Suzy Ismail – #50 AlBaith

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The speaker discusses the concept of loss and how it can be difficult to grapple with loss. They explain that loss can be caused by various types of loss, such as loss of a parent or a child, and that loss can be a difficult experience. The speaker also emphasizes the importance of not letting anyone experience loss and offers a framework for thinking about how to deal with loss in a healthy way.

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			America, it's nice to see you
again as we continue to bring the
		
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			divine into the daily by
understanding how we can
		
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			incorporate the 99 names of Allah
subhanaw taala into our daily
		
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			lives, to improve our
relationships with our spouse, and
		
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			with our children. The name that
we're going to discuss today is an
		
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			bear, which means the Resurrector,
the one who brings the dead back
		
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			to life again. And the topic that
we're going to address today, in
		
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			terms of understanding this name,
in the concept of our family life,
		
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			is the topic of loss. How do we
deal with grief and loss in our
		
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			relationships, when we have lost a
loved one. Now many times as we
		
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			grow in our relationships, as we
journey together, no husband and
		
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			wife in the marriage relationship,
we come upon a time in our lives,
		
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			when we may lose those who are
most Beloved to us. And those may
		
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			be our parents, they may be among
our siblings, they may be close
		
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			friends, relatives, family, aunts,
uncles, how do we deal with that
		
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			loss? How do we find a way back
into the routine of life into the
		
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			happiness, the contentedness of
life, when we've lost someone that
		
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			is so important to us? Now, many
times when we're struggling with
		
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			the loss, particularly the loss of
a parent, when we reach that older
		
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			age, we can lash out because of
that loss. And our lashing out may
		
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			be coming from a place of hurt a
place of sadness, but it may be
		
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			translated into an emotion of
anger, or an emotion of
		
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			frustration. And as we journey
through the stages of grief, we
		
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			may call upon a time of denial, a
time of fingerpointing a time of
		
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			blame. When we experience a
difficult loss, like the loss of a
		
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			parent. This is the time where as
husband and wife, we need to be
		
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			understanding, to be supportive to
recognize that that loss is
		
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			incredibly difficult, and that no
matter what sadness we express, no
		
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			matter how we go through those
stages of grief, the reality is
		
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			that Allah alone is Allah. Allah
alone is the Resurrector. And no
		
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			matter what we do, we won't be
able to bring that person back
		
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			into our lives. So how do we best
honor the memory of that person?
		
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			It's definitely not by lashing out
against our spouse. It's
		
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			definitely not by letting our
grief turn into anger and turn
		
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			into something that becomes a
block within our relationship.
		
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			supporting one another through
that most difficult loss means
		
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			being there understanding,
discussing, engaging in
		
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			conversation and recognition of
the difficulty and also stepping
		
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			away sometimes allowing our
partner to grieve in a way that is
		
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			healthy, and allowing our partner
to understand that we are there
		
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			when and if they need us.
		
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			Now when we move through those
those elements of loss or those
		
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			situations of loss that may occur
within a marital relationship, it
		
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			may not just be that we
experienced the loss of our
		
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			parents, and many marriages as
well, we may experience something
		
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			that is, you know, equally if not
more so difficult, which is the
		
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			loss of a child. Whether the loss
of the child is an experience that
		
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			we go through through miscarriage,
or through experiencing a
		
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			stillbirth or any other type of
difficulty in infancy, or a loss
		
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			of a child at a later age, a loss
of a child due to an accident due
		
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			to drugs and alcohol due to a
situation that is beyond our
		
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			control due to disease. This loss
can also be among the greatest
		
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			loss for anyone to face and among
the greatest trials that one can
		
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			face. But we are reminded that
even the Rasulullah sallallahu
		
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			alayhi wa sallam experienced the
loss of loved ones in his life.
		
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			And in those periods of time, his
grief was expressed, but it was
		
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			never held in a way that would
cause harm to others, or that was
		
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			expressed in a way that was
anything other than filled with
		
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			gratefulness and recognition of
the power of a loss panel
		
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			dialogue. So that even when the
Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa
		
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			sallam experienced the year of
sorrow, after the death of his
		
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			beloved Khadija no deal no one ha
and his beloved uncle, he still
		
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			maintain that strength of faith.
And he kept those connections with
		
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			his companions with those who are
closest with him. He didn't push
		
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			people away. And one that I
suppose of Allahu Allah who has
		
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			experienced the loss of his infant
son. We are we know from authentic
		
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			narrations that
		
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			He experienced sadness. And yet he
said that the eyes may tear up,
		
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			but that the heart remains
anchored and steadfast in that
		
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			gratefulness to Allah subhanaw
taala. And so we ask that Allah
		
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			subhanaw taala
		
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			allows us to experience that sense
of contentedness, that sense of
		
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			gratefulness and that ease and
comfort, even within our most
		
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			difficult loss, does a coma low
clear and I look forward to
		
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			speaking to you again, as we
continue to bring the divine into
		
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			the daily, Salam Alikum