Suzy Ismail – #17 AlWahhab

			Salam Alaikum it's nice to see you
again as we continue to discuss
		

			the divine characteristics of
Allah subhanaw taala and how we
		

			can integrate the characteristics
of the names of Allah subhanaw
		

			taala into our daily lives to
improve our relationships with our
		

			spouses and our children. Today
the name that we're going to
		

			discuss is El Wahab al Wahhab
means the gift giver. And when we
		

			think of Allah subhanaw taala, we
recognize that each and every day
		

			is a gift to us. And within each
and every day, there is also gifts
		

			upon gift upon gift. Now in our
relationships, particularly in our
		

			marriage relationships, we can
also see the importance and the
		

			benefits of giving gifts and also
receiving gifts. You know, when we
		

			look at the marriage
relationships, there is a way of
		

			recognizing how each individual in
the marriage relationship
		

			recognizes love or feels loved.
According to Gary Chapman, a
		

			researcher who has studied
marriages and relationships, there
		

			are five different love languages
that people encompass in their
		

			lives. One of those languages is
gift giving. Now, oftentimes, when
		

			someone is you know, going through
a premarital counseling session,
		

			and we begin to identify which
language of love they may speak,
		

			and when the result may come in as
gift giving a one of those
		

			languages, many times the response
of the spouse is Oh, that's so
		

			materialistic, or, you know, why
would you only express love or
		

			receive love through gifts giving,
but in reality, the one whose
		

			language of love is the language
of gift giving, is not necessarily
		

			someone who's materialistic. Many
times the one who speaks that
		

			language of gifting may simply be
the type where let's say husband
		

			and wife are taking a walk
together. And the wife sees a leaf
		

			on a tree or a flower growing in
the in the grass, and complements
		

			that if the spouse of the husband,
let's say, were to pick that lever
		

			to pick that flour and hand it to
the wife, in that moment, the
		

			person who speaks the language of
gifting will feel loved, and will
		

			feel that there is a reciprocation
towards the spouse. So when we
		

			think of gift giving, again, we
know that that as soon as someone
		

			Allahu alayhi wa sallam would give
gifts as a sign of goodwill as a
		

			sign of connecting to people, not
just with his family members, not
		

			just with his spouses, but with
neighbors with the people that he
		

			wanted to show that goodwill
towards. And this is something
		

			that we can incorporate into our
own lives by recognizing that gift
		

			giving is not always about the
materialistic, but it's often
		

			about the thought that goes into
it. And sometimes the smallest
		

			gift can go the longest way. So
just as Allah subhanaw taala is
		

			Allah hab, the giver of gifts, we
should try to incorporate that in
		

			our lives as well to be of those
who give gifts and who show our
		

			love through giving gifts, not in
a materialistic way, but in a way
		

			that shows that we put thought
into it. So Joseph Comala here for
		

			listening, I pray that Allah
subhanaw taala allows us to be of
		

			those who bring smiles to faces
and warm the hearts by giving
		

			gifts for the sake of Allah
subhanaw taala i salamati