Suzy Ismail – #50 AlBaith

America, it's nice to see you again as we continue to bring the

divine into the daily by understanding how we can

incorporate the 99 names of Allah subhanaw taala into our daily

lives, to improve our relationships with our spouse, and

with our children. The name that we're going to discuss today is an

bear, which means the Resurrector, the one who brings the dead back

to life again. And the topic that we're going to address today, in

terms of understanding this name, in the concept of our family life,

is the topic of loss. How do we deal with grief and loss in our

relationships, when we have lost a loved one. Now many times as we

grow in our relationships, as we journey together, no husband and

wife in the marriage relationship, we come upon a time in our lives,

when we may lose those who are most Beloved to us. And those may

be our parents, they may be among our siblings, they may be close

friends, relatives, family, aunts, uncles, how do we deal with that

loss? How do we find a way back into the routine of life into the

happiness, the contentedness of life, when we've lost someone that

is so important to us? Now, many times when we're struggling with

the loss, particularly the loss of a parent, when we reach that older

age, we can lash out because of that loss. And our lashing out may

be coming from a place of hurt a place of sadness, but it may be

translated into an emotion of anger, or an emotion of

frustration. And as we journey through the stages of grief, we

may call upon a time of denial, a time of fingerpointing a time of

blame. When we experience a difficult loss, like the loss of a

parent. This is the time where as husband and wife, we need to be

understanding, to be supportive to recognize that that loss is

incredibly difficult, and that no matter what sadness we express, no

matter how we go through those stages of grief, the reality is

that Allah alone is Allah. Allah alone is the Resurrector. And no

matter what we do, we won't be able to bring that person back

into our lives. So how do we best honor the memory of that person?

It's definitely not by lashing out against our spouse. It's

definitely not by letting our grief turn into anger and turn

into something that becomes a block within our relationship.

supporting one another through that most difficult loss means

being there understanding, discussing, engaging in

conversation and recognition of the difficulty and also stepping

away sometimes allowing our partner to grieve in a way that is

healthy, and allowing our partner to understand that we are there

when and if they need us.

Now when we move through those those elements of loss or those

situations of loss that may occur within a marital relationship, it

may not just be that we experienced the loss of our

parents, and many marriages as well, we may experience something

that is, you know, equally if not more so difficult, which is the

loss of a child. Whether the loss of the child is an experience that

we go through through miscarriage, or through experiencing a

stillbirth or any other type of difficulty in infancy, or a loss

of a child at a later age, a loss of a child due to an accident due

to drugs and alcohol due to a situation that is beyond our

control due to disease. This loss can also be among the greatest

loss for anyone to face and among the greatest trials that one can

face. But we are reminded that even the Rasulullah sallallahu

alayhi wa sallam experienced the loss of loved ones in his life.

And in those periods of time, his grief was expressed, but it was

never held in a way that would cause harm to others, or that was

expressed in a way that was anything other than filled with

gratefulness and recognition of the power of a loss panel

dialogue. So that even when the Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa

sallam experienced the year of sorrow, after the death of his

beloved Khadija no deal no one ha and his beloved uncle, he still

maintain that strength of faith. And he kept those connections with

his companions with those who are closest with him. He didn't push

people away. And one that I suppose of Allahu Allah who has

experienced the loss of his infant son. We are we know from authentic

narrations that

He experienced sadness. And yet he said that the eyes may tear up,

but that the heart remains anchored and steadfast in that

gratefulness to Allah subhanaw taala. And so we ask that Allah

subhanaw taala

allows us to experience that sense of contentedness, that sense of

gratefulness and that ease and comfort, even within our most

difficult loss, does a coma low clear and I look forward to

speaking to you again, as we continue to bring the divine into

the daily, Salam Alikum