Suzy Ismail – #62 AlMumit

It's nice to see you again as we

continue to bring the divine into the daily

by understanding understanding how we can incorporate the

99 names of Allah

into our daily lives to improve the relationship

between us and our spouse and our children.

The

The name that we're going to discuss today

is Al Muit,

which means the bringer of death.

We all know that part of, sunnit al

hayah, the cycle of life, is that we

will experience birth and we will experience death.

And those are the 2 certainties that exist

for all of us. But what happens to

the family dynamic and the family structure

when death touches us

in those who are closest to us, in

those we love the most.

Whether it is the death of a parent

after old age

or the death of a child

unexpectedly

due to illness, due to stillbirth,

due to,

difficulty in pregnancy,

whether it is the death of a sibling

or the death of another close relative, a

spouse even,

this can severely affect the way that we

interact with our family.

Any form of loss

can often leave an emotional

scar that is difficult to recover from.

So what do we do when we experience

death and it touches us very close to

our hearts in someone who is important to

us, someone who is in the family structure?

Dealing with the death of our parents is

often a a very scary reality

as we grow older.

And again, it's a reality that we can't

really escape

but recognizing that Allah

is almuhi

and al mumit, he is the one that

brings to life and also the bringer of

death,

helps us put into perspective

that natural process that we all go

through. While

navigating the stages of grief may be difficult

for some,

knowing that

that grief will have an ending point. It

will have a period where, yes, we may

always experience a sense of sadness when thinking

of our loved one that we've lost. There

will also come a time

where the pain lessens,

and we can think of those times of

joy that we spent with the parent, with

the sibling, with the relative who is close

to our heart

without feeling that same sense of emptiness, that

same sense of loss.

When you do experience the death of a

close one, a parent, a sibling, someone who

may be older, who raised you when you

were a child,

don't try to deal with it alone.

Don't lock yourself up in your sadness and

try to isolate yourself to deal with your

grief by yourself.

Because we're not meant to be alone. We're

meant to work through our difficulties together

with our family, with our ummah, with a

counselor if needed.

Now the loss of a child can sometimes

be even more difficult to fathom or to

understand

because we often think of the process of

life as the parent will go before the

child goes.

But again, this is the hikmah of Allah.

And just as our children may be a

test in the dunya in their lives if

they,

show us difficult

times, our children may also be a test

in the recognition that they are an amenah,

that they are a trust from Allah Subhanahu

Wa Ta'ala.

And he is al Muhi and mumit and

as he brings the children into this world

in his hikmah, in his infinite wisdom, sometimes

these children are taken out of the world

as well.

Again, don't try to go through the stages

of grief alone.

Seek help, talk to someone, reach out to

your spouse,

know that you are in this together,

and that just as you have felt the

loss acutely,

your spouse has as well.

I pray that Allah

protects all of our loved ones and protects

our hearts from going down the path of

darkness

when we struggle with loss in our families.

Jazakum Allahu Khayr, and I look forward to

speaking to you again as we continue to

bring the divine into the daily.