Suzy Ismail – #28 AlBasir
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Salam aleikum, it's nice to see you again as we continue to
discuss how we can bring the divine characteristics of the 99
names of Allah subhanaw taala into our daily lives to improve our
relationships with our family and our spouses. So the name that
we're going to discuss today is El bossier, which means the old
saying, within a relationship, we've talked quite frequently in
our episodes about the importance of building trust, and
particularly in terms of enhancing that marital bond. When we trust
our spouse, we don't have that temptation of trying to see
everything that the spouse is doing. Yet, the reality is, we
often come to a place where we begin to think that if my spouse
doesn't know, then it's okay, if my spouse doesn't see something,
then it's okay. And one of the unfortunate phenomenons that we're
seeing in our counseling center quite frequently these days is the
issue of infidelity. And that infidelity often arises first from
that need to satisfy the neffs, despite going against the will of
Allah subhanaw taala. But second, from that feeling of what my
spouse doesn't know what won't hurt him or won't hurt her. And of
course, Allah subhanaw taala is embassy of all seeing, and he sees
everything. So when we act in our relationships with a loss of
funnel data, first and foremost in mind, recognizing that he is a
loss here, and that he will see everything that we do. This is
where we can stop ourselves from going down that path of thinking
something is okay to do if our spouse doesn't see it. The same
goes for our children in terms of Serbia, and trying to raise them
in a way where they understand the concept of Taqwa where they love
Allah subhanaw taala. And they fear a lot out of a love for him,
because they recognize that he is Elbasy SME are all seeing and the
All Hearing when we talk about seeing this brings us to another
point that's incredibly important in the relationship in the
marriage relationship in particular, which is that we do
tend to judge with our eyes. And although will often say beauty is
in the eye of the beholder. In the marriage relationship. After the
first year passes, and the second year passes, maybe taking care of
our looks becomes less of a priority. And we begin to think
that it's okay to be comfortable at home. And as much as that
comfort is a huge important part of being building that trust
between husband and wife. It's also important to recognize that
the same way that you might want to beautify yourself when you
leave the home, you would want to beautify yourself within the home
as well. And it's not just a shallow beautification, but that
beautification comes with a smile. It comes with an expression that
is soften. It comes with gestures that are not threatening or that
are not putting someone down. And that's where the true beauty comes
from. And again, seeing that in the relationship helps the spouse
get closer and closer to one another. I pray that Allah
subhanaw taala and Basir allows us to see only the best in our
spouses always to see the best in our children, and to help guide
them to recognize what true Taqwa is and how to connect with Allah
Subhana Allah Elbasy and all that they do, just like a low head and
I look forward to speaking to you again in our next episode, as we
continue to bring the divine into the daily salamati