Suzy Ismail – #47 AlHakim

America, it's nice to see you again as we continue to bring the

divine into the daily by understanding how we can

incorporate the 99 names of Allah subhanaw taala, and bring those

characteristics into our daily lives to improve our relationship

with our spouse and with our children. The name that we're

going to discuss today is Al Hakim, which means the wise when

we talk about asking Allah subhanaw taala, to give us ECMO,

or to give us wisdom, in terms of how we interact with our spouse,

how we interact with our children, we ask this of Allah, because many

times rather than reacting to our children or to our spouse, with

rational thought through actions, we often react with emotion, and

emotion that is sometimes doused in sensitivity. When we base all

of our decisions in our relationship, or with our family,

in emotion that's really filled with a sensitive core, we lose

sight of how to make wise decisions, or how to take actions

that have wisdom behind them. What does that mean? You know,

sometimes in a relationship, we may want very much to be heard, we

may want very much for our spouse to understand where we're coming

from, we may want very much for our children, to listen, to pay

attention, to recognize what we want from them, and to have them

act upon it. But the wisdom comes into play when we realize that in

a relationship, in a family situation, even the only actions

that we have control over are the actions that we initiate our own

actions and our own reactions. So when our child misbehaves, for

example, in that moment, we can't control our child's actions as

much as we may want to, when our teenager speaks back to us with

SASS, in that moment, we may want to change that approach to

conversating. Or talking back. But we can't control that when our

spouse says something that we don't like or we don't approve of

when our spouse acts in a way that we feel is hurtful, possibly, or

is something that we never would do. We can't control that. And

that's part of having the hikma the wisdom, of recognizing that we

cannot control it. But we can control our reactions to it. We

can control how we interact from that point on, how do we bring

this to the attention of our spouse? How do we discipline our

children? How do we take the situation that we're handed and

work with it in a way that is pleasing to Allah subhanaw taala?

You know, there's a cute little saying that sometimes circulated

among many, and it asks that Allah subhanaw taala provides us with

the wisdom to recognize that there are things that we can't change,

and the ability to change that which we can change, but to be

content, knowing that there are certain things that we can't

change. That's true wisdom. And that's the hikma that we ask Allah

subhanaw taala al Hakim, to allow all of us to incorporate into our

daily lives with our spouse and with our children, to Xochimilco

and I look forward to talking to you again as we bring the divine

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