Suzy Ismail – #44. ArRaqib

			Nice to see you again as we
continue to bring the divine into
		

			the deli by understanding how we
can incorporate the 99 names of
		

			Allah subhanaw taala into our
daily lives to improve our
		

			relationships with our families.
The name that we're going to
		

			discuss today is utter appeal,
which means the watchful eye. When
		

			we talk about Allah subhanaw taala
being the most watchful other for
		

			you. It's watchfulness in a way of
looking over us of protecting us.
		

			Many times with our children, or
even with our spouses, we feel
		

			that we also want to have that
sense of a rocky of being the
		

			watchful one. But in reality, when
we tend to look at everything that
		

			our children are doing everything
that our spouses are doing, we
		

			begin to question and doubt may
enter our heart. And so the
		

			watchfulness becomes a element of
mistrust. So today, for example,
		

			many of our children may have
iPhones may have devices in which
		

			they can communicate to one
another. And for many parents, the
		

			question comes up of should we
place a locator on the phone so
		

			that we know what our child is
doing at all times. This question
		

			becomes very relevant,
particularly as the child grows
		

			older and begins to develop their
own sense of self. If you are
		

			going to be the watchful one all
of the time, particularly once
		

			your children have entered young
adulthood and the teenage years,
		

			then you may take away from the
responsibility that the child may
		

			have. And the watchfulness may
actually backfire in creating the
		

			sense of mistrust around your
child. The same goes for spouses.
		

			I recall that there was a new
program that had come out where
		

			spouses could monitor their
husband or their wives, phones, in
		

			terms of receiving text messages
that were sent to the spouse. This
		

			is another form of watchfulness.
But it's a watchfulness that can
		

			break a relationship. If there is
doubt in your relationship, if
		

			there is doubt, as a parent
towards your children, speak to
		

			your family members. Speak to your
spouse, be honest, be open with
		

			your children, explain where that
doubt is coming from, do not
		

			implement a sense of watchfulness
that comes out of mistrust,
		

			because that can push your spouse
or your child further and further
		

			away. So I pray that a lot of love
for you keeps that sense of
		

			watchfulness over all of us, but
also protects us from being
		

			watchful in a way that may be
harmful. Does that come a little
		

			higher? And I look forward to
speaking to you again, as we
		

			continue to bring the divine into
the daily. It's that I'm honored