Suzy Ismail – #21 AlQabid

			Salam Alikum it's nice to see you
again, as we continue to discuss
		

			the 99 names of Allah subhanaw
taala, and how we can bring in the
		

			divine characteristics of Allah
into our daily lives to improve
		

			our relationships with our spouses
and our children. The name that
		

			we're going to discuss today is a
COVID, which means the restraint.
		

			When we talk about restraint, we
often think of holding someone
		

			back we often think of the idea of
maintaining or containing someone
		

			and restraining them from doing
that which they'd like to do.
		

			Oftentimes the word restraint can
be applied towards our children,
		

			when we will ask them to restrain
themselves if they are acting in a
		

			way that we feel is not beneficial
in a way that they harm
		

			themselves. This terminology or
this trait of of trying to
		

			restrain someone can cause us
difficulty in our relationships,
		

			though, when we apply that concept
of restraint to our spouses in a
		

			way that is oppressive. At times,
we will sometimes see that our
		

			spouses may be acting in a way or
interacting in a way that we feel
		

			is not the most befitting or is
not best inclined towards our
		

			family relationship. But there are
ways of interacting with our
		

			spouses ways of advising ways of
communicating where rather than
		

			feeling that we are in the process
of restraining or trying to
		

			control our spouses, we are
instead communicating and
		

			explaining and showing our
perspective, rather than giving
		

			dictates and saying this is how
life needs to be and causing
		

			someone to feel like they're
restrained. Our marriages are
		

			meant to be a place of
tranquility, our marriages are
		

			meant to be a place that builds
upon the what the Rama care and
		

			mercy. In that element of care and
mercy. There is a partnership that
		

			is built between husband and wife.
That partnership does not include
		

			the element of control. It doesn't
include the element of restraint.
		

			So when we think of restraint, it
begins with ourselves. It begins
		

			with us recognizing our limits our
boundaries, and restraining maybe
		

			certain desires that we may have
that are not beneficial,
		

			restraining ourselves from doing
that which is not pleasing to
		

			Allah subhanaw taala. When we look
internally first, when we look at
		

			ourselves and our lives first,
then our interactions with our
		

			spouses, with our children with
our families becomes one that is
		

			more positive and beneficial. So I
pray that Allah subhanaw, Medina,
		

			and COVID allows us to increase
our self restraint from that which
		

			is harmful or that which is not
beneficial or not pleasing to Him.
		

			And I pray that Allah subhanaw
taala allows that element of
		

			restraint to be something that we
may teach our children in a
		

			beneficial way, rather than
something that we enforce upon our
		

			children or upon our spouses.
treasa como la hate and I look
		

			forward to seeing you again
tomorrow as we continue to discuss
		

			how to bring the divine into the
daily a Santa Monica