Suzy Ismail – #17 AlWahhab

Salam Alaikum it's nice to see you again as we continue to discuss

the divine characteristics of Allah subhanaw taala and how we

can integrate the characteristics of the names of Allah subhanaw

taala into our daily lives to improve our relationships with our

spouses and our children. Today the name that we're going to

discuss is El Wahab al Wahhab means the gift giver. And when we

think of Allah subhanaw taala, we recognize that each and every day

is a gift to us. And within each and every day, there is also gifts

upon gift upon gift. Now in our relationships, particularly in our

marriage relationships, we can also see the importance and the

benefits of giving gifts and also receiving gifts. You know, when we

look at the marriage relationships, there is a way of

recognizing how each individual in the marriage relationship

recognizes love or feels loved. According to Gary Chapman, a

researcher who has studied marriages and relationships, there

are five different love languages that people encompass in their

lives. One of those languages is gift giving. Now, oftentimes, when

someone is you know, going through a premarital counseling session,

and we begin to identify which language of love they may speak,

and when the result may come in as gift giving a one of those

languages, many times the response of the spouse is Oh, that's so

materialistic, or, you know, why would you only express love or

receive love through gifts giving, but in reality, the one whose

language of love is the language of gift giving, is not necessarily

someone who's materialistic. Many times the one who speaks that

language of gifting may simply be the type where let's say husband

and wife are taking a walk together. And the wife sees a leaf

on a tree or a flower growing in the in the grass, and complements

that if the spouse of the husband, let's say, were to pick that lever

to pick that flour and hand it to the wife, in that moment, the

person who speaks the language of gifting will feel loved, and will

feel that there is a reciprocation towards the spouse. So when we

think of gift giving, again, we know that that as soon as someone

Allahu alayhi wa sallam would give gifts as a sign of goodwill as a

sign of connecting to people, not just with his family members, not

just with his spouses, but with neighbors with the people that he

wanted to show that goodwill towards. And this is something

that we can incorporate into our own lives by recognizing that gift

giving is not always about the materialistic, but it's often

about the thought that goes into it. And sometimes the smallest

gift can go the longest way. So just as Allah subhanaw taala is

Allah hab, the giver of gifts, we should try to incorporate that in

our lives as well to be of those who give gifts and who show our

love through giving gifts, not in a materialistic way, but in a way

that shows that we put thought into it. So Joseph Comala here for

listening, I pray that Allah subhanaw taala allows us to be of

those who bring smiles to faces and warm the hearts by giving

gifts for the sake of Allah subhanaw taala i salamati