Channel: Tawfique Chowdhury
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in law says in his book is after the fact, he says look at the way of the Sahaba compared to our way today,
he says this Ahava were very extremely the actions and they had so much actions and coming close to Allah subhanho wa Taala. Yet at the same time, they were the most fearful Allah subhanho wa Taala that Allah would not accept any of the deeds. Whereas look at our situation, we are the least in actions and we are the ones that feel the most safety in our life. We feel that Allah subhanho wa Taala loves us we feel that level Forgive us, we feel a less happy with us. We feel the lesson Panama punishments.
Allah what are the difference that is that the people that do the most deeds are the ones that are usually the most worried about themselves. And the ones who do the least deeds are the ones that have the greatest of self respect, greatest or perhaps self righteousness, greatest of self love, that they themselves are always right, and perhaps everyone else is wrong.
My brothers, my sister in Islam, there's something that is missing in our lives that the Sahaba used to do every single day.
And it is the primary reason why we have lost fear of Allah subhanho wa Taala in our hearts. And that is called self reproach. Self reproach is something that is missing in our lives today. We don't do a accounting of our deeds at the end of the day like we used to do. But it was authentically reported that
at the end of the night, we would sit down and we would actually write down what of the good deeds he had done. And you would beg the left to accept it. And you would write down one of the bad deeds you had done, and you'd ask a lot to forgive him and cry over.
equity. How many of us actually do this? I know some of us are far better at accounting than others. Some of us actually sit down with an Excel sheet and we actually write down expenses. We do that expenses because we might be on a tight budget, or we're trying to save up for something. But the greatest of savings we shouldn't be doing doing for is gentlemen.
And the greatest suggests the greatest win would be on that scale on the Day of Judgment. So equity, where is our self reproach? And this is an advice to myself first before anyone else. What is our self reproach? What is a person that looks into the mirror and finds mistakes and faults rather than forgiveness and mercy for himself? What is the person that does not excuse himself for his own mistakes, when excuses others for their mistakes? Rather, today, we have a different attitude with others. Today, we expect perfection from others. And we get angry when we don't see perfection from them.
But we forgive ourselves for lack of perfection. We ourselves realize we can't be perfect ourselves. But we forgive ourselves when we lack it ourselves. But when our brothers do something wrong, oh, he said this or he did that. He didn't do this to me. He didn't consult me. My wife was not speaking to me, my children listen to me. So Pamela, how many faults do you have? That you have overlooked yourself? About a lot. What you have done is looked at concentrated on the false
equity. This is not the attitude of someone who is humbled. This is not the attitude of someone who's marvelous. And this is why one of the biggest problems today biggest myths today that we have in our own mind. Is this thought that we have
the biggest flaw that we have is a we think ourselves as missing and we say that uninsured
I'm sincere. What do you mean you're sincere? How can you even claim to be sincere. You're not even the S of sincere yet. You don't even come close to the that word. Look at the examples of people that are sincere.
Sincerity means, and this is what
he said. Sincerity means that when you look at yourself, you think Allah has not forgiven you. And when you look at others you think Allah has within everyone.
This is sincere.
Sincerity is being preoccupied with oneself,
and forgiving everyone else, because everyone else is doing such good deeds. Sincerity is remembering your own sins, and you can only remember your own sins, not your deeds, and that you beg Allah to forgive you for your sins, and you're worried about that Allah hasn't forgiven you. But you congratulate your brother or sister in some because you can see good from them. It might be a celebrity, or pray, or a hedge that they have done or even $1, they've given a charity, and you congratulate them because Allah subhanaw taala accepts even the slightest of good deeds, if it is done in his name. And you can only see sincerity other people's work.
Is it not time, my brothers and sisters Islam to have this attitude about ourselves, to consider ourselves to be the worst, and to consider others to be the best. This is the sign of a humble person. A sincere person is someone who thinks that he has done nothing. And everyone is doing something really great. In fact, it was reported for for Delgado, the American that used to go to students in alpha, and the other factor things and needs to tell them all the students one of the names.
If you think there's anyone on the plains, today that is worse in the sight of Allah, and has more sense than you and me.
That woe to you and what you're thinking,
more to you and what you're thinking, look at this man, a righteous man, nothing but good has been reported about delivery. I don't think you've ever heard anything bad about that.
We only speak good about this today.
But to look at the class that he had, that he could only find self reproach, could not find a single fault with others. And if you did, it was just a mistake that would correct not the individuals that today this is what we do to our children. Unfortunately, we demonize the whole child instead of the action itself. Instead of saying that was a wrong thing you did we say no, you are the wrong person.
Instead of saying that was a lie that you spoke about, we said, Oh, you're the liar. Why do we demonize individual when it's an action that he's done.
So have problems with the actual individual. And this is my advice to my brothers and sisters. Well, the one of the aspects of validity and one of the aspects of self reproach is that you are more concerned about your own good deeds and your own bad deeds, your own good deeds, and they'll never be accepted by law and your own bad deeds, and they are the greatest thing that are stopping you from gender. And whereas everyone else you see only fair
to say that when you look at an older person, you should say, oh, how much more good has he done more than me? And when you look at someone younger than you, you should say, oh, how much less since as he doesn't
look at the attitude of a humble person. Look at the attitude of someone who has self reproach and is worried about himself.
He looks at someone younger and doesn't look at the other way and say Oh, I'm so much greater. I've done so much more than that. You know how much less since you look at a little child and you feel sorry about yourself? Because he is Mashallah particular sinless. Now, what is your full of sin? I look at an elderly gentleman as a Mashallah, how much was Allah as compared to you. And this is the attitude of someone who has more kindness. This is the attitude of someone who is more concerned and worried about himself to anyone else.
Because we don't have self reproach. We don't feel as much as we should. Because we don't have self reproach. Our hearts don't break in shame in front of Allah subhanho wa Taala because we don't have self reproach. we overlook relationships that are very important to us. We overlook our relationship with the parents of relationship with our children, with our wives with our brothers and sisters and above all with Allah subhana wa Tada.
Look at the example of
the man who had extreme self reproach was recorded in an authentic habito sola sustainable Muslim that once the Sahaba got up at the depths of the night because they were hungry, and all they found was the Prophet system coming out was lucky.
Up and down very, very fast. So the king, the Prophet says, someone said, You have slowed up. Somebody said that why are you walking in such a hurry pace that you're so worried What's wrong?
So the prophet SAW Selim, grabbed almost like this, as if he was really worried. He looked at him and grabbed him, and said Yama, after Salah is like, you know what I did. This is what I did. This is what's making me confused. I went home, after Salah, and I was willing to go to sleep in my bed. And then my hand dropped to the side, and I found a single date, and I ate the date.
And then, after I'd finished eating the day, and had gone through my throat into my tummy,
a thought came to my mind, what was the thought? Was that date a date of charity that someone had given me?
Or was that date, a date of soda, that someone had given me a gift that someone had given me? If it's charity, then obviously it's charities, profits, profits can eat something they're not allowed to. Because otherwise the dirt or people's wealth and profits are higher than that, but a gift, but that's not for the conferences. So what have made the Profit System restless is that his body was being fed on food? That Unfortunately, he didn't know what it was for him. Yes, what the how many of us do that? How many of us sometimes we're like, we don't take second notice. How many of us sometimes you say okay, well, here's some money for that.
Good, you take that money you put in your pocket, you mix it with all your other money. You don't care sometimes over your life. So you go to the shops, you go cold, you want to buy some stuff $200 is a bill, you only got $200 you know some of that money or charity money. You understand spending and thinking okay, I'll get back to charity later on. But you have no have to. You have no right. That charity money is not used, you have no right to take a loan from it. You're just in me to transfer costs. How many of us the Protestant done the same thing you could have gone to his other part of English that he was given a way for someone to give him a gift right? And then replace that
date. Equivalent that but therefore this is what fear of Allah which is fear of Allah subhanho wa Taala and self reproach is that you don't excuse yourself for these sort of things at home.
Because how many of us know when death will come? Perhaps death will come before we can replace it. And before we can tell somebody who took something from the government, perhaps death will come before we can do that. And that is the fear of Allah subhanho wa Taala that isn't truly sincere people. It was once reported that a man came to the A goats, goats another boy, a boy was herding goats came with some milk that he had heard it from the sheep and the goats that he that came
gave him the bucket to get the ball to drink a bottle of shampoo that thinking he drank it until his tongue was full. Then he gave it back. And then suddenly the look of fear came on his face. Are these goats of Southern communities the socketable goats, goats that have been given from Jakarta are these digital give me a gift from your own goals.
And the Bible's set said that The Jungle Book of feared the most resembles of Southern meaning these are the goals of charity which is not helpful to take unless he's authorized to do so right.
And it was sent down locker Captain vomiting vomiting until he had blood that came up.
He could not keep it inside he said I will not allow my body to be nourished or anything which is harmful. Yeah.
My brothers my sisters now we get we get we will vomit if we eat pork, right? We do that. If someone by mistake ends up eating something they suddenly realize oh my god, this is pork vomit like crazy. I know everyone who will do that. You don't have to be able to bucket to vomit when you eat pork right?
What about the harm of
love would have forgiven them but you did no. mistake is a mistake isn't not so
let's uh, Pamela, such as an example of someone who truly has self reproach, busy with himself more than others.
And that was his way of overcoming. He did not Excel over the Sahaba and
he did not Excel over the Sahaba in the number of incinerated. He did not Excel over the Sahaba in the number of records of solid that he prayed at night, because obviously I would pray every night anyway. He did not Excel over the 70s What did he Excel over the Sahaba and it was truly fear of us.
It was self reproach and it was worrying and being worried about what someone has done
and how much he has put forward for the cause of Allah
This is the one who's to say, I wish I was a tree that was cut down and it was neat.
fit my brothers and sisters, Islam.
humility and humbleness and self reproach is the call of the hour to the
humility and humbleness and self approach is a call out today. If we were humble, if we're truly sincere, we would bother with ourselves. If we're truly sincere and truly humble, we'll be more concerned about our own good deeds and our bad deeds and anything else.
If we're truly humble and truly sincere, will not have problems with our brothers and sisters around us. And any problems in any areas of the health. We would not get as hungry as we do today, sometimes today, we get more angry with the brothers and sisters that we deal with ourselves. And that's a real shame. That's a real shame.
That's a terrible shame.
And if we truly humbled and truly yourself approach where we will look at every relationship that is important to us, and we'll look what it is that we are doing
that has defeated that relationship or what is it that we need to do to improve that?
So look at our relationship with our parents. And so what is it that we have to do to make our parents happy? good look at the children what is it that they need that Allah asked me about what our wives will allow me What about our brothers and Islam about our brothers and sisters siblings, blood brothers and sisters and other brothers and sisters around us who slimming
fuss when senior names is on the on the news and Chechnya and Kashmir and Palestine doesn't, we are more worried about them, that sometimes our own neighbors that sometimes our own family and sometimes our own brothers and sisters around us,
we have this somehow this pseudo understanding that somehow if we're more concerned about something out there, that all of this everything else will be able to look No, you have to rectify this relationship as you have to rectify that relationship.
If everyone that you write
your own over thinking about the Gaza issue, will not rectify the issue with your wife will not rectify relationship with the love will not rectify relationship with your children will not have different issues with your neighbors or with your parents. Give everyone their right, give the right of the Gaza brothers and sisters there Right. Which is a lot of your money at this time. Give the brothers and sisters around you there right, which is to visit them. And to give them gifts and to be good with them. And to invite them to your homes. Give your neighbors their rights,
which is to visit them to look after them to care for them. Give you a watch that you arrive, give your children their rights.
And your parents.
And let me end with this point. This issue of parents equity, every one of us without fail, every one of us without fail have has not been the best that we can be to our parents. Every one of us without fail has not been the best that we can be to a parents. Why is that? What's the proof that we can very easy proof. And the proof is the profits are seven cents if you were to your parents as you should be that allowed except for
answering my question now. Brothers and sisters now answer this question. Does Allah accept every dollar you make? Have you noticed on accepting every dollar you're making? Or are you noticing that sometimes Alexa,
what do you find? Would you agree with me that lovers except for your dog? Would you agree? Most of us would say the same thing. Most of us would say you know what I find a lot, sometimes accepting some dog. Sometimes when I do like to see the Lexus or sometimes actually fine. And you can think of things you've asked the legislature for for you in your life that align with the law. And the reality is if you were to your parents and you should be loved, it's all you do. And that is in the context of man by the name of voice of government
was not as a hobby but who the prophets of Salaam told
there is a man by the name of Wesley puppy who lives in Yemen. He is very, very righteous to his mother, if he makes a lot like sepsis. From that impetuses the benefit of being righteous to your parents as you should be is that Allah will accept all your
love. And that is why
if you find oh so kindly tell him to make dua to Allah to forgive you. This is almost being told to ask a person who's not as happy.
So in the country explained,
we live in a time on our solar system and beyond.
You're Muslim, he became a Muslim. But what stopped him from coming to see us a little less.
Because was having some savvy, someone who saw the solar system in the flesh, right whilst he's alive and then died as a believer. So in the definition of having a valid Sahabi, we live with our solar system, but didn't come to Medina, what prevented him? Because he had a mother and he was busy looking after them.
And that was enough for this third theory to be greater than us having the eyes on us.
So much so that Ahmad was asked to make to ask me to make the offer. Yes.
And let me end with this direction, which is
relation, a man came
to the classical era, once you
finish, the man came and whispered in his ears. But the students around him heard what he said. He said, there had been a glass of lemon really made you see, when he began the massive major sin. Can I tell you, similar last year, the way he went away in the finals, look at what is he said, I've killed somebody.
Okay, killed somebody. And it was not a mistake.
Okay, it's not a mistake, I killed somebody. And I wanted to hurt him in harmony. And I threw something in his head, and storm came and hit his head, and he didn't want to kill him. I wanted to hurt him, definitely. But he died.
So even if it's not a judge, saving the past doesn't have to take him to the judge and say, okay, kill him. No. And that's what we were meant to do the profit center. Initially, when the women came and told the profit side community, that separate tournament, you know, and that was a profit system as a, as a chef, as a scholar as an advisor would not be as a teacher, then when the sister kept on persisting woman kept the persistent universe alive.
Then the proposition of the party came in, which is okay, this is the punishment
you're gonna pass was one of the five, he was appointed judge. So his advice is to keep the sins almost remain hidden. So he did not take into the job. So what did he advise him?
Given a basket quiet for some time, he killed somebody intentionally. He kept quiet for some time, and then said also Also, do you have a mother?
Listen to what he said. He said, Do you have a mother?
And the man said, No, my mother's passed away many years ago.
Even the bus put his head down, so disappointed.
And you know, he made a sound of a sign that says, You know, I don't really have you know, we make that sound, whatever, in that case, is that we have the repent to Allah, be good to the family of the people who have killed give them the money, do Hutch slaughter, in the name of Alain on some basic good deeds, he told him, and May Allah forgive you.
Command went away. So the students in the class came across, came to the bus and said, Yeah.
Why did you ask the man does he have a ma?
Why do you ask the man does he have a mom, when he was asking for a means of explanation from the sin of killing somebody, as even a boss looked at them? And he said, also unsold because I cannot think of a good deed that is greater than looking after your mouth.
If there's anyone here, who needs self reproach about young parents and your relationship with your parents, that this happens to be enough.
That even bus was going to use goodness to parents as a means of wiping out the sin of killing somebody. Yes.
So how far are we, from truly,
truly thinking about the value of being good to
smil Alhamdulillah wa salatu salam ala alihi wa sahbihi wa.
If there's anyone here who's confident Allah is happy with him, they let him ask for Jelena right now. Right now. If there's anyone here who's confident that they're going to go to Germany right now, they should just ask Allah for death. That's what Allah says. If you're confident that Allah has given you a guarantee, and Allah will be happy with you when you die, you should just go to general right now there's no need to live in this dunya anymore. And
the truth is, there's no one here was confident. No one at all.
In the conflict in the Sahaba, were not confident even the Sahaba who were told that they would go to jamna were afraid that something might overtake them before. And that is what stopped them from asking Allah for death at that point.
Islam there's no one here on the face of this dunya who can say that they will go to gentlemen directly.
Doesn't matter who Cyril subramania dream doesn't matter. So some of you it doesn't matter, it doesn't matter you have doesn't matter what you've done in your in your life, how many will be the first people to be thrown into China? How many people who have given the all their money in the pocket along with the first people to be thrown into
because they will not humble people, and they did not have self reproach.
So what is the practical advice that I have from my brothers and sisters about how to have self reproach in two ways, number one, before doing an action, and number two after doing an action, before you do an action, whatever it is that you have to do,
you're going to select somewhere you're going to meet some brothers, you're going to work somewhere, you're going to call somebody somewhere, you're doing some some work somewhere. Think for one moment, stop, get into the habit of thinking, get in the habit of just stopping and thinking selflessly to walk around to think some of us need to be quiet, some of us might need to be in the car. I'm in the shower. I like being in the shower, something happens to me. When I'm in the shower water swirling in my head,
or driving both of them work for me. Whatever it is, think about your step and what you're about to do. Before you do one deed. Think.
Is this the best thing I should be doing? Am I overlooking some right? Am I doing something good. But when a good deed overlooks a greater good deed, and it's a bad thing. That's the way of the shutdown. So think about one D before you do it. Are you doing a right way? And is that the right thing? You should be doing? Something? That's number one. So self reproach before that. And then self reproach after that. Have you noticed something brothers or sisters? The prophets have a lot of Cinder right after he finished his solo. What did he use to
slough? off last offer? Right? Everyone knows that. But we all know that. But he had just prayed.
It is the best thing you could do anything step up?
Yes or no?
He did the best thing you could do listening, Stefan right after what do you think about that for all our day to day life? When we're not doing the best thing that we can do. Very soon we'll be going back to work. How much is still fun? Do you think you should be doing it
very soon be drunk driving back to home How much is the harder thing should be doing that.
So you're looking after your dad
is the father of
forgiveness, you're wrong. Whatever I've done has not been enough for your race. My class is deficient, my action is deficient. deficient, everything is deficient about nothing is good about me. I have done nothing. And if it was not your goodness, I would not have been guided to this section. So complete infrasonic
tell yourself and break this up in front of a lot of strangeness and amazement.
And be totally ashamed of yourself. Totally ashamed with how you as a human being could do just that little bit of thing for a lot of breaking.
A lot of breaking
equity, after you've done a deed.
Self reproach also includes that you asked yourself, what is it that you can do to make up for the deficiency the action?
and self report also includes asking yourself asking again again, next time am I going to do that again?
And how can I better improve myself? So please provide for my sincere passion.
Remember self reproach before you do something, get into the habit of it. This is why I used to see my church and mercy upon them when they should come to Salah they wouldn't sell love straightaway so many of us do. Stand up the face of love straightaway. Yes, that's fine. inshallah, but take a moment where you stand in front of what do you want to do?
Take a moment to pause and think. And that is why as I clarify, they'll give you far more concentration.
And after you've done the need to take a moment to pause don't go literally straight into your robotic wisdoms of the law. Take a moment to think about what you're doing.
And what you're saying. Take a moment take a pause one minute to minute will not destroy your life. And that might make you far more clear and will give you far more clarity.
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