Suzy Ismail – #31 AlKhabeer

			cinematic, it's nice to see you
again as we continue to bring the
		

			divine into the daily by
understanding the characteristics
		

			of the 99 names of Allah subhanaw
taala. And incorporating those
		

			characteristics into our daily
lives to improve our relationships
		

			with our spouses and our family.
The name that we're going to
		

			discuss today in Episode 31 is an
Latif the name and Latif means the
		

			gentle, or the kind. Now, we've
spoken quite frequently about the
		

			importance of being kind and
gentle, to our families, to our
		

			spouses to our children, and that
look for that kindness is
		

			something that should be an
integral part of our families of
		

			our homes. Because when we improve
the relationship with our
		

			families, when we ensure that we
have compassion and kindness in
		

			our homes, then that compassion
and kindness radiates externally,
		

			to our societies, to our
countries, and to our entire
		

			world. So how do we incorporate
that kindness? How do we
		

			incorporate that looks, a lot of
times in our homes, we feel that
		

			it is the space where we can, you
know, quote, unquote, be
		

			ourselves. And what it means when
we say be ourselves is sometimes
		

			it means we can be grumpy, we can
be cranky, we can be bothered, we
		

			can express that annoyance. Yet,
in reality, again, we've reminded
		

			ourselves frequently in these
episodes, that that assume
		

			sallallahu alayhi wa sallam tells
us that the best view is the best
		

			to your family, and I am the best
to mine. So this means that the
		

			kindness part of ourselves needs
to be reserved for our families.
		

			Now, often when I'm giving
marriage lectures, or in our
		

			marriage courses, I use the
example of a gentleman who was you
		

			know, shopping at the mall. And I
think it's an example that all of
		

			us have experienced that one time
or another, and all of us have
		

			found ourselves. And I know the
gentleman was shopping in the mall
		

			with his family. And he was very
bothered that the children were
		

			taking a long time that his wife
was taking a long time. And he
		

			would turn to them and shout at
them finish up, hurry up, you're
		

			taking forever. Why is this taking
you so long? And you know, as my
		

			husband and I were in the mall as
well, and we began to approach him
		

			just to say, Salem, and we looked
saw him that he looked a little
		

			bit frazzled. As we were
approaching, someone was
		

			approaching him from the other
side of the store. And it was a co
		

			worker, one of his colleagues from
work. And as his coworker
		

			approached him, and she said, you
know, oh, hi, how are you doing?
		

			He turned to her, and his entire
demeanor changed. He said, Oh, how
		

			are you? It's so nice to see you.
Let me introduce you to my
		

			beautiful wife. Let me introduce
you to my beautiful children. And
		

			he proceeded to introduce the
family and to chat for a little
		

			while. And as the co worker
laughed and said goodbye to the
		

			family, the man again, you know,
turn to the family after she was
		

			out of earshot, and began to say,
Finish. Why are you taking
		

			forever, you know, you're driving
me crazy. And, you know, when we
		

			did approach Him, we kind of
brought it to his attention, and
		

			we laughed about it. But we
realized that this really is the
		

			case that many of us will have an
external demeanor, with our co
		

			workers, with our colleagues with
our community. But that demeanor
		

			may have an element of looks of
kindness, of gentleness, of the
		

			best part of ourselves. But when
we turn to our families, we no
		

			longer have that because we feel
that we can, quote unquote, be
		

			ourselves, but ourselves need to
be the best versions of ourselves
		

			with our spouses and with our
children. So I play it pray that
		

			Allah subhanaw taala and Latif
brings that looks into our hearts,
		

			into our lives, into our tongues
and into our actions. So that our
		

			interactions with our spouses and
with our children is always the
		

			kindest, the nicest and the most
gentle that we can be. Just
		

			Accomando Hi, and I look forward
to speaking to you again as we
		

			continue to bring the divine into
the daily assalamu Alikum