Suzy Ismail – #23 AlKhafid

Salam Alikum it's nice to see you again as we continue to understand

how we can bring the divine into our daily lives by incorporating

the characteristics of the 99 names of Allah subhanaw taala into

improving our relationships with our family and with our spouses.

The name that we're going to discuss today is Al Horford, which

means the humbler

when we look at our marriage relationships, we often see that

the ego and the lack of humbleness can cause a Great Rift or a great

divide between couples. When we talk about someone being humble,

it means being able to incorporate a recognition of how replaceable

we all are, or how in this dunya in this world, of billions of

people, we are a start

a drop in the ocean.

And when we put that into perspective, we begin to recognize

how our journey in this dunya how our purpose in this life is really

all about pleasing Allah subhanaw taala and worshiping Allah through

seeking His pleasure. And within our marriage relationship. Each

action that we take can be a form of worshiping Allah, when we seek

to please Allah by pleasing our spouse. What does it mean to

please our spouse? Again, when we speak about the relationship, the

marital relationship, we are speaking of a relationship that is

free from oppression that is free from forced engagement that is

free from a an unfair, a balance or a dysfunction in terms of power

within the relationship, we're talking about a partnership. And

within that partnership, being humble as a spouse is incredibly

important. Because when you are humble, you begin to recognize

that it's not all about you all of the time, but that the marriage

relationship really is about that partnership is about working hand

in hand together to please Allah subhanaw taala and to continue on

that journey towards Jana, together.

What do we do though, when our ego gets the best of us? What do we do

when we realize how hard it is sometimes to maintain that

humbleness in the relationship? We often see it evoking that that ego

being evoked when there are arguments, when there's anger that

has been sparked. And this is why we're reminded in the Hadith

consistently, when the man came to the Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi

wa sallam and asked him How can I be a better person, the response

of the Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was not praying

more or fast more, it was do not become angry. And when the man

asked again, what else can I do again that US will sallallahu

alayhi wa sallam responded, do not become angry. And then a third

time he asked, and a third time the response was do not become

angry. Because it is in those moments of anger, that we lose

control of the self. And the ego rears its head when we insist on

being right. When we insist on not apologizing when we insist on not

recognizing the wrong that we may have done in the relationship and

instead only see the wrong that the other may have committed.

That's not a relationship of equilibrium. That's not a

partnership. That's a relationship of ego. So I asked that Allah

subhanaw taala. The Al Horford the humbler allows our hearts to

remain humble in our relationships with our spouses and with all that

we interact with, because it is through that humbleness that we

get closer and closer to the beloved creator.

I pray that Allah subhanaw taala blesses all of our unions and

blesses our families and our children and allows us to be the

best versions of ourselves always. Jessica Malachite, and I look

forward to speaking to you again in our next episode, as we

continue to bring the divine into the daily As Salam Alikum