Suzy Ismail – #74 & #75 Al’Awwal & Al’Akhir

			Saramonic it's nice to see you
again as we continue to bring the
		

			divine into the daily by
understanding how we can
		

			incorporate the 99 names of Allah
subhanaw taala, and the
		

			characteristics of those names
into our daily lives to improve
		

			our family relationships. The two
names that we're going to tackle
		

			today are the names of an Owen
Well,
		

			the first and the last. When we
think of Allah subhanaw taala, as
		

			the first and the last, we
understand Him to be the eternal,
		

			the one who is always in
existence, before creation, and
		

			after creation. Now, when we think
about the first and the last
		

			within our own lives, we begin to
understand it from a sense of
		

			time.
		

			Considering the way that our
marriages unfold, for example, we
		

			see that at the start of our
marriages at the very first, in
		

			the early days of our marriages,
we feel a sense of excitement, a
		

			sense of anticipation, a sense of
feeling that the journey that
		

			we're going to embark upon is one
that is filled with hope and love.
		

			And yet many times in the last
days of marriage, and when I say
		

			the last time discussing or
talking about marriages that may
		

			be facing an end or facing a point
of separation, or divorce, those
		

			initial feelings, those first
feelings that we've had, of
		

			anticipation, excitement, love
connection, may feel as if they
		

			are no longer there. And that's
because our feelings or emotions
		

			can often be fleeting, they are
not eternal, they are not
		

			necessarily so deep rooted, or so
long lasting, that they will
		

			continue to feel the same from the
first to the last. So how do we
		

			maintain that sense of the first
excitement, the first emotion to
		

			the very last of our relationship,
it's knowing how to differentiate
		

			between fleeting emotions, and
deep rooted deep seated mawatha
		

			that is built upon a sense of
Russia, or built upon a sense of
		

			connection that has seen a couple
through trials and tribulations
		

			through the difficult moments, and
the beautiful moments and all of
		

			those different moments of
marriages. So although the
		

			feelings of the first in the first
days of marriage may be very
		

			different from the feelings we
have in the last, recognizing that
		

			difference does not need to mean
the end, it does not need to mean
		

			that the feelings are completely
gone. It simply means that the
		

			change in the feelings can adapt
and work together with the couple
		

			as the couple grows, and their
lives are enriched by one another.
		

			We also see see the cycle of the
first and the last in the
		

			replication of who we may be, you
know, when we think of our
		

			children, as toddlers, they may be
at that stage where they're
		

			difficult, you know, they give us
a hard time eating, they may
		

			embarrass us they may not always
cooperate. And then old age we may
		

			also see in our parents, some of
those same replications of the
		

			first days were the elderly may
also sometimes be difficult, may
		

			not want to cooperate, may not
want to eat, and may sometimes
		

			take actions that are reminiscent
of what a toddler or child may do.
		

			And this is the Sunnah of the
hair. This is the cycle of life,
		

			where we replicate what may have
been our lives in the first days,
		

			to our lives in the last days,
where the help we may have needed
		

			from our parents as children
becomes the help that they need as
		

			our parents. So I pray that Allah
subhanaw taala and a will will air
		

			her reminds us consistently of his
eternal being of his eternal
		

			constancy, and brings into our own
lives, a sense of constancy that
		

			sees us through the first days of
our lives to the very last and
		

			sees us through the first days of
our marriages to the very last
		

			inshallah Jazza como lo que it was
salam alaikum