Suzy Ismail – #16 AlQahhar

Salam Alaikum it's nice to see you again as we discuss how we can

bring the Divine Names of Allah subhanaw taala and the

characteristics of those names into our daily lives to improve

our families and our relationships. Today we're going

to discuss the name of Allah subhanaw taala. Alcohol. Alcohol

remains the sub doer. Oftentimes when we think of our own families

and particularly our children, we may think that subduing them

subduing their exuberance of doing their enthusiasm subduing their

excitement, is a way to keep them calm or a way to keep them

controlled. But in reality, as we raise our children to become the

strong Muslim American citizens that we want them to be, it's

difficult to consistently try to subdue them to subdue them by

keeping their personalities down. By pushing away what makes them

individuals. There is a way for us to help our children develop their

individual qualities, their individual characteristics, while

still teaching them to love their deen and to love Allah subhanaw

taala. This concept of subduing often comes into play with our

spouses as well. Many times there are situations where, as you know,

in a humorous manner, as a joke, a husband may say something like,

oh, well, you know, I have to ask the boss in reference to their

wife or I can't do anything without the boss's permission, and

jokingly referring to the wife often, but in reality, that joke

can sometimes have an undercurrent of truth in there or perceive

truth. When a husband in a relationship feels that the wife

is subduing, who he is or what his interactions are, that can cause

resentment to build up. The same goes for the wife. If the husband

tries to subdue a wife, and tries to keep her from becoming who she

is from seeking out her interest from supporting her, then also

this can cause resentment to grow in the marriage. So as we continue

to delve into understanding the characteristics of Allah subhanaw

taala, it's important for us to know that many of the Divine Names

of Allah subhanaw taala, are for Allah alone. And alcohol is one of

those names. He is the sub doer. He is the one that we submit to.

He is the one who loves us more than we even love ourselves more

than our mothers, our fathers, or even our spouses love us. And so

he is the one that we submit to. So I pray that Allah subhanaw

taala guides us or strengthens our families continues to connect us

and allows us to be the best version of ourselves that we can

be as salaam alaikum