Suzy Ismail – #44. ArRaqib

Nice to see you again as we continue to bring the divine into

the deli by understanding how we can incorporate the 99 names of

Allah subhanaw taala into our daily lives to improve our

relationships with our families. The name that we're going to

discuss today is utter appeal, which means the watchful eye. When

we talk about Allah subhanaw taala being the most watchful other for

you. It's watchfulness in a way of looking over us of protecting us.

Many times with our children, or even with our spouses, we feel

that we also want to have that sense of a rocky of being the

watchful one. But in reality, when we tend to look at everything that

our children are doing everything that our spouses are doing, we

begin to question and doubt may enter our heart. And so the

watchfulness becomes a element of mistrust. So today, for example,

many of our children may have iPhones may have devices in which

they can communicate to one another. And for many parents, the

question comes up of should we place a locator on the phone so

that we know what our child is doing at all times. This question

becomes very relevant, particularly as the child grows

older and begins to develop their own sense of self. If you are

going to be the watchful one all of the time, particularly once

your children have entered young adulthood and the teenage years,

then you may take away from the responsibility that the child may

have. And the watchfulness may actually backfire in creating the

sense of mistrust around your child. The same goes for spouses.

I recall that there was a new program that had come out where

spouses could monitor their husband or their wives, phones, in

terms of receiving text messages that were sent to the spouse. This

is another form of watchfulness. But it's a watchfulness that can

break a relationship. If there is doubt in your relationship, if

there is doubt, as a parent towards your children, speak to

your family members. Speak to your spouse, be honest, be open with

your children, explain where that doubt is coming from, do not

implement a sense of watchfulness that comes out of mistrust,

because that can push your spouse or your child further and further

away. So I pray that a lot of love for you keeps that sense of

watchfulness over all of us, but also protects us from being

watchful in a way that may be harmful. Does that come a little

higher? And I look forward to speaking to you again, as we

continue to bring the divine into the daily. It's that I'm honored