Suzy Ismail – #28 AlBasir

Salam aleikum, it's nice to see you again as we continue to

discuss how we can bring the divine characteristics of the 99

names of Allah subhanaw taala into our daily lives to improve our

relationships with our family and our spouses. So the name that

we're going to discuss today is El bossier, which means the old

saying, within a relationship, we've talked quite frequently in

our episodes about the importance of building trust, and

particularly in terms of enhancing that marital bond. When we trust

our spouse, we don't have that temptation of trying to see

everything that the spouse is doing. Yet, the reality is, we

often come to a place where we begin to think that if my spouse

doesn't know, then it's okay, if my spouse doesn't see something,

then it's okay. And one of the unfortunate phenomenons that we're

seeing in our counseling center quite frequently these days is the

issue of infidelity. And that infidelity often arises first from

that need to satisfy the neffs, despite going against the will of

Allah subhanaw taala. But second, from that feeling of what my

spouse doesn't know what won't hurt him or won't hurt her. And of

course, Allah subhanaw taala is embassy of all seeing, and he sees

everything. So when we act in our relationships with a loss of

funnel data, first and foremost in mind, recognizing that he is a

loss here, and that he will see everything that we do. This is

where we can stop ourselves from going down that path of thinking

something is okay to do if our spouse doesn't see it. The same

goes for our children in terms of Serbia, and trying to raise them

in a way where they understand the concept of Taqwa where they love

Allah subhanaw taala. And they fear a lot out of a love for him,

because they recognize that he is Elbasy SME are all seeing and the

All Hearing when we talk about seeing this brings us to another

point that's incredibly important in the relationship in the

marriage relationship in particular, which is that we do

tend to judge with our eyes. And although will often say beauty is

in the eye of the beholder. In the marriage relationship. After the

first year passes, and the second year passes, maybe taking care of

our looks becomes less of a priority. And we begin to think

that it's okay to be comfortable at home. And as much as that

comfort is a huge important part of being building that trust

between husband and wife. It's also important to recognize that

the same way that you might want to beautify yourself when you

leave the home, you would want to beautify yourself within the home

as well. And it's not just a shallow beautification, but that

beautification comes with a smile. It comes with an expression that

is soften. It comes with gestures that are not threatening or that

are not putting someone down. And that's where the true beauty comes

from. And again, seeing that in the relationship helps the spouse

get closer and closer to one another. I pray that Allah

subhanaw taala and Basir allows us to see only the best in our

spouses always to see the best in our children, and to help guide

them to recognize what true Taqwa is and how to connect with Allah

Subhana Allah Elbasy and all that they do, just like a low head and

I look forward to speaking to you again in our next episode, as we

continue to bring the divine into the daily salamati