Suzy Ismail – #32 AlLatif

Santa Monica, it's nice to see you again as we continue to bring the

divine into the daily by understanding the 99 names of

Allah subhanaw taala, and how we can incorporate the

characteristics of Allah subhanaw taala into our daily lives to

improve our relationships with our spouses and our family. The name

that we're going to discuss today is El hubiera, which means the oil

aware

in our relationships with our spouses and with our children, we

often feel that we want to be all aware that we feel that we have

the right to know everything at every moment. Now in building

trust in a relationship between husband and wife, or between

parent and child, it's important for that element to be there where

there isn't a constant looking over the shoulder, there isn't a

constant questioning of what were you doing? Who were you talking

to? Who did you send the message to? What did that person say to

you through email, through texting through Facebook. But this type of

trust is nurtured, it's cultivated. And in order for us to

step away from trying to constantly have the bar or to

constantly have the news of what is happening in our children's

lives and in our spouse's life, through a process of spying or

looking over their shoulder. It's important for us to develop that

sense of trust, that sense of openness and our relationship

where we can talk to one another. With our spouses. We cultivate

that sense of trust, by really trying to have those

conversations, rather than resorting to the functional, where

our conversations between husband and wife are simply, you know,

what did you pick up for dinner? What are you cooking tonight? What

do we have to do tomorrow? What's on the schedule, who's picking up

the children who's not dropping off the children, instead going to

a deeper emotional level in conversation that moves past just

the surface functional communication. That's how we begin

to build trust. And when we have that trust, when we have that

openness, we no longer feel a need to constantly check over our

spouses short shoulder, recognizing that Allah subhanaw

taala is Elvis here, Allah subhanaw taala is as Semia last

Canada, Allah is El Javier, the one who is all aware and trusting

that our spouse has that taqwa, that fear and love of Allah

subhanaw taala, that they will monitor their actions that they

will be honest and open, because of their love for Allah subhanaw

taala and their love for their spouse for the sake of Allah

subhanaw taala now with our children, you know, we go through

the different stages of therapy. Yeah. And in the process of

understanding those stages of therapy, we understand that prior

to cutting the strings completely and telling our children, I trust

you, it's a process of development of that trust. And how do we get

to that process? It's by speaking to them by teaching them by

raising awareness by not being afraid to be those parents, when

our children need to have that person who is guiding them, who is

giving them instruction, who is motivating them and explaining to

them right from wrong, so that when they enter the last stage of

therapy, yeah, which is the stage between the ages of 15 and 21, we

begin to see that trust there where we as parents no longer need

to keep second guessing, no longer need to keep asking, but we're

there and our children know that they can come to us ask those

questions, tell us what is going on and give us the ABA without us

having to seek it out or search for it. So I pray that Allah

subhanaw taala al-harbi Are we all aware allows us to be aware of

what is going on in our homes without overstepping our

boundaries of mistrust to become a little clearer and I look forward

to speaking to you again, as we continue to bring the design into

the daily just set them on a come