Suzy Ismail – #24 AlRafi

spent on latika, it's nice to see you again, as we continue to

discuss how we can bring it bring the design into our daily by

understanding the characteristics of the 99 names of Allah subhanaw

taala. The name that we're going to discuss today is a Roth, which

means the uplifter. Many times in our marriage relationships and in

our homes, we see that uplifting or that sense of support from our

spouses, our children will often seek that sense of support or that

sense of uplifting from us as parents. But what we tend to not

pay attention to or not realize is that many times, we can find that

support, we can find that element of being uplifted in places other

than just with our spouse. And for our children. The same also goes

where it's not always just the parents, who have to be the ones

that are uplifting or providing support. And this is why we see

the importance of mentors and having those connections. You

know, there's that there was a study that was done on a tribe

known as the Adobe tribe. And this tribe, in a pool in New Guinea,

was assessed to see what the female view of marriage is about.

And one of the questions that they were asked was, Is your husband,

your best friend, and the spouse has responded, they were a little

hesitant, and they said, Why would my husband be my best friend, my

husband is my husband. And you know, my best friend is so and so.

My, the person who listens to me is so and so the person who does

this is so and so. And everyone seemed to have a rule, a separate

role in the family life. Yet today, as we have shrunk the

nuclear family. And we rely more and more heavily on our spouses.

Many times we expect our spouse to be the best father or the best

mother to be the best friend, you know, in the person who is the

best caretaker, the best person who is there in every element. And

we've cut out the important people in our lives that can supplement

that can support that can uplift. And we look at the Rasulullah

sallallahu alayhi wasallam, we see that he was surrounded by the

companions, and the Companions often trot times provided the

uplifting provided that support in addition to the support and the

connection that he had with his spouses. So today, as we continue

through our journey of trying to build better relationships, it's

important that we recognize that yes, we are there in the marriage

relationship, to help uplift one another. But that's not all the

marriage relationship is about. And that's not the only

relationship in which uplifting can occur, and with our children,

as much as they may look to us for support and uplifting, and we

should try to implement that uplifting element as opposed to

constant criticism or constant putting down of our children, but

also provide avenues where our children can be exposed and

uplifted by mentors, by role models, by those in their life

that they can also connect with. So I pray that Allah will bless us

always with people who will uplift us whether those people are our

spouses, our parents, our children, or our close friends and

companions that were blessed with Josiah comando head and I look

forward to speaking with you again tomorrow, as we continue to bring

the divine into the daily astrological