Suzy Ismail – #50 AlBaith
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The speaker discusses the concept of loss and how it can be difficult to grapple with loss. They explain that loss can be caused by various types of loss, such as loss of a parent or a child, and that loss can be a difficult experience. The speaker also emphasizes the importance of not letting anyone experience loss and offers a framework for thinking about how to deal with loss in a healthy way.
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America, it's nice to see you again as we continue to bring the
divine into the daily by understanding how we can
incorporate the 99 names of Allah subhanaw taala into our daily
lives, to improve our relationships with our spouse, and
with our children. The name that we're going to discuss today is an
bear, which means the Resurrector, the one who brings the dead back
to life again. And the topic that we're going to address today, in
terms of understanding this name, in the concept of our family life,
is the topic of loss. How do we deal with grief and loss in our
relationships, when we have lost a loved one. Now many times as we
grow in our relationships, as we journey together, no husband and
wife in the marriage relationship, we come upon a time in our lives,
when we may lose those who are most Beloved to us. And those may
be our parents, they may be among our siblings, they may be close
friends, relatives, family, aunts, uncles, how do we deal with that
loss? How do we find a way back into the routine of life into the
happiness, the contentedness of life, when we've lost someone that
is so important to us? Now, many times when we're struggling with
the loss, particularly the loss of a parent, when we reach that older
age, we can lash out because of that loss. And our lashing out may
be coming from a place of hurt a place of sadness, but it may be
translated into an emotion of anger, or an emotion of
frustration. And as we journey through the stages of grief, we
may call upon a time of denial, a time of fingerpointing a time of
blame. When we experience a difficult loss, like the loss of a
parent. This is the time where as husband and wife, we need to be
understanding, to be supportive to recognize that that loss is
incredibly difficult, and that no matter what sadness we express, no
matter how we go through those stages of grief, the reality is
that Allah alone is Allah. Allah alone is the Resurrector. And no
matter what we do, we won't be able to bring that person back
into our lives. So how do we best honor the memory of that person?
It's definitely not by lashing out against our spouse. It's
definitely not by letting our grief turn into anger and turn
into something that becomes a block within our relationship.
supporting one another through that most difficult loss means
being there understanding, discussing, engaging in
conversation and recognition of the difficulty and also stepping
away sometimes allowing our partner to grieve in a way that is
healthy, and allowing our partner to understand that we are there
when and if they need us.
Now when we move through those those elements of loss or those
situations of loss that may occur within a marital relationship, it
may not just be that we experienced the loss of our
parents, and many marriages as well, we may experience something
that is, you know, equally if not more so difficult, which is the
loss of a child. Whether the loss of the child is an experience that
we go through through miscarriage, or through experiencing a
stillbirth or any other type of difficulty in infancy, or a loss
of a child at a later age, a loss of a child due to an accident due
to drugs and alcohol due to a situation that is beyond our
control due to disease. This loss can also be among the greatest
loss for anyone to face and among the greatest trials that one can
face. But we are reminded that even the Rasulullah sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam experienced the loss of loved ones in his life.
And in those periods of time, his grief was expressed, but it was
never held in a way that would cause harm to others, or that was
expressed in a way that was anything other than filled with
gratefulness and recognition of the power of a loss panel
dialogue. So that even when the Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa
sallam experienced the year of sorrow, after the death of his
beloved Khadija no deal no one ha and his beloved uncle, he still
maintain that strength of faith. And he kept those connections with
his companions with those who are closest with him. He didn't push
people away. And one that I suppose of Allahu Allah who has
experienced the loss of his infant son. We are we know from authentic
narrations that
He experienced sadness. And yet he said that the eyes may tear up,
but that the heart remains anchored and steadfast in that
gratefulness to Allah subhanaw taala. And so we ask that Allah
subhanaw taala
allows us to experience that sense of contentedness, that sense of
gratefulness and that ease and comfort, even within our most
difficult loss, does a coma low clear and I look forward to
speaking to you again, as we continue to bring the divine into
the daily, Salam Alikum