Suzy Ismail – #21 AlQabid

Salam Alikum it's nice to see you again, as we continue to discuss

the 99 names of Allah subhanaw taala, and how we can bring in the

divine characteristics of Allah into our daily lives to improve

our relationships with our spouses and our children. The name that

we're going to discuss today is a COVID, which means the restraint.

When we talk about restraint, we often think of holding someone

back we often think of the idea of maintaining or containing someone

and restraining them from doing that which they'd like to do.

Oftentimes the word restraint can be applied towards our children,

when we will ask them to restrain themselves if they are acting in a

way that we feel is not beneficial in a way that they harm

themselves. This terminology or this trait of of trying to

restrain someone can cause us difficulty in our relationships,

though, when we apply that concept of restraint to our spouses in a

way that is oppressive. At times, we will sometimes see that our

spouses may be acting in a way or interacting in a way that we feel

is not the most befitting or is not best inclined towards our

family relationship. But there are ways of interacting with our

spouses ways of advising ways of communicating where rather than

feeling that we are in the process of restraining or trying to

control our spouses, we are instead communicating and

explaining and showing our perspective, rather than giving

dictates and saying this is how life needs to be and causing

someone to feel like they're restrained. Our marriages are

meant to be a place of tranquility, our marriages are

meant to be a place that builds upon the what the Rama care and

mercy. In that element of care and mercy. There is a partnership that

is built between husband and wife. That partnership does not include

the element of control. It doesn't include the element of restraint.

So when we think of restraint, it begins with ourselves. It begins

with us recognizing our limits our boundaries, and restraining maybe

certain desires that we may have that are not beneficial,

restraining ourselves from doing that which is not pleasing to

Allah subhanaw taala. When we look internally first, when we look at

ourselves and our lives first, then our interactions with our

spouses, with our children with our families becomes one that is

more positive and beneficial. So I pray that Allah subhanaw, Medina,

and COVID allows us to increase our self restraint from that which

is harmful or that which is not beneficial or not pleasing to Him.

And I pray that Allah subhanaw taala allows that element of

restraint to be something that we may teach our children in a

beneficial way, rather than something that we enforce upon our

children or upon our spouses. treasa como la hate and I look

forward to seeing you again tomorrow as we continue to discuss

how to bring the divine into the daily a Santa Monica