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An-Nisa 26-35 Review 31-32
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in any book about your alma mater and hohner and who if you avoid the major sins which you are forbidden look at Peter uncomfy article, we will remove from you, your lesser since one of the silicone model Holland, Karima and admit you into a noble entrance, meaning in general,
we learned from Messiah, that sins are different levels, there are different types, some things are covered, and other sins are sorry.
And over here for saw, the word se e f has been used. However, technically the word se actually includes major and minor sins.
But because the word ceja has been used, in contrast to combat it, what does it refer to the minor sins on either side only.
And we learned from this, that each dinar meaning staying away from major sins is important, but at the same time, staying away from minor sins is also important.
Because you see, if you stay away from the major sins, then your minor sins are going to be wiped off. What does it mean? that both are bad? Both are wrong.
Because many times our focus is that there is a major sin don't do it. But minor sense. Okay, no big deal. one here, one there. But as we know from the Hadith, the example of the prophets or of artists among gay was of people who go somewhere and all of them they collect small pieces of wood. And if they're collected in one place, you can have a huge fire from that.
So similarly throughout his life, a person does small, small sins. If you look at it during the day, how many times do we do things at a loss Pantone could be displeased with that estimated a whole life of these things a whole life there enough to destroy a person. And remember that persisting on minor sins also becomes equivalent to a major sin. So it shows to us that staying away from major as well as minor sins is necessary. Both are important.
Because some people are very designed to say okay, you should just stay away from major sins No, staying away from both is necessary.
We also learn that if a person stays away from major sins, then his minor sins are forgiven.
We learn from a hadith in which submodel fallacy he said that the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said to me, do you know what the day of algebra is? And I said, it is a day during which a lot brought together the creation of your father Adam. He said, I know what the day of June wise, anyone who takes a bath and cleans himself as much as he can, and then proceeds for the Friday prayer and remains quiet until the man finishes the prayer
and remains quiet until the man finishes the prayer.
All of his sins in between the present and the next Friday will be forgiven as long as major sins were avoided.
What does this show to us? As long as major sins are avoided? What does that show to us?
What does this teach us? That good deeds? Yes, they do areas bad deeds, but what is it that could hinder that? What is it that could stop that? committing matrices?
So you understand good deeds, what do they do? They wipe off the sense they wipe off minor sins as long as a person does not commit major sins. So if a person does commit major sins, what do they do? They stop this process they hinder it.
also learn that the difference between the sins between the levels of sins What do they teach us? that the more event a person has, the more he will stay away from things
and the weaker a person's Eman is the more he will inclined to say
and what is it that stops the person from staying away from staying
in touch then he will what stops the person the fear of almost a predator
whenever the man know and do not wish man football Allahu be Hebrew welcome either for that by which Allah has made some of you exceed others
one at a time and No, do not wish for
the demand no is from the roof. That was mean no one year from the word attorney
antimony is a form of desire, wish, greed,
but it is to desire that which is difficult to obtain, which is difficult to achieve.
And the person who is desiring he knows that it is very difficult to get a hold of it, it is very difficult to achieve it.
And the person who has the money, what is it that makes achieving that thing difficult for him? It is the deficiency that he has it is the deficiency that disables him that we can say. And so it is very difficult for him to achieve that.
So, the money you can say is like an unattainable goal, or wish, the person who is wishing he knows that he can ever have it, he knows that he can never get it, he knows that his wish will never be fulfilled. It's beyond his ability. It's beyond his capacity. And it is impossible in reality, impossible in reality, it can never happen. What's the point of having situations when
you see one is that you wish for something, and you know that you can get it. So you try and you get it. But the other is that you wish that you know you were five years younger,
can never happen. No.
Similarly, a girl wishes I wish I was a boy, I've had so many rights, can it happen? No. Then what is the point of making such wish is nothing. So therefore Allah subhanaw taala tells us let me know, don't wish, and now over years of prohibition, you must not wish
you must not wish for what match for that which fuck blah, blah, who Allah give preference, Allah preferred, be happy with it, meaning through it.
So don't wish for that through which Allah preferred, borrow welcome some of you either lean upon others. Meaning, don't wish for that which Allah gave to some and did not give to others.
So basically, something that another person has been given, and you don't have it, don't wish for it. Don't desire it.
Fat Burner is from the ruthless fell wild lamb, as you know, follow is that which is extra, it's an extra favorite.
And definitely, is to give preference to one over the other,
to give preference to one over the other how, by giving them something by giving them some abilities and resources and means.
So, let them I know my father in law, who Ba ba ba one or the other.
What is it that Allah subhanaw taala has given to some and not given to others.
For instance, one person has more in and the other has less.
Similarly, one person has more beauty, more person, and the other has less
one person has more possessions, more men more wealth, more property, and the other has less.
One has children, the other doesn't, one is married, the other isn't.
So, we see that there is variation in the creation of a loss printer,
Allah has not created all of the creation to save all of the people the same, he has made them different in their farm in their characteristics. And also he has given them different different things,
everybody has not been made the same. If you look at it, your hands even your five fingers are not equal.
Do twins are not the same there is variation
and similarity in the risk that Allah Subhana Allah has given to people that also varies one person has been given more and the other has been given less.
So over here, the people are being told, all of us are being told don't wish for that which other people have been given and you don't have meaning don't wish to have what someone else has don't wish to have what has been given to the other
and this the money this wishing could be has said and it could also be rip off has it is jealousy and what is it that a person desires that what the other has should be taken away from him.
Like for instance, one cannot tolerate the fact that a person has so much money. So what does he wish?
I wish to suffer from some loss in their business and it loses money. This is what has
and the other is ripple. What is ripple that you appreciate the fact
that somebody else has it. But you also want it for yourself.
Like, for example, you see that men have been given, for instance, double the share of the woman in inheritance. Right? So woman wishes that Okay, fine, they have double check, I should also have double share. This is what clip but you're not wishing that they should be given less. What are you wishing they get it, but I should also have it.
So it could be of different types.
Over here law says don't wish for that which other people have been given? Does it mean that we shouldn't wish for? Like, for instance, if a person has already, you shouldn't wish that you should also have
is this what is being said?
You see, what has been said is math, that which we need for the exact same thing you can wish for similar, you can wish for similar like cerca de la Santa.
When you saw Maria right Hassan with the food, and that is what did he wish for a child? He didn't say, I want the same risk as well.
But what did he ask for? What he needed, what he wanted? What was more suitable for him.
So similarly, if a woman says that a man has been given double share, and she says I want double chairs, well, this is something that is hazard. And this is something that is forbidden, but a woman, what can she do, she can pray to Allah subhanaw taala for increase in wealth. If a man has been given so much, well, I want money as well. So let me know my father in law will be broken up. Why? Because this leads to jealousy. This leads to jealousy. This leads to in gratitude.
A person doesn't look at what he has. And instead he wishes for what the other people have.
And if you think of it, every person has been given some blessing something or the other.
What you have, the other doesn't have and what the other has, you don't have. So if you're wishing for that with the other person has, first of all, it's making you jealous. Secondly, this is in gratitude. You're not grateful for what you have been given.
Like for instance of a woman says men have double share narratives. And she forgets that she has a shared do. She doesn't look at that.
She forgets that she gets mad, and the man doesn't get anything.
She forgets that she gets nothing, and the man doesn't get it.
So what does this feeling do? It makes the person ungrateful for what Allah has given you.
And in gratitude is something that Allah does not like. So let Adama Noma football Allahu be Baba kumanovo.
And notice, Allah has said, Allah has given preference. Allah has given something to someone and has not given it to another. What does it show that this is the division of labor?
And if you object, then what is this? What is the person doing? He's objecting the wisdom of Allah, the division of Allah. Allah knows who deserves what Allah knows why someone has been given something. He is the one who has given it in the first place. He knows why he has given it. And if a person is objecting, if a person is being jealous, then what is it? He is objecting the wisdom of Allah subhanaw taala it is as a person is saying I know better. It is as though a person is saying that Allah does not know. So don't do this. A loss of pantalla is forbidding us from doing this.
And usually you see this strife. This is between men and women, typically,
men say how come women get more hurt and women say how come and get this. And generally people do a lot of comparison as well between men and women, between sons and daughters.
So if Allah subhanaw taala has given more to someone and less to someone, don't wish for that which Allah has given to the other person.
And in this division that Allah subhanaw taala has kept there is some wisdom behind it. This is how this dunya functions. This is how this world functions,
that the need of one has been kept with another. Why? So that one gets the responsibility. He fulfills that responsibility. He is kind to the other. He is obedient to Allah and he gets reward
and the other who does not have he is patient. He does solver and he also gets reward.
If everybody was the same. Let's say every single person in this world was a doctor. What would happen would
You need to go to somebody, no, you wouldn't need to go to anybody to help you with your health. So when Allah Subhana, Allah has given some knowledge to someone one skill to someone and not giving it to the others. What does this do?
This is how the dunya works. This is how this world functions. And if everybody had everything, then people won't need one another.
The man has been given more, and the woman has been given less why, so that the man spends on the woman
so that both of them take care of each other.
The man spends, the woman obeys, and this is how they live in harmony together.
And if both of them said no, I don't care about you, then would that be a happy family?
No, and if the basic family is not happy, then how can the society function.
So the needs of people have been kept with one another, Why? So that they can work with one another, so that they can give each others who cook right.
Literally joining us, even for the men is a share, mimic the Sabu from what they have earned.
It possible is from calf seen that Gus cuss and what disgusts me to gain and at sab is to gain something through effort. It is to gain something through effort it is to put in effort in order to acquire something.
And if this also get a sense of desiring or craving for what you're trying to get hold of.
So literally jolliness Lieberman accessible, the men will have a portion of what they earn, meaning whatever they desire to achieve, whatever they strive to achieve, they will get the fruit of their labor,
they will get the fruit of their labor.
If you look at it, over here, it has been said that little jelly nusseibeh mimic possible, what will people have? What they strive for? What are we been told at the beginning of the year? Stop wishing and start working.
Stop wishing and start working. Because sometimes we just get stuck here. You know, I don't have that much money. So God gives us
I don't have that much, Eamon so I don't play that much. I don't have that much. I don't read on that much. What do we learn over here?
Wish, okay, desire for that which is good. It is lm and farrokh. be greedy for that which is beneficial for you.
But don't just have that wish, do something
exists or do something, earn something, acquire something. So when you get what you strive for, then what's the point of wishing and desiring you have to do something in order to get it?
Let the Janus label mimic that saboo willingness in a three one mimic the southerner and the women also will have from what they acquire.
The men get what they strive for. The women get what they strive for,
what does it show to us,
then the sleep of the men and women depends on what on their striving on their effort.
Just because a person is a man doesn't mean they will get a lot of reward. Just because a person is a woman doesn't mean they will get a lot of reward.
What is it that will get you some benefit in the aphylla?
your work, you're striving
and for both men and women, Allah subhanaw taala has told us what the men should do, but the women should do.
And what should a person focus on what I am supposed to do,
not what the other person has and how come I don't have it No. Focus on what you need to do.
Because that is what you will get India
was a little Mohammed fugly and ask Allah of his bounty.
Why? Because in alpha bla indeed the funnel is with who we are the lights and the hand of Allah, your demon, your show, he gives it to whoever he wills.
So ask Allah Subhana Allah for his father,
meaning don't desire greedily in vain.
Because sometimes what happens, we see something that a person has, and we want it.
Now one is that you just keep wishing and wishing and wishing.
And the other is that you do with the career and is surrounded, that they have this if Allah can give this to this person, he can fulfill my need as well. He can fulfill my wish as well. So what's alarming from the Ask a lot for his father? Because people where do they have these things from?
First place who gave it to them?
And also panda. So if Allah is one who gave it to them, why should you be jealous of that person? Allah gave him
if you want, ask him, if he can give it to them, he can give it to you what other Mohammed family
and falling over here has been understood as First of all, his that his meaning his cause and
whether that is his food or money or in or whatever, whatever that you want. Don't look at what other people have, but rather ask Allah serpentine.
And secondly, follow over here has been understood as the field for thought, the field for obedience,
that if for instance, men, they go for jihad, they do so much, and the women are sitting at home. But should they do
ask Allah for there was no Mohammed probably in the lobby coalition in Lima indeed, allies with everything we
we learned about this either on cinema. She said O Messenger of Allah, men go to battle. But we don't go to battle. And we get we earn only half of the share of inheritance that when
so then this iron was revealed.
That was alarming probably the main goal for jihad. They will get whatever they strive for whatever they work for, and the women, you can also do something. So do that. When you say in a civil matter seven, and if you want something as cool as a last penalty, if you want to feel Don't be jealous of the other person that look, they have so much they're getting ahead. Ask him for his father and father includes the field for for ask him to give you the ability to obey Him.
In the law cannabic Alicia in Lima Indeed, Allah is with everything knowing what does he mean by this, Allah knows about everything
that Allah knows where marriage is deserved,
where some phuddle is deserved. If he has given something to someone, he knows why he has given it to them.
So if somebody has a skill, if somebody has something that you don't have, know that Allah Subhana, Allah knows who deserves what
similarity in the law Academy, coalition, or edema, he is knowing he knows about what you want, what you desire, and how much you're striving for it, how much you're praying for it, he knows about it.
Similarly, he knows what he has given to who and what they are doing with it.
Remember, nobody has been given nothing.
Everyone has been given something or the other.
Look at what you have been given.
recognize your talents, see what Allah has given to you, and do your best.
Because you cannot attain a loss of Panthers closeness or pleasure by being someone else. By being someone who you are not.
Allah has given you a talent, use that talent to come closer to him to attain His pleasure.
Because you can only do best at what you have.
And if you try to imitate others, can you really perform well? You can't.
If you're good at cooking, and you want to go race in the field, why? Because there's a huge price for it. And you've never raised Are you going to win? No. But if you participate in something that has to do with cooking, then maybe you will excel so if you're just wishing for what somebody else has been given and you're not looking at what you have, how will you excel? How will you do something? Whatever Allah has given you use it
as we learn in the Quran in this area can
indeed your sorry, Your endeavor, your efforts are various are different. Everybody is working differently.
Why? Because everybody has been given different abilities.
So what do we learn from this if we should make the lie that Allah subhanaw taala should give us a trophy to excel in what we have been given? Because it's possible that somebody else has something and you wish for that. But if you have it, you want to excel the same way that they have Excel, you want benefit the same way that they have benefited.
by for example, sometimes people want a great position, a high position or a big responsibility. And when they're given that responsibility, they cannot fulfill it properly.
They cannot do it because it's not within their means. They're not good at it.
If you try to be
Someone else, that you are not actually, then what's going to happen. You can't stay in that state for long, you will fall back to your original state very soon. Like, for instance, if people have curly hair or something to try to straighten them, the woman they wash their hair, what happens?
It goes back to being curly again.
And if a person is content with the fact that it was a pleasure to give them curly hair, they keep them as they are, maybe they'll be happier. Maybe they won't have the stress of straightening their hair all the time.
We have to focus on what we have been given and avail the opportunities that Allah has provided us. Because at the end of the day, what are we going to get? What are we going to get what we have worked hard for. And today, especially nobody can say that because I'm a woman, because I'm a girl, therefore, I cannot do this. Go to the library and see the number of books that they're there, search online, and you will find so much information.
I remember once I was listening to a lecture by a scholar, in which he had mentioned about how he has learned Arabic,
there are people who go abroad to learn. And he learned how, from a dictionary by using it,
by doing it
by spending time
what do we want, we want like a teacher and we want a course and we want to three months in which we can become proficient within just a few days. But how can you become proficient, unless and until you actually spend time until you try hard until you practice? You cannot.
So you have to put in effort. You have to strive hard. And only when you put in effort, then you will get something in your hand. And at the end of the day, on the day of judgment, what are you going to be examined about
about how much effort you put
how much effort you put in.
We shouldn't just indulge in wishful thinking. But rather, we should focus on working on striving and doing something with what Allah subhanaw taala has given us.
It's also possible that what the other person has been given is a big test for them. Like we know that something good is also a test just as something bad is a test. So if somebody has been given a huge test, you want the same big difficult test for yourself.
And we have to realize the fact that no human being is perfect. And no person can work on their own. No person can just live on their own. People need to work with one another in order to complement one another.
So if men have been given something, women have been given something different, it's not so that they challenge one another and strive against one another, but they have been given different abilities, different capabilities, Why? So that they complement one another,
so that they help one another. They can live together and achieve more together.
Also, we learn from this idea that whatever Allah Subhana Allah has given to some and not given to some, there is always some wisdom behind it.
So basically, that the fallible, the fallible that Allah subhanaw taala has kept, which is that he has given more freedom to some and less to others. There is some hikma behind it.
So in all of these rights that have been given in this surah thus far, to the women, to the children, to the orphans, to the men, why is it so? There is some hikma behind it, there is some wisdom behind it. And if a person objects, then what is he objecting? What is he challenging the wisdom of a muscle?
And her person wants something, what should we do? Asking?
And we should remember that our efforts are going to be examined in the US.
And we also see that the men and women they are different. Men are different. The women are different Larijani mostly woman accessible willingness is a woman Makita, Sedna. So accept what Allah has given you and do what you can with it.
And the way that Allah Subhana Allah ends the ayah that in the Mojave condition or Lima, what should that remind us of?
That Allah is watching me, he knows me. He knows what he has given me. And he knows about what I'm doing.
So I should be mindful of him. Whatever Allah has given me, what is my behavior? Am I grateful for it? Am I being ungrateful?
am I showing it off to others? Or am I being helpful to others?
Allah is watching me, Allah knows me, so I should be mindful of him.
Assalamu alaikum I was just thinking that as women, we always
complain that, oh, you know, such and such brother they're getting to go to so the and you know, they're sitting Medina University, they're sitting in Egypt and they're getting to learn Arabic. And you know, we can't even go to the Arabic classes here because they take place at night and we can't travel alone, we have all these excuses, right? Or it's on the weekend, our parents won't let us go, we have all these restrictions or so we say. And so Alyssa says, Lily jelly, no sleep on me my
willingness, I know
that Allah Subhana, Allah has given everybody their share, and they should use it properly. For example, 111, Allah has given us the opportunity to come here, it's during the day, you know, it's during hours that our parents will allow us Alhamdulillah. So we should make use of what we have. And excel in that. And then through that, Allah will make more ways for us, sometimes we just complain and complain, oh, you know, I want to study Arabic, and I want to do this, and I want to do that, and I want to become a habit, then I want to do this. But we should actually take advantage of what we have First, make use of it, do the best we can, and actually not waste our time. Because
sometimes we think, Oh, it's just this easy stuff. You know, I can do this later on as well. I want to go to higher studies, I want to go to higher studies, make sure that you know this first properly, and then you can go to higher studies.
Because the more a person benefits from the blessings, and he's grateful, then what happens? Allah Subhana, Allah gives him more,
the more a person avails the trophies that Allah gives him, then, the more
we learned about the afterlife, in the Hulk of a loss of panatela, the differences between the night and the day. So obviously, there are differences in people as well.
Because both the night and the day are necessary. Similarly, both the man and the woman are necessary.
The abilities that the man has been given, they're important and the abilities that the woman has been given, they're important as well, where the man is tough, and the woman is more affectionate, both are necessary.
What keeps us away, what stops us from excelling in what we're good at is when we compare ourselves with others too much, when we're always comparing,
when we're not grateful for what we have.
And remember, when we're not grateful for it, we have, how can we benefit from it.
Like, for example, there are two people one has more money and the other has less money, and the person with less money, he actually uses that money to do something. He has benefited. And the person who has more money if he just wastes it. What good is that money.
So at the end of the day, it's not about how much you've been given. It's about what you do with what you have been given. That is what goes
so what's the main lesson?
Look at what Allah has given you and do something with it. Use it to benefit yourself, use it to benefit other people. Don't get stuck at what you don't have. Don't be stuck there. Don't just search for that. Look at what Allah has given you. And maybe when you will benefit from it, then also Python will open another door for you
to do something first.
Let's listen to the recitation of these verses.
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