Taimiyyah Zubair – Taleem al Quran 2012 – P18 175C Tafsir Al-Nur 3

			I have a question for you. Why? Zina is serious, right? It's a crime.
		

			Why? What's the hikmah? What's the wisdom? What's the reason for its prohibition? Why is it that
Allah subhanaw? Taala does not like it? discuss amongst yourselves and I want the best answers. Tell
the person sitting next to you. Why you think Zina is not allowed?
		

			All right.
		

			We believe is it causes many diseases and breakup of relationships, children that are born due to
Zina, they're forever scarred. They don't know why their parents did that to them. Okay. I think
there are two three things which are important. The whole balance of the society is disturbed, there
is no feeling of confidence and security. That is the important thing. It spreads into society. So I
think that is the main reason why Allah dislikes it. And the other thing is that the rights of the
next generations and the children that is all spoiled, and they feel very much insecure. By these
things, I think the point that you brought up is very relevant, actually. Because a husband and
		

			wife, what's one of the first things they need from each other? Security in that relationship, this
trust that you will not cheat me, you will not betray me, right? And Zina because it is unlawful.
What does it do? It guarantees that sense of insecurity. All right. And if Zina was allowed, and we
see that many people who consider it to be okay, then what happens? Despite having a strong
relationship, people don't trust one another. Right? Or you see people cheating one another behind
their backs. Why else is in unlawful? What other wisdom is there?
		

			I mean, like, this is you mentioned over there, there's many points. One is that people won't value
relationships anymore. Right? What's the point of a marriage if I can just I think Dr. Billa first
mentioned this when he was talking about the four wives and, you know, marriage, he was saying that,
you know, in Germany, they made prostitution legal. So there's now they're paying people to have get
married and have kids, because people can just go and fill their desires, and there's no value in
family and relationships that kids like the the sister mentioned, they're scarred and the whole
society is pretty much in chaos. Very true.
		

			It's a deterioration of society. And its function as a whole, the purpose of a family is to, you
know, to people raising a child together, and security and safety. And if you are, you know, if
there's other people around that are not following the same ruling, that's just the way that you
know, our societies work, then it's breaking it down slowly, and it's just damaging to everyone else
around them. The rules are breaking down, if people are able to do this, what else are they not able
to do? Yes.
		

			You also lose respect. Yes, people? Yes. I mean, if just think about it, when you go to a store, and
you have the option of picking any cup, right? Or plate, alright, or any dish set or anything, then
have you seen people just picking up glasses and then putting them down? And you're like, It's
delicate stuff Handle with care? Right? I mean, what does it show every, everything is available,
they lose respect. So if a man can pick on any woman, right, and just flirt with her or woman can
just, you know, go with any man, you don't view other people respectfully anymore. You know, when
you know that Zina is not allowed, it's not allowed, then you stop right at the beginning. You
		

			control your desire, you lower your gaze, you correct your thoughts. But if a person thinks or the
option is there, right, then what happens? People lose respect for each other. Each individual is
looked at as a sexual object, you know, as a source of sexual enjoyment. And that's it that many
people are looking for in others. Why else is in an unlawful? What's the wisdom? Some of the points
have already been said, like children whose fathers have abandoned them or they don't know who their
father is. There's also when they're getting married, you know, they say, have you had partners
before even whether they're Muslim or not, there's still a problem. People are not happy about that.
		

			It's hard to get married. Okay, Wales.
		

			So now I'm going to go a lot of the points are already been mentioned, but I was thinking like the
beginning of the ayah is so strong itself like Alas, mandala, like all the sutras in Quran are
starting with strong is but this is particularly a loss wonderla emphasize the importance of all the
rules are mentioned in the Surah like Surah, tune and Zelda for other na Ferghana like this surah
every single command that has been mentioned is further obligatory on us all the Muslims, that is
self shows that this is not
		

			Light matter, you know, if you see this happening in our society or in our around us, this is not
something small we can take, because it's so common, you know, nowadays, remember that?
		

			In our deen something is not forbidden just for the sake of being forbidden. It has to be such that
by forbidding that evil action, many more evil things are being prevented. You understand? So if
Zina is forbidden, it's not just that people don't have fun. No, that's not the objective. What's
the objective? protect us from greater harm? What is that greater harm that Allah is saving us from?
by prohibiting us from committing Zina? What's that greater harm? Because many times we think that
oh, you know, people who were not Muslim, there must be there's lucky, they can do this before
getting married. They don't have to get married. Right? And how do you truly know how somebody is?
		

			Unless you have slept with them? I mean, these kinds of arguments, or thoughts, they keep coming up.
And we think that non Muslims or people who don't follow Islam, they are very lucky. They're
fortunate. They're having a great time. And we Muslims are poor Muslims, you know, Allah is
protecting us from greater harm. What is that greater harm? Yes, I see where you're a shuffle
McClure path. And we're not like animals. And if we do behave like animals, then there will be
diseases and people will die. There'll be a destruction. Okay. So disease, all right, what else
because these days, they say use something so that their disease doesn't spread. Right? I said, I'm
		

			Alikum, I have a couple of stories to share. I have known cases where women and got involved into
these situations and got pregnant. And then she had to abort the baby because she didn't want to be
typecasted in the society. And she had the biggest regret until out that whenever I can see if this
would not be my first baby, my first baby was with someone who probably is not going to be my
husband. And I cannot explain it to anyone what happened. On top of that, it's yes, it's important
for the society and everything. But first of all, Islam is for yourself, you're violating your own
self. When you get intimate with someone, you're for women, specially your brain starts producing
		

			certain hormones and certain neurotransmitters, which gets you connected to that person. So the man
can probably walk out after one or two years or even few weeks even. But woman is connected to that
person now. So now how does she move on, and actually get married into her love relationships?
Because I mean, this act is a very intimate act. Right? It's a very intimate act that is between a
man and a woman. And it must come with responsibility. So when Xena is forbidden, that means that
this action must be taken seriously. Right? So Armonico
		

			I think it's bad because people start losing their morals. And then the more they use their morals,
the more it changes from Xena between a man and a woman, and then becomes bigger. And this leads us
to a society where there was people who are completely ticked took them out from the earth because
of the crimes that they did of
		

			going through men and women. And that's how it becomes bigger because people are using, they're
losing their morals and their higher.
		

			How about what we're doing to our parents, our mothers, they're always worried. I remember when I
came to Canada, I was young, with my sister and her ex husband, and my mom, every time I call her
back home, should be getting married, get married. Again, she would get married, get married, and
I'm like, Mom, there's no nice, you know, decent guys here, get married, somebody will find it and
she'll make the and pray all the time. When I got married, she was so happy she was crying. And now
I realize how she felt because when I have enough for girls, I'm always worried you know what's
gonna happen you're always talking to them about you know, to be decent not to go near the boys not
		

			even to look at them and a smile or anything when they're talking always look away. So don't give
them that attention. Because usually boys are like, if you look at them, and you pay attention to
them, they think you're interested, you know, interested in them and they'll follow you around next
time. So now I understand what parents go through. So you know, for young girls here mashallah
teenagers, high schools, universities, or think about your mother, she's always worried sec. What's
going to happen next, so get married soon.
		

			Okay.
		

			Anybody else? Okay?
		

			It's also the thing about Zina and I also know a few people who were in it and only because you're
confessing and
		

			I wanted to make Toba. It's just, you can never like this as a said, move on to the next stage of
level because you're emotionally not only connected with someone who broke into pieces, but you also
feel like I lost, I lost the most valuable thing in the most disrespectful way. And that's when
shaytan takes advantage of us that there is no way of going back and you give yourself all the hope.
And people slowly start giving up on Allah and sin and Zina and everything becomes normal to them,
that they completely leave Islam. And when you yourself like Subhanallah feel like the most valuable
thing has been gone. And Allah is telling us as an Muslim women in our Ummah, that you are valued,
		

			you are someone who is looked up to because we're raising the next generation, we can even how could
we raise a second generation and the one after if we're losing our kids in that process? So Subhan
Allah, it's anything Allah tells us is haram. It's for our own good. Anything Allah tells us is good
and halal it for our own benefit. And there's a scholar who said that Allah already put my water and
Brahma in marriage. So don't take the false shaitan and look for it outside of that marriage. So
does that
		

			Salama Alec whare? A lot of records. And I think most of the meaning though, for the Haram is
explained, as Allah said, as a harlot, Xena, I believe the major one is one female contacted so many
men who Zina there's a children, their own child and their smush issue we share. So she doesn't know
which one the father, which is major for the failure of Islam or society. If there's 10, or for
whatever she made a does she have a child and the child doesn't have a specific father.
		

			As the nominee go, I just wanted to add it on to that story. That girl got pregnant because of that
		

			act. And you know what, she just abort that because she doesn't want to face the society or whatever
reasons. And you know what, whenever she forgot about everything, and she moved on in her life, and
she got married with a nice guy or whatever, when ever she got pregnant, they make you sign a form
to let them know, is this your first pregnancy? Would she ever be able to tell the doctor that big
lie that this is my first pregnancy, because it's totally different when you're pregnant for the
first time and you're not, you're pregnant for the second time. So you cannot lie to your doctor,
you cannot lie to Allah subhanaw taala like you just gone that far that you have did that act and on
		

			top of that sin, you made this abortion decision. So may Allah subhanaw taala project us on
		

			a family income, I just wanted to add on in terms of how it kind of stumps your own development. So
the story is that I have heard of people committing Zina even after the girls, especially when they
do it all but they're never able to overcome, psychologically, the fact that they did that, and then
they start losing value in themselves. And like they mentioned, it's just like they lose their faith
in Allah eventually. And it's really sad because especially the younger you are, the more crucial it
is for your development to develop as a person who sells and they're never fully able to do that
after they commit the act
		

			as a nominee.
		

			I also wanted to mention, you know, when you go and do Zina, right, so the children who are born you
do not know who the father is. And ultimately, you will have all the children are next generation.
And when they are going to get married, you don't know if they are getting married to their own
brother or sister. You can tell many problems.
		

			Alone Hola. Bella has not created this dunya for play, it's for the alpha and it's examination, how
we behave. It's not like animals, we have rules regulations, is makes us society otherwise it will
be like animal world.
		

			So the conclusion is that if Allah subhanaw taala has forbidden us from something, there has to be a
reason behind that. And he is protecting us from greater harm. Right? This is called Set dual Bab
just close the door. So the prohibition of Zina is basically the closing of the doors to evil to
greater suffering to greater harm in this life and also in the next life.
		

			It's like the example of like, a normal day versus Ramadan. Right. So like Ramadan would be like
what we have in Islam in terms of like, getting married in order to like engage in the act. But
like, on a normal day, you have all the food
		

			available to us. So like, even when you're not hungry, you can just go and get it. Right. So it's
like, it kinda like takes your self control away. In all matters of your life. Yes. See, in Ramadan,
we're not allowed to eat and drink during the day, right? So what happens? That desire to eat and
drink, you're able to find it. Why? Because you're not allowed. So likewise, when Xena is forbidden,
then it develops greater self control. Alright, you control your gaze, you control your clothing,
you control your thinking about other people.
		

			Cycle and also like, if someone does and then the woman gets pregnant, then it's not fair to her
because the man can just walk out. And like, I've just recently been through like pregnancy and
delivery. And now I have a newborn Alhamdulillah. And it's so much like so many doctor's
appointments and so much stress and so much pain. And it's too much, it's not fair, if the guy does
it, you know, you just need him sometimes to just vent and complain, you know, if not take you to
your appointments, if not contribute financially if not, you know, lift the carrier because it's too
heavy, you just need your husband, right? So it wouldn't be fair to you.
		

			Live
		

			in the western societies, like when the children were born out of wedlock, it was being frowned on.
And people were married. And then there was abuse started for women and all the whole dating process
started, you'll see at the history, for that reason that people wanted the marriages to get better.
So they got the idea of we see each other before and we meet and people were dating only for the
sake of getting married. That's how the idea started. And then we know about the 60s and all the
freedom when the pill and all that kind of stuff. So we have seen the society where it has come so
when the family system is gone. And it's not that the men don't suffer, men are suffering, and so
		

			are women. But if you see the families where the marriage does not exist, nobody's married in the
family, I'm not only talking about Muslims, it could be any society, and they have seen no
marriages, they have no role modeling there. They seek to have good relationships, too. So people do
get together, and people are living as girlfriend and boyfriend, they're doing a lot more than the
wives and husband do for each other. But that commitment is not there. So sometimes you're just
living and you're like living the life of a sin while you're doing. I know personally, people like
not only you're taking care of children, but you're taking care of other people's dogs too. But the
		

			marriage institution is not there. So we are already seeing the end result there, of what happens.
And that's why Allah Allah say that the marriage is supposed to be that where you are labels for
each other, where you're covering good and bad. I mean, all the marriages are not great, but we are
seeking if we know what a good marriage is, which we do not teach our sons and daughters. If we know
what the good marriage is, and we are seeking for that good marriage, then we are working for
something. And when that does not happen, then people go in other ways, and which is very sandless
problems.
		

			After all this point, I just want to say that it will be that lesser than the animals called the pig
is the only animal who doesn't
		

			doesn't have one spouse, okay.
		

			So when I work in an organization that deals with violence against women, and some of the things
that I see when people come to my office to ask for help, is that they're seeking rights for
relationships of marriage, when they themselves are not married. So everybody's very confused. They
come in, the person that they're with is not their husband, yet are seeking the rights that a
married woman would get. And it's just very messy. So we have to go back to the basics, get married,
and then maybe you can get something for yourself.
		

			The other thing I feel is that it kills your spirituality. Because I know people fell into it. And
then they feel like I mean, she alone makes them think that they can't even stand in prayer in front
of us finds out after doing something like that. And especially for people who are just sleeping
around. It's I mean, like the the lowest worse than the high. I mean, in that moment, it's all that
but then afterwards, you know it's meaningless.
		

			Suddenly go. Recently, I was listening to a lecture and it was a man who was telling his story and
basically, he had ended up committing Zina with a woman and she ended up getting pregnant. So like
her
		

			Family was very angry. And you know, they came to him and everything. And he denied it completely
like, you know, it's not mine and everything like that. So eventually, during his life, his own
sister ended up getting like doings in as well. And when he got married, he got married to a woman
who had done Zina. And when he had a daughter, his daughter got raped. So I mean, it was like he
affected somebody's daughter, somebody's sister, somebody's potential wife and everything, you know,
came back to him, his daughter was affected, his sister was affected, his wife had been affected.
This is why Zina is not just the problem of the Zanni. It becomes the society's problem. And this is
		

			why here we learned that Zina is a crime because you wonder why is there such as severe punishment?
Why is there legal punishment? Why is it a criminal offense? Because the effects of Zina are not
just limited to the Zanni and the Zania. The effects are far reaching, they affect the whole
society. This is why it becomes everyone's problem. And this is why the criminal is punished. And
this is why the punishment must be witnessed by a group of people. Why? So that they get scared, and
they decide never dare to commit this crime, for the purpose of preventing the crime.
		

			I was just thinking of two other points. I heard it however, I'm saying that I'm mentioning all the
things that can go wrong, right? You can become pregnant, and there's abortion, and there's shame.
And then many people argue non Muslims, they argue that well, what if it works out? Well, what if
you you date somebody, and you know, you do the act, and you know, you get married and you live
happily ever after, and they argue this, but then when you think about that all of us think, oh,
that beautiful fairytale ending could work. So let's do it. But the chances are so low that we never
think that okay, how many times I've dating and relationships failed and worked, they mostly don't
		

			work. And also, when we do these things, we don't realize that just like you were mentioning before,
that when we do this act, or xenon, all these things, we have to cover it up with so many other
lies, so many other sins get committed when, especially for teenagers, young girls, if they, you
know, do this, and then they become pregnant, which is one of the things that can go wrong. They
have to hide from the parents and society, they have to lie, they have to lie to their doctors, they
have to get money for abortion and this and that. I think I remember the story of Barcia right when
that two brothers left their sister with him, and you know, he, at the end, he committed Zina, and
		

			then he ended up killing the woman. So and then he lied to the brothers too, so and altered. The
Yeah, he did so many sins, just one little one act led him to do so many wrongs. It's not that one
sin that you're committing, which already is big enough, you're following up with many, many, many
other sins.
		

			I think this point was slightly mentioned before, but you other than losing respect for
relationships, this, like there's a lot of statistics that show that those who have multiple
partners, multiple sexual partners, or multiple partners, in general, they're jumping from
relationship to relationship looking for that honeymoon phase, as they call it, or the fire of the
relationship. So it's a very short term relationship, so that when they actually get married,
obviously, a marriage doesn't work like that, you're like that for a few years, if you're lucky. And
then after that things, you know, obviously, the fire fizzles out, but it's a different type of
		

			relationship, then things change. But they're only looking for that high that comes right at the
beginning of the relationship. And so that leads to, obviously, more divorce rates. So even if you
do start up a family, it ends so much faster, and you destroy it so much faster, just because it's
not what you thought it would be.
		

			Cool. I also just wanted to add that we forget about the children that are involved, because the dad
like the man can just leave, right. And if a child doesn't have a father, a mom can't control
everything. So it's like this vicious cycle because, like the mom was trying to control the kid not
to be rebellious. But like, you need two people for it to work. And especially if it's a boy, you
need the role models. Yeah, girls are more attached to their fathers. Yeah, like we need. Like, for
me, like I look at my mom, she's my role model. And like, just as it will be for my my brother, his
role model would be my dad. So like, we need two parents in our lives. And then like we don't even
		

			have that example of like a good relationship, a strong relationship. So it's easier for us to also
get into the cycle. So it's just ongoing and it never stops.
		

			So I'm like I'm also bring out a whole other modern problems, like we mentioned, like in this
society, like it's common, even from young ages, brought up in Disney movies and all the little
movies at it being allowed, you should go for it. And now I'm seeing this problem. Like in my old
middle school there girls have a whole list of dress rules and guys don't and it's only because it's
to control the guy so they can continue on their education. And just last night, I was reading
somewhere where this girl was sent home because
		

			Apparently her dress was too short. And they were saying, like everyone's complaining like you think
that her education, it's not like it's less important than her dress rule. So this whole bunch of
problems just arise from this one.
		

			So to conclude this discussion,
		

			no matter how much discussion is done on this topic, it's not enough. But the main lesson we learn
over here is that if Allah has forbidden something, then he's forbidden. Just accept it. Whether
it's difficult to accept or what if Allah has forbidden that he has forbidden it for our good. He is
protecting us from something that is worse. He's protecting us from many problems. And also what
this teaches us is that when a person commits a sin, it's not just his problem. It affects those who
are around him.
		

			Allah says Zanni the Zanni man Lazienki who he does not marry INLA except Zania turn is any woman.
Oh my gosh, Rica, or a mushrik? Woman?
		

			The word Yong Ki, who that is used over here is from Nica and what does Nica mean? Marriage. But
remember that the word Nika is used in two ways. First of all, it implies marriage meaning Marriage
Contract Act. And secondly, it also implies Jamar meaning sexual *. So as Zanny layin
Kehoe this will be understood in two ways that the Zanny man does not marry any woman except that
she is also Zania meaning he will only be interested in who he will only be interested in who is any
woman, right? Because each person seeks who those who are similar to them. Those who are like minded
those who have the same goals, same priorities in life, same values. So like for like, right Zanni
		

			lion key who Illa Zania OMA Shika or emotional woman, meaning for the Zanni his deen is not
important anymore. He will also marry a Mushnik woman, he will go to this length that deal will not
be a priority for him at all. Secondly, we understand this is that a Zanni will only do Nikka
meaning Jumar meaning sexual *, meaning Zina with who is only woman
		

			Zanni lion keahole Illa Zania 10 Oceanica meaning people with Eman people with Dakhla they don't
indulge in in these activities was Zania to and Zanni woman Lazienki who her none will marry her or
none will do Zina with her INLA except Zanon as any man or Mushnik or a mushrik man a polytheist men
will hardly Metallica Isla macmini were her Rima and it has been forbidden what has been forbidden
valleca that meaning this act of Zina is Forbidden Island Momineen on the believers meaning the
believers keep away from this. It doesn't befit believers to commit an act like this, a person with
Eman he will stay away from this. It doesn't fit him. Allah subhanaw taala is telling us a fact over
		

			here, or he's giving us a command over here. And what is this fact? What is this command that the
pure for the pure and the impure for the impure? A person who commits Zina only deserves one who is
like him or her. And the fact is that they will only be interested in such people, as any person
does not deserve to marry a chaste person.
		

			They don't deserve to marry a chaste person. And also what we see in this ayah is that for someone
who commit Zina, then what happens deen is no longer a priority for them. He will even go and do
Nica meaning have * or marry a mushrik. And you know that marriage with the mystic is not
allowed right? Marriage with an archetype meaning a Muslim man can marry a Kitabi woman but can he
marry a mystic woman? It's not allowed. But Allah is telling us here that he will even go that Zanni
person or is any woman will even go and marry a mushrik. For them deen is not important at all. What
is the concern? Desire, fulfillment of desire, lust.
		

			And also if you think about it, Zania Oh my gosh. Rika Zahn in Oh, mushrik. Meaning there's got to
be some similarity between a Mushnik person and a person who's committing Zina. There's some
similarity between them and what is that similarity that both are disloyal to Allah subhanaw taala.
The one who's committing shanties associating partners with Allah and the one who's committing Zina.
What is he doing? He's also being disloyal to Allah subhanaw taala. Right. And especially for a
person who's married
		

			This loyal to Allah and disloyal to their partner to their spouse. Well, hopefully my valley Karlen
Momineen. And this is forbidden on the believers. In a hadith we learn that there was a companion
his name was Mufasa. Right? And before he embraced Islam, all right, he used to have, you could say
a girlfriend, right? She was a prostitute and he would go to her regularly and her name was are now.
All right. So, obviously when this companion Martha Radi Allahu anhu, and he embraced Islam, he did
Toba. He left all of this he did Hijra to Medina. And he used to go to Makkah secretly in night and
he would go and free the, you know, Muslims who were kept as captives in Makkah, alright, so you
		

			will go and release them at night and just bring them you know, secretly in the middle of the night,
take them out of Makkah and bring them to Medina. Alright, so something very, very dangerous he
would do, but he would risk his life for it. Right for the sake of Allah's religion. So one night,
what happened, he went to release a particular prisoner. And as he was walking against the walls,
right in the streets very secretly, all of a sudden, there was a person over there. And this person
in the dark of the night recognized Him and who was that it was thrown out. Right? So she said,
Welcome to my city, come spend the night with me. And he said, No, this is something that Allah has
		

			forbidden, you know that I have left this. So what happened or now she screamed out that Oh, Martha
is here. All right. So basically, she made it known that he was here. So people chased him, he had
to get away. And eventually, with a lot of difficulty, he made it back to Medina. But this wasn't
his heart. You know, because she was his girlfriend. Right? He had a relationship with her in the
past.
		

			And he was wondering if he could possibly get back with her somehow.
		

			So he asked the Prophet salallahu Salam, that He Allah so Allah, can I marry her?
		

			Can I marry her? She was still in wish Rica. So he's basically asking for an exception, can I marry
her?
		

			The Prophet sallallahu sallam said, No, do not marry her. And these ideas were revealed that a
Muslim man, there's no way he would marry and wish there is no way he would marry a Zania.
		

			A prostitute? No way. I mean, if she's done, though, that is something else if she's embraced Islam,
that all our sins are wiped off, right? In fact, sins are converted into good deeds. But if she's
upon her shit, if she's upon her wrong ways, and she hasn't repented from it, then how can you get
together with the persons like that? What does it mean, then? That when it comes to marriage, when
it comes to relationships, we have to be very careful. What is it that we are seeking in the other
person? Is adjust their physical appearance? Is it just their wealth? Is it just their status? We
should also be concerned about their modesty? Their HIA? How is their interaction with people of the
		

			opposite gender? Right? What is their reputation? Like? Because a Muslim person and woman, they
should only choose who a chaste person? And you know what the reason is, what the wisdom is, because
you become like your spouse, you become like your spouse, you know, it's amazing how people will
tell you, Oh, you You resemble your husband a lot. And the way you talk now, or you're, you're
talking like her,
		

			right? Or sometimes mothers of men are amazed that what happened to your eating habits. You never
ate this food when you were in my house. And now you're eating this food. And he says, Yeah, my wife
makes it all the time. I don't have a choice. Are you with you, I had a choice. With my wife, I
don't have a choice. So you see what happens? You become like your spouse.
		

			You begin to share the same goals, same values. So if a chaste person marries an unchaste person,
what do you think is going to happen? They're going to lose their chastity as well. They're going to
lose their higher as well.
		

			Let's listen to the recitation as Zanny Lyon
		

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