want to tell you something. Monrovia La Hoya and
whoever allow will be pleased with him, he will make other people pleased with that person. If Allah
pleased with you, he will let other to be pleased with you as well. And whoever Allah subhanaw taala
is displeased with, no one will be basically pleased with him. So if you really want to please your
family, please our last product, Alice first. And I'll tell you, your family will accept it. Maybe
in the beginning they feel something strange, not used to it. But down the road, they will accept
it, they will respect it. Because it's not something I made it up or you made it up. It's something
		

			Allah our Creator, he have chosen for you. And he didn't choose this he didn't ordain this he didn't
legislate this for you for no good reason. It's for the best for you and for, for for you in this
word, your life and in the Hereafter as well. So what I want you to do sister to
		

			tell your parents Why are you doing this, you're doing this because you pleasing Allah subhanho wa
Taala because that's what a Lost Planet Allah ordered you to do. And also because you don't want to
		

			make a loss pantalla angry at you all you want to suffer the consequences of disobeying him. The
prophet SAW them said, there is two kinds of people among the people of Hellfire I haven't seen
them. And he said casiotone Arya, a woman who dress but in the same terms, the not dressing. One of
the meaning of this holiday, Emma said that she covered a part of her body that's supposed to cover
and she doesn't cover the rest. And which is basically that what
		

			some woman will do when they don't work a job. And also the profits or some of them said are
raphaela to fizzy netea he said that the woman who goes outside showing her beauties in front of pub
in the public places in front of men are not related to her. The prophets of Salaam said when she
walked she walk while allies angry at her for if you have a Billa that Allah sweater is angry at
her. So my dear sister, take this issue seriously, the issue of wearing hijab is not just
recommended something larger, it's not just
		

			not wearing hijab is just
		

			asked and it's one of the citizens in a snap. And I think you insha Allah with determination and
trust and Allah subhanaw taala, you can take that step, you can walk with your heads up high, and
you have full trust in Allah Subhana Allah the tea will change their attitude towards you. And if
you get a little bit of test a little bit of challenge, be patient and almost reward you for it.
Let's take a break with that said we'll be right back with more. Dr. Shay believers Sunni here on
the D show.
		

			I started asking deeper questions. The question I want people to really ask themselves
		

			is when you come back from a night on the town, you've been drinking, you've been boozing, you've
been dancing. You've been hanging out with girls, guys, whatever. Number one.
		

			Did you improve yourself as a human being?
		

			Number two, did you contribute anything to the betterment of humanity?
		

			The amazing thing is, is that the most advanced studies in psychology about human happiness show
		

			that these are the two key factors in making people profoundly happy. I take five minutes out of my
day and prayed to the Creator, and none of the creations and I feel deep internal peace. And I still
have my normal life.
		

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			Okay, so I just want to spend
		

			Just Just a little bit more time on this question, Is that okay? Yeah, I want to ask you now,
because we You said you also have friends in a similar situation and many of us do also. So now is
is the brother also is this important on him? Because if he doesn't pay too much attention to this,
and he lets it go, let's say he tried a little bit, he's not consistent. He's got to be merciful,
nice kind. And, obviously not oppressive and whatnot, like you said, but if he's not consistent, he
just gives up and then he lets the wife do what she wants. And now she's creating a fitting out
there for them. Is he going to carry too soon? No, you don't carry the center? Right? Everybody
		

			responsible for his own actions. Okay. As long as you give the advice you give the naseeha. He told
her about what would you what I lost, my daughter said is right. And, and then the end of the day,
it's her call on Allah subhanaw taala will hold her accountable for her actions, but you will not be
sinful for that. So what is too much? When does he like say, Okay, I told her like, say the person
told her once twice? Or does it is a lifetime just continuingly advising in a nice way. You know,
honey, I love you more. Can you? You know, do this, Allah will love you more. You just keep doing
it. Yes, but I think the person need to work a lot on is strengthening the relationship between his
		

			wife and a lot. Believe me, the moment that a man would be strong, she will take that decision.
She'll put that hijab on.
		

			You know, I was teaching a course this weekend. And here in Chicago, yeah, about shock of love. So I
had three girls and the class.
		

			They decide to wear hijab after the class. And they said, we've been debating all these days. But
hamdulillah after attending the class, basically, where the level of class for two weekends we've
been coming, we'll be listening. We're ready to make that decision. We're ready now. And I was so
happy, because they walk into me and one of them at least walked up to me. And she told me that very
clearly said, I want to thank you, I'm now ready to put the hijab on took that decision. Now, it's
like, I'm not gonna take it off. I've been putting it since I started the class. So you can see it
in her eyes, that this is the right moment. She she's thinking about it for a while. But something
		

			hits her heart. She attended the class, she listened to advice, they diverse, maybe story, something
striker, and she made that decision, sometimes to say he need to work and hair and his wife to
strengthen her relationship with a lot of data. So it will be ready for that. You know, a lot of
women also feel shy because as you know, when a sister where she job, she stands out in the street
more than me and you and anyone else? Yes. So a lot of them. They don't like this attention in the
society here. So they're scared from putting the hijab. But when you tell them no, you don't stand
out and like a sore thumb or anything like that. You stand out as the most beautiful Yeah, and you
		

			did a lot of spected
		

			any one because you obey our laws that you put this because you making a declaration that I'm
putting it because Allah wants me to do that. And I'm submitting myself to my lords. Yeah. And the
well Can this be now we know we're tested, you know, Muslims, we're, you know, we're facing a test
every day. Can this be one of the maybe biggest, you know, test that she's going through? But if she
passes, he sir, comes this, that this can Outland her in paradise? Absolutely. The more things are
difficult to do, and you stand up for it, and you do it, the more you're agile will be there your
reward will be Allah will multiply that he worked for you. And at the same time, we know Allah is
		

			the most loving, the Most Merciful, he can forgive but don't you open up yourself to, you know, the
anger of a love if you just continue disobeying him? Absolutely. What Why don't put myself in a
position like that. It's like 5050 comedy.
		

			He might forgive you might not we don't know. yet. I know that even a lot of systems, they don't
watch the job. And they are wonderful sister. They are good Muslims, they do a lot of good things. I
don't underestimate your roles at all I have. I have in my community sister who not maybe job, the
very active they contribute a lot. And we as a Muslim community, I think we should give them an
opportunity to do to contribute to work. But I believe also my heart, the more she will do things to
good deeds like this, she will eventually in sha Allah, it's the level that she can make that
decision and one day you will be surprised. She will come and she will bring in all those people
		

			that many of us we fear. They're not going to be in the grave with us or they just us they're
absolutely and has finished. We got one shot. So yeah, this is out of the love that we're doing
because we love our sisters, don't we? We do and we want the best for absolutely hamdulillah
hamdulillah. We're going to move on. We spent a little extra time because we feel this is a very,
very important issue. And we want people to benefit from it. So we have people like yourself
		

			To help us and we're moving on to something here, the the person wants to know now they want to know
about, what are some of the benefits of praying the night prayer? And what time does it start? Okay,
so what time? Is it officially the night prayer? And can I do just one unit? Only? Or how many do I
have to do when I pray? The night person says, you know, it's hard for me to keep my eyes open at
late at night. So the benefits? And what are some of the rules of and, you know, do I just can do
one unit? How many do I have to do before I go back to bed? Do I also, this one want to add? It's
not part of it? But does a person actually also then they have to sleep? Many people think you have
		

			to sleep then wake up? Or can you just say you're up at one in the morning or 12? Does ecocenter
niper? Please answer this, okay. The night prayer, which is a volunteer prayer, start after you pray
Asia, start after you praying. So doesn't matter in any normal situation, the pressure on time. And
after that, the night prayer time, start all the way to the federal prayer. And then when it's cold.
So you have all this period, this period of time to do the night prayer, you can do it in the
beginning. And you can do it in the middle, you can do it in the end of this period of time. You can
do it anytime you want, anytime you want. And the way you do it as the prophets of Salaam said
		

			Salatu layli method, a method a night prayer is to rock to rock to rock, then you end it with one,
then you end it with one.
		

			If a person cannot offer anything except one, that's fine, because in the visa Salam set out to do,
what are you either pray with or even it is one but the best way to do three Raka the minimum This
is the best way? Because he said to then you add 12233 Records, three records three years, as he
said in his question, or her question, I don't know. So basically, that's the night prayer. You if
you know that you can work up in the last third of the night. That will be the best time. How would
you basically calculate the last third of the night, you start from the sunset to the sunrise and
you look at this time divided by three. So the last third night, the last third of the night will be
		

			whatever time let's say it's from one o'clock all the way to five for example, or to 4am or the
federal prayer comes that will be the best time to pray or night prayer the best time to pray or
night prayer because the professor solemn said this is where a lot except not the drop off everyone
awake at that time.
		

			The prophets of Salaam told about one of his companions, he is the best one. If he makes pmla if he
prays in the night, you know night prayer was obligated and Muslim in the beginning of Islam, then
Allah abrogate this and he made it only volunteer. Otherwise in the beginning he was obligated.
Every Muslim obligated to walk up in the night and to pray. But Allah made it easy and us and only
made five days five prayers obligated obligated on us.
		

			When you stand up beside before our last pantalla in the night, you just declaring that you love him
more than anything else, more than anything that you desire, and a lot smarter. Finally, in sort of
such the after he mentioned those who woke up in the night and leave the bed and they pray. He
immediately said fella tada monessen mafia home in karate Aryan, Joseph Bhima, Kamiya Maroon, no one
can imagine the amount of reward waiting for you.
		

			Because of what you used to do in this world and like what you used to offer and one of it no doubt,
is offering this night prayer. So when you have like, things are getting tough and rough. This can
be an antidote to your problem getting up at that one third of the night and praying. Absolutely,
absolutely. No doubt. I know one sister, she she had a she's a Russian sister. Okay, she's her her
husband. And a while ago, they went to rush to have her passport pictures, but she wouldn't get a
job. And they said, No, we have to take off your job. And she's a new Muslim. She said, I'm not
going to take out my job. And her husband told her they had a lot of trouble there. So they want to
		

			go back to their where they live in Dubai. So basically, her husband told her, you know what, just
take the picture. She said no, I'm not taking the picture. And she said this brother was telling me
a story. He she wakes me up in the night. And she said wake up. And she pray every night. He says
every day we go to the passport office to do the passport. They reject us. So she wake me up and she
says, Look, I was reading in the night and I come across this verse. What is it and sort of Paula
Amaya tequila. Ah Allah Maharajah whoever have Taqwa worship Allah. Allah will give him an exit. She
wakes me up. And she let me read this and he pray with her. He said, Well lies your next day. When I
		

			went to the post office. We went to the same exact officer. All sudden this general called me and he
said, Come here. I see you coming every day. What do you guys have here? I said we know we have the
passport. We want to renew it.
		

			He took it he sign it in one hour, we got the passport with a picture with the hijab and we left.
That's what the MLA does. hamdulillah
		

			hamdulillah we're right back with more here on the deen show. When people say that the court and is
irrelevant, I say how can really become irrelevant.
		

			Rain is just like revelation. The Quran is a living book. It's not a dead book. It's not an action
book. It's a living book for all time, because God knows the past and the future. And so it's up to
us as Muslims to take the verses of the court and the values and the principles to put an end to
relate them to finding solutions for contemporary issues and circumstances.
		

			Back here on the deen show, with Dr. Shaikh will lead the Sunni, and we're gonna continue on
answering some of these questions that hopefully inshallah can be a benefit. For everyone who's
listening all over the globe all over the world. We're going to continue on, then we got time for
one more. Okay, inshallah. Okay, the the brothers asking, he says he needs some advice on how to
deal with his wife, that, you know, she's a great woman, up until that time of the month is called
what is PMS? Okay. Can I say that? Yes. Is that? Okay? Yeah, you know, is that time of the month?
And then, you know, it becomes like somewhat of a living * is very difficult. He needs some
		

			advice. He needs some advice, what could he do should leave the house? Should he run to, you know,
		

			take a vacation? No, no. First of all, you have to understand that woman goes through a lot of
		

			cycles and difference of emotions, ups and downs, especially during her period. Basically, a lot of
hormones, things going on in her body, you know, she might a little bit act differently than normal.
What you need to do you need to understand this, and not to be angry or frustrated with her, and to
give her room, you know, to give her a space. I don't mean by that to leave the house or anything,
but you can, easily asking her what you want. Don't try to hurt her there. Maybe that time, just
communicate with her talk about what she wants, what she likes. What, how can I make this period of
time? Easier new? How can I be, I need to be maybe a little bit more sensitive and what I say to my
		

			wife during this period of time, and that's what good husbands do they just ask their wife How am I
best love you and then be the best to you and the prophets of Salaam said the best among you to
their family, or the best among you. So I will advise you to open a line of communication with your
wife about this issue. Now on this issue when a woman is going through this is she allowed What can
she do to temper this? Like, can she we know she can't pray? Alright, so this is even more difficult
for her. I mean, because she read the Quran could she make Vicar What can she do? Absolutely. First
of all, if she gets so nervous and angry, the prophets of Salaam told us to say Mr. Rajiv, Allah
		

			protect me from the Shabbat. That's one two she can make without even if she doesn't pray, this will
take the anger away. Also the profits are seldom said if you're so angry, sit down. And he said if
you're sitting and you're still angry, just lay down in another word, just cut the conversation.
Don't involve in an argument if you're so angry, Scott it off, you know, said lay down just do
something else. And also one more thing that you basically if you're so angry like this, and it's
something nominal, you start making Vica loss pentatonic, even while you while you have your menses,
or even reciting some of the verses of the Quran. And if it's something out of control, you might be
		

			a good idea for you to see a counselor and to talk to talk to her about this is is taking any
prescription Xanax or any of these things that calm a person down is allowed in so this has to be
through if the doctor said it's not harmful, and it's, it's good for her? Yeah, it's a lot. Okay,
we're out of time. But any, I mean, we're really excited that you know, people are taking the time
they want to know they want to learn absolutely seeing that the rat race of life is not giving them
peace and contentment was gonna give them peace of submitting to the One God that created the
heavens and earth doing Islam. So what advice do you have for those people? Now that, you know, they
		

			really want to change their lives? They have so many questions. Some people might have some doubts,
how did they continue on this, this journey? You know, you always ask yourself, when you look around
you, and you see everything exists in this world. It's for a purpose. There's a reason behind it.
There is a benefit behind its existence. So I think the question that you'd have to ask yourself,
what is the benefit of me being here? What's the purpose of being here? What I'm doing at
		

			Basically, what's the purpose of my existence in my life? I'm fulfilling this destiny or not, you
know, I live in Texas, okay. And I have a neighbor who had basically a hunting dog. Yes. And he
takes this hunting dog every weekend, basically to to out out of the moment and he put his truck,
okay, and taking the dog basically to the to this farm or ranch, this dog in the backyard, jumping
up and down and so excited. Why? Because this dog was not made to stay in the backyard of somebody's
house. Yeah, this dog was made to be running in the field in urban area. So this dog so excited
because he's going to meet the destiny and the purpose fulfill the purpose of his creation. You know
		

			what this is exactly.
		

			As if we don't meet the purpose of our creation. We just lucked into that in a small place in my
daily life in my busy life. I didn't I'm not fulfilling what I'm created for. And the only time you
get that rush, that excitement, that happiness, that basically feeling when you start fulfilling the
destiny, your destiny, you fulfilling the purpose of your existence, which is to worship Allah
subhanaw taala and to submit yourself to Him at that moment, Bible test different things will be
completely different. Because at that moment, you met your destiny that Allah subhanaw taala that
have prepared for you. Great advice. Great advice. Thank you once again Shay for being with us. My
		

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