Tahir Wyatt – Love For Your Brother

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The importance of praying to God and not just doing harm is emphasized in these topics. It is also emphasized that avoiding harm and praying to parents is important. The importance of honoring parents' rights and not just doing harm is emphasized. Consent to pray is also emphasized. The importance of understanding one's own rights and values is emphasized. The speaker emphasizes the need for a strong understanding of one's own rights and values to better manage situations.

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			But the most beloved actions are loss of grade, at the very early time of the break.
		
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			He then said, or he said, I asked the Prophet, then what the prophet said, have been doing. So your
parents want to take a step back before we get to do evil to parents.
		
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			Because we are in this month of Ramadan, and we are striving
		
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			to get better.
		
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			And
		
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			I just want to comment on something. I noticed that
		
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			in many of the massages in the Muslim world,
		
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			that there are more people in Ramadan, that there are more people in the masjid. And then there are
		
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			Why is that?
		
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			They are sleeping,
		
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			because they are sleeping.
		
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			And I'm going to tell you by law, by law, the word prayer is better than 1000 pmle.
		
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			Prayer is an obligation.
		
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			It is better than 1000 families.
		
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			But some people for whatever reason,
		
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			they push themselves to pray.
		
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			And they stay up all night or whatever your case may be. They prey on hungry, but then they don't
rear their heads again.
		
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			And this is a waste. This is a waste of your fancy day
		
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			to spend the entire day sleeping, to the point that you leave off your room. Those things that Allah
is obligated the prime
		
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			directive
		
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			is that it is obligated to pray to man in the masjid.
		
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			If in fact you live close enough to the vest,
		
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			so that a person and then this is why it's important to note that the missile was a puppy, he asked
the Prophet is allowed to sell in which he is most beloved to that so that he could memorize some
academic categorization of, of good deeds so that you can implement.
		
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			So we all know that salaat at its earliest time is the best thing.
		
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			Why put something in front of it? Why do you think that's going to divert you from doing the best
ease This is a trick from shapen. See, shaman is not able to deceive everyone into doing harm.
		
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			So
		
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			it is enough for him to deceive you to leave off that which is better.
		
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			To do something that is good. And you're doing something good. But you're leaving off that which is
better.
		
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			If someone was to do that in business, we will all look at him as if something was wrong with his
business, even if he is making some small profit. And he's making $1 or two off of each item instead
of what we could be making 50 or $100. It would say something's wrong.
		
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			Even if he's profit,
		
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			we will look at that as being a loss. Likewise,
		
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			what is better,
		
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			to do something that is less than it in virtue, and we've been tricked. So
		
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			be aware of
		
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			one thing, a lot of data has declared to be the most beloved to him. And that is a salon. I know
what he had. And he prayed at its earliest times, not delaying your prayers. This is this is the
most beloved passion for love.
		
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			Then
		
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			infamous rule says there are a lot of approximation of said bill one day to be dutiful to your
parents to treat them well.
		
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			And if we take this in context,
		
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			we will begin to recognize
		
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			how much virtue we're losing.
		
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			Besides, you know, is it better to read the entire book,
		
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			from cover to cover, but to be dutiful, to your marriage
		
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			to be doing
		
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			better than pmla, spelling and everything else, except for salado to be doing to get married.
		
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			And many of us are missing hours. We're missing out on this opportunity and most of your parents are
dead.
		
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			You don't have that same opportunity to serve them to be righteous to them to be meaningful to them.
You don't have that same
		
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			opportunities, once they've gone with nothing but regret and
		
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			serve them, while you still have that opportunity now, guess
		
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			where the profit is selected the synapses in Buckland been the strongest form of bid
		
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			to your parents. So your father says to your parents, is to keep ties with those who we love, even
after he's depart.
		
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			So the people in your father love, that is some of them may also be your family. So you get a double
reward if you have that intention of being dutiful to them, or keeping the time with them after your
father has died. So his his brothers and sisters, for example, his brother in law, and the other
people who use a lot as friends, that should be dutiful to them is a service to to your client, even
after you say,
		
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			another Medicaid to the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said, Is there a way that we can still be dutiful
to our parents after their death, and to pray over them,
		
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			to make it fun for them. And if you say, to ask the last round to ask, we give them and that the
promise of why they was not upset and to
		
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			connect the ties with those who they attached.
		
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			So this is a form of
		
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			even after they have that,
		
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			even after they have died, this is still a form of food or money. But while they are alive, and we
should be striving our best. And recognizing that to serve them is better than any other good thing
that we can do except for saliva. And our brain at its at its earliest times. That is because a must
handle data
		
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			mentioned in the core is the obligation of worshipping Him alone.
		
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			And then he says, and then we mentioned in conjunction with that, being dutiful to your parents
		
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			must
		
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			have been one thing.
		
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			Your Lord decreed that you worship none, but in a letter.
		
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			And that should be dutiful and righteous, the Americans that is totally worthy, worthy, they
		
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			thanked me, and then thank you parents, it has been that you will return to us because of the great
rights that parents have a lot of that as mentioned it in conjunction with his rights, which is to
be worshipped alone. He mentioned that in conjunction with that, in the Quran. And the Prophet is
		
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			really
		
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			forget the EU. This is also one of those things that we should implement in our life. Anyone who
does you compensated the
		
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			illegal mountain for capital, anyone who does good to you that compensates them for what they've
done gang free.
		
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			And it's best to happen save them in a like manner. In other words, if they find something for you
to make sure you've done that same thing for them or even
		
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			McAfee.
		
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			Okay?
		
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			Who is that you know, that you know, has done more good to you to give parents
		
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			more money. For those of you who have to think about how much of your life you faltered
		
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			for the well being of your children. And this is something that's known. And if you look back, you
may not know the struggles that your parents have gone through. But believe me, believe me, you were
a life altering factor
		
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			for the mother without a doubt, because she had to carry for nine months
		
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			after birth itself is something that you can't pay them back kind of like the payments that they go
through the pain that they go for labor, but just the fact that you've altered or been
		
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			to the point that many women feel shame after they've given delivery, and they have stretch marks
and they don't look the same and the bodies don't behave like they used to and
		
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			all of this. They've done the
		
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			career change that you change that
		
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			is so
		
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			intense the nurturing that they've done for you, when you could not pay for yourself, their
protection of you,
		
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			providing you with the things that you needed so that you could grow up with your education, and all
of that.
		
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			And all of that Milady they may not even because of the difficulty that they, they may not even
remember many of the things that they've done for you and the decisions that they've made. Because
they compartmentalize it, they put it in a part that they don't want to remember, because that's how
they're performing.
		
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			The profit is anybody who does good to you,
		
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			return back.
		
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			So this is part of your dutifulness to your patrons.
		
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			And what that means is that you put forth every effort to please them, as we'll cover in a bit, so
long that is not displeasing to Allah. So that is the first type of interaction that a person has
with their parents that is,
		
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			the second is the opposite event, which is that they cause harm to their parents.
		
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			Perhaps they insult them, they speak about them in a negative way, they raised their voice to their
parents presence, their parents asked them to do something they refuse.
		
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			This is called a little clue
		
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			that a person is separate.
		
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			The third type, and this is from the debate, as we've already covered, this is from the major sins
in Islam.
		
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			The
		
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			and the way to repent from them, the ways to repent them is to feel regret,
		
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			to vow not to go back to that
		
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			cease and desist. That is that you are not doing anything that is displeasing to your parents, and
to ask them to forgive you for what has proceeded. Because that's their right? Say right? Oh,
		
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			by the third type of
		
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			interaction between the child and his or her parents is one that is not
		
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			in there. So they're not actively trying to do anything to please their parents. But at the same
time, they're not actively trying to harm their parents or doing anything that is displeasing to
their parents, and this is fine as well.
		
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			Also not permissible, because our obligation is to please them, not to distance ourselves, not to
not causing them any harm. Oh, that's no, it is to bring them pleasure, and to
		
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			bring them to do those things that they enjoy in life. That is your obligation. So if you're not
doing what you are obligated to do, then you have fallen into that was a lot of data as forbidding.
		
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			The issue here that may come up is what if your parents asked you to do something that is
displeasing to Allah.
		
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			In this case, you are forbidden from obeying them. In general, if your parents asked you to do
something permissible, permissible by
		
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			right now, you go to the grocery store and you buy your groceries, that's permissible, or what was
		
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			permissible, permissible for you to go there's no command from the Prophet it is that you have to go
by
		
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			so it's permissible for you to do
		
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			if your parents tell you to go by them,
		
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			it was permissible now with that comes what
		
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			mounting obligation. Now, it becomes an obligation for you to go to the grocery store. So when your
parents can manage to do what is initially permissible, it becomes an obligation.
		
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			If they command you to do something that is Additionally
		
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			it also becomes an obligation. So for example, your parents may say not your parents may say to your
child, ready to rock
		
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			to rock as before budget is something that is highly emphasized.
		
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			You told your child to do it now becomes an obligation to do clear, like,
		
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			if the parents ask you to do something that is haram,
		
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			then you are not to obey them.
		
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			Because there is no obedience to the creation and disobedience to the Creator. That does not mean
however,
		
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			that you are to deal with them in a manner that is impermissible. So, for example,
		
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			if your father
		
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			was to tell you to go buy something that is harmful,
		
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			let's just say cigarettes.
		
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			It doesn't mean you say that those cigarettes are hot. And I'm never going to do that and I, and you
interact with him in a manner that is inappropriate for a child to interact with their parents.
		
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			But just to say to him, that I would hope that she would excuse me from doing it. Because you know
that smoking is impermissible. And I don't want to eight to avoid anything that would cause you to
be distanced from a loss, or some other way of picking up. And if he's still angry with you, that's
okay. At that point, because you have to put your love of data and your desire for lots of love you
offer your love for your parents, we get a desire for them to love.
		
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			But again, that doesn't mean because some people when they hear this, they just go off with their
parents.
		
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			This is also impermissible. Also impermissible, you have to figure out some kind of way to come to a
better resolution. Like
		
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			what about
		
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			what about if
		
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			you marry anybody?
		
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			Like the father tells you, the bush your wife?
		
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			Do you have to fake your mother or father, if they tell you to divorce your wife?
		
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			Anyone else?
		
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			Of course, no.
		
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			Of course
		
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			totally alone
		
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			on the low end, said that I was very to a woman that I love tremendous.
		
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			He said my father
		
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			and
		
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			my father commanded me to divorce.
		
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			So I told him no.
		
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			And I refused. He refused he told his father
		
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			so he went to the prophet Isaiah select the Sudan and he told me what happened he told the Prophet
my father's telling me to do this and I refused
		
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			and Rama
		
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			Rama
		
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			the one
		
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			you have to be theoretically
		
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			so here no of course you don't have to divorce like we have this
		
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			for each telling
		
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			to obey is fun.
		
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			Anyone else?
		
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			Like Yes.
		
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			Just like
		
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			the forest. That's a sign
		
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			the province is the worst of this like bylaw and I imagine that he's thinking about the heavy
		
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			steel ally Alliance is the most beloved
		
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			the most hated of the * out of
		
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			the prioritize and didn't say that.
		
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			Many of the companions divorced and remarried and women likewise and and it's
		
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			it's not something
		
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			it's not something that falls in divorce. Divorce can fall into all five categories, if you will,
can be wet, which can be used to have the can be hot. It can be McCool, it can be any of those
things. But we don't want to just put the force on the one category to say this like.
		
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			Like, here the answer The answer is
		
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			that the majority of the scholars of Islam in early times today say that a man does not have to obey
his parents if they demand for him to divorce his wife
		
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			A man came to me.
		
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			And he said, Amen. My father has commanded me to divorce my wife, do I have to do anything? And
		
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			the man said, What about
		
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			in Oman, whose father told him to divorce his wife in the province.
		
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			He said, when your father is like,
		
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			if your father is on the level of your father, as the level of the man,
		
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			that he's not going to tell you to divorce your wife for some doing up some worldly things.
		
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			We know that
		
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			he didn't tell his son divorce your wife, except that he knew that this woman was not going to be
good for his deep need that there was some seven.
		
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			Okay, so there was some legislative reason that prevented him from to tell him.
		
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			So now,
		
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			this is this is the point here that the majority of scholars didn't understand that because it's
your father, you have to obey Him. And that is because that there was a reason for him to tell him
to his wife. So likewise, likewise, here's the point. If the parents are involved from the
beginning,
		
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			then a lot of times you can avoid, you can avoid getting to the point where they're going to tell
you to divorce this woman, what if the woman is causing corruption in the house.
		
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			That's a different scenario, it should be about the husband himself to recognize that this situation
that this woman is no is not good for is the norm, or for his situation. The point is that we obey
our parents and everything. That is, obviously they tell you something that you have to do with this
man in the first place. Or they're telling you to do something that is supposed to help, or they're
telling you to do something that is pullback, and is something that is initially permissible. Now, a
lot of times these are hypothetical scenarios. Because most of the time, there is no
		
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			contradiction
		
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			between obey your parents of doing the other things that you want to do. All right, but once there
is, one there is so for example, if your father needs you to care for all times,
		
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			that you should care for your mother the entire night, and not pray that night for it.
		
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			Usually, though, usually, though, the same way that you
		
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			seek her permission to deceptive design, pray with it, for example, it's not going to take you
longer than 10 or 15 minutes, right. And if she permission to the deck and step to the side, right?
The same way, when it's something that you have to do, you want to go to the side, if you need to
use the bathroom with him, you want to go use the bathroom, you're gonna come back. But if that
means that you can't pray kind of weird, because you have to care for your mother. Like, literally,
you may have to care for her. She may have a physical condition where she needs your help, she needs
you to be by her side, in the hospital or whatever.
		
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			And this is more beloved to the loss of habitat. And this becomes your obligation rather than
praying the night prayer.
		
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			What is better to serve your parents, so it's a fast Monday, Thursday. It's better
		
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			to serve your parents understand, but the point here, the problem after praying, and it's proper
time, there's nothing more than you can do better than serving your parents and being dutiful to
them and honoring them indicates where there is a contradiction. This is where we this is where this
comes into play. So if you need to help your mother do something where you can't fast the same time
doing that is too much work is too difficult or whatever, and help your money and don't match on
that Monday or that Thursday. Obviously, it's surely Ramadan because it is an obligation for you to
bet.
		
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			So,
		
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			again, this question is about when your parents are not.
		
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			And this is something that many of the brothers in the West insisted in the West as well have to
deal with their parents are non Muslims. And they are asking them to do things or asking them not to
do things which may be desirable.
		
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			This one is maybe desirable. And here you have to have some, some deep understanding of your deen
and know how to navigate through those waters because there aren't cookie cutter, cookie cutter
answers for this type of stuff. And each situation has to be dealt with.
		
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			Each situation has to be dealt with independently because for example, if you're if your mother's
		
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			right, she's supposed to say, you expect this, she may accept this lamb any day any weakness.
		
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			That's going to require different sensitivity, the parents who have basically pushed you away.
		
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			And there's really not that there's no hope that they will become Muslim, because you can say that
you'll never know
		
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			when that turns to hearts, and we know of some of the campaign's who told the Prime Minister that
there was nobody before Islam, who was more likely to test it more than you. And now there's nobody
in my love for the new.
		
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			You don't know how to turn the hearts. But what I'm saying is in that scenario, where they are far
from you, they don't, you're not going to leave off doing those things which are desirable in this
land, to try to please them. But if she's close to the same, you may leave off something
temporarily, because that is what she wants you to do at that particular time.
		
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			And it is no one is no one is
		
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			one on one.
		
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			We know after the end
		
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			of the
		
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			marriage that the Prophet sallallahu alayhi wa sallam said, by him in whose hand my soul is a slave
of the law does not truly believe God wishes for his neighbor, or his brother, when he wishes for
himself. hottie most of
		
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			the promises of mine is talking about the importance of loving for your neighbor or your brother as
it comes to this narration, what you love for yourself the importance of that lamb and what that
entails. And
		
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			this
		
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			is one of the forehead effects.
		
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			layer one who was the man of the Maliki sovereigns during his time period.
		
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			He said that the etiquettes of Islam revolve around for heavy over fun. You ready because I think
all of you know these.
		
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			This Happy Friday, which is what none of you believes that he translated or he said truly believe
		
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			does not truly believe but I'll address that in a minute and none of you believes and so he loves
what his brother what he loves, when so that's the first thing.
		
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			The second thing
		
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			that from the perfection of one's practice of Islam is to leave all that which is not concerned
		
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			for that which you should not be bothered with. Maybe a better translation.
		
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			The third honey
		
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			is the honey was the main page of the essay can be some advice.
		
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			Don't get angry, don't be nice, the third and then the fourth
		
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			is the Hadith where the Prophet sallallahu Sallam said whoever believes in Allah, and the last day
the legend say that which is good.
		
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			And a lot can be said about these four headings, and how every aspect of a person's character is a
branch of these four
		
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			branches off from these four headings. So this section that we want to cover. Some of that is the
		
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			dramatic thumbs up on the allowance or the servant of the Prophet it is the one who served him for
10 years here in Medina.
		
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			The province of it said that the province as I said in the beginning of this one let enough see be
led by the one who saved my soul.
		
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			And this is a form of swearing by law.
		
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			Right, like a person might save a lot.
		
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			But this is this is a bit deeper than your normal. Then
		
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			if you look at the profit when the profit is selected with synapses here, what led
		
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			by the point
		
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			in whose hand my soul?
		
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			It is as if the profit because what is your soul? Your soul is what? This what gives you it's what
your life is. The body without a soul is this support.
		
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			So, with the soul, you have life. So it says if the Prophet alayhi salaatu wa Salaam is swearing by
law, to the point that what I'm about to tell you, if it's not true, May my life be taken.
		
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			Many that's how
		
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			confident he is and what he said.
		
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			Approximately
		
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			FC via de la yo meet
		
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			apologetically only no person believes until he loves for his neighbor, or for his brother, what he
loves, for himself.
		
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			Now, the majority of those who narrated this having said it for his brother, because in general,
your neighbor is going to be your brother, if you live in a Muslim man says your neighbor, your
neighbor is. So he's your brother.
		
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			But even if your neighbor is not a Muslim, they still have many rights. The Prophet sallallahu
wasallam said that he really
		
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			came to him and would persistently demand him to be good times his neighbor to the point that he
thought that the neighbor would be his heir. Not only that the neighbor would inherit from him.
That's how, that's how much he that jabril was telling him to be kind and good to stick to that.
		
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			And the Prophet is alive, Alon you.
		
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			The lie by law, he doesn't believe by law, by law, he doesn't believe
		
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			he's
		
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			the one whose neighbor is not safe from his heart.
		
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			All right. So the neighbor has a tremendous status in Islam.
		
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			And in this has been the practice, a lot of the Southern says that none of you believes until he
loves for his neighbor, or his brother, but he loves himself.
		
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			Some people might say, Yeah, but that's in every religion.
		
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			They call it
		
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			Golden Rule, the golden rule,
		
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			the golden rule, do unto others do unto others as you would have would have done unto you.
		
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			But they call it the ethics of reciprocity.
		
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			Right? Do unto others as you would have done unto you. Is this the same?
		
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			Is this the same?
		
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			Okay, but let's just go with the, with your brothers, do you? You don't believe that till you love
for your brother? Would you love this a man?
		
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			Okay, that's it. That's it. The point here here that the brother says that
		
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			whether or not someone does good to you is
		
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			that that's not what we considered to this lady. But Likewise, we do unto others as you would have
done unto you, it doesn't mean that they've actually done something good to you. But it's a bit
different. And that is the intention that the Prophet is talking about your heart.
		
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			And it's different, is different. Do unto others as you would have done unto you that's something
that's some material, something that, that it doesn't require that you actually love that it
		
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			doesn't require that you'd love for them, what you love for yourself. It's just that you're doing to
them what you would have done unto you, but it doesn't require that you love it. And there's a
difference. You'll see it when we, when we get to that point,
		
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			you'll see that
		
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			there is a profound difference in actually wanting for your brother.
		
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			What you want for yourself. As a matter of fact, I mean, that's a delay. You know, we have
		
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			all of us want to be but direct query is that that's a natural. That's a natural thing. We want
		
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			Because we want to have better health, we want to have more Well, we want to have whatever it is we
tend to as human beings, we tend to want something. But okay. That means that you, as this study
requires that you want your brother to be better
		
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			means that you want your brother to be better. Now, some people might say, Well, what does that
mean?
		
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			One of the great scholars of the past said to me,
		
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			something that is secret, I want you to try to wrap your head around the vision that
		
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			he said,
		
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			If you want your brother to be like you,
		
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			if you want your brother to be like you, that you have not been able to unlock many things in the
seat, then
		
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			you are not being true to Allah. If you want your brothers to be like, why don't you have
shortcomings?
		
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			Don't you have things in your heart that you want to change? So why do you want your brother to be
like you,
		
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			you don't want him to be like you,
		
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			you should want your brother to be better than you. Because you want to be better. And that's not
easy. That's not easy. It requires
		
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			a lot of dialysis, it requires that you have a very pure heart. And that you cleanse your heart,
from all types of envy, and jealousy and deceit, and all of the diseases of the heart. So live says
that live
		
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			search, if you want your brother to be like you meditate Tennessee, true to Allah. So how about when
you want them to be less than you
		
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			understand what this Hadith of the Prophet is the same because we let this stuff come up in our
tongues all the time. Love for your brother, which you love me, so are you doing that by someone
else. So love, what is something that we need, and they have a love for your brother, which you love
you. So
		
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			it starts with you. And this is something that has to be from the heart. You know, we have to change
the way our hearts are we have to work one day be conscious of it. These events, one of the things
that helps us to work on that my life has helped me here. The Prophet alayhi salatu salam says that
none of you believes Now I know that they translated as none of you truly believe what the prophet
sallallahu wasallam said he said is that is that none of you believes.
		
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			I am going to talk about this for a minute because I believe that these are things that help you
understand your religion, but all of us and because we read these type of things in
		
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			the process is so salon is so salon. when food is fresh.
		
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			If the food has been served, there is no salon. Normally you are pushing back your mentors to use
the restroom.
		
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			There's no salon.
		
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			Does that mean there's no solid meaning that they somebody can't pray when? When food is present? It
doesn't mean fight. So let's look at what negation the Prophet on a slide was saying what is he
negating here? All right. So let's look at, for example, in the language not just in the Arabic
language, but in most languages.
		
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			When you say when you negate something, you could be negating its existence. So for example, we
might say that
		
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			we talked about mother's prayer today, which is the night Mama. Right? My mother prayer, which is
there's still a couple hours left four hours before
		
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			Has anyone pray moment of prayer. You
		
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			know, there has been no one that is praying moment of prayer. We're negating its existence hasn't
come into existence. So there is no longer period
		
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			that says we're negating existence, like
		
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			a man came into the mesh
		
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			and
		
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			came to the
		
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			energy for something
		
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			back and pray because you didn't read.
		
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			The Hadith says that the man came and he went to record the prayer. He didn't
		
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			Right,
		
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			these 2pm
		
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			the man went back
		
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			to the proxy son of the Center
		
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			for somebody when they're gonna
		
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			go back and pray
		
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			right now see, like the one who we say he didn't pray, but like I might say you didn't pray. Right?
It didn't come into this guy like that. And we negating the existence of a prayer
		
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			came back a third time.
		
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			Probably some said, Go back and pray because you didn't pray. So
		
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			I can't do any better than this. This is the only way I know.
		
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			It, if you saved up for a face to face a lot, but but the point was, this man didn't have it and the
obligatory
		
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			tranquility in his crate. So he was, you know, going through his prayer very quickly, like you'll
see some people cry, like a chicken, like the prophecy sometimes.
		
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			And by the way, if you see somebody right like that, you should advise
		
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			because you see some people here
		
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			he can make
		
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			the wood is so quick, you don't realize that.
		
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			So if you see someone who identifies them, you need to have tranquility in your brain. But what is
the profit is like in the game here, negating the demand set up.
		
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			Since the gating symbols the validity of is rare. So we might say that, this that we might negate
something to negate its validity, not that it actually exists.
		
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			But that's why there's a third type of negation.
		
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			I'll give you just
		
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			from a linguistic perspective, like the English you say, he's not a he's not a man.
		
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			What does that mean? He's not a man
		
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			means he is not a male will reach stage of human
		
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			action actually a man men,
		
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			he doesn't behave like a man.
		
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			Not Not that you're going to insult a woman. But the point is, he's just doesn't have qualities of
what we would consider to be a man. Right? So you're not investigating that. He's a male,
		
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			which are negating certain qualities. So he doesn't have the complete qualities of a man. Right?
This is like the honey.
		
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			Where we say here with the Prophet with a prophet Isaiah, so much was said, so let's have a look at
that there is no prayer. when food is pressed, when food is being served. What does that mean? It
doesn't mean that the prayer is invalid if food is served to you, and everybody in the house is
eating. And you will offer the message that you pray, and then you come back and you eat that prayer
ballot. Yeah, the prayer spout. And it happened you're not gonna say didn't exist, you went out and
did it. And the prayer is valid.
		
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			But the prophecy son hears the blatant negating the completion of the prayer. Why? Because part of
your prayer is that you have sure that you have a degree of humility and attentiveness and your
prayer and consciousness of data in your prayer.
		
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			But if you're hungry,
		
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			and you know the food is desert,
		
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			and you start praying,
		
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			what do you tend to think about the prayer? You want to be thinking about the food?
		
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			If you're distracted and distracted from any so you don't have the concentration that you should add
in your prayer? So this is what the prophet is referring to. What do you think we're referring to
here when the Prophet sallallahu Sallam says, none of you believes?
		
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			None of you believes until he loves for his brother when he loves me for himself like out? We'll go
one by one.
		
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			If we say that his faith is non existent,
		
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			and he has no faith,
		
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			or we say that it is invalid, that his faith is not valid. Then we are saying that he is a cat.
		
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			And nobody from Anderson says that the person who doesn't love his brother what he loves from
someone that can
		
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			now sign up.
		
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			So, what is the profit it is slightly negating
		
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			He's negating the completeness, of faith.
		
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			So a person who does that does not have complete faith. But not only that, the promise I saw
wouldn't negate something except that it is an obligation. So it's an obligatory aspect of your
faith
		
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			that the prophecy celebrates the game.
		
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			Unless you love your father, which you love me some so loving,
		
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			that loving for your presence, which you love for yourself
		
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			is an obligation.
		
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			It is value.
		
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			Now, what does that mean that this is the beauty channel, because these are from the beautiful
aspects of our Deen
		
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			that Islam creates a brotherhood, like no other system period. That is no other D, no fraternity, no
ethnicity, race, nationality, or anything else. Islam creates that brotherhood that just doesn't
exist in any other system period.
		
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			The opposite is also the case.
		
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			And that is that if we don't have this quality,
		
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			then we have fallen into that which Allah, Allah, Allah has forbidden.
		
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			And I emphasize these points, because these are not things that we see that it's not like, we got
off the break. And we can see, oh, that's a good brother, he prayed. When he gets the castle, he
passed the month of Ramadan, or he made 20 houses or whatever.
		
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			So these are elements, these are aspects of the art that many people neglect, and fail to focus on.
And so the obligation of those who recognize this to raise the awareness that we have to work on our
hearts, because this is a fundamental aspect of your faith that you love your brother, would you
love for yourself? Like?
		
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			What is faith?
		
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			This is an obligatory aspect of our faith.
		
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			In the heart tight.
		
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			Sorry, hold on.
		
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			What is that, but it's a it's an action of the heart, the tongue had also the limbs. So it comprises
the statement that you make statements that you make on your tongue, and both the actions of your
art and your limbs, all of this comes into the private
		
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			setting, the famous having said fate is 70 some odd parts you're just having faith is 70, some odd
parts.
		
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			The highest aspect of faith,
		
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			the highest factor in your faith is to say, is the statement that will come from your heart,
obviously, I testify that there is no such thing
		
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			as
		
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			the
		
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			lowest part of your feet, with some people may see the most insignificant part of faith is to remove
something harmful from the road. That's something that you do but this is part of the process.
		
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			You do it but it's part of faith.
		
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			Well,
		
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			sure, but even
		
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			religion religious shame higher
		
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			is a part of faith. What does that mean? It means something that prevents you from doing those
things which are, which would be considered which are impermissible or would be considered even
socially damaging to your reputation and your character. All of this is part of high interest, stay
away from those things. This is part of faith. This is part of faith. So the Prophet alayhi salatu
salam mentioned here, that faith is a statement, that is actions of your heart, actions of the of
your lives, the prophet Allah azzawajal, said the Brahma kind of low, do you lead?
		
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			Along with that cause your fate to go to waste? What is your email?
		
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			So far right?
		
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			You can assign
		
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			to your management along with would not cause your faith to go to waste was that he
		
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			was revealed in response. So some of the campaigns for after the pillar was changed.
		
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			Is this actually runs out the change of the ticker from beta refers to to the cap, right. So some of
the companies said wait a minute,
		
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			What about those of us who died prior to the people have been switched their saliva sores makes a
muchness, if they didn't pray to us the copper
		
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			alone in the room alone would not cause your faith to go to waste would cause your saliva to be
invalid.
		
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			Your select No select. So count is still accepted by loss of hematite, even though they work towards
the nucleus. But because they feel obligated them to do at that time, that they're even gonna do
something a lot was exempted. So that also shows you that salon is part of faith
		
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			that all of this comes on the base. So don't let someone come to you. And don't you say to someone
else, when they trying to correct you, you may be doing something that you shouldn't be doing. And
you say, Yeah, see, my faith is in my heart.
		
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			I don't judge
		
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			just trying to tell you that this is better for you to do or this is better for you to do. Nobody's
judging you make this in your heart. And it's not just in your heart, yes, your fingers in your
heart, but it is also on your tongue.
		
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			It manifests itself when you live and otherwise.
		
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			So the primary select username here
		
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			by the private ID inside username here is the gating faith for the person who does not want for his
brother, what he wants for himself. I will stop at that point in time.
		
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			After having covered those two heavy today, the first deal with the importance of one thing
		
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			or being dutiful to your parents, the second idea comprises of a strong
		
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			expectation from the Prophet it is selected Sudan, to be good to your neighbors, and to be good to
your brothers and Islam. To walk with them, which you want for yourself
		
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			before actually
		
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			a quick side in that is that your brother in Islam also includes your sister in Islam.
		
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			Because a lot of people when we look at these, I think that we remember now we think about the
brothers that we see in the messages.
		
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			The brothers who we share an office with or something like that, and we neglect our own homes.
		
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			Your wife is your sister in Islam, if you don't love you, or don't have faith,
		
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			right beside sell them. So you don't have faith in the blessing guiding indicated faith until you
love for your brother, which you love for yourself. And that includes your family, to love for them
with love for yourself. And that should manifest itself in the way that you treat your family, your
brothers, your siblings, your uncle's because they are from your relatives, they have more of a
right than any of the rest of the Muslims. But this is the way that you should behave with all
Muslims. That does not mean
		
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			because this is a big misunderstanding as well, that does not mean that you have to give your
brother what you have.
		
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			And doesn't mean it means that you want for him the same things that you have of good but it doesn't
mean that you have to give them what you want. And that is a certain societies among certain
communities. That is that is become a problem. A person might say myself, Oh, that's a nice pet that
you had, the pet may have cost him a lot of money.
		
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			Because
		
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			he fears dying, he gives the pen to the other person, that other person should not accept it.
		
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			Because we should only accept what comes from a Muslim and
		
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			that we know that he actually wanted us and
		
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			this person is not giving the cheap whatever reason Oh, that's a nice watch. Take off the watch when
you give it to this happens a certain society.
		
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			This is not what they're
		
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			talking about you
		
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			were talking about the same way that you love for yourself to have a good education, that you love
that same thing for your brother. It doesn't mean that if there's a competition between you and him
		
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			that you don't strive your best
		
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			to get whatever position that may be that doesn't this doesn't negate that sometimes sometimes there
are five of us we're all applying for one job.
		
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			I want from my brother what I want, I want him to find a good job. Just like I found this.
		
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			Okay, so it doesn't mean that you have to
		
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			You have to give him what you add, or what the exact same thing is the times when there is a not
there, there is a specific thing, and there's this song or this book. So you want him to have a
better phone than you have, but not your phone. You understand, I want that to be clear, so that we
don't have a misconception here about what Assam requires of us. Because this is a requirement that
we love our brothers, we love myself, it does not mean and the reciprocal is true. If a person is
coming to you, and they are trying to get what you have from you, they are not loving for you, but
they love for themselves.
		
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			So this this behavior, we have to be careful of this, and not misunderstand the study of the Prophet
alayhi salatu, Salam
		
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			of our yesterday's spending the money, yes. Somebody I inherited what you said yesterday, and
somebody quoted the
		
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			site. Very good. So the question is about yesterday,
		
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			when we talked about
		
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			wasting money, wasting your wealth, and then you should not give away the charity,
		
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			you should not give away a charity, that which will cause you to be negligent of your obligation,
you are obliged to take care of your family. So you're not going to take the money that you have set
aside to pay for the rent, you're not going to take that and spend that in a charitable
		
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			the Army troops together to defend themselves against the muskie.
		
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			And Omar
		
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			came with half of his wealth,
		
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			half of what is brought to prepare Johnny the army to protect the most.
		
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			And when narrating this heading
		
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			as a side one
		
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			who said that there was nothing that I could do better than ever bucking the system for the love of
life. Except for this day, I knew I had him beat.
		
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			He said on this day, yeah, all of the other times that we were competing, you know, competing good.
		
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			wants to compete, competing that to the good. The competitive let the competitors compete in that
day.
		
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			And every other thing
		
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			all the time.
		
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			He said with this day, I knew I hadn't been before half of what he
		
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			was saying with everything he
		
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			said, he said I thought that there was nothing I could do to be number one. But they said I will we
understand this.
		
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			I want what happened as well as he
		
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			because the person who brings half of their wealth, the other half of their wealth, as long as it
suffices their family and their obligations, and there's no concern whatsoever.
		
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			They've covered
		
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			what may not be as easily understood is how do we understand what happened on the long side.
		
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			Okay, and that is that
		
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			all of a sudden,
		
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			now,
		
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			let's just imagine,
		
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			obviously, we're talking about the
		
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			the cash flow
		
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			is clearly understood from below.
		
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			But let's just say that he owns his homes, he owns his riding beats and these type of things like
that his family, his device, that is and he has,
		
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			he has confidence that he'll be able to replenish
		
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			this as well. So he'll be able to go out and work. And he has the means to do that to make the money
that he needs to care for his families. And there's no harm in that in many of the scholars have
explained this by saying
		
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			that there was no one from the ODM data that was
		
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			stronger than me, but
		
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			he's the one most beloved after the prophets and messengers, the one most beloved violence after the
prophets and the messages when a person has that kind of talk.
		
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			Because it's different if one guy did we shouldn't just look back college
		
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			buddy alongside
		
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			his uncle upon a loss that he drank poison
		
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			In front of the people to show them that allies of Intel is the only one that calls that voice and
to have an effect on it. That's not for the rest of
		
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			the scholars.
		
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			And it's not for someone to come now 1400 years after the death of the Prophet it is, and pretend
that they have that kind of mentality.
		
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			But because of the strength of their true reliance upon a lot of he had full confidence
		
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			and full confidence that he would bring this stuff
		
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			out on me, whoever leaves something
		
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			he had to competence, that if he brought all of this stuff along, as a result was what was right.
		
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			So again, the point is that it is not for the guy, just the individuals amongst the Muslims, they go
now and say, I'd like to take all of my wealth, and give it to charity. And then the next time,
		
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			he doesn't have anything to take care of his family or his children, and then he puts himself in a
situation now where he has to take a loan, or he has to beg for money or something like this.
		
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			Yes,
		
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			it was of the same rights as the parents. But no, your in laws do not have the same rights as your
parents, because they there's no relationship between the parents who raised you and to the end of
the year, your in laws are your wife's.
		
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			And here we get
		
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			situations sometimes where there are
		
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			rights that overlap.
		
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			And so there's a contradiction.
		
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			So your wife has to be obedient to her parents. She has to honor her pain, just to be righteous to
her parents. But you also as the husband have a right over vice versa. Your wife has rights over you
have.
		
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			The issue here is what those rights conflicts?
		
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			whose rights do you get precedent? Sue? And again, for each situation? There is something that could
be said, but let me just
		
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			because you did not read about that yourself? I want to say this, because I haven't seen this
question.
		
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			And that is that too many times?
		
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			We are with the rights of each other as if it's a mathematical equation.
		
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			You know, it can only be one plus one equals two, there is no gray area is no, no, you have to have
wisdom in how you handle a situation. If your wife's mother needs her by her side.
		
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			And you also need your wife by your side for whatever reason that may be what your need is not as
compelling as her mother. See, that is from your intellect your wife, or mother. And try to figure
out a way another way to handle your situation. You know, a lot of people make it an either or.
		
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			And this is how, you know, at least in in our list of other laws, the bottom of every joke,
		
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			because like she is the one who you're supposed to despise
		
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			everybody, nobody likes their mother in law, and we have
		
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			to maintain that type of character.
		
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			And we have to figure out a way to be better than him. And again, this this is part of learning more
about your religion. The more you learn about the
		
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			more you have the ability to have some degree of understanding and how you're handling, have some
wisdom, not make things just black and white.