Suzy Ismail – #61 AlMuhyiy

			Santa Monica, it's nice to see you
again, as we continue to bring the
		

			divine into the deli, by
understanding how we can
		

			incorporate the 99 names of Allah
subhanaw, taala, and the
		

			characteristics of those names
into our daily lives, so that we
		

			can improve the relationship with
our spouse and with our children.
		

			The name that we're going to
discuss today is a Mahi, which
		

			means the giver of life. One of
the most beautiful blessings that
		

			we can see within our marriages is
the blessing of children. And many
		

			times when a child is brought into
the world, when and when He
		

			bestows that child with life, it
can completely change the dynamics
		

			of our relationship, moving from a
relationship that finds its firm
		

			foundation, in connecting with one
other individual, you suddenly
		

			have a relationship in which there
is a third person introduced. And
		

			this third person, despite an
inability to articulate needs has
		

			many, many needs. Whether you find
yourself lost in the feeding the
		

			changing the sleepless nights, the
crying, the soothing, the amount
		

			of nurturing and care that can go
into raising a child can be very
		

			exhausting at times as much as it
can be rewarding. And that
		

			exhaustion can often lead to high
levels of stress within the
		

			marital relationship.
		

			And as much as one may
consistently hear from others that
		

			have older children that oh, the
stage passes, this time passes,
		

			before you know it, there'll be
going to college before you know
		

			it, there'll be getting married,
while you're living through that
		

			period of time of the highest
stress and the physical and
		

			emotional needs that are
consistently needing to be met in
		

			the process of therapy with the
child can still feel like it's
		

			never going to end can feel like
it is taking a huge toll on the
		

			relationship. So one of the keys
to remember, I'm particularly
		

			early on when you are blessed
within the marriage with the birth
		

			of a child to first recall the
beauty of that blessing that and
		

			why he has chosen you and your
spouse as parents to care for this
		

			mmm to care for this trust.
Putting it into perspective, we
		

			begin to realize that the period
of time that the infant is an
		

			infant is a very short period of
time, the period of time when the
		

			child reaches the stage of being a
toddler is a short period of time,
		

			the period of time when the child
is, you know, in their early teens
		

			in the tweens in the young
adulthood. They all may be short
		

			periods of time. But during those
stages, there is both a great deal
		

			of beauty and watching your
children grow and thrive, but also
		

			its own special type of
challenges. So when people may say
		

			oh, it gets easier, the reality is
that the database of children is a
		

			lifelong journey, a lifelong
process of learning how to be the
		

			best parents that you can be.
Remember that as you are raising
		

			your child, you are doing this as
a team. It is you and your partner
		

			together who have been bestowed
with this blessing. It's not just
		

			one person in the relationship
that is intended to be the sole
		

			caretaker. So husbands know how to
change your children's diapers,
		

			know how to relieve the mother,
particularly in those early days
		

			from feedings and from carrying
and for putting the child to
		

			sleep. You know, mothers as the
child gets older, play with your
		

			sons learn how to love basketball
and baseball and football and
		

			soccer. If that's something
they're involved in fathers be
		

			there for your daughters, because
our children really are only in
		

			our lives in different stages for
a short period of time, and we
		

			want to be the best parents that
we can be during that time. I pray
		

			that Allah subhanaw taala and what
He grants us the blessing of
		

			righteous children, and allows us
to be the best parents that we can
		

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