Taimiyyah Zubair – Taleem al Quran 2021 J02-032C Tafsir Al-Baqarah 235-236

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The speakers discuss various reasons for proposal to a woman, including the possibility of a woman being parties to a male father or a woman being parties to a female father. They emphasize that a proposal made by a male father or a female father is not honoring a woman who is already married. The speakers also discuss various scenarios where a woman can propose to a male father or a female father, including the possibility of divorce, sexual accusations, and problems with couples not meeting obligations. The speakers emphasize that the MaHA is not a condition for the wife's validity, but rather a condition for the wife's wellbeing.

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			Well Arjuna Harley calm FEMA I'd love to be him in fifth but in Nissa e o Akane. Anton fee and fusi
calm there is no blame upon you for that to which you indirectly allude concerning a proposal to
women or for what you conceal within yourselves. Now, like I mentioned, HIPAA is proposal and the
proposal to a woman can be done in different ways. First of all, a man can propose to a woman
directly or he can propose to her family, okay. Secondly, the proposal can be the city when meaning
openly or it can be 31 indirectly 30. And like I mentioned, is to indirectly allude to something and
the three is to be direct, to be very clear to be straightforward. So it the three is sorry,
		
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			proposal would be what, for example, a man says, I want to marry you. Or he says to a man, I want to
marry your sister. I want to marry your daughter. Something like that. Guardian, indirectly. For
example, he says to her, I'm looking to get married, okay? Or he says, I wish I could find someone
like you. Okay? Or if the woman is in her waiting period, he says, let me know when you're in the is
over. Okay? Or he says to her family, let me know when her waiting period is over. All right. We
learned in Heidi's that when follow up in case when she was divorced, and she was given her final
divorce her third divorce, the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam said to her that when your EDA is
		
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			over, then let me know okay for either healthy for Addy, Nene, inform me Tell me when you're in the
is over. So when her inter was over any she went to the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, and she
mentioned to him about how two men had proposed to her already. And the Prophet sallallahu where it
is, and I'm told her that one of them is poor. And the other man is very harsh with women. And the
Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam got her married to Osama bin Zaid or the LA Mourinho. Okay, so why
did the Prophet salallahu Alaihe Salam tell her that when your ADA is over, let me know. Because
when you're in those over, then I have some ideas about who you should get married to. All right. So
		
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			this is a 30. Okay, this is an indirect way off proposing. Now here, I'm inhibiting this app,
specifically which women, the women who are widows whose husbands have passed away, okay. So there
is no blame on a man. If he indirectly proposes to a widow during her waiting period, or he just a
comment on fee and fuzzy comm. He just keeps that intention in the heart and he waits for the reader
to be over. And then he makes the proposal. The point is that it's not sinful for a man to think
about marrying a widow who is in her waiting period, this is not a sinful thought. This is not a
wrong, a bad idea. All right. And how is it that he can make an indirect proposal, even our best
		
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			little Dylan Warren who said that he can say something like, I am looking to get married, and I hope
that I will find a righteous wife. Okay. Some other opinions are, for example, he says, I have a lot
of respect for you, and I wish the best for you. You know, things like that. II can say that. So
this kind of hitbox this kind of proposal is permissible. what is forbidden is a direct proposal to
a widow, who is in waiting period, that is not permissible. Okay. Why? Because it's disrespectful
towards her, she is grieving the loss of her husband, and you are directly asking her for marriage.
And he this is very disrespectful. Secondly, remember that marriage can only take place now after
		
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			the waiting period is over. So if at the beginning of the waiting period, a man goes and proposes to
her directly, and says that, you know, after your waiting period, we'll get married. And two months
later, he changes his mind. This is not fair to her. All right. And thirdly, if she is told that,
you know, someone wants to marry her, and that's someone who's wealthy someone who was a good man,
she might be tempted to shorten her waiting period out of fear of losing him. All right. So there's
different reasons. A man is not allowed to make a direct proposal to a woman who is in her waiting
period, off headed, okay, meaning the widow. One more thing I want to clarify over here. If you
		
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			think about the marriage proposal, like I mentioned, there is direct and indirect okay. So there are
situations when proposal whether direct or indirect this
		
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			So you have already learned both are prohibited, okay? Both are prohibited when, when a woman is
already married, okay? If a woman is already married, her husband is alive, she has not been
divorced, she is living with her husband, or she's not living with her husband, any whatever the
situation. The point is that she is married. It is not allowed for another man to propose to such a
woman. It is extremely wrong, that a man proposes to a woman who is already married. And sometimes
it's not a man who proposes directly or indirectly, it's his family, any, it's amazing that a woman
is married. And she is told that, you know, if only you weren't married, so and so would marry you.
		
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			And that so and so is extremely wealthy, or she already admires him. Now, what is she going to do?
She's going to want to end her marriage. Right? Why so that she can marry the other man. So this is
wrong. All right, this is the work of shaytaan. You Frederick Cobain and Marie was OG separating a
man and wife. This is the work of shaitan. This is also prohibited a direct or indirect proposal are
prohibited to a woman who has been given Pollock of luxury, and she is observing her inner because
remember that a woman who has been given the revocable divorce, she's still the wife of her husband,
he has the right to take her back. And he has to keep her in her house and spend on her. And, you
		
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			know, if he dies, she inherits from him. If she dies, he inherits from her. So it would be wrong,
very wrong, you know, for a man to say to her that when you're in there is over, let me know,
because she is married. Okay. Secondly, both direct and indirect proposal are permissible in some
other cases, which cases, the case of a single woman, okay, whether it's someone who has never been
married, someone who is a widow, or someone who is divorced, and as long as she is single, okay,
through hula, even or through Talaq or through death, any The point is that when she is single, it
is permissible to propose to her and this proposal can be direct and it can also be indirect. All
		
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			right. Thirdly, what we learned in this idea is that only 30 indirect proposal is permissible and
direct proposal is prohibited. All right, when, when a woman is observing her he dad, okay. During
that time, it is not permissible for a man to give a direct proposal. Rather, he can give an
indirect proposal he can say something like, let me know when you're either is over, or any man
would be lucky to have you. Okay, and something like that. So these are the different scenarios.
Okay, well Arjuna Heartlake on FEMA of work to be him in fifth but in the salary Oh, a conundrum fee
and fusi come Alright, him Allah who are not considered Karuna Hoonah, Allah knows that you will
		
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			mention them that you will remember them. Meaning, Allah knows that you will think about marrying
such a woman, Allah knows that you will want to say something, at least. All right. And this is why
he has allowed you to make an indirect proposal, but not a direct one. Why would a man want to make
an indirect proposal to you know, kind of hint to the woman that, you know, I am interested? So wait
for me. Okay. Don't marry someone else. But he cannot say this directly. So he's allowed to give an
indirect proposal. All right. Arnim Allahu unknown. Saturd Corona. Hoonah Well, Akela to worry, Guna
Sylvan, but do not promise them secretly do not make an arrangement in secret. Now led to our Edo
		
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			Hoonah sibilant, this has been understood in a number of ways. First of all, this has been
understood as that do not make a promise in secret, a promise to the woman that when you're in those
over, I will marry you. Okay, don't make that promise. So don't make a direct proposal. And a
promise the woman that you will marry her after her waiting period is over. Secondly, this has been
understood as do not marry her in secret law to worry do Hoonah sirloin meaning do not marry her in
secret, and this is forbidden in this case. And also otherwise, secret marriage is not correct.
Okay. You know, there are conditions for the validity of Nika and one of them is the presence of
		
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			witnesses.
		
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			is all right. And why is it that witnesses should be there so that the marriage is known? All right.
So a marriage should not be a secret law to worry don't want to settle. And some have said that this
means do not make an arrangement in secret. And this means do not do Zina. Okay, so secret secret
over here has been used for Xena, meaning if you're going and talking to her in secret, eventually
that can lead to Zina, so allow Kyla to worry dunlea sera illa Anta Kulu cola ma rufa, but you are
allowed to say a colon ma rufa meaning an indirect proposal. Now, one thing I want to mention over
here is that many women get fooled by promises of marriage. Okay? So first of all realize that if
		
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			someone is talking to you secretly, okay, a man is proposing secretly, they're only talking to you
on Snapchat so that the conversation is not even saved. Or they're only talking to you in a private
setting, so that no one else can find out. Their family does not know his family does not know his
sister does not know his mother does not know his brother does not know. And he does not want your
family to find out either. There is a problem over here. There is a problem over here. Don't get
fooled by such a man. So loud to worry, do Hoonah sera men have been prohibited from making such
promises. Okay. And if someone is just promising that you know what, after a year, after two years,
		
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			after six months, these promises are probably not going to be fulfilled. So lead to our eluna sera
Illa, Anta Cola, cola Marinova and what is called a MANOVA. It is in the context, it's referring to
indirect proposal. And in general, what is called a model for that if a man wants to marry a woman,
he should be straightforward about it. And he should approach her family and get things going. But
you know, when a man is not straightforward about it, he's secretive. He keeps delaying, he keeps
deferring. I keep saying, you know, one thing after the other, he's not serious, so be careful. What
are ximo rock data Nikka he had diabolical key taboo agenda, and do not determine to undertake a
		
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			marriage contract until the decreed period reaches its end. Meaning do not do the Nika and do not
promise to do the Nikka during their ADA. And why is that? So we discussed the reasons earlier. Why
Allah more and Allah Ya Allah will Murphy and fusi confido Who, and you should know that Allah knows
what is within yourself. So be aware of him, be cautious of him. Allah knows what is in your heart.
Why Allah mu and Allah folder and Haleem and you should know that Allah is forgiving, and
forbearing. So pay special attention to the purity of your heart because Allah knows what is in your
heart. All right. And also, there's a warning that Allah is Forgiving, okay, which is why he will
		
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			not hold you accountable for what you feel in your heart, what you think about in your heart, and
Allah is forbearing, which is why he has allowed you to make indirect proposal. However, this does
not mean that you go on doing whatever you want. There is a threat here for those who who be
cautious of Allah, Be careful. Now, this idea, these two verses basically are talking about
marrying, widowed women. Right? And this means that this is something completely permissible, in
fact, when there's rules about it, and how to go about the marriage proposal, how to go about the
marriage, etc. This means that it's encouraged to marry widowed women as well. In certain Nyssa 19
		
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			We learn a loss pantherella says Yeah, are you a Latina? Amma? No, lay your head Lulu calm and
Teresa Nyssa ACARA that oh, you believe it is not permissible for you to inherit women by force?
Okay, meaning you are not allowed to inherit women. Why is this said Because India Helia. Prior to
Islam, a woman was treated as part of a man's estate. So when a man died, just as his house would be
divided among his heirs, his wife would also go to one of the heirs and who would it be any close
male relative would come and basically put a garment on the woman. And what that meant is, you know,
I have claimed her now she's going to be my wife. And it didn't matter whether a woman wanted to be
		
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			married to that man or not. It was not her choice. So it's made clear that you don't inherit women.
Okay. And this is shows that you cannot even think about marrying her as in make a direct marriage
proposal to the woman
		
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			until her waiting period is over, after her waiting period is over, then you can make a direct
proposal. And then if she agrees, if she's willing, you can marry her, but you cannot force her. All
right and she is not to be treated as property. She is her own person, and she is allowed to make
her decision.
		
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			All right, so this is the completion of one topic, then led you now highly calm in poloxamer Nyssa
Mallamma su Hoonah Oh dufry Lulu Hoonah Fariba Wilma tiro Hoonah parallel musi Are you cuddle whoo
hoo Wah wirele Mukti Rita de Ruvo mataram Bill Merle woof happen al Morsi Nene, there is no blame
upon you. If you divorce women, you have not touched nor specified for them and obligation, but give
them compensation, the wealthy according to his capability and the poor according to his capability,
a provision according to what is acceptable a duty upon the doers of good. Now here in this idea and
the following idea, there are some Maha related issues in cases of divorce. First of all, it is said
		
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			loud, you know, highly calm, there is no blame on you. There is no sin on you, if you divorce women.
So the first thing we understand from this is that Talaq divorce in and of itself is not sinful.
Because Allah subhanaw taala says loud, you know, highly calm interlocked on Nyssa, there is no sin
on you, if you divorce women, what is sinful is to harm the woman. And sometimes a woman is harmed,
and she is abused in a marriage. So if a man is married to a woman, and he remains married to her,
and he does not give her her rights, then that is sinful. Or if he divorces her, and sends her to
her home to her family's home, without your son, that is sinful, or he gets the luck, and then he
		
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			does reduce her just to torture her so that she seeks hola that is sinful. So large, inner highly
calm interlocked Luminesce, if a person gives divorce properly, there is no sin on that. And also
here specifically what is mentioned is mellem, Tama su Hoonah. If you did not touch them, and by
touch what is meant is dumar. And this is meaning sexual *, and this is an expression of
language. So if you did not touch them, meaning you did not consume it, the marriage with them, and
you also did not specify an obligation, meaning a Muhammad for them. Now, typically, the lock does
not happen like this, that right after the Nikka before even the marriage is consummated, marriage
		
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			ends in divorce. This is not a typical case. Usually what happens is that two people get married,
and they begin living together and after some time problems arise, and then those problems appear to
be unsolvable or they escalate and then divorce, right? But here, this is an exceptional case where
marriage happens. Nica happens, and the two are not even living together. And the man divorces the
woman, right? And this can happen, it can happen, that for example, the woman is in a different
country, the man is in a different country, you know, they just came together for the purpose of
Nikka you know, there was no consummation of marriage, or, you know, it's supposed to happen, you
		
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			know, six months later a year later, things like that. But the marriage is not consummated. And some
problems arise, or, you know, because of certain conditions, circumstances, you know, the man
decides that it's better to end the marriage. So there is no sin in that. And this reminds us that
Pollock again is alarma it is a mercy it is a solution a way out that a person is not eternally
bound to a person that they feel they cannot continue to live with. And yes, it is hurtful. It is
painful, but it may be good for both the man and the woman. So Lagina Hurley come into Lucknow
Manisa Mylanta masu, Hoonah, odor free Lulu Hoonah videoblog. So, the first thing is that you did
		
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			not consummate the marriage. And secondly, you did not even specify an obligation and what is meant
by obligation by for the law over here is a Maha meaning the Muhammad was not fixed at the time of
Nika. And of course, if the mod was not fixed, if the amount was not specified, that means it was
never given and Talaq can only happen after Nica. So this shows us that the MaHA is not a condition
for the validity of Nikka. Okay, Muhammad is the right of a woman which is supposed to be given to
her and if the man does not give them a hug to his wife, then he is sinful. However,
		
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			For the Nika is valid. All right? The arena must say that there are five conditions for the validity
of Nikka. Okay, five conditions for the validity of Nikka. What are these five conditions? These are
first of all, that we look at the law as in both parties need to be in agreement, meaning the man
agrees to marry that woman, the woman agrees to marry that men, all right, so the first condition is
it Illa the second condition for the validity of Nica is the Wali of the woman because a woman
cannot do her own marriage. Okay, there must be a Wali. Thirdly, it's the two witnesses. Okay, the
third condition is the presence of two witnesses. The fourth condition is, are the mold millennia,
		
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			meaning there should be absence of any preventative barriers? So for example, if a man is mushrik,
okay, then his Schick not being a Muslim is a barrier, okay. Likewise, if a man was nursed by the
same woman, that the woman was nursed by, then he cannot marry that woman okay. So, any barriers
that prevent marriage from taking place between two parties should be absent Okay, there should be
no such barriers okay. And the fifth condition, the fifth condition for the validity of Nikka is 13
meaning specification of the individual, all right. So, for example, if a man says, you know, as
wellI to another man, that I marry my daughter to you, okay. And this father, this man has two
		
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			daughters, Well, which one which one? So, he has to specify. So, these are the five conditions for
the validity of Nica. Now, if you think about it, my head is not within these conditions. So it is
not a condition, but it is the right of the woman. And this is evidence for that because Allah
subhanaw taala says over here, oh toughy, Lulu Hoonah for yoga, that you divorce them before you
specified a Muhammad for them. So the first thing is that divorce happens after Nikka Okay, so, this
means Nikka happened without the specification of Muhammad. And if the mod was not specified, if the
amount was not appointed, that means it was not even given. All right. So Nika is valid without
		
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			Maha. However, it is sinful, very sinful on the part of the men that he does not give the Muhammad
to his wife. Now in the Quran, Allah subhanaw taala uses different words for massage, okay. Here we
see the word for the law for the law is an obligation meaning an obligation that must be handed over
an appointed portion that must be given any it is the right of a woman, okay. Then it is also called
Sadhak or which shows that it is a proof of the honest commitment of a man in the relationship. And
then it is also called a budget a budget is a wage and just as a wage is do it is the right of the
other. Likewise, Maha is the right of a woman. Okay, in Surah Nisa, ayah number four Allah subhanaw
		
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			taala says what are two Nyssa also Ducati hinda Nicola, that give to the women their Sadu cots, okay
meaning their Maha, near Latin graciously generously happily as an obligation it is the right and
also remember that Maha is the property of the woman it is not the property of her Wali, the Wali is
just a negotiator and also a guarantee her so the Wali will basically negotiate with the men. All
right, he will decide that okay, you have to give this much money to my daughter, for example, and
he's the guarantor and he's someone who will guarantee that the mod is actually given to his
daughter and the mud is the property of the woman. Okay, it becomes the property of the woman and
		
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			upon consummation of marriage, meaning if the man and woman after Annika they are alone together,
okay, so for example, even in just a room briefly for like 1520 minutes, or they begin to live
together, okay. This means marriage has been consummated both war together alone without the
presence of a third. All right. So upon this Maha is do okay because Allah Subhana Allah says in
surah nisa i a 24 that for Muslim Tara to be him in Hoonah for Altoona Adora Hoonah. That whatever
you benefit from them, okay. Meaning from the women, meaning you now have access to them. You have
the right
		
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			To be with them, then you must give them their odour you must give them their mother, it is
mandatory. And so often it happens that, for example, a man and woman, you know, Nikka happens, no
matter is given, all right. And now every other day, the husband is taking his wife, you know, from
her parents house for a date for dinner, they're going here, they're going there. And you know, he's
holding her hand, he is kissing her, you know, sometimes they're even going out together for a night
or two. And no matter is given, this is wrong. Very, very wrong. The moment a man gets to be alone
with his wife, he must give them a hug. All right, sometimes it's understood that, you know, the
		
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			mother is going to be delayed and this is called Maha Maha. Meaning it's not given immediately at
the time of marriage at the time off any car, it's delayed for, you know, a month or two, a year or
two, but that has to be with the woman's agreement, all right. And until it is handed over, it is a
debt on the men. So this means that if the husband dies, all right before giving, handing over the
money to his wife, then before his property is divided among the heirs, the mod of the woman will be
given to her. So for example, if at the time of marriage, it was decided, it was agreed that the man
will give $10,000 to his wife as mud. Okay, and now at the time, he makes it clear that at the
		
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			moment, I don't have $10,000 however, you know, within six months, I should be able to save that
much cash and I will give it to her. Okay. Now, let's say he dies after two months. So now, for
example, he has a car, okay, that's fully paid off, that car will be sold. So that the $10,000 are
given to the woman okay, it is her Huck it is her right. Because in Surah Nisa, Allah subhanaw taala
mentioned within the verses of divorce, that mimbar they will see it in usaba eau de meaning that
the distribution of the estate will happen after carrying out any will and after paying off any
loans, and a Maha Maha Maha that is delayed, meaning its payment is delayed is considered a loan.
		
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			Okay, it's considered a debt. So it has to be given. And one more thing I want to make clear over
here, that if a man does not intend to give them a hug, you know, sometimes at the time of Nikka,
big promises are made that for example, $50,000 $100,000 $30,000, I'll get her a house, I'll pay for
her education, I will get her this much gold, I will get her you know, a car, I will take her on
this trip on that trip. All these promises are made as but okay. But if the man does not intend on
giving that much, okay, meaning he's just making all those promises, and he has no intention of
giving any of it to her. He doesn't have the intention of fulfilling any of those promises, then
		
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			this has greatly sinful in a hadith and this is in Sahiba. At the Riveter, he, we learn that if a
man marries a woman, okay, on the agreement of a Muhammad, whether it was a little or a lot, but he
has no intention of giving her any of it, he's only deceiving, okay? And then he dies, then he will
meet Allah on the Day of Judgment, as is Zanni as an adulterer, okay? Because he basically married
her without the intention of ever giving her mud. This is her arm, this is a major sin. You know, in
some cultures, people have different traditions, and I'm talking about Muslims, where they come up
with various practices in order to avoid giving the MaHA. Okay, so for example, within the Arabs,
		
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			this practice of Nikka, Sheila, okay, and what is she lot she thought is basically, that a man will
marry his daughter to another man on the condition that that man will marry his daughter to him, you
get it? So basically, it's an exchange of women, okay, in marriage without any money. So basically,
the man says, You know what, I won't give any money to your daughter. All right, and you don't have
to give any money to my daughter, because we're basically making an exchange over here. This is
haram. The Prophet sallallahu already said I'm clearly forbade that and sometimes people do this
with their sisters, okay. So this is forbidden, because the mod is not the property of the Wali
		
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			okay, it is the property of the woman, it is her right. So it has to be given to her. So here, this
ayah is talking about a Nika happening without the payment of Maha. Okay. And there could be
different reasons for that. It could be a case of Maha Maha where
		
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			The payment of Muhammad is deferred. Okay. So if divorce happens when marriage was not consummated
and the mod was not specified, it was not specified and it was not given. So first of all, this kind
of divorce is not sinful, all right, it is permitted. Now, one thing I want to make clear is that
there are basically three scenarios with regard to the mahute Okay, there are three scenarios with
regard to the mother. The first scenario is that the mother is appointed at the time of Nica Okay,
the MaHA is appointed at the time of Nica. So, this is called you sambal Maha meaning the MaHA was
Usama, it was specified it was appointed. So, for example, at the time of Nika Diwali says that I
		
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			give you my daughter in marriage on the condition that you give her X amount of Mahesh. Okay. And
sometimes you hear that when Anika is happening, you hear the amount of mark or sometimes instead of
stating the amount it is said, on the agreed upon Mahesh, okay, on the agreed upon Maha, and this is
the correct way and this is also very common. So this is the first scenario. The second scenario is
that the Nika happens without any Mahesh. So a Willie says that I marry my daughter to you Billa
Maha without any mother, okay. And this is not permissible. Okay, this is not permissible. This was
something permissible only for the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wasallam because this is a case of Heba
		
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			in Soto hijab IFT it is mentioned one minute and in what habit NAFSA Halyna be in Aradhana BU and
yes, thank you haha, but Holly SATA luck, mean do nil, meaning that also permissible for you, oh,
Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, he is a believing woman if she gives herself to the Prophet,
meaning as Heba without taking any Maha and if the prophet wishes to marry her, but this is only for
you, excluding the believers, okay? So the Nika happens without any mod Billa Maha. This is
exclusively for the Prophet sallallahu Ernie said that this was not permissible for the believers.
The third scenario is that the Muhammad is not mentioned. Okay, it is not mentioned it is not
		
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			specified. At the time off Nikka Guinea, for example, the Wali says that I marry my daughter to you,
and the man says I accept. Okay. And the Willie, for example, forgot to mention the MaHA. Okay, he
forgot to mention it, or, you know, the groom fields shy to bring it up at that time. Okay. Or
sometimes people don't realize the importance of Muhammad, that it is the right of a woman. So this
* is valid. Okay, it is correct, but the woman should be given her Mahesh. Okay, so the mod was
not mentioned at the time of Nika. Why? Because people don't know about its importance. The fact
that it's the right of a woman. They feel shy. They don't want to publicize it, or the person who is
		
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			officiating the marriage forgets to mention it, the one who forgets to mention it. So the Nica is
valid. All right, and this is what is mentioned in this idea. Oh, definitely. Lulu Hoonah for Lila,
however, the matter still has to be given to the woman, okay? And it can be decided later on. So for
example, Nika happens, the well, he forgets the person officiating the marriage, he forgets. And
then afterwards, you know, the following day, the guy realizes that, you know, we never mentioned
them up. All right, we never discussed it, we never spoke about it. So then, you know, he will give
them a hug to the woman. But now there is a question how much Mahood because technically, you need
		
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			no negotiation happened. Right? The man can say, for example, in this third scenario, they know the
where, for example, the next two, he realizes that Oh, I forgot to talk about the mud. So he says,
You know what else give you $5? And he gives $5 to his wife as mod. He says, Well, I gave it to you.
No, no, it's not going to be on his convenience. What has to be seen is the Allama call this Maha
mythen. Okay, Maha method. And what is my her method that you see how much Muhammad are women who
are related to that woman? Given? Okay, so for example, how much mod was her sister given how much
Muhammad was her cousin, given how much mod was her best friend who got married last week was given
		
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			that much Muhammad will be given? You know, there is a tradition among Pakistani Indian communities.
I'm not sure if it's more common than that, but I've heard that it is very common that people give I
remember at one point it was like
		
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			Less than 100 rupees, which is basically 32 rupees, you know very little amount because they say,
this is how much the Prophet salallahu already said and gave, there are some kind of calculation
they do based on the mod for the prophets of Allah, what is that and give, but this is not correct,
because inflation is real. Okay, and what the Prophet sallallahu already sort of gave to his wives
at the time was a significant amount for that time. Okay. And these days $5 $2 This is not a
significant amount. So you have to see Muhammad Mithen. How much is a woman given currently and
especially the women who are of the same socioeconomic status, okay. So Nikka is valid, all right.
		
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			And yes, the Muhammad was not given but it has to be given later on how much it will be Maha methyl.
Okay. And like I mentioned earlier, if the man dies, and the MaHA was not given, it will be treated
as a debt. Okay. Now, let's say that such Annika happen the third scenario, okay. And the man
divorces the woman before even consummating the marriage, so the Muhammad was not appointed, and the
marriage was not even consummated. So now, what is the man supposed to do? Allah subhanaw taala says
Wilma Tiru Hoonah I ll musi are you kadavu While material kadavu Mutta on Bill Maher roof that you
should give them a benefit material gonna give them a matar in a benefit. How much benefit are a
		
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			little more serious Theodorou upon the person of WUSA upon the person of capacity, according to his
means. Warnell mokhtari kadavu And the person who is poor he will give according to his means matar
ambil maruf a benefit in the recognized way. So what do we learn first of all, that matar This is
called a motor named her in Tamar buta Mata, MATA is wajib it is an obligation in a scenario like
this the man has to give motor okay meaning some kind of financial benefit and its amount any How
much is that matar going to be it varies from place to place time to time culture family etc and
this is why it has been said blew my roof Okay Will my roof and a pan will give according to his
		
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			capacity okay his other and what is called a person's capacity how much they can afford in South
Florida 17 Allah's plantar dimensions for Salat odia to be Kadoorie ha that the valleys become
flooded according to their capacity, meaning they hold as much water as the space within them can
hold okay. So, each person has their own capacity, financial capacity. So, for example, if a person
earns a six figure salary, all right, what he can afford to give is way more than what a person who
earns less than that can give okay. So each person has to see what is within their financial means.
However, it is how can I learn more see Nene it is a duty this is why our job upon those who do
		
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			airson those who do good. Now a man may argue that why do I have to give it because I never
benefited from her meaning I never consummated the marriage with her. So why do I have to give her
something? Okay. The mod was not specified. Marriage was not consummated. Why do I have to give
Allah subhanaw taala says how can I learn more see Nene? This is a duty upon those who do air sun,
meaning the man should do air San at this time. Okay, by giving matara to the woman, why? Because if
San was done to him, when the woman was married to him, her family did a favor to him. All right, by
letting him marry their daughter, and now that he has given her Talaq and yes, he is not sinful in
		
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			giving her thought up he is acting well within his right, but he has to do her son in return. And
this Mazzara this financial benefit that he will give to the woman at this time is your son. And
Allah subhanaw taala told us and sort of a human as 60 that holders are all your sanity in the
learson is the reward for your son anything but your son? No meaning if your son if good was done to
you, then you do good in return. Okay, so the family of the woman did a favor to him by marrying
their daughter to
		
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			him. So now when he divorces her, he has to give her something and this isn't the case where the
Mahara was not decided, okay the mod was not given it was not even specified. So, in this case he
has to give whatever is within his capacity, all right and he also has to consider the MaHA method
that how much our women have heard socioeconomic status typically given how much Muhammad is is
typically given these days. So, for example, if her sister was given $5,000 In my hug, then he can
give 2000 3000 Because this is not my hug, this is Muhtar. Okay