Tahir Anwar – The Muslim Community is a Single Community

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The speakers emphasize the importance of finding similes and examples to live one's life as a Muslim in the West and in the United States, as it is a single community. They stress the importance of finding ways to support local Muslim businesses and finding similes and examples to live one's life as a Muslim. The speakers also emphasize the importance of learning to understand the Quran and inspiring oneself to not just recite it, but also to understand it. They emphasize the need to continue the study and not just recite the Quran, as it is a lengthy message and an inspiration for parents to lead. The importance of actions and examples in building relationships with Allah and increasing worship is also emphasized.

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			We begin by praising Allah, Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala,
		
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			asking Allah, Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala, for his help,
		
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			his protection, his mercy, his blessings, his sustenance,
		
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			and praying and begging Allah, Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala,
		
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			to make us amongst the most successful individuals
		
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			both in this life
		
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			and the hereafter, Aminya Rabba Alameen.
		
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			Allah Subhanahu
		
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			Wa Ta'ala
		
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			reminds us in the Quran wherein he Subhanahu
		
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			Wa Ta'ala says,
		
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			That And this is addressing the prophet Muhammad
		
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			sallallahu alaihi wasallam in which he says that
		
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			this ummah of yours,
		
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			this community of yours is a single community,
		
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			which is why Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala
		
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			reminds us
		
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			as people of the ummah to remain united.
		
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			Now of course, there's various different definitions of
		
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			what united can be.
		
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			But if we go back to the time
		
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			of the prophet Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam,
		
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			and I find that the American Muslim experience
		
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			is generally very close
		
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			to that of the times of the prophet
		
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			Muhammad sallallahu alaihi
		
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			wasallam. And the reason behind that is because
		
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			in the gatherings of the prophet Muhammad sallallahu
		
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			alaihi wasallam, there were people of all different
		
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			backgrounds
		
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			within that one gathering.
		
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			Of course, where people
		
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			to immigrants into this country come from when
		
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			you go to different lands,
		
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			you generally find a people of a certain
		
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			ideology, a certain specific mindset
		
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			that all attend the same kind of masjid,
		
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			or community center, or a prayer area, or
		
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			whatever you wanna call it.
		
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			But generally here in the West, and more
		
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			specific in the United States, when you attend
		
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			a masjid, you go into a community center,
		
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			people arrive there simply because they believe in
		
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			the oneness of Allah and believe in the
		
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			finality
		
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			of the prophet Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wasallam.
		
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			That is the uniting
		
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			factor that brings
		
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			people into our Masanjid.
		
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			That is the common denominator
		
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			that brings people together,
		
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			brings Muslims together here in the United States.
		
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			And as Muslims who live in the United
		
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			States, we must acknowledge that, that this is
		
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			the common denominator.
		
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			This is the universal factor that brings us
		
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			all together.
		
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			But because many of us or our parents
		
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			or grandparents
		
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			come from different lands,
		
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			there are unique methods how we choose to
		
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			practice Islam and worship Allah.
		
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			There's different ways, people. And and the differences
		
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			are the differences are various. And we're not
		
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			talking about differences here, but in terms of
		
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			your fiqh, in terms of, you know, other
		
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			areas and so on and so forth. But
		
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			generally speaking, the things that bring us together
		
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			is that is the belief in Allah subhanahu
		
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			wa ta'ala and the prophet Muhammad sallallahu alaihi
		
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			wasallam.
		
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			Which is why it's extremely important for us
		
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			to be able to turn to the Quran
		
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			and the sunnah of the prophet Muhammad sallallahu
		
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			alaihi wasallam in order to
		
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			understand and find similes and examples through how
		
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			which we can live our lives here as
		
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			Muslims in the West, or as Muslims in
		
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			the United States. And the reason I mentioned
		
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			this, and this is a very common message
		
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			of mine,
		
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			and the reason I
		
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			mentioned this is because
		
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			as Muslims, we become very excited. We come
		
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			together.
		
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			But then that excitement
		
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			and that unity that brings us together,
		
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			we we tend to begin to discuss our
		
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			differences.
		
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			And when we began to discuss those differences,
		
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			we're so hard and we're so concrete
		
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			and not giving up some of the things
		
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			that we come with
		
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			that we end up instead of creating friends
		
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			and communities, we end up creating enemies.
		
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			We end up breaking our communities.
		
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			And that is a very real fact
		
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			with Muslims in the United States.
		
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			Right? People want to separate.
		
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			And as individuals,
		
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			I've I've I'm I'm in my thirties. I've
		
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			lived most of my life here. I was
		
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			born in Europe.
		
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			I grew up at a Masjid in the
		
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			United States.
		
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			I went to the Masjid.
		
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			Where my Masjid people still call me by
		
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			my first name, or they call me Beta.
		
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			But the reality is
		
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			that as I'm growing up, and I guess
		
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			my hairs are getting a little lighter than
		
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			they were a few years ago,
		
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			I'm coming to realize
		
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			that I now have children that live in
		
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			my house that are almost as tall as
		
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			I am,
		
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			and soon enough,
		
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			I'm gonna be living with other men in
		
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			the same house.
		
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			Right? It's just I'm the only man there
		
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			right now. I'm gonna have more men living
		
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			in the same house.
		
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			And as a Muslim,
		
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			as one who is
		
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			walking on this journey
		
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			to Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala,
		
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			On this journey where day in day out
		
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			in my community, I see friends and people
		
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			passing away
		
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			and coming close to their creator.
		
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			As an individual
		
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			who thrives and strives to be close to
		
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			Allah,
		
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			what is the legacy that I wanna leave
		
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			behind with my children?
		
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			What is it that I want to leave
		
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			behind with my children?
		
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			Is it going to be the fact that,
		
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			oh, my child, we are Indian Muslims. Your
		
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			grandparents are Indian, so you should be a
		
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			proud Indian.
		
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			Or is it, oh, my child, I come
		
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			from a land where the Hanafi madhab is
		
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			practiced, and that's what I practice, and you
		
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			better practice that in order to be a
		
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			successful Muslim.
		
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			What is honestly, what is it that I'm
		
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			going to leave behind? What is what is
		
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			my challenge?
		
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			What is it going to take? And this
		
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			is a very simple question I ask myself
		
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			as an individual who gets to travel a
		
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			lot.
		
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			What is it? What is it going to
		
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			take on my part
		
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			to ensure that when my children are in
		
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			their twenties thirties and they're out on a
		
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			business trip somewhere,
		
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			that they wait and they're in some hotel
		
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			where no one knows who they are, where
		
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			they are,
		
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			that they are inspired to wake up in
		
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			the morning at fajr time and pray their
		
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			salat al fajr because they love Allah Subhanahu
		
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			wa ta'ala. Not because they're scared of Allah,
		
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			but because they love Allah.
		
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			That when they're going out to eat, they
		
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			make conscious choices.
		
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			Right? They're making sure that they're not just
		
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			eating junk food.
		
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			They're not eating trash that fast food restaurants
		
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			in this country serve. That they're making a
		
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			conscious choice
		
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			to to support local Muslim businesses no matter
		
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			where they are.
		
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			What is it going to take for what
		
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			what and what what is it gonna take
		
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			on my part to pass that along to
		
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			my children?
		
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			It's a very, very simple question,
		
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			yet the answer can be a very difficult
		
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			one.
		
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			And I've come to realize,
		
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			as a school teacher,
		
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			it's not what you say that counts.
		
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			It's not what you say that counts.
		
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			It's what you do that counts.
		
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			It's what you do as a parent that
		
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			counts.
		
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			Right? These children are observing.
		
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			These children are looking at us day in,
		
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			day out.
		
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			And when I think of this,
		
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			it's an inspiration
		
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			because,
		
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			again, going back to the prophet Muhammad sallallahu
		
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			alaihi wasallam,
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala reminds us in the
		
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			Quran, the Quran, we think that, oh, it's
		
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			just the Quran. It's just Arabic. Anyone can
		
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			read the translation.
		
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			There's some very deep messages in the Quran.
		
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			Learn to not just recite the Quran, but
		
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			learn to understand the Quran.
		
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			And just because you've gone through a tafsir
		
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			of the Quran once in your life, doesn't
		
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			mean it's over. It's a continuous process. We
		
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			need to continue that study.
		
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			Right? You don't just go through the tafsir
		
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			of the Quran, 1, 7, 8 volumes, and
		
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			say, Alhamdulillah,
		
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			I've studied the Quran, and now I'm an
		
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			expert, and I can deliver a khutva.
		
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			It's not about that. It's not about being
		
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			able to deliver. It's about being able to
		
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			inspire oneself.
		
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			Allah
		
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			mentions
		
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			You find the best example in that of
		
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			the life of the messenger Muhammad sallallahu alaihi
		
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			wasallam. Peace and blessings of Allah be upon
		
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			him. What did the prophet do? The prophet,
		
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			alayhi salatu wasallam, taught, but the prophet, alayhi
		
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			salatu wasallam,
		
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			inspired.
		
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			The prophet sallallahu alayhi wasalam,
		
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			through his simple
		
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			yet noble life, inspired his companions.
		
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			And his inspiration was so strong that his
		
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			companions
		
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			wanted to be like him.
		
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			It wasn't just about hearing a message and
		
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			conveying the message. There's a lot of things
		
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			that we convey on a daily basis.
		
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			We hear all kinds. There's all kinds of
		
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			people that say all kinds of things.
		
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			They may not be morally upright, but we
		
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			still convey their message. There's great things that
		
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			they've said. There's quotes
		
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			of weird people. We still quote them because
		
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			the quote happens to be a good quote,
		
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			and there's nothing wrong with that.
		
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			But the prophet, alayhis salatu wa sallam, became
		
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			an inspiration, and he he was such a
		
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			great example
		
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			that his companions wanted to be like him.
		
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			They wanted to do what he did. They
		
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			wanted to dress what he dressed like. They
		
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			wanted to speak like what he spoke.
		
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			That's why Imam Tirmidi, and we've all know
		
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			the the collect the Shama'il collected by Imam
		
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			Tirmidi,
		
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			the life of the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam,
		
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			what he looked like, what he spoke like,
		
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			what he walked like, what he talked like,
		
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			how he met people, how he met children,
		
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			how he met women.
		
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			Right? How he how he talked to people.
		
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			He didn't run away from people. He didn't
		
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			scream at children.
		
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			Right? The simple things that people do.
		
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			What what will when you when we pass
		
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			away, how will people remember us?
		
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			When I leave this dunya, how will people
		
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			remember us?
		
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			I was reading an Islamic Horizons Magazine not
		
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			too long ago, about a year or so
		
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			ago. And I was reading at the end,
		
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			you know, they have the obituaries of certain
		
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			Muslim personalities in the country that have passed
		
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			away. And there was one I remember within
		
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			the first paragraph, it was mentioned
		
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			that people remember him to smile at everyone
		
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			that he met. That's how people remembered him.
		
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			And I was inspired from that day onwards
		
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			to buy a box of chocolates and keep
		
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			them in my office. And I have a
		
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			habit that whenever young children come to the
		
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			masjid, they give them candy.
		
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			Not for them to come back to the
		
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			masjid, but this is a memory that they
		
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			will remember that as a child when I
		
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			went to the masjid, there was someone who
		
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			used to give me candy.
		
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			Right? Just kindness,
		
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			kindness all around,
		
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			being that inspiration,
		
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			not just talking about the message,
		
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			going back to our children, not just talking
		
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			about the message, but being that message. And
		
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			what did the prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam do?
		
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			The prophet sallallahu alaihi wasallam during his lifetime,
		
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			even in the days of Makkah, and then
		
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			even more during the days of Madinah, the
		
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			prophet alaihi salatu wasallam had companions
		
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			who became his ambassadors,
		
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			and he sent these companions to the various
		
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			different cities and towns.
		
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			Right? When the first group of people came
		
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			from Madinah Munawwara,
		
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			Musa Abib Duhamay
		
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			was part of them. What he tell Musa'ab
		
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			do Musa'ab was a young man. He was
		
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			a young man. What did he tell Musa'ab
		
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			to do?
		
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			I tell you, it's an amazing example.
		
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			He tells Musa'ab, when you go back to
		
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			your city, when you go back to your
		
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			town, when you go back to Yathrib, lead
		
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			your people in prayer. He made him a
		
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			leader.
		
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			He gave him something to do.
		
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			And Mus'ad went back, along with those 12,
		
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			13 people, back to Madinah Munawara.
		
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			Right? And their message was so strong that
		
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			they came back next year with almost almost
		
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			80 people.
		
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			Right? Their allegiance what did he do with
		
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			Mu'az ibn Jabal, radiAllahu an?
		
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			It's a it's a lengthy.
		
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			When he sent Mu'az to Yemen,
		
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			what did he tell Mu'az to do?
		
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			Oh, Mu'adh, listen. Make it easy for these
		
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			people. Don't make it difficult.
		
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			Give them glad tidings. Don't scare them.
		
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			That was the prophet's message to the people.
		
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			But when they lived and they came, many
		
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			of the companions,
		
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			many of the companions,
		
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			when they came to the prophet sallallahu alaihi
		
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			wasallam, as you and I may imagine, they
		
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			didn't live with him for years.
		
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			Most of the companions at at max
		
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			lived with him for a few weeks.
		
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			They spent a few weeks in his company,
		
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			sallallahu alaihi wa sallam. But when they left
		
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			from there, they were inspired. They were changed.
		
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			It wasn't just there's two reasons, and I'm
		
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			I'm I'll you know, I wanna bring these
		
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			two things. It wasn't just the actions of
		
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			the prophet, alayhis salaam,
		
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			because a lot of people are good. But
		
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			it was also the
		
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			of the prophet Muhammad, sallallahu alayhi wasalam.
		
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			Allah
		
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			naturally drew people closer to him
		
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			because he was close to Allah.
		
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			Allah made it easy for him, sallallahu alaihi
		
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			wasallam, to be so kind
		
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			because he was close to Allah.
		
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			He spent his nights,
		
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			He spent portions of his night in remembrance
		
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			of Allah.
		
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			That's what gave him the inspiration,
		
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			the divine power to live his days
		
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			despite the fact that those days were in
		
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			poverty, despite the fact that those days were
		
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			in difficulty. And Allah allowed him, Allah enabled
		
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			him to become an inspiration.
		
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			So as parents,
		
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			we're talking about this unity, this one ummah,
		
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			raising our children to be a part of
		
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			the ummah.
		
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			Right? As parents who are teaching them, it's
		
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			Sunday schools are great, but they're not going
		
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			to be enough.
		
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			Telling our children to do good is good,
		
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			but it's not going to be enough.
		
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			In order for us to have
		
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			children who continue to remain Muslims,
		
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			we are going to have to become Muslims.
		
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			We are going to have to become inspirations
		
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			for them.
		
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			We are going to have to take the
		
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			message of Mu'adh ibn Jabal, the message of
		
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			the prophet, alayhis salam, to Mu'adh ibn Jabal
		
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			to make things easy and not difficult.
		
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			Right? Be kind with your children. Be nice
		
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			to your children.
		
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			And, see, people say a lot of parents
		
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			this is very calm. A lot of parents
		
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			will come in and say, oh, we're nice.
		
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			We do everything for them. Yes. True.
		
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			But sometimes there's no weight in our message.
		
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			And there may be no weight in our
		
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			message because
		
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			our
		
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			our relationship with Allah
		
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			as a parent is not where it should
		
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			be at that point in time.
		
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			As we get older, as everyone gets older
		
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			you know what I mean? It's it's a
		
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			very simple thing. You've heard this a 1000000
		
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			times in the last few years, But when
		
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			we all came to this country, we all
		
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			know we had nothing, or we had a
		
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			little bit, and, you know, people grew and
		
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			so on and so forth. I remember when
		
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			I started working, I used to drive an
		
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			old car, live in a 2 on a
		
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			1 bedroom apartment. I mean, it's been 14
		
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			years. Things have changed now. Right? Masha'Allah, I
		
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			have a big house. I have 2 cars,
		
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			2 kids, and beautiful wife, and life is
		
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			good. Alhamdulillah. Say Alhamdulillah.
		
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			It's all good.
		
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			But has my Ibadah with Allah increased?
		
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			Right? So when I used to pray Fajr
		
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			and it used to take me 10 minutes,
		
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			it should be taking me 15 minutes now.
		
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			Right? Why do not why don't I wake
		
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			up in the morning before
		
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			to before, the time for Fajr comes in
		
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			for tahajjud? Why not? How come that hasn't
		
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			come in yet? In terms of dunya, everything's
		
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			coming in. It's all good.
		
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			But in terms of my relationship with Allah,
		
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			how come that hasn't increased?
		
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			Because our relationship with Allah
		
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			is a direct factor through which our our
		
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			our our interactions happen to be with people.
		
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			That inspiration, that power, that power, that
		
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			ummah,
		
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			when we talk about the unity of the
		
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			ummah, it comes through actions. It comes through
		
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			example.
		
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			Yet, it also comes through our relationship with
		
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			Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala.
		
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			And I tell you, last night, I I
		
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			almost had an as I was boarding the
		
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			flight, I I just had this revelation.
		
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			And it was a very tough revelation.
		
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			My father is is, masha'Allah,
		
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			blessed, healthy. He's in his late sixties.
		
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			Been all he does is travel. Ever since
		
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			he retired at the age of 45,
		
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			he's a very content man. Doesn't have a
		
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			lot of money, but very content. He retired
		
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			at the age of 45.
		
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			And all he does is travel to see
		
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			friends and family.
		
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			6 weeks, 7 weeks ago, in Madinah Munawara,
		
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			he fell down and fractured his femur.
		
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			He's been bedridden for 6 weeks. For me
		
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			to see my own father bedridden,
		
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			mind blowing.
		
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			Right?
		
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			One of his very close friends last
		
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			I spoke to one of his very close
		
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			friends last Wednesday night after his cataract surgery.
		
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			I found out 2 days later that on
		
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			Thursday Friday,
		
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			he had 2 back to back
		
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			strokes.
		
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			Right? I went and see I went and
		
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			saw him at the hospital on Monday and
		
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			the rehab home on Tuesday.
		
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			As I'm boarding the flight yesterday, another very
		
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			dear friend of my father's calls me and
		
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			says, look. I know your father is ill.
		
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			I I'll let you choose when is the
		
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			right time and when is the right method
		
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			to break the news to him, but, my
		
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			cancer has come back,
		
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			and it's pretty strong right now.
		
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			And I just kinda and this was right
		
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			because he said, oh, there's a lot of
		
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			background noise. Is everything okay? I said, I'm
		
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			getting ready to board the flight. So he
		
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			goes, okay. I'll keep my message short, and
		
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			we hung up.
		
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			It just dawned on me that life you
		
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			know, these are amazing people. These are people
		
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			who I've known for 35 years of my
		
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			life,
		
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			And it's they're getting old, and things are
		
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			changing for them.
		
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			And
		
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			I ask myself that, where do I want
		
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			to be as a Muslim, as a parent,
		
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			as a community member, as a leader
		
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			in 30, 35 years
		
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			from now if I make it that far.
		
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			I I need I need to become that
		
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			example.
		
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			And in order to become an example, I
		
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			also need to increase my worship in Arba'at
		
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			with Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala.
		
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			These are two things that go hand in
		
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			hand.
		
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			I I need to become a successful Muslim,
		
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			one who people look up to, one who
		
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			the community, not just the Muslim community, the
		
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			community at large respects
		
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			that I have you know, there's pea I
		
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			can convey my message to the people. Yet
		
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			at the same time,
		
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			at the same time, I need to build
		
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			this relationship and bond with Allah
		
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			The bare minimum is great, but the bare
		
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			minimum won't suffice.
		
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			And I need to I need to connect
		
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			my children,
		
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			not with an ethnicity,
		
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			not with an ideology,
		
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			not with certain kinds of people, but I
		
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			need to connect my children
		
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			to Allah.
		
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			That's my challenge.
		
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			Right? Doctor Riddle Bashir, an amazing author on
		
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			children's books and social
		
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			But, you know, he I I was with
		
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			him not too long ago, and he said,
		
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			we need to connect our children to Allah
		
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			for them to be conscious of Allah, for
		
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			them to not necessarily fear, but for them
		
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			to love Allah
		
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			Alayhi wa sallam. Arhamu Ummati be Ummati Abu
		
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			Bakr Wa shaddum fee Amlillahi Ummalahu Waqqaihi wa
		
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			sallam. Waqqadahum
		
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			AAali wa Fatima wa SayyidatunisaAAil
		
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			Jannah Wa Al Hassan wal Hussain Sayyidat Shababi
		
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			Ahlil Jannah