Taimiyyah Zubair – Taleem al Quran 2012 – P20 203D Tafsir Al-Ankabut 8-9

Taimiyyah Zubair
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The speakers discuss the use of "has been" in various verses, including the title of "has been" for a person to be good towards their parents. They emphasize the importance of obeying the creation and avoiding Yo' dad's influence in deeds. The speakers stress the need for healthy communication and sharing goals to avoid negative consequences. The importance of building relationships and healthy behavior is emphasized, along with avoiding physical or mental abuse and remaining humble in life. The experience of past experiences can push people to work harder and lead to personal development.

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			Now what happens is that many times a person faces difficulties in the way of Allah, from who from
those who are closest to him, own family, loved ones. So Allah subhanaw taala says what was slain L
in Santa? What was Siena And We have enjoined, we have advised, we have instructed, because the word
was Seiya is an important instruction that is given with a lot of emphasis. And it's also taken very
seriously.
		
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			And we'll see you is also used for a final will that a person makes before he dies? How is that well
taken?
		
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			Is it taken seriously or casually? Very seriously. All right. So well, we'll sign Al Insana. We have
ordered the human being. Allah subhanaw. Taala has ordered us
		
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			BYD, they he with his parents. Allah has ordered the human being the insulin that be Wiley they he
with his parents and Wiley de is the dual of wireless wireless one who gives birth. So validate
refers to the mother and the father, the parents, her Snan goodness. Allah is the One who has
ordered people to be good to their parents.
		
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			Is that the case? Yes. In the Quran, are there certain verses that that tell us about this that we
have to be good towards our parents? Many? And notice the word insane, right? Because every
community was ordered. Like we learned about the Bani Israel ILA, so they were also ordered to be
good to their parents. Did the Prophet salallahu Salam instruct us to be good to our parents?
There's numerous Hadith about this topic. Right. So there is no doubt about this. Being good to
parents being dutiful to parents. This is something that is legislated by Allah subhanaw taala what
will sinal in Santa be holiday he hasna and Hausner, meaning he should be dutiful, his behavior
		
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			should be a person, right? You should be good to them, whether they are good to him or not. The
child has to be good to the parents. But then what happens? We're in and if Jaha DACA they both
strive against you. Tjahaja. This is dual off Jahad Tjahaja. he strove. Okay. And Jahad dad Elif at
the end is for dual, they both strove. So it's not just the father who is driving over here, but
it's the father and the mother, both of them are striving against you notice the word Jha that
they're really doing their best to make you do something, make you do what lead to Shrieker so that
you associate partners, be with me meaning with Allah, man, that which laser lacquer, you do not
		
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			have be of it. Real Moon any knowledge, knowledge, aim over here means delille evidence proof.
		
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			Meaning if your parents are telling you to associate partners with Allah, and for associating
partners with Allah, do you have any evidence? Do you have any proof? Do you have any justification?
No, you don't? Is anyone allowed to do shit with Allah? No, even the prophets of Allah we're not
allowed to do that. Correct? In the Quran, we learned that Allah subhanaw taala addresses the
profits on the lawn is that him directly lead in a shamrock that Leia panorama look, if you
associate partners with Allah, your good deeds would be destroyed. So no one is allowed to do shake.
So if your parents are telling you to associate partners with Allah, then what should you do?
		
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			Be good to them and listen to them.
		
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			Because Allah has said, do good to your parents. So in this situation, do you have to be good to
your parents and listen to them? Allah says fella to their Houma, then do not obey them.
		
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			Even though now you're disobeying not just your mother, but even your father Lothair, whom I do not
obey them. La Yama Ruggiero come to me is your return for owner b Oh, come then I shall inform you
be my condom, Tara Malone of that which you use to do of that which you were doing, then Allah will
inform you of your deeds, meaning the consequences of your deeds, the results of your struggle of
your striving. Now over here, what is clarified that, on the one hand is the right of Allah. Right.
And on the other hand, is the right of the parents. What is the right of Allah, that no partners are
associated with him? He alone is
		
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			To worshipped right that is Allah's right upon us, what is the right of the parents that they should
be respected? They should be obeyed. Right? They should be treated well.
		
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			Now whose right is greater?
		
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			The right of Allah? Why
		
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			compare what we have received from our parents? And compare what we have received from Allah
subhanaw taala?
		
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			What is greater? What we have received from Allah? Because even what we have received from our
parents, okay, our parents even there also from WHO? From Allah? subhanaw taala? Correct. So the
right of Allah is greater than the right of the parents. Is this fact established? Yeah. Okay, it's
established. Now, Allah is the One who has commanded us to do good to our parents. Correct. And at
the same time, he has also ordered us to do certain things, or to refrain from certain other things.
Right, like for example, food, clothing, worship, rituals, money. There's so many do's and don'ts
associated with that right in our deen when it comes to eating, eat this but don't eat this, when it
		
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			comes to money earn money this way, but not this way. There's Halal ways and there's also haram ways
correct. When it comes to marriage. Again, there's rules and regulations that Allah subhanaw taala
has given us right? Now, obedience to parents is just one of the commands that Allah has given us.
We cannot say that, Oh, I have to obey my parents and because of that, I am disobeying Allah,
		
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			you understand? We cannot do that.
		
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			Because obedience to parents is also his command, Allah's comment. So we cannot pick and choose. And
remember the principle that there is no obedience to the creation in disobedience to the Creator.
And when a person disobey is the creator, disobey is Allah subhanaw taala. So that he can obey the
creation, this is actually a kind of ship.
		
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			This is actually a kind of ship, what kind of ship is it, it is shipped for thorough ship in
obedience. So over here, we are being warned about this, that Be careful about Chick fil A thorough,
right? Because when it comes to obedience, the Command of Allah will always take precedence over the
command of
		
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			the creation.
		
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			You understand? When it comes to obeying the creation, it's only in matters which are more aloof in
matters which are appropriate, meaning as long as it conform with the dean, go ahead. But when they
contradict the dean, then we cannot obey the creation in disobedience to the Creator. And this is a
general principle that we need to understand, you know, parents have been mentioned over here, and
parents, you know, you love them, you have respect for them, and you feel guilty disobeying them,
it's very difficult. But if they're forcing you to do shit, you cannot do shit.
		
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			You understand? If they're forcing you to do something that's clearly wrong, you cannot do it with
despite your love and your respect for your parents. Because our love and our respect for Allah
subhanaw taala should be greater. All right. But this is something that doesn't just apply to parent
child relationship. This applies in any situation where there is a leader who is telling you to do
something wrong, whether that leader is in the form of a husband, or in the form of a good friend,
or in the form of an employer, or in the form of something else.
		
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			All right. Just yesterday, somebody was telling me about how they used to work in the salon, and
long time ago, and they said that, you know, they were instructed that they must promote the
products. And she said that no, I don't believe in these products, they're garbage. And they're so
expensive, why I'm only going to promote those which I believe are good. And this lady eventually
she lost her job, you know, because she used to get yelled at and she used to be humiliated that
people who come here are rich, they have the money and do that, but this is cheating, how can I lie
to them?
		
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			You understand? So, I mean, this is an example that shows to us that many times we can also find
ourselves in a situation where we are being encouraged or we are being forced to do something wrong,
whether it is uttering a lie, or it is Schilke or it is any other kind of a sin. But what do we
learn in this ayah that there is no obedience to the creation in disobedience to the Creator. In
total Azova 66 to 67 Allah describes to us about the people in hellfire that will call Robina in
authority has said that an hour Kuba Anna, for Oba Luna Sevilla, that Oh our Lord, we
		
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			He obeyed our leaders, our elders, and they lead us astray.
		
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			They lead us astray in total anom Iowan 21 Allah says we're in authority to move on in the Kamala
machinery code, if you were to obey them, then in reality you would be associating partners with
Allah subhanaw taala.
		
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			Now, bringing this to practical life,
		
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			what should a person do? If you are being told, ordered by those closest to you to do what is wrong?
Or to leave? What is right? What should we do? First of all communicate, explain your choices, why
you are making those choices.
		
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			All right. And for that, as girls especially, tears work really well. Seriously, a bit of drama, a
bit of tears, you know, they work really well. Go ahead and do it. Just like you would do it for
anything else. Do it especially for the dean. Okay. I'm not saying that become a drama queen, but
just use this strength that Allah has given you that when you show your feminine side, the other
people their hearts melt. Remember what happened to brown? His wife said, this baby is so beautiful
Colorado I really well UCLA, Dr. Liu? And what happened Farrell changed his mind.
		
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			Right? She said I liked this child. It is so cute. A source of happiness for me. And for you to come
on. Don't you like this baby? Alright, so explain your position, explain your choices, why you were
doing something or why you are not doing something. You know, because of lack of communication.
There's such a big gap between people who are in a relationship, even husband and wife even or
parents and children even there is no communication for weeks. There is no heart to heart
conversation. There is no sharing of goals of your you know, golden life things you want to do. So
the other person has no clue about what is important to you and what is not important to you.
		
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			Alikum I remember when telemar Quran 2012 When my daughter she the one she finished it. So I want to
her that Taliban Quran and my husband, he said no, she have to finish high school and she have to go
University. And then before that, I asked him 2010 with me. He said no. And then 2012 has come in I
tell him, he said no, no, she have to finish. And then one day I was just sitting in dining table
and I said mashallah the Taliban Quran is starting now. I really feel I didn't tell him so he can
send her Italian. But I was like, felt inside. And I was crying and said that Alima Khurana was
starting. And I wish my daughter should be one of those. And he said, Okay, you can go register now.
		
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			So I feel so happy now she finished Alhamdulillah 2014.
		
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			I slowly, I couldn't stop but mentioned this short story. Like when we myself and my daughter, we
started coming for your weekend classes Alhamdulillah. My daughter, she's 16 In high school, she had
a friend who was one year younger to her only 15 years old. And we knew that she used to do a search
online on Islam. And she might be interested. So we just like, you know, tentatively we just spoke
to her that we see we are going for this classes. And if you intend to you can accompany us. And she
did start coming here for two weeks, three weeks, and Alhamdulillah. She was guided rightly by Allah
subhanaw taala. And by you, of course for all the information she got. And she was grateful for that
		
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			to everyone. And she got converted.
		
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			And now the situation is such for her that she's Hindu, basically. And her parents are not knowing
about this. So what she does, she performs her prayers, just in the closed doors. And for halal
food, she goes shopping on her own, she cooks on her own, so that her parents are not aware of
anything what's going on, like, you know, she did all the fasting for 30 days in Rumson. Mashallah.
So it was amazing, like, you know, so there's two things I'm thinking about, first of all, what we
discussed that communicate, right? Secondly, build your relationship. Okay. I mean, if you cried in
front of your husband, why did he feel bad for you and agree with you why? Because there must be
		
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			communication, there must be a level of respect in the house in the family, there must be some a
good level of giving each other's rights that people you know, they become supportive of each other.
		
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			You understand? You know, sometimes you wonder how is it that people from two completely different
cultures, completely different religions also sometimes, how could they get married? Because there's
a level of tolerance, there's a level of support for each other. There is a level of respect for
each other commitment.
		
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			To the relationship, which makes them tolerate their differences.
		
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			Okay? So likewise, if there is a small difference between you and and your family, for instance, you
can only resolve it if your relationship is healthy, is otherwise healthy. If it's not healthy
otherwise, then little little things can also turn into big, big issues, big problems for the
family. You know, many times it happens that two people are living together, but so many problems
between them. What's the reason if you dig, dig, dig it, it's petty issues, small issues, right. But
there is lack of trust, there is lack of communication, there is lack of love, there is lack of
friendship. And as a result, little things turn into such huge problems. And the third thing is that
		
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			whatever you are doing, don't make a big deal out of it.
		
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			You understand, like this one sister, if she feels that her family is not ready to learn about her
conversion about her Islam, she's keeping it a private matter for now. And there is nothing wrong in
that. Right? That whatever you're doing, don't make it such a big deal that the whole family is
getting affected.
		
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			All right, like for example, you know, for instance, if you are in this class, if you make it a big
deal from Friday evening, I have class tomorrow. So nobody talked to me, nobody bother me,
especially the women, you know, I'm not giving breakfast to children, I'm not getting them ready.
Because I have class tomorrow, you're making such a big deal out of it, that the other people are
going to get upset, they're not going to support you in what you're doing.
		
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			Right. So whatever we are doing, let's not make a big deal out of it, turning into a problem for the
family. You know, keep it as a private matter, or keep it as something that just affects you as much
as possible. I know it's not always possible in every situation, but as much as possible, given the
situation that you're in.
		
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			Salaam aleikum sister, I just wanted to see her Inshallah, it's to do with the issue that you're
talking about a shack, maybe in this country, it's not a very big issue. But where I come from, a
lot of people purport to pray for somebody. And they say that Allah is speaking through them. And
what they've done is, as a result, they get a lot of people involved in that. And people begin to
start thinking that their Allah is speaking to them. And what has happened is, and I wasn't going to
say this, but unfortunately, my mother is involved in that. And Hamdulillah, she reverted to Islam,
before all of us. And as a result, my brothers and I became Muslims. And it has been Subhanallah,
		
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			long, 10 years, how difficult. Everyone she touched, said shahada, and Hamdulillah. But forgiveness.
		
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			But because of this, these women have convinced my mother that she can hear over.
		
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			And she's speaking to unlock. And I don't know how that happened. swannell I think it's a lack of,
		
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			but I pray Chunga fear that she becomes, she comes back to Islam.
		
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			But But right now, we don't talk. We used to speak every day. But these women have convinced her
that she hears Allah, she speaks to Allah. And as a Muslim is so difficult. We've tried everything
from arguing from Quran telling her, Oh, Allah, He, this is Shark, do not go to your grave and
check, because you brought us to Islam.
		
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			And for me, I think I'm stuck on it is a very difficult situation. Because I mean, given that you
are her daughter, as a mother, she has certain rights upon you. And then it's such a situation that
you cannot even ignore, right? You cannot even overlook it, because it's something very serious.
Now, in a situation like this, of course, remember that guidance is in the hands of Allah subhanaw
taala only he gives it, he takes it away. We can try all we want to convince somebody to talk to
them to explain things to them. But if their heart is not changed by Allah, then how can we? How can
we force a person to change we cannot. So guidance ultimately is in the hands of Allah. He is the
		
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			giver of it, and he knows best who to give it to. And he takes it away also, and he knows best to
take it away from so don't feel guilty about this. It's not your fault. Because sometimes what
happens is that if somebody is doing something wrong, we blame ourselves, right? That maybe I'm not
trying hard enough. I'm not doing my job. I shouldn't have done this or I shouldn't have done that.
Yes, if it's your fault, then
		
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			seek forgiveness from Allah subhanaw taala for it. But if despite your efforts, a person is not
accepting, then it's not your fault. You don't need to feel guilty about they're wrong, you
understand, we don't need to feel guilty about the wrong that other people are doing.
		
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			And then another thing, of course, is that many times people do such things in ignorance. Or they do
such things because of some false information that they have received or assumptions that they have
formed over time. So of course, the cure to ignorance to misunderstanding is knowledge. Right? So of
course, sharing the Hulk with them the truth with them, this is something that is definitely
helpful. I myself have seen so many people attached to something similar, grave worship, and all of
that, and listening to literally one lecture changed their life.
		
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			It changed their life one lecture
		
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			because many times people are doing wrong things without even realizing that they're doing wrong.
You know, think about it. What is it that convinced us to change our lifestyle to change our habits?
What convinced us it's knowledge? Isn't it? So the other person who doesn't have this knowledge, how
can we expect that they should be changed? Or they should be 100%? supportive?
		
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			Right? So what affected you share with them also? This is why, you know, whatever we are learning in
the Quran, it's necessary that we take our families along with us. Because if we don't share this
with them, we're not going to receive their support.
		
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			You understand? Then we'll become like strangers in the family.
		
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			All right. Why do you think long time ago when we study to look money and we had this bring your
friend day? Why so that your friends know what you're doing? Right? But that was not the only
Saturday or Sunday for bring a friend day every Saturday and Sunday is bring a friend bring the
sister day?
		
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			All right, because if others don't know what you're doing here, how are they going to be supportive
of it?
		
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			All right, and of course, of course making dua to Allah subhanaw taala that Oh Allah, you guided me,
you will lead me to this, you will give me the confidence to bring this change in my life.
		
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			You guide so and so person as well, such and such person as well. So, basically, a person must not
give up and of course, seek ALLAH subhanaw taala does help build on the relationship. You know, for
example, we learn about the Prophet sallallahu sallam. That how, even though when people opposed
him, the closest family members even when they opposed him? Did he abandon them? Did he become harsh
with them? No. in Macau, were the Muslims allowed to fight back? No, they weren't. Instead they were
told to do your son.
		
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			So this is something that is indeed very helpful. Now, many times it happens that in such
situations, you know where Islam teaches us something but family wants us to do something else. Many
people leave the path of moderation. Many people one extreme is that, you know, Allah says obey our
parents. Allah says obey your husband, the Prophet sallallahu sallam said that, you know, if I were
to command anybody to prostrate to any human being, I would have commanded women to prostrate to
their husbands. So you know, you know, obedience to husband is necessary. You understand what I
mean? So many people, they go to this extreme that they say, obey the parents obey the husband, obey
		
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			this one, obey that one, even if they're telling us to do something wrong and forget about
everything else of the deen. Forget about prayer. Forget about Hijab forget about fasting, forget
about halal food, forget about everything else. Why? Because I have to obey my so and so. This is
one extreme. This is not moderation. And the other extreme is you tell me no hijab. I don't like you
anymore. Right? I don't have any respect for you anymore. I look down on you. And we don't say it
with our words, but we show it with our actions. This is another extreme in the Quran. We are tall
while saw him Oh, method duniya Mara HuFa live with your parents who tell you to do shit in a good
		
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			way in the right way. Meaning do not neglect their rights. You still have to fulfill those rights
that you can. Well Lavina Amma know Allah says and those who believe why middle slowly Hardy and
those who do righteous deeds learner the healer know whom fifth slyly Hain we will surely admit them
among the righteous.
		
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			Right now they may feel alone, but they're not going to be alone forever. We will admit them in the
company of the righteous because it's a very difficult situation that a person can find himself in.
He wants to obey Allah, but the family is not supportive. You have
		
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			To tread very, very carefully, right? So first of all, you have to be strong internally to remain
firm upon the truth, despite the disapproval of close loved ones, that even if they're not
supportive, even if they don't approve of what you're doing, you're strong inside you believe in
what you're doing, and you stay firm.
		
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			Second, secondly, be careful not to neglect their rights. It's very easy to become rude to parents,
it's very easy to become disrespectful with the husband. Thirdly, have, you know, clarity, despite
the confusion, because many times people make you feel guilty, oh, you wear the hijab and you don't
listen to your mother, your mother's studying, you take your hijab off.
		
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			You understand? If you wear hijab, you're supposed to be very righteous girl.
		
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			But your mother is telling you to take it off. So where's your righteousness? Take it off. If you're
very righteous person. You understand? People make you feel guilty.
		
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			And you wonder, am I even doing what is right? If my parents don't approve of this? Am I even doing
what is right?
		
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			And people mark that what kind of a dean is this? You're supposed to be good to your parents. And
then you begin to wonder, am I even doing it for the right reason? Right? So you you start doubting
your sincerity? Because people tell you Oh, you're not doing it for Allah, you're doing it because
you're a very disobedient child from day one.
		
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			They guilt trip you. So despite that, have clarity, have sincerity? Remind yourself I'm doing this
for Allah. And, of course, remain patient until things work out.
		
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			Right now, yes, there is a big conflict. But this conflict is not going to stay forever.
		
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			Inshallah it'll pass, it'll be over. Sometimes, you know, certain conflicts, they get resolved in a
day or two. Sometimes it takes a number of weeks. Sometimes it takes a number of years. And
sometimes it seems like it's never gonna end. It becomes a daily lifelong struggle, in that also do
not lose hope, remain positive, that this too will pass because lie you can live alone, absolutely
Llosa, right? Allah does not overburden a person with more than they can bear. You know, like they
say, if he put you in it, he's going to make you go through it. Or something like that, that if
Allah put you in that test, he knows that you can handle it. And he will help you as well. Provided
		
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			that you want to be successful in that test, you don't give up you don't quit. Our problem is we
quit very quickly, we give up very quickly. And this is not impossible, by the way to stick it out
basically. All right, to remain firm. Because when you look at the life of the prophet Sallallahu
and when you look at the lives of the companions, where they are supported by their families, oh,
yes, you're Muslim, congratulations. Is that what happened? No. Desire is sad that they were
revealed about sad even we will call somebody Lauren, who,
		
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			that how when he embraced Islam, his mother basically turned against she said, I'm not going to eat,
I'm not going to drink. I'm not going to do this. I'm not going to do that. I'm not happy with you
until you leave Islam. And we're saddled with Lauren who the only one? No, will suburban roommate of
the Lauren who the same thing happened with him. So many companions, it was their mothers who turned
against them their own mothers, that you leave Islam or else I'm not happy with you.
		
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			But what happened? They remained firm. Right? And at the same time, they were good to their parents.
Now, it's very easy to feel pity on yourself. Right? That Oh, poor me. This is so difficult. Am I
the only Muslim sister who was like this, you begin to pity yourself. Remind yourself that if it's
really difficult, if it's really tough, then you know what? Life is tough anyway. Because sometimes
we think, you know, if my parents were supportive in this, everything would be so good. If I didn't
have this dust in my life, everything would be good. You know what if it wasn't this test, it would
be something else.
		
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			If it wasn't this one, it would certainly be something else. Because I hassy Vanessa Utako Ania Kulu
Amanda hula afternoon. You know, it seems like you're in a very difficult situation. But this
ordeal, this difficulty will actually purify you.
		
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			It will purify you, you know, for example, if a person is wearing the hijab, and the whole family is
supportive, in fact, the family wants you to wear hijab, it's possible that you know your intentions
are not very sincere, it's possible. But on the other hand, if there is a person who's not receiving
any form of support for them to wear their hijab, you know, it's daily reminding themselves I'm
doing this for Allah I'm doing this for Allah. So difficulties they do purify us, they purify our
intentions, they develop
		
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			Have sincerity in us?
		
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			When does a person maybe draw the line if there's emotional or psychological or physical abuse
because of the choices that you're making? I mean, is that do you still, you know, what do you do?
Yeah, I mean, when it turns into abuse, then of course, you depending on your level of tolerance and
your own capacity, you see if you can handle it, but when you see that it's beyond your capacity,
you don't bear it anymore. You look for a way out of that problem. So for example, the Sahaba, who
were in such situations in Makkah, they were encouraged to migrate to have a shot. Right. And then
eventually, they all Muslims, they had to migrate from Mecca to Medina. Alright. But the point over
		
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			here is that don't quit the first day.
		
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			You understand? Because what happens with us is, you know, for example, we start something good. And
one person yelling at us is enough to make us quit and give up.
		
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			It shouldn't be like that. Just because one argument hat or one difficult situation you found
yourself in, that doesn't mean you need to give up. Try harder, try harder. Alright.
		
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			I want to tell you a story, okay. And the person with whom this happened, knows, and I don't want
them to get offended, I want you to feel very happy about what you did. Because I'm very happy about
what you did. When I started teaching the Quran.
		
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			I got yelled at by somebody. And I love them. Fila Lilla.
		
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			And I love that moment when they yelled at me.
		
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			And when I think about that time, honestly, I can only feel grateful that Alhamdulillah
Alhamdulillah they yelled at me
		
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			in public, I am very happy about that. Because if they hadn't yelled at me, I would never have tried
so hard.
		
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			I wouldn't have
		
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			you know, that experience could have made me give up that you know what I quit. That's it. This is
beyond my ability. I'm not striving anymore. But that experience forced me It pushed me to work
harder. So for example, if before, I would spend maybe two hours to prepare a lesson. Now I started
three times at six hours, eight hours if I use only two books before, after that, yelling, I started
using five, six books. Seriously, it pushed me and I love this person for the sake of Allah, because
they actually yelled at me.
		
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			Seriously, this straightened me out.
		
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			So many times, we begin to pity ourselves that Oh, poor me, I'm suffering for the sake of Allah. And
we just start crying and we start giving up, don't give up. Don't give up this test. This difficulty
this painful experience is meant to make you stronger and better. It is meant to make you stronger.
So take it the right way.
		
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			And of course in some situations that can turn into an abuse I mean, they yelled at me once and 100
Allah was enough to fix me I learned from my mistake and after that no yelling at hamdulillah only
words of encouragement and support Alhamdulillah but if it's like a personal attack now
		
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			you know if it turned into a personal attack one day after the other again and again and again. If
it started happening then no I will not stand that abuse.
		
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			You understand? I have to do something to protect myself also. Because our life is sacred our
property is sacred and our honor is sacred.
		
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			And then sometimes being yelled at is very horrible feeling but it really forces you to improve
yourself.
		
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			Yeah, I came here for the first day choose to register my daughter that moment I have it on I have
to make sure that the study I never think about myself that and we were like three hours four hours
and I ended up not to go to work and I was that time assistant manager supervisor there. I wasn't
opening luckily. So next day when I get there, I call them but I explained them I say this happened
and this and this and this and the manager understood and next week Saturday I came for the first
day class take father how you explain that the hand way back to work. I was just thinking this is
the father how you used to read the Quran Salah for me it just I did not understood why did I not
		
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			register myself. So I was just telling myself whole time.
		
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			I have to be this class. Then I got to work. And I get a call from the district manager. And it
happened almost a year on how I was doing job as assistant manager which I wasn't and it was not
even my prescription like anything that I supposed to do. And I was like happy to do it because it
was okay for me to do anything. I was working
		
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			And I in the state of appreciating, he yelled at me like, my, like, the phone was like that. And he
became another person that I never knew like, and I'm working 10 years there and he knows me better
than anybody. And I was okay when I'm going home. And I experienced him. I say, Listen, you're
talking about one day, but I'm planning not to come Saturday, Sunday, but for some reason, I will
make up all my hours and the days and the manager is okay, but he refused even to listen to give me
any explanation. And he yelled at me like a little kid. And I never been yelled at like that. Way
back home or the highway. I don't know how I got a highway. I got home. It was Saturday, Saturday,
		
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			Sunday, I didn't even call and go to work. Monday I give the sign I say I'm just gonna be full time.
And thanks, God, that was my way to come to a with and I'm still here. Every time he comes in now,
he'd say, Are we okay? Still as a ya know, her feeling?
		
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			Exactly. So difficult experiences painful moments. They're meant to purify us. You know if it was
that easy, maybe our intentions wouldn't be that pure.
		
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			When like things like this happen in life, I always remember this one I that we did in suiting Issa,
where I lost pantile It says whether to flip to go into cornuta Nemo for a nomad come out. So like,
even like the everybody else on this planet is going through hardships except as believers which are
doing them in a lie manner you're doing we hope from Allah what they don't hope from Allah. So while
other people are going through struggles, like, pretty aimlessly like they suffer in this planet,
and then they pass away as pantalla gave us guidance, and then he's gonna reward us for everything
without doing them and Allah who many of you, I mean, don't you hear about I don't know how people
		
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			watch but hear about these Indian movies, which are all about love to people fall in love, but
they're from different families. And then you know, they want to get married and then they have to
run away and then you know, they have to go through so much to just be with the person whom they
love, how much they're sacrificing. Right? And here we are thinking that we are the only one
suffering. We're not the only one suffering and you know what if we are suffering in the way of
Allah, then remember the greater the effort, the greater the reward the greater the striving, the
greater their award SAR going to be will cost about the low on who this I was revealed about him and
		
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			sad when we were called for the dough on who was one of those 10 people who was promised Jana while
he was still living
		
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			let's listen to the recitation of these if and then we'll continue
		
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			will
		
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			be malaise
		
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			delay
		
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			Well, let me
		
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			follow up. Where will the Saudi Hain be in the hereafter?
		
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			In Jana Solano, the Helena home for Sally hain. We will admit them in the company of such so this is
not a small deal with Allah subhanaw taala striving for his sake