Suzy Ismail – #23 AlKhafid
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Salam Alikum it's nice to see you again as we continue to understand
how we can bring the divine into our daily lives by incorporating
the characteristics of the 99 names of Allah subhanaw taala into
improving our relationships with our family and with our spouses.
The name that we're going to discuss today is Al Horford, which
means the humbler
when we look at our marriage relationships, we often see that
the ego and the lack of humbleness can cause a Great Rift or a great
divide between couples. When we talk about someone being humble,
it means being able to incorporate a recognition of how replaceable
we all are, or how in this dunya in this world, of billions of
people, we are a start
a drop in the ocean.
And when we put that into perspective, we begin to recognize
how our journey in this dunya how our purpose in this life is really
all about pleasing Allah subhanaw taala and worshiping Allah through
seeking His pleasure. And within our marriage relationship. Each
action that we take can be a form of worshiping Allah, when we seek
to please Allah by pleasing our spouse. What does it mean to
please our spouse? Again, when we speak about the relationship, the
marital relationship, we are speaking of a relationship that is
free from oppression that is free from forced engagement that is
free from a an unfair, a balance or a dysfunction in terms of power
within the relationship, we're talking about a partnership. And
within that partnership, being humble as a spouse is incredibly
important. Because when you are humble, you begin to recognize
that it's not all about you all of the time, but that the marriage
relationship really is about that partnership is about working hand
in hand together to please Allah subhanaw taala and to continue on
that journey towards Jana, together.
What do we do though, when our ego gets the best of us? What do we do
when we realize how hard it is sometimes to maintain that
humbleness in the relationship? We often see it evoking that that ego
being evoked when there are arguments, when there's anger that
has been sparked. And this is why we're reminded in the Hadith
consistently, when the man came to the Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi
wa sallam and asked him How can I be a better person, the response
of the Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was not praying
more or fast more, it was do not become angry. And when the man
asked again, what else can I do again that US will sallallahu
alayhi wa sallam responded, do not become angry. And then a third
time he asked, and a third time the response was do not become
angry. Because it is in those moments of anger, that we lose
control of the self. And the ego rears its head when we insist on
being right. When we insist on not apologizing when we insist on not
recognizing the wrong that we may have done in the relationship and
instead only see the wrong that the other may have committed.
That's not a relationship of equilibrium. That's not a
partnership. That's a relationship of ego. So I asked that Allah
subhanaw taala. The Al Horford the humbler allows our hearts to
remain humble in our relationships with our spouses and with all that
we interact with, because it is through that humbleness that we
get closer and closer to the beloved creator.
I pray that Allah subhanaw taala blesses all of our unions and
blesses our families and our children and allows us to be the
best versions of ourselves always. Jessica Malachite, and I look
forward to speaking to you again in our next episode, as we
continue to bring the divine into the daily As Salam Alikum