Suzy Ismail – #61 AlMuhyiy

Santa Monica, it's nice to see you again, as we continue to bring the

divine into the deli, by understanding how we can

incorporate the 99 names of Allah subhanaw, taala, and the

characteristics of those names into our daily lives, so that we

can improve the relationship with our spouse and with our children.

The name that we're going to discuss today is a Mahi, which

means the giver of life. One of the most beautiful blessings that

we can see within our marriages is the blessing of children. And many

times when a child is brought into the world, when and when He

bestows that child with life, it can completely change the dynamics

of our relationship, moving from a relationship that finds its firm

foundation, in connecting with one other individual, you suddenly

have a relationship in which there is a third person introduced. And

this third person, despite an inability to articulate needs has

many, many needs. Whether you find yourself lost in the feeding the

changing the sleepless nights, the crying, the soothing, the amount

of nurturing and care that can go into raising a child can be very

exhausting at times as much as it can be rewarding. And that

exhaustion can often lead to high levels of stress within the

marital relationship.

And as much as one may consistently hear from others that

have older children that oh, the stage passes, this time passes,

before you know it, there'll be going to college before you know

it, there'll be getting married, while you're living through that

period of time of the highest stress and the physical and

emotional needs that are consistently needing to be met in

the process of therapy with the child can still feel like it's

never going to end can feel like it is taking a huge toll on the

relationship. So one of the keys to remember, I'm particularly

early on when you are blessed within the marriage with the birth

of a child to first recall the beauty of that blessing that and

why he has chosen you and your spouse as parents to care for this

mmm to care for this trust. Putting it into perspective, we

begin to realize that the period of time that the infant is an

infant is a very short period of time, the period of time when the

child reaches the stage of being a toddler is a short period of time,

the period of time when the child is, you know, in their early teens

in the tweens in the young adulthood. They all may be short

periods of time. But during those stages, there is both a great deal

of beauty and watching your children grow and thrive, but also

its own special type of challenges. So when people may say

oh, it gets easier, the reality is that the database of children is a

lifelong journey, a lifelong process of learning how to be the

best parents that you can be. Remember that as you are raising

your child, you are doing this as a team. It is you and your partner

together who have been bestowed with this blessing. It's not just

one person in the relationship that is intended to be the sole

caretaker. So husbands know how to change your children's diapers,

know how to relieve the mother, particularly in those early days

from feedings and from carrying and for putting the child to

sleep. You know, mothers as the child gets older, play with your

sons learn how to love basketball and baseball and football and

soccer. If that's something they're involved in fathers be

there for your daughters, because our children really are only in

our lives in different stages for a short period of time, and we

want to be the best parents that we can be during that time. I pray

that Allah subhanaw taala and what He grants us the blessing of

righteous children, and allows us to be the best parents that we can

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