Suzy Ismail – #32 AlLatif

			Santa Monica, it's nice to see you
again as we continue to bring the
		

			divine into the daily by
understanding the 99 names of
		

			Allah subhanaw taala, and how we
can incorporate the
		

			characteristics of Allah subhanaw
taala into our daily lives to
		

			improve our relationships with our
spouses and our family. The name
		

			that we're going to discuss today
is El hubiera, which means the oil
		

			aware
		

			in our relationships with our
spouses and with our children, we
		

			often feel that we want to be all
aware that we feel that we have
		

			the right to know everything at
every moment. Now in building
		

			trust in a relationship between
husband and wife, or between
		

			parent and child, it's important
for that element to be there where
		

			there isn't a constant looking
over the shoulder, there isn't a
		

			constant questioning of what were
you doing? Who were you talking
		

			to? Who did you send the message
to? What did that person say to
		

			you through email, through texting
through Facebook. But this type of
		

			trust is nurtured, it's
cultivated. And in order for us to
		

			step away from trying to
constantly have the bar or to
		

			constantly have the news of what
is happening in our children's
		

			lives and in our spouse's life,
through a process of spying or
		

			looking over their shoulder. It's
important for us to develop that
		

			sense of trust, that sense of
openness and our relationship
		

			where we can talk to one another.
With our spouses. We cultivate
		

			that sense of trust, by really
trying to have those
		

			conversations, rather than
resorting to the functional, where
		

			our conversations between husband
and wife are simply, you know,
		

			what did you pick up for dinner?
What are you cooking tonight? What
		

			do we have to do tomorrow? What's
on the schedule, who's picking up
		

			the children who's not dropping
off the children, instead going to
		

			a deeper emotional level in
conversation that moves past just
		

			the surface functional
communication. That's how we begin
		

			to build trust. And when we have
that trust, when we have that
		

			openness, we no longer feel a need
to constantly check over our
		

			spouses short shoulder,
recognizing that Allah subhanaw
		

			taala is Elvis here, Allah
subhanaw taala is as Semia last
		

			Canada, Allah is El Javier, the
one who is all aware and trusting
		

			that our spouse has that taqwa,
that fear and love of Allah
		

			subhanaw taala, that they will
monitor their actions that they
		

			will be honest and open, because
of their love for Allah subhanaw
		

			taala and their love for their
spouse for the sake of Allah
		

			subhanaw taala now with our
children, you know, we go through
		

			the different stages of therapy.
Yeah. And in the process of
		

			understanding those stages of
therapy, we understand that prior
		

			to cutting the strings completely
and telling our children, I trust
		

			you, it's a process of development
of that trust. And how do we get
		

			to that process? It's by speaking
to them by teaching them by
		

			raising awareness by not being
afraid to be those parents, when
		

			our children need to have that
person who is guiding them, who is
		

			giving them instruction, who is
motivating them and explaining to
		

			them right from wrong, so that
when they enter the last stage of
		

			therapy, yeah, which is the stage
between the ages of 15 and 21, we
		

			begin to see that trust there
where we as parents no longer need
		

			to keep second guessing, no longer
need to keep asking, but we're
		

			there and our children know that
they can come to us ask those
		

			questions, tell us what is going
on and give us the ABA without us
		

			having to seek it out or search
for it. So I pray that Allah
		

			subhanaw taala al-harbi Are we all
aware allows us to be aware of
		

			what is going on in our homes
without overstepping our
		

			boundaries of mistrust to become a
little clearer and I look forward
		

			to speaking to you again, as we
continue to bring the design into
		

			the daily just set them on a come