Suzy Ismail – #31 AlKhabeer

cinematic, it's nice to see you again as we continue to bring the

divine into the daily by understanding the characteristics

of the 99 names of Allah subhanaw taala. And incorporating those

characteristics into our daily lives to improve our relationships

with our spouses and our family. The name that we're going to

discuss today in Episode 31 is an Latif the name and Latif means the

gentle, or the kind. Now, we've spoken quite frequently about the

importance of being kind and gentle, to our families, to our

spouses to our children, and that look for that kindness is

something that should be an integral part of our families of

our homes. Because when we improve the relationship with our

families, when we ensure that we have compassion and kindness in

our homes, then that compassion and kindness radiates externally,

to our societies, to our countries, and to our entire

world. So how do we incorporate that kindness? How do we

incorporate that looks, a lot of times in our homes, we feel that

it is the space where we can, you know, quote, unquote, be

ourselves. And what it means when we say be ourselves is sometimes

it means we can be grumpy, we can be cranky, we can be bothered, we

can express that annoyance. Yet, in reality, again, we've reminded

ourselves frequently in these episodes, that that assume

sallallahu alayhi wa sallam tells us that the best view is the best

to your family, and I am the best to mine. So this means that the

kindness part of ourselves needs to be reserved for our families.

Now, often when I'm giving marriage lectures, or in our

marriage courses, I use the example of a gentleman who was you

know, shopping at the mall. And I think it's an example that all of

us have experienced that one time or another, and all of us have

found ourselves. And I know the gentleman was shopping in the mall

with his family. And he was very bothered that the children were

taking a long time that his wife was taking a long time. And he

would turn to them and shout at them finish up, hurry up, you're

taking forever. Why is this taking you so long? And you know, as my

husband and I were in the mall as well, and we began to approach him

just to say, Salem, and we looked saw him that he looked a little

bit frazzled. As we were approaching, someone was

approaching him from the other side of the store. And it was a co

worker, one of his colleagues from work. And as his coworker

approached him, and she said, you know, oh, hi, how are you doing?

He turned to her, and his entire demeanor changed. He said, Oh, how

are you? It's so nice to see you. Let me introduce you to my

beautiful wife. Let me introduce you to my beautiful children. And

he proceeded to introduce the family and to chat for a little

while. And as the co worker laughed and said goodbye to the

family, the man again, you know, turn to the family after she was

out of earshot, and began to say, Finish. Why are you taking

forever, you know, you're driving me crazy. And, you know, when we

did approach Him, we kind of brought it to his attention, and

we laughed about it. But we realized that this really is the

case that many of us will have an external demeanor, with our co

workers, with our colleagues with our community. But that demeanor

may have an element of looks of kindness, of gentleness, of the

best part of ourselves. But when we turn to our families, we no

longer have that because we feel that we can, quote unquote, be

ourselves, but ourselves need to be the best versions of ourselves

with our spouses and with our children. So I play it pray that

Allah subhanaw taala and Latif brings that looks into our hearts,

into our lives, into our tongues and into our actions. So that our

interactions with our spouses and with our children is always the

kindest, the nicest and the most gentle that we can be. Just

Accomando Hi, and I look forward to speaking to you again as we

continue to bring the divine into the daily assalamu Alikum