Tamara Gray – Hub f sabli llh Story of Salman Al Farisi and Abu Darda

Salman al farisi, who shows up at his friend's house, Abu darda,

whose wife is just fed up with him. He she's just like this man.

He's just his. He doesn't eat, he doesn't sleep. I don't know what

to do with him. She was just frazzled, trying to figure out,

you know, how to bring him back to Earth, so to speak. And Salman

Pharisee, he stays the night, and he his friendship with him is

really made clear when, in this friendship, he like he's he's,

first of all, he invites him to eat. Abu Dhabi invites Salman, in

fantasy, to eat, may Allah please open the bowl, and he says to him,

or Salman Pharisee is going to eat, but Abu Dhabi is fasting, so

he says, No, you come down and sit here and eat with me. And then

when it's time to sleep, Salman fantasy gets up. He's not going to

sleep. He's just going to pray. Abu tarda that does. And so Salman

pulls him down, and then he tries again. He pulls him down. Now in

this story, I just want to make sure I underline that in the last

third of the night, he gets up and he starts praying, and he Salman

fares, gets up with him. So it's not like this story is in any way

discouraging from tahajjud. It's quite the opposite. It's a story

of tahajjud and a desire for a longer one, but Salman Pharisee

shows how fisibilid shows that actionable love for sudden for Abu

Dharr da when he is concerned about his physical health and his

family relationships,

and he helps him come back to Earth, so to speak, and reminds

him that everything has a right upon him. And then their

relationship is very long, and we see them writing letters to one

another and continuing to encourage one another and also

scold one another, sometimes in and in what they felt they could

be doing, the other could be doing better. And all of this is part of

that. So I want you to think about somebody that you love.

Okay, think about somebody that you love. How are you doing in the

thinking about how to help them spiritually?

On one hand, there can be if there's this feeling that, well,

what are they doing for me,

which isn't harmful, that is hopeful. Dunya,

but then there's the question of the risk, if I am

in loving someone, how can I serve them, and what can I do for them

and really wanting to help them? That I think we feel like there's

a risk there somewhere,

somehow, our culture has taught us that we have to be really careful

not to over love people,

because they'll walk all over us or they'll hurt us. But here, I

mean, and I'm not talking about being foolish. I'm not talking

here about knowing someone is hurting you, or knowing someone is

spending all of your finances or No, no, no, no, I'm not talking

about that. I'm not talking about being a fool. But there's a long,

a big, thick line between being a fool and being of service and of

actionable love.