Suzy Ismail – #47 AlHakim

			America, it's nice to see you
again as we continue to bring the
		

			divine into the daily by
understanding how we can
		

			incorporate the 99 names of Allah
subhanaw taala, and bring those
		

			characteristics into our daily
lives to improve our relationship
		

			with our spouse and with our
children. The name that we're
		

			going to discuss today is Al
Hakim, which means the wise when
		

			we talk about asking Allah
subhanaw taala, to give us ECMO,
		

			or to give us wisdom, in terms of
how we interact with our spouse,
		

			how we interact with our children,
we ask this of Allah, because many
		

			times rather than reacting to our
children or to our spouse, with
		

			rational thought through actions,
we often react with emotion, and
		

			emotion that is sometimes doused
in sensitivity. When we base all
		

			of our decisions in our
relationship, or with our family,
		

			in emotion that's really filled
with a sensitive core, we lose
		

			sight of how to make wise
decisions, or how to take actions
		

			that have wisdom behind them. What
does that mean? You know,
		

			sometimes in a relationship, we
may want very much to be heard, we
		

			may want very much for our spouse
to understand where we're coming
		

			from, we may want very much for
our children, to listen, to pay
		

			attention, to recognize what we
want from them, and to have them
		

			act upon it. But the wisdom comes
into play when we realize that in
		

			a relationship, in a family
situation, even the only actions
		

			that we have control over are the
actions that we initiate our own
		

			actions and our own reactions. So
when our child misbehaves, for
		

			example, in that moment, we can't
control our child's actions as
		

			much as we may want to, when our
teenager speaks back to us with
		

			SASS, in that moment, we may want
to change that approach to
		

			conversating. Or talking back. But
we can't control that when our
		

			spouse says something that we
don't like or we don't approve of
		

			when our spouse acts in a way that
we feel is hurtful, possibly, or
		

			is something that we never would
do. We can't control that. And
		

			that's part of having the hikma
the wisdom, of recognizing that we
		

			cannot control it. But we can
control our reactions to it. We
		

			can control how we interact from
that point on, how do we bring
		

			this to the attention of our
spouse? How do we discipline our
		

			children? How do we take the
situation that we're handed and
		

			work with it in a way that is
pleasing to Allah subhanaw taala?
		

			You know, there's a cute little
saying that sometimes circulated
		

			among many, and it asks that Allah
subhanaw taala provides us with
		

			the wisdom to recognize that there
are things that we can't change,
		

			and the ability to change that
which we can change, but to be
		

			content, knowing that there are
certain things that we can't
		

			change. That's true wisdom. And
that's the hikma that we ask Allah
		

			subhanaw taala al Hakim, to allow
all of us to incorporate into our
		

			daily lives with our spouse and
with our children, to Xochimilco
		

			and I look forward to talking to
you again as we bring the divine
		

			into the daily astrological