Suzy Ismail – #21 AlQabid
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Salam Alikum it's nice to see you again, as we continue to discuss
the 99 names of Allah subhanaw taala, and how we can bring in the
divine characteristics of Allah into our daily lives to improve
our relationships with our spouses and our children. The name that
we're going to discuss today is a COVID, which means the restraint.
When we talk about restraint, we often think of holding someone
back we often think of the idea of maintaining or containing someone
and restraining them from doing that which they'd like to do.
Oftentimes the word restraint can be applied towards our children,
when we will ask them to restrain themselves if they are acting in a
way that we feel is not beneficial in a way that they harm
themselves. This terminology or this trait of of trying to
restrain someone can cause us difficulty in our relationships,
though, when we apply that concept of restraint to our spouses in a
way that is oppressive. At times, we will sometimes see that our
spouses may be acting in a way or interacting in a way that we feel
is not the most befitting or is not best inclined towards our
family relationship. But there are ways of interacting with our
spouses ways of advising ways of communicating where rather than
feeling that we are in the process of restraining or trying to
control our spouses, we are instead communicating and
explaining and showing our perspective, rather than giving
dictates and saying this is how life needs to be and causing
someone to feel like they're restrained. Our marriages are
meant to be a place of tranquility, our marriages are
meant to be a place that builds upon the what the Rama care and
mercy. In that element of care and mercy. There is a partnership that
is built between husband and wife. That partnership does not include
the element of control. It doesn't include the element of restraint.
So when we think of restraint, it begins with ourselves. It begins
with us recognizing our limits our boundaries, and restraining maybe
certain desires that we may have that are not beneficial,
restraining ourselves from doing that which is not pleasing to
Allah subhanaw taala. When we look internally first, when we look at
ourselves and our lives first, then our interactions with our
spouses, with our children with our families becomes one that is
more positive and beneficial. So I pray that Allah subhanaw, Medina,
and COVID allows us to increase our self restraint from that which
is harmful or that which is not beneficial or not pleasing to Him.
And I pray that Allah subhanaw taala allows that element of
restraint to be something that we may teach our children in a
beneficial way, rather than something that we enforce upon our
children or upon our spouses. treasa como la hate and I look
forward to seeing you again tomorrow as we continue to discuss
how to bring the divine into the daily a Santa Monica