Suzy Ismail – #57 AlHamid

Salam aleikum, it's nice to see you again as we continue to bring

the divine into the daily by understanding how we can

incorporate the 99 names of Allah subhanaw taala into our daily

lives to improve the relationship between us and our spouse and our

children. The name that we're going to discuss today is an Hamid

or the old praiseworthy.

throughout our day, we consistently repeat at

Hamdulillah, which is, of course, praising Allah subhanaw taala. For

all that we have in our lives, yet frequently, we can say and haven't

done enough, and do it more routinely, or ritualistically,

where we lose the true meaning of contentment, and where we may no

longer truly feel that sense of contentment, but we repeat the

words Alhamdulillah out of routine. Now in our marital

relationship, often times, we'll find that there is a spouse who is

consistently seeking the praise from the other spouse, and vice

versa. And while it's beautiful to hear those compliments, to hear

those kind words, to hear that praise from a spouse, when you

feel that you've done something or you've given something, or you've

said something, to kind of get that response back, it can also be

rather poisonous and dangerous for the heart. Because when we seek

adoration and praise from those around us, rather than giving the

adoration and praise to Allah subhanho wa taala, we can allow

our ego and our arrogance to control us rather than our

submission and our guidance coming from Allah subhanaw With the

highlight rather than from the people that surround us.

So in terms of seeking that praise from others, it often comes from a

well of insecurity that exists within us. And that insecurity can

lead us to feel that we need validation of what we do not from

doing things for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala. But we need

validation from the people that we are doing those things for

primarily our spouse and our family members. But the reality is

that when we put that type of expectation on a spouse,

consistently asking, seeking goading and expecting the spouse

to give us praise, we will be disappointed, because that's not

the type of seeking of praise that we should be after. Instead,

working on anchoring our hearts, and consistently invoking the

praise of Allah subhanaw taala with our tongues will allow us to

free our deeds and what we do to link it to the love of Allah

subhanaw taala rather than the love of the pat on the back, or

the thumbs up, or the feeling of praise from a spouse, and with our

children, of course, while they may look to us and seek praise

from us consistently, we want to be able to strike that balance.

Yes, we want our tongues to be beautiful in terms of the words

that they share. But we don't ever want our tongues to be the source

of poison, where the excessive praise may lead a child or may

lead a spouse towards the path of arrogance or ego.

So as we interact with our spouse as we interact with our children,

we want to ensure that our tongues are sweet in giving that praise

when the praise is needed or when the time and the opportunity is

correct. But we don't ever want to put our spouse in a position where

the praise is expected. And there is disappointed when

disappointment when the praise is not received. So I asked Allah

subhanaw taala al Hamid to consistently beautify our hearts

with our praise of a hymn, the old praise worthy and to beautify the

tongues of our spouses and our own tongues as well. And giving praise

when praises do and giving praise and amounts that are acceptable

that will never lead hearts astray, or into the realm of

arrogance or ego to Zakouma low height. And I look forward to

speaking to you again as we continue to bring the divine into

the daily salamati