Suzy Ismail – #54 AlQawwiy
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The speaker discusses the difference between the male and female strengths in relationships, emphasizing the importance of recognizing the beauty of one's own strengths in order to appreciate the beauty of others. They encourage individuals to practice daily appreciation for their own strengths and acknowledge the beauty of their own
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Santa Monica, it's nice to see you again as we continue to bring the
divine into the daily. But understanding how we can
incorporate the 99 names of Allah subhanaw taala into our daily
lives. The name that we're going to discuss today is El Kawi, which
is the strong one or the strength.
When we talk about strength in a relationship, oftentimes will
reference the verse in the Quran that reminds us that aerogel a
woman and does that. And we often equate that to the idea of the
males and the relationship being stronger than the females. And
that understanding of strength can sometimes lead to a misperception
of what it means to be strong.
When we talk about strength in terms of physical strength,
without a doubt, Allah subhanaw taala has created us differently
in terms of our biology, and in terms of the makeup of our
physicality. And so, there is often a quite a difference in
terms of physical strength between the male and the female, yet
exerting that strength in the form of domestic violence, exerting
that strength in the form of Miss representing the Quran and the
deen exerting that strength in a way, where there is no longer
compassion and mercy in a relationship is not the right way
of going about building the foundation for a strong marriage.
Instead, when we talk about strength, we should talk about the
strength of each individual in the relationship, the strength of the
wife, and the strength of the husband, the strength of each
child independently from a comparison to the siblings,
because each person has their own strengths. And recognizing the
beauty of that complementary relationship, whether it be
between husband and wife, or even in the interaction between
siblings helps us recognize the true, amazing individual qualities
of strengths that each person may have. And so when we begin to
understand and accept the strengths of our spouse, or the
strengths of our children, we no longer harp upon the weaknesses, I
would encourage each and every couple and each and every family
to daily sit down, and those moments of them. And think also of
what it is to, you can be grateful for in terms of the strengths of
your spouse and the strengths of your children.
And to actually speak up about those strengths. So reminding your
spouse rather than saying something like you know, you, you
don't really help out in the house, or you don't really help me
take care of the children or you don't dress in a certain way, or
you don't cook certain food, rather than harping on weaknesses,
instead, turning it around and looking at strengths that, you
know, I appreciate the strength that you bring to the family that
you provide in the fact that you are out working long hours every
day, in order to provide for the family, I appreciate the strength
that you have, as a spouse who keeps our house clean, who cares
for our children, who makes sure that they are happy and content,
even if you're not cooking a you know, five star meal every
evening. And when we begin to appreciate the strengths of
others, a beautiful thing happens, there becomes a reciprocal
appreciation. And in that reciprocal appreciation, we begin
to recognize the beauty of ourselves. When we encourage a
child for example, and rather than sit telling a child, you know,
you're terrible at math, you did so bad on this test, or you're
awful at soccer. Instead, we encourage them by recognizing
their strengths. So yes, maybe a grade on the math test was not
what we would have liked. But what did they do? Well, that week,
maybe they were kind to a friend, maybe they helped someone out in
need, maybe they were respectful to a grown up, maybe they prayed
all of their Salah on time. These are the strengths that we should
harp on rather than consistently portraying the negative. And it
doesn't mean that we can't constructively give advice
sometimes to our loved ones. But we do need to lead in with that
which is what what is most beautiful and that which
highlights the strength.
And this is how we begin to understand that Allah subhanaw
taala as Al Covey is not just strength in terms of force, the
way that we sometimes equate strength in our linguistic
understanding of it, but it is a strength in terms of everything.
And that's the strength that we sometimes need to look for within
ourselves and our family members as well, which is a common law
here and I look forward to speaking to you again as we
continue to bring the divine into the daily cinematic