Suzy Ismail – #32 AlLatif
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Santa Monica, it's nice to see you again as we continue to bring the
divine into the daily by understanding the 99 names of
Allah subhanaw taala, and how we can incorporate the
characteristics of Allah subhanaw taala into our daily lives to
improve our relationships with our spouses and our family. The name
that we're going to discuss today is El hubiera, which means the oil
aware
in our relationships with our spouses and with our children, we
often feel that we want to be all aware that we feel that we have
the right to know everything at every moment. Now in building
trust in a relationship between husband and wife, or between
parent and child, it's important for that element to be there where
there isn't a constant looking over the shoulder, there isn't a
constant questioning of what were you doing? Who were you talking
to? Who did you send the message to? What did that person say to
you through email, through texting through Facebook. But this type of
trust is nurtured, it's cultivated. And in order for us to
step away from trying to constantly have the bar or to
constantly have the news of what is happening in our children's
lives and in our spouse's life, through a process of spying or
looking over their shoulder. It's important for us to develop that
sense of trust, that sense of openness and our relationship
where we can talk to one another. With our spouses. We cultivate
that sense of trust, by really trying to have those
conversations, rather than resorting to the functional, where
our conversations between husband and wife are simply, you know,
what did you pick up for dinner? What are you cooking tonight? What
do we have to do tomorrow? What's on the schedule, who's picking up
the children who's not dropping off the children, instead going to
a deeper emotional level in conversation that moves past just
the surface functional communication. That's how we begin
to build trust. And when we have that trust, when we have that
openness, we no longer feel a need to constantly check over our
spouses short shoulder, recognizing that Allah subhanaw
taala is Elvis here, Allah subhanaw taala is as Semia last
Canada, Allah is El Javier, the one who is all aware and trusting
that our spouse has that taqwa, that fear and love of Allah
subhanaw taala, that they will monitor their actions that they
will be honest and open, because of their love for Allah subhanaw
taala and their love for their spouse for the sake of Allah
subhanaw taala now with our children, you know, we go through
the different stages of therapy. Yeah. And in the process of
understanding those stages of therapy, we understand that prior
to cutting the strings completely and telling our children, I trust
you, it's a process of development of that trust. And how do we get
to that process? It's by speaking to them by teaching them by
raising awareness by not being afraid to be those parents, when
our children need to have that person who is guiding them, who is
giving them instruction, who is motivating them and explaining to
them right from wrong, so that when they enter the last stage of
therapy, yeah, which is the stage between the ages of 15 and 21, we
begin to see that trust there where we as parents no longer need
to keep second guessing, no longer need to keep asking, but we're
there and our children know that they can come to us ask those
questions, tell us what is going on and give us the ABA without us
having to seek it out or search for it. So I pray that Allah
subhanaw taala al-harbi Are we all aware allows us to be aware of
what is going on in our homes without overstepping our
boundaries of mistrust to become a little clearer and I look forward
to speaking to you again, as we continue to bring the design into
the daily just set them on a come