Suzy Ismail – #28 AlBasir

			Salam aleikum, it's nice to see
you again as we continue to
		

			discuss how we can bring the
divine characteristics of the 99
		

			names of Allah subhanaw taala into
our daily lives to improve our
		

			relationships with our family and
our spouses. So the name that
		

			we're going to discuss today is El
bossier, which means the old
		

			saying, within a relationship,
we've talked quite frequently in
		

			our episodes about the importance
of building trust, and
		

			particularly in terms of enhancing
that marital bond. When we trust
		

			our spouse, we don't have that
temptation of trying to see
		

			everything that the spouse is
doing. Yet, the reality is, we
		

			often come to a place where we
begin to think that if my spouse
		

			doesn't know, then it's okay, if
my spouse doesn't see something,
		

			then it's okay. And one of the
unfortunate phenomenons that we're
		

			seeing in our counseling center
quite frequently these days is the
		

			issue of infidelity. And that
infidelity often arises first from
		

			that need to satisfy the neffs,
despite going against the will of
		

			Allah subhanaw taala. But second,
from that feeling of what my
		

			spouse doesn't know what won't
hurt him or won't hurt her. And of
		

			course, Allah subhanaw taala is
embassy of all seeing, and he sees
		

			everything. So when we act in our
relationships with a loss of
		

			funnel data, first and foremost in
mind, recognizing that he is a
		

			loss here, and that he will see
everything that we do. This is
		

			where we can stop ourselves from
going down that path of thinking
		

			something is okay to do if our
spouse doesn't see it. The same
		

			goes for our children in terms of
Serbia, and trying to raise them
		

			in a way where they understand the
concept of Taqwa where they love
		

			Allah subhanaw taala. And they
fear a lot out of a love for him,
		

			because they recognize that he is
Elbasy SME are all seeing and the
		

			All Hearing when we talk about
seeing this brings us to another
		

			point that's incredibly important
in the relationship in the
		

			marriage relationship in
particular, which is that we do
		

			tend to judge with our eyes. And
although will often say beauty is
		

			in the eye of the beholder. In the
marriage relationship. After the
		

			first year passes, and the second
year passes, maybe taking care of
		

			our looks becomes less of a
priority. And we begin to think
		

			that it's okay to be comfortable
at home. And as much as that
		

			comfort is a huge important part
of being building that trust
		

			between husband and wife. It's
also important to recognize that
		

			the same way that you might want
to beautify yourself when you
		

			leave the home, you would want to
beautify yourself within the home
		

			as well. And it's not just a
shallow beautification, but that
		

			beautification comes with a smile.
It comes with an expression that
		

			is soften. It comes with gestures
that are not threatening or that
		

			are not putting someone down. And
that's where the true beauty comes
		

			from. And again, seeing that in
the relationship helps the spouse
		

			get closer and closer to one
another. I pray that Allah
		

			subhanaw taala and Basir allows us
to see only the best in our
		

			spouses always to see the best in
our children, and to help guide
		

			them to recognize what true Taqwa
is and how to connect with Allah
		

			Subhana Allah Elbasy and all that
they do, just like a low head and
		

			I look forward to speaking to you
again in our next episode, as we
		

			continue to bring the divine into
the daily salamati